Anyone having terrible tantrums already??

Brittanie - posted on 01/20/2010

My son is doing the same thing. When i tell him "no" to something he screams and cries and kicks his feet for up to 20 minutes - occassionally longer. at first i was so concerned because he screamed loudly and has tears - the whole nine yards - and he's usually so well behaved. I just look at him now and tell him "i'm not paying attention to your temper tantrums" and ignore him. After he realizes he isn't getting his way, he'll stop crying and then come over for love. It's getting less and less often, and lasts less and less time so i think he's getting the picture.

Jennifer - posted on 01/19/2010

People say "terrible two's" no it's terrible ones, twos, threes, fours, fives...lol...My nephew is 5 and throws fits still!! But I have a 13 month old girl and I noticed her starting to throw tantrums. She will cry and will then fall to the ground, usually backwards, and just pitch a fit!! Well, then she will hit her head on something! I feel bad, but I don't give in!! I'm just having problems getting her out of my bed at night to sleep in her own!

Megan - posted on 01/16/2010

I read on parents.com that the terrible 2's really start at 1 not at 2. We have been dealing with this for 3 months (our daughter was 9mo when it started), she just turned 1 12/27. It seems to have gotten worse after her 1st b-day though. She throws the worst fits when I say no. Flopping on the floor and screaming top of her lungs and everything. She listens to her dad all the time, he says stop she stops (which is frustrating). But he is her primary care giver, I work he stays home with her & he doesn't put up with any crap.



The only thing I can do is ignore the tantrums and put her in time out for 2 minutes. Once she starts throwing herself around I gently lay her on the floor and ignore her. Once she starts to calm down I ask her if she done then if so I help her up and we go back to playing. She still tests her limits with me but I've been seting lots of limits so she starting to get the idea.



It's a long slow process but I would rather deal with it now and get it out of the way then have it when she's 2.

Debbi - posted on 01/15/2010

I'm so thankful you posed this question!! And also to hear that I'm not the only one. My son is also seeming clingy and just not as perky and happy as he used to be - besides the tantrums.

Charlotte - posted on 01/12/2010

my health visitor said these tantrums were frustration and that they will grow out orf them im having bout 20 a day at the mo as scarlett is a fast and enthsiastic learnr and wants to do things that adults do i find saying no calmlybut firmly wrks with the smacking , and as for the tantrums saying mummy help seems to do the trick now shes learnt what it means even to the point she brings thins to me now ,hope this helps xx

Alex - posted on 01/12/2010

Hi, my son is exactly the same, overnight he turned from a little angel to a little devil. So when he throws himself on the floor and has his tantrum I just turn my attention to someone else (hubby, cat, friend...) and he quickly decides that it's not worth it. Then I applaud him for coming back and trying again. All bad behavior I try to ignore and I cheer and clap everything I apreciate. It seems to work, now when he goes to the tele, he points, says no and claps his hands, it's too cute. Good luck.

Denise - posted on 01/11/2010

It's so hard to deal with these at this age, because as parents I think we question whether a 1 year old really understands what we are saying. But they do. I can offer suggestions for two main things. 1) Consistancy- be sure to tell him no and use distraction. Even if you have to pick him up and move him 50 times from something that you don't want him to have. It is tiring but eventually he will get it. 2) I would put him down or walk away when he smacks or hits you or your husband. It will start to send a message that he can't be near you when he does something like hitting, pinching, smacking or anything that is unacceptable. And at this age, they want to be near you. As far as him lashing out when you are cuddling, it's all a matter of territory. He sees you as "his" and doesn't want you paying attention to someone else. Maybe just include him in a group hug or cuddle from time to time. I don't know if any of this helps, but just know that it's normal and a stage and once this passes, it's on to the next! ha ha. Good luck

Michelle - posted on 01/11/2010

I am having the same problem as soon as my son turned 1 the tantrums started. He has never been a easy child, but now it's worse than ever. He hits me, bites, pinches, what ever, when he doesn't get what he wants. He has also started big tantrums at bed time it is very hard to get him to bed he just screams when you leave the room and only stops if you sit in there with him. What to do i never had these problems with my daughter she was a great baby.

Shanna - posted on 01/10/2010

I have a similar situation, but with a twist. He doesn't have a tantrum when we take something away... but when we give him something he doesn't want. He throws it right at who ever gave it to him. This happens a lot with food, sippy cups and occasionally blocks. Sadly, he thinks "no" is fun to tell us.

