18 month old daughter grabbing @ her vagina.

Kate - posted on 06/20/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )

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So my daughter will be 18 months old next Friday:) Laetly she has been exploring alot in her vaginal area. I expected some because they are naturally inquisitve. But every time she sits on the potty for any length of time she grabs and pulls at it. She doesn't act like it is painful, and her urine doesn't smell or look dark. Is she just exploring? She will also stick her hands down in her pullups towards her behind. She stays @ my M-I-L's house, and my 4 yo nephew stays there are well. They had a hard time potty training him, so she has been around him alot when he goes to the bathroom including outside. She sometimes tries to pee like him( standing up with hips thrust out). Is this an age she needs to stop being around him in the bathroom? What do you guys think?

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Nicole - posted on 06/24/2010

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I agree with others that say it is her body part and hers to explore. My daughter does it all the time the potty, when she runs around the house naked and in the bath. One hand is always down there. I just remind her that her gina is her private part and only for her to touch. When she gets a little older I will tell her it's OK to touch but she needs to do it in private since it is a private area.

Katy - posted on 07/01/2010

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in my experience (babysitting, nieces, and a son), boys do this more often than girls. personally I wouldn't want my daughter looking at boys in that way at that age, but then again, they gotta learn there's a difference eventually. why not start young, as long as (like jessica c. said) they know not to touch others, it should be fine.

Naomi - posted on 06/21/2010

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I don't know ladies. It is her vagina and if she wants to touch it, then it is hers to touch. My daughter grabbed at hers a couple of times and I looked away and ignored it and she stopped. It's up to you how you deal with your childrens private parts but there's nothing wrong with curiosity and they aren't going to hurt themselves.

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Peter - posted on 09/11/2012

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Re: dad's not coping with it at all remark



I'm a dad and I'm not having any problems at all. I just wanted to make sure she doesn't have any kind of infection (none visible). Interestingly, I seem to be the only one who's looking at it from that angle.

Bronwyn - posted on 07/09/2010

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This is a natural exploration of their body. No different to them grabbing at their ears or toes etc. My daughter does it sometimes and i just ignore it. I dont believe in moving her hand away or telling her not to as I think this could cause a bad association with this area and could cause problems in the future. A child at this age shouldnt be made to felt that what they are doing is wrong as it is totally natural and not in anyway sexual.

ASHLEY - posted on 07/07/2010

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My daughter is 16 months & began doing the same thing recently. As well as, do something that looks like humping the floor. Appearantly there is nothing wrong with it, just seems this way for the simple fact that are minds are not as pure as our infants. As far as touch they are new to all of this, so it's the same thing as when they discovered their hands & feet. It's important you act calmly to her touching because if she sees a reaction from you she may want to do it often to get attention. Also, has far as your nephew you may want to be careful of her watching him because it CAN lead her to confusion in the early potty training period. Hope i could help!

Kate - posted on 07/05/2010

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Hello everyone, thanks for all your comments. Kelen has actually become much better about this and hardly does it anymore( I guess the novelty wore off). Any ways I asked her pediatrician about her seeing my nephew pee, and she said it is fine she will learn for herself that standing up to pee doesn't work.(Lol). Anyways I got her a new step stool so she can get on the big potty "by herself" and she is doing well. Thanks again.

Jenna - posted on 07/04/2010

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First of all, as far as her touching herself goes, it is totally normal. If you feel that it is inappropriate or wrong just watch how you deal with it. At this age many times if you tell a child not to do something in certain ways they may think it is funny and continue or do it more often. If you are trying to potty train or will be soon, I would not let her be with your nephew while he goes. She is too young to understand the difference between girls and boys and she may not realize that she will have to sit and will go on your floor :( It may not matter at all but, just in case! I don't think I would like my girlie going on my floor all the time ;)

Jo - posted on 07/03/2010

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I have been hearing some hilarious stories of little girls touching themselves recently [all around 18 months], much more so than boys the same age. what is amusing is that the dad's are not coping with it at all...

Jessica - posted on 07/01/2010

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Toddlers touching their private parts is a perfectly normal thing. They are curious about their bodies and that's very normal. I dont agree with slapping their hands away while they do it. But it's your child and we all have our own parenting techniques. As long as they know that it's not appropriate to touch another child in the same manner they touch themselves, i think its perfectly fine to let them explore their own body.

Sharyn - posted on 06/30/2010

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My daughter does it all the time, and i tell her not to do it, its not ladylike i tell her LOL .... she is 19 months .... dreading potty training because she is very stubborn and i dont know how she'll do.

Natalee - posted on 06/28/2010

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i also tell my daughter to leave hers alone and she does does it and she has been doing since she was 14mths old and she still does it and she has no other siblings she does it less then she use to though

Natalee - posted on 06/28/2010

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hi my daughter is 19mths on sunday and she does grap at her vagina when i'm changing her nappy or when i put her in the bath so i went to the doctor to see why and he said its and exploring thing they will grow out of it even little boys do it

Summer - posted on 06/27/2010

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Well this conversation has help me i was wondering why my son pulls and hits his penis so much but i understand now thanks guys. he is 18 months

Judy - posted on 06/24/2010

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Girls can pee outside too. We have a set spot in the garden that our son is allowed to pee in, we are out bush so often that if he thought he was only allowed to pee in a toilet he'd be waiting a long time indeed.

Vicki - posted on 06/24/2010

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Let her know it's fine to touch, but give her the appropriate time and place to do so. Once the novelty wears off, it won't be an issue. My boy barely cares it's there anymore, unless he needs to pee.

As so far as watching the boy, that seems like another non-issue, until she tries to pee outside. What is it anyways with boys being allowed to pee outside? I feel that's inappropriate. Boys are just as capable of finding a toilet.

Brittanie - posted on 06/22/2010

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I think if you want her to learn how she needs to use the potty then she shouldn't watch ur nephew otherwise it will be more difficult. However exploring her vagina is just a fact of life, remember how much she played with her toes when she found them? haha. I have a 18 month old son, he grabs himself all the time and will stand up in the bath - grab it, and then tell me it's his pee pee. It's just a kid thing. I wouldn't worry too much, but I do think maybe getting a bit too old to watch ur nephew pee.

Christina - posted on 06/21/2010

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My daughter is 19 months and did the same thing grabbing down there when we was around 16mths. I would just move her hand away when she did and tell her to leave it alone. She doesnt do it as often now but I thought something was wrong. Glad to know were not alone.

Judy - posted on 06/21/2010

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My daughter does the same thing. She has always been more interested in her vagina than her brother was with his penis (go figure). I just tap her hand and tell her to leave her vagina alone. I don't think it is anything to worry about. My daughter also stands with her hips thrust out like her big brother when he 'goes' in the outdoors, but I think it is just because she sees him doing it. I don't think it will hamper her toilet training when we get around to it. I don't think there is any problem with little girls being around boys in the bathroom, until a certain age of course.

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