Bedtime

Michelle - posted on 10/13/2010 ( 26 moms have responded )

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So my daughter has been the model child up until about 2 weeks ago when she decided she no longer wants to go to sleep. I cant understand it, she has always been great at bedtime. Ie tried everything but nothing is working. It takes me 2 hours to get her to finally fall asleep. Any advice?

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Jen - posted on 10/13/2010

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The exact same thing happened with my son. He wouldn't stay in his bed for anything, but we finally figured out something that works for him. We take away his favourite blankie the 1st time he gets out of bed, we always give him a warning when he goes to sleep that if he gets out of bed, that will be the consequence. After about 3 minutes of him crying about his blankie, I give it back and clearly say again that if he gets out I will take it away again, he has never gotten out a 2nd time. It works great for us, hopefully your daughter has a favourite something at bed time and this works for you, good luck :)

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Megan - posted on 11/04/2010

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wow im glad im not the only one =/ my son is 22 months and last tuesday he all the sudden didnt want to go to bed...which for him is unusual. everynight at bed time i kiss him hug him tell him i love him and lay him down in his crib and he tells me nuh night...but now he wont he cries and throws a fit. what do you do? i have just been letting him cry and it seems like he is starting to come around.

Lindsey - posted on 10/26/2010

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Stephanie Curnow both my babies go to bed at 8 and my older who will be 2 in dec gets up at 9 30 and sometimes even 10...and my youngest hes 9 months he gets up to eat early like 5 or 6 and then goes back to sleep until 830 or 9

Jasmine - posted on 10/26/2010

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Let dad put her to sleep. that is what works for my husband and I. With me it takes two hours. But with him it takes 5 min 10 min max.

Tina - posted on 10/26/2010

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My daughter is 8 & still fights going to bed. She always tries to find some reason to stay up longer. Her brother who will soon be 2, he says BED, when he wants to go to bed, & if its too early for him to go, we have to do something to keep him busy for awhile, but when he starts saying BED again, he means it, & he wants to go now. They are all so different. Just wish he slept good all night. Oh, well, guess we just can't have it all.

Justine - posted on 10/24/2010

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Ya, I have heard it can be an issue because their bodies are going through more changes and growing. Do you think she is maybe having some bad dreams and is afraid to go to bed? Maybe a night light would help? We also have a quiet time routine before bed, about a half hour before bed the tv gets turned off and the lights get dimmed, my son gets a nice warm bath in the dimmed lights, then a story and cuddle, then he gets to turn off the light and go to bed. I find including him in things like unplugging the bathtub and saying "goodbye" or "see you tomorrow" to the water and turning off his light help him put closure to the day....seems a little strange but it works for us. Good luck!

Stephanie - posted on 10/24/2010

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To you mothers with a 7-7:30 bedtime; when does your child wake up for the day?? My girl goes down at 9:30-10, and then wakes up at 8-8:30. Any earlier and i couldn't deal!

User - posted on 10/22/2010

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we've had the same problem the past week but we were on a roadtrip for 2 weeks which totally threw him off schedule. We were all sleeping in the same room and he got used to that.
It takes about 40 minutes to get him back to sleep. Gonna revert to the Sleep Lady method which was the only method to work for him before......
Not sure how to deal with his middle of the night wakeups though......
My Ped says he's too young to cut the nap since he only sleeps about 9-10 hours at night. He's supposed to be getting about 13 hrs total!! He's a model napper and usually chats for a few minutes and then crashes. I am going to back up the time though and see if that helps with bedtime.....

Jennifer - posted on 10/21/2010

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My daughter is still in a crib because she would never stay in a bed. I have a radio in her room and a tv, i usually just give her either milk or water in a cup and put the radio on. some nights she falls right to sleep other nights she is up for hours. I just let her go, eventually I either go up and change her diaper, then she cries but always ends up falling asleep.

Amy - posted on 10/21/2010

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oh my, me too my son the same. he will not stop talking. it also takes me like 2 hrs just recently:(

Holly - posted on 10/21/2010

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Does she still take a nap? If so shorten the time that you let her sleep. If that does not work try not giving her a nap at all. I had to stop giving my little girl a nap for the most part about one month ago.(shes not even two yet) Once in a while she gets a 15min to 1/2hr. nap. good luck.

Natasha - posted on 10/20/2010

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i don't have any problems getting her to go to sleep, but off and on for the last month she has been waking up at 3 or 4 in the am wanting to start her day....any ideas?

Dani - posted on 10/20/2010

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im going thru the same thing. She barely naps n stays up until almost 11 and use to nap for about 4hrs and went to sleep at 8!

Tilanie - posted on 10/19/2010

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afraid it seems to be the thing at this age. i have the same problem and have tried everything too. some nights are better than others. sorry can't be of more help, need some help too

Michelle - posted on 10/19/2010

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Thanks for all your advice. We have cracked the problem now. Turned out that she was just ready for a bed. I think she has grown out her cot and just felt to constricted, all is carm once again.

Lorie - posted on 10/17/2010

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My son has started doing the same thing but I discovered that if I either rock him about 10 minutes or just snuggle him until he starts relaxing then it doesn't tak enearly as long. Good luck!

Lee - posted on 10/15/2010

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I had the same issue nwith my 3 and 5 year olds. Their bedtime is between 7 and 7.30pm. I had nightmares getting them to sleep till i tried putting them to bed at 6, telling them they could read (or lok at the pictures) their books till they were sleepy. It worked wonders. Most nights they are asleep by 7. They think they are doing what they want, while I know they are asleep at bedtime.

Amanda - posted on 10/15/2010

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My 21 month old son has never been a "good" sleeper from day one. Every time we think we have a schedule down, he decides it is not working for him for one reason or another. I have learned to be flexible with him and it makes things easier all around(for us). We also bedshare, but are working on getting him into his own twin bed in our room. It is actually going fairly well and he will stay in it until morning. Bedtime for us is anytime between 7:30 and 10pm. It just depends on how his day went(too overstimulating, not stimulating enough, too long a nap, too short a nap). I lie down with him in his bed when it looks like he is tired.
At this stage for them, they are learning about having control over their own actions. So it is a matter of finding that middle ground to meet at and giving them choices. Even though our son doesn't have a grasp of time yet, I still start letting him know when it is getting close to bed time. We also have the same routine we follow.

Marketa - posted on 10/15/2010

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Did u try play her lullaby??Its always work with my daughter. I download some from YOUTUBE and then i play them for her Celine Dion its best for kids.Some thinks about her voice what kids love.

Joanne - posted on 10/15/2010

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i went through this with my 2nd son, we tried everything from lying with him,falling asleep in our arms, everything but the only thing that worked was tough love. we just put him in his cot and left him, it broke my heart to hear hum cry for 30 mins straight, but i just had to keep thinking that he's safe and can come to no harm, it was terrible for a week but now, we put him in his cot, he has a little chat with hiself and then goes straight off to sleep, it took a week of hell but now weve had over 6 months of easy bedtime!!

Kristen - posted on 10/14/2010

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Have you tried cutting back or taking out the nap time altogether? If my son sleeps for over an hour during nap, it takes alot longer to get him down at night. So he now naps 30-60 min, and thats all he gets. He has a 7:30 bedtime and (crossing fingers) I have not had bedtime issues in awhile!

Fiona - posted on 10/13/2010

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that makes me a little worried! my daughter has always been a good sleeper also and is nearly 2 i hope that doesnt change! usually things like this are just a phase,have you recently changed anything in her routine?

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