Roxy - posted on 01/09/2010

Absolutely! my son connor has just turned one in december and seems to have the terrible twos already. he hits bites screams and throws things for attention or to get something he wants. he also does things he knows he is not allowed to. usually i give him a good firm no and remove him from the offending object but if its a tantrum i walk away. although i have the point of view that is a blessing in disguise and a sign of intelligence and a strong sense of personality so be patient youll get through

Sherre - posted on 01/09/2010

My son just turned a yr and is the exact same way!

Good luck! LOL

Erin - posted on 01/09/2010

my son started hitting i just use my words and tell him that hurts and show him using his hands how to do nice touches. I work in daycare and all these behaviors are normal its phases that they all go through trust me it gets better

Louise - posted on 01/09/2010

hi louise here um my sons 13 months hes been having tantrums since 9 months now but lately they have got worser he head bangs and throws himself back when im holding him witch is so dangerous,but i dont no why hes doing it its defantly not for a attention cause hes got my full attention its weird ???dont igore him when hes doing it hes trying to tell you something but he might not be able to talk to you yet,try to figar out why hes doing it i still dont no why christophers doing it but each day hes geting better maybe its a boy thing who nos.

Sharon - posted on 01/08/2010

yep, my little 'angel' developed devil like tendencies just after her first. Tantrums generally involve headbutting the pushchair or flinging her head in a kind of reverse head butt and she also likes to slap herself on her head with both hands. All accompanied with lots of screaming of course. We have found the best way to deal with them is either to completely ignore the behaviour - sometimes not easy when she has them in public cos you do get some looks!! - or try distracting her with one of her favourite toys! I also thought we had another year until the terrible twos but it seems little uns are advancing faster these days and developing moods a lot earlier!!

Elizabeth - posted on 01/08/2010

I would have to say part of it is probably just a phase...the other part is clearly "the big 'J' "...Jealousy
To combat the evil powers of jealousy:
dont ignore him when he has these tantrums ...pick him up ..open his hand and caress whatever it was he hit with his hand..and say "Gentle" ...speak calmly and patiently

This has worked for both of my children. They are asking for attention. We just want it to be for positive things.

At 1 yr they dont know wrong and right..we have to teach them.

Kristin - posted on 01/08/2010

My daughter turned one on Dec 17th and started doing that a few weeks ago, instead of hitting she bites anything near her, including us. We tell her no biting fairly loudly, which usually startles her enough and we remove her from the situation and take her to a quite place to redirect her attention. Usually looking out a window helps for some reason. Luckily they pass as quickly as they come on.

Nikki - posted on 01/07/2010

My daughter has started small tantrums. She turned 1 on Dec 15th and she will also push people away from me and she has started screaming when i say no. She will also hit her cousin when they are supposed to be sharing their snack, but if i tell her not to hit him she usually stops. I usually do what Katie Walter does also i just ignore it. If she amps up her attempt i walk into a different room and when she calms down i will go back into the room. It seems to be helping.

Laura - posted on 01/07/2010

Oh yes, we are going through that too. My doctor advised me that sometimes ages 1 to 2 are worse than the 'terrible 2's' because from 1 to 2, most babies cannot tell you what they want, so they throw the beloved tantrums. I just walk away from my little guy when he starts. He cries, flails his arms, sometimes throws himself back, but it usually passes quickly after I walk away. Hang in there!

Julianne - posted on 01/06/2010

My daughter has been doing that for a little over a month now. She will just sit and SCREAM at the top of her lungs. My husband and I ignore her, but my mother-in-law (who is my babysitter) will pick her up as soon as she starts up. The conflicting messages make her even worse. Just ignore the tantrum and stick to it!

Camilla - posted on 01/06/2010

My son was the same. The day he turned 1 - 15th - it started. Bit of a shock, but I have found just ignoring the tantrums work. I think its just frustration most of the time, sometimes hes just tired. My son has also been biting since he realized he has teeth. You think hes going in for kiss but no, he bites....hard! I started shouting 'ouch' quite loudly - mainly due to the shock and pain of it all; he leaves marks often! - which shocked him and made him upset/shy. Then I felt bad - and sore - so I told him that it hurts mummy. Hes still doing it, but I believe its a phase that he'll grow out of and also another way of him showing frustration. Its also mainly my husband and me that he bits. Who knows, maybe they're his love bites!! LOL

Sarah - posted on 01/06/2010

My daughter started throwing tantrums, full of whining "crying' about a week before her first birthday (the 29th). We try to ignore her, which doesn't always work, but I find if she wont calm down I say "Mommy's leaving", step outside of the room for a moment and she will almost immediately stop to find out where I went. Obviously that wont work in public but she hasn't done it outside of our house yet so I will have to keep in mind some of the other tips in case she starts in public too!

Kim - posted on 01/06/2010

I thought i was the only one. My son doesn`t hit but throws a tantrum when he can`t get what he wants. I think it might be where he is over tired and hasn`t been sleeping well. I hope it`s that.

Ginger - posted on 01/06/2010

My son has started having tantrums as well, my husband and I ignore him when he is having a fit, if he is in our arms ad starts hitting we set him down immediatly and say no hitting be nice if he continues to cry or stomp his feet we walk away, then when he reappears (about a minute later) we pretend nothing happened. It seems to be working, you just need to find what works for you and your family. Good luck!

Shanta - posted on 01/06/2010

I'm so glad to know I'm not alone! Our daughter also turned 1 on Dec.1st, however she started tantrums at 10 months. Looking at her and telling her NO, usually does the trick. I tried swatting her butt and that worked too (it won't hurt them, they have thick pampers on, lol) Now, when she hits, we tell her no and pop her hand, then she looks at us like she cant believe we popped her hand, BUT she stops, so that works too. Good luck to you!

Leigh-Anne - posted on 01/06/2010

So glad I found this thread. My daughter was 1 on the 1st Dec, started lying on the floor grizzling, I just ignored her. But now she will throw watever is annoying her & if I ignore her she will pick it up & throw it again a few times, then lie down & fake cry & scream & moan. Had a full on tanty at the beach the other day cause I wouldn't let her go back in the water. Not quite sure what to do

Beccie - posted on 01/05/2010

My little boy was 1 on the 6th dec, and is generally so happy that we get stopped quite literally everywhere we go, cuz he just laughs at everyone and everything. But at home he is a complete monster and has been having tantrums since he was 6 months old !! By 11 months, he has perfected the art and now will now headbut walls, doors, tables, etc if he gets told off !! If there is nothing close by, he will drop to the floor and roll around screaming, and be limp if we try to pick him up. I cant believe they dont tell us the terrible twos start before they even hit 1 lol !! I am guessing this can go one of 2 ways, they will either have started so early that they grow out of it early, or we just have it for longer than most. Im hoping for the first ! I find that not giving in helps, and I dont rush to pick him up. Just ignore the tantrum, and after a few minutes if they start to calm down, offer something to distract them, but if they dont want it, walk away. You will find that the lack of attention means they will come to you and calm down. Well hopefully :) x

Laura - posted on 01/05/2010

My daughter is throwing tantrums left right and centre now that she is 1! She turned 1 on the 7th Dec and usually they happen when she is starting to get tired during the day or around meal time. Often hitting me or pushing food away after 3 teaspoonsful or spitting it out and stomping in her highchair or trying to climb out she hardly ever sits in it usually stands and trys climbing out every 2 seconds.... knowing that i tell her no every time and push her leg back down she often smiles and tests me. Then If she continues trying to climb out i pull her away from her chair put her on the floor. That makes it worse as she screams and crawls around on the floor then pick her up and keeps screaming. I try to distract her by walking outside and that usually works! This all happened today but she hardly had any sleep today and broken sleep night before. We are trying the controlled crying sleep method also. It gets too much sometimes and i end up in tears. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day!

Loren - posted on 01/04/2010

hi i had that for the first time with my 1 year old son today in the middle of morrisons, i was so embarrased, he was refusing to go in his pushchair, he was stiff as a board, screaming, kicking. im hoping it wont happen again but i know thats wishful thinking goodluck xxx

Chaita - posted on 01/04/2010

Jenni - 2? that's 11.5 months away! ;)
glad to know it's just not our little one. Happy New Year!

Tina - posted on 01/04/2010

YES!!! Mine just turned 1 on the 20th. The way we handle his tantrums are to just look at him, and calmly tell him "No" is a grown up voice, and explain to him that Mommy or Daddy said No,you may not do that, you might get hurt. At this stage we let him throw himself on the floor, which rarelyhappens. Then look at him and say, "Now where did that tantrum get you? A hurt head?" This all worked with our daughter, who is turning 15 this month, so we're hoping that it works with him too.
My advice, just NEVER give in to histantrums. People around may not understand, just stay strong, and keep your word. If either of you start to flip flop, he will learn that tantrums are a means to an end, and he'll never stop. As they get older, do the counting thing (not with halves or quarters, either). I'm going to count to 3, or you lose___________________________" ThankMake SURE that you follow through with taking whatever or spanking, or whatever the case. The follow through is ALWAYS the key with kids!!!

Hope this helps!

Tina

Sara - posted on 01/04/2010

Thanks for posting this - it's a tough time and no, you're definitely not alone! My son is just over a year and starting tantrums involving screaming and hitting. What's worrying me is that he also hits himself and pulls his hair! I've found that a gentle, firm voice helps somewhat and I certainly don't give in to him. His first public tantrum was an ordeal, I'd taken my sunglasses from him and he absolutely cracked it. My initial reaction was to give them back to him to shut him up but I realised that giving in to him will just encourage that behaviour. So bad luck to everyone in the shop but they had to listen to him scream. I eventually managed to distract him but it wasn't easy! So hang in there, you're not alone and it will get easier :-)

Jayde - posted on 01/03/2010

my son chucks a tantrum when he cant have his own way. I suspect he is going through a phase either that or i have alot to look foward to. haha

Kelly - posted on 01/03/2010

My son does it too and I think its just a phase as well. My daughter used to do the same thing when she was about one and she grew out of it. I just use to always distract their hands with something else like a toy or a book or snack. Distraction is the best when their little!

Aimee - posted on 01/03/2010

My son has just turned one too and has started the grizzling tantrum. No hitting (poor you) but winges when he wants something and goes into fake crying and then real crying if he can't get his own way. The worst is when he's in his high chair and has decided he wants out. Its highly embarassing if we're out as I find myself giving him food that I woundn't usually let him have, just to stop the noise and people looking at us. I hope this is just a faze and he snaps out of it quicky.

Candice - posted on 01/03/2010

my daughter has been throwing her self down on the ground for about 3 months now. i have learned that ignoring it is the best. when she relizes i am not talking to her while she is doing this it stops. she will then get up and go play. i have not had an issue with hitting though. my husband was gone for 11months and she is now going through seperation anxiety with me. alittle late but we are working on that now.

Jenni - posted on 01/03/2010

yes my daughter literally changed the day after her first birthday.. she use to smile and laugh ALL day and now she is very clingy, sooky and throwing terrible tantrums... the doctor told me it is a phase and will probably stop when she is 2.. although then the terrible 2's start so who knows when it will end. i try to just ignore her when she throws a tantrum and (although some mothers might think im terrible) i give her a little smack on her hand when she hits me... but ignoring the tantrums is hard but she usually realises pretty quick that her attention seeking isnt working and stops.

Chaita - posted on 01/02/2010

It's funny you should post. My daughter just turned 1 on the 19th and had her first tantrum today in a store since we wouldn't let her walk out of the store and my husband went to pick her up. She buckled her knees and started wailing. I thought we had at least another year before this! I was just thinking about how I might need Super Nanny though she's very well behaved so we were so thrown off guard.

Angela - posted on 01/02/2010

I dont think he is too young to understand firmly hold his hands and say NO strongly, i am sure he would begin to get the message that he is doing something wrong. My son throws such trantrum at times and i just lower him on the floor and walk away for i minute after saying NO to him, he is actually stopping the trantrum bit now. Dont get worried.

Christi - posted on 01/02/2010

oh lord my son started that a few months ago. now that he is one, we swat his bottom and it seems to work.

Courtney - posted on 01/01/2010

Oh yeah. My daughter started having tantrums around 8-9 months. I had to talk with her day care teachers because they were spoiling her too much. It's hard not to give in when they're cute, but I had to start doing time outs before she even turned 1. Now she's beginning to listen to me more because I've been very consistent with discipline. Also, try distraction. If she's screaming because she wants something I have, I get one of her favorite toys and start playing with it with her. She's totally fine within seconds.

Katie - posted on 12/23/2009

My son has done the same...honestly it is a phase in my opinion. If your child hits, ignore him...because at this point a negative response is better than nothing at all. Do not give in to his tantrums(if possible) Ignoring them at this age lets them know what they're doing is not okay, and when he is being good praise him and give him a lot of love. That is just my opinion though :) it worked for me