Celebrating Christmas and a Birthday back-to-back

Kortnee - posted on 12/15/2009 ( 45 moms have responded )

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My son will be 1 on December 26th so I've been trying to find out from people who do (or would) celebrate both events but keep them separate for future years?

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Gutierrez - posted on 12/21/2009

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My son will be turning 1 on the 25th. This year, I had his party on 12/12 with all him family and friends. When he gets older though, I'm planning to celebrate half birthdays. We'll have a party around 6/25, so that way he gets presents twice a year and he doesn't have to wait a whole entire year for presents again. =) I love the idea of the birthday tree though. I think I may incorporate that as well.

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Ginger - posted on 01/02/2010

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My son just turned a year old on the 19th of Dec. Both my husband & myself decided that with his birthday so close to christmas, we would celebrate it the first weekend of the month. That way our fily & friends would have to differentiate between both his birthday & christmas. Plus with my oldest, a 4 yr old would see that her little brother also gets his birthday as well.

Anna - posted on 12/23/2009

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I hear you on that one. My son Ari just turned one on Dec 12 and we had a little party for him. My son Alex will be 3 on the 27....I firmly believe in having a separate party for him as well. It is hard because of christmas but I just save a couple of presents and get some balloons and have his day to celebrate. He is at the age right now where it doesnt matter but to me it does. If it is easier on you then I would celebrate them the same day for now and in the future separate them. Good luck to you and Happy birthday (early) to your little one!

Tanya - posted on 12/21/2009

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I think when my one and two year old get older I am gonna do half birthdays and celebrate it in the summer time. So it doesn't get mixed up with the holidays. Quoting Kortnee:

Celebrating Christmas and a Birthday back-to-back

My son will be 1 on December 26th so I've been trying to find out from people who do (or would) celebrate both events but keep them separate for future years?


 

Jill - posted on 12/21/2009

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My son was born New Years Eve so I have a little more time between but I have a friend who's daughter was born Christmas Eve. I know when she turned 1 they had a just family celebration on her actual birthday but a bigger party the weekend before. I am planning to celebrate on my baby's birthday this year, with whoever can come. When he's a little older, I think we'll have to do the weekend after his birthday, maybe you could do the weekend before your little guy's in future years! Good luck, I'm sure no matter what you decide, it'll be a wonderful day for him!

Melissa - posted on 12/21/2009

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I have a son whose b-day is the 13th. and my daughter will be 1 the 27th. I keep them all seperate. I feel it's not fair to the children. It's not their fault they were born so close to Christmas. I give them each their own "special" day :)

Sarah - posted on 12/21/2009

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My daughter will be 1 on Christmas day, We are having Christmas as usual in the morning when santa has been and birthday pressies in the late afternoon with cake etc. When she hits playschool and school age we will have a birthday party for her with all her friends in the summer, probably 25th june so she can enjoy a party with all her friends.

Daniela - posted on 12/21/2009

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We just celebrated my daughters first birthday on the 20th (we are in Australia), and we have made a conscious decision to keep the two events separate, everyone else gets two separate events, so why not my daughter? My Dad also celebrated his birthday very close to Christmas, and he hated the joint presents and the joint celebration, so I took it from him to keep them separate.

Julie - posted on 12/20/2009

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My daughter's birthday is on 12/27 (this her first bday), so we decided to have family and friends over for a birthday celebration. Going forward we will either have her celebration a few weeks earlier or just do the family gathering in December and a friend gathering in June for a half birthday.

Katrina - posted on 12/20/2009

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Quoting Kortnee:

Celebrating Christmas and a Birthday back-to-back

My son will be 1 on December 26th so I've been trying to find out from people who do (or would) celebrate both events but keep them separate for future years?



My daughter will be 1 on the 29th. I would like to do them at diffrent times but I'm going to do them together this year. We will do the cake after the Christmas presants. But I hope to do them separate years after.

Penny - posted on 12/20/2009

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Definately celebrating seperately. I want him to know his b-day is a seperate, special day. (My son's b-day is the 26th also :)) We are going out to eat pizza with the family on his b-day.

Shannon - posted on 12/20/2009

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My little princess is one on the 26th too. I too am having a huge first birthday for her...though like others have said it is more likely to be for us parents. Her namesake was born on 25th dec and I had always known she would be my xmas present. Originally she was due on new years day, so wither way she was going to end up with a public holiday birthday where it was hard to get to her to come too! So this year, and for many years to come, I will be making definite separate plans for xmas and bday. This year is a mermaid and sharks party at our place. We will do cake on boxing day adn have the party and presents on the 10th Jan. EVERYONE has been instructed that it is essential that the two don't get joined...no matter how big they could make the present.

Katie - posted on 12/20/2009

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my little girl is 1 on wednesday and we r havin a little party 4 her n then xmas we will b just the family. really hard wen there so close 2 xmas. x

Melissa - posted on 12/19/2009

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My son will also turn one on the 26th, and we are starting now making sure we keep his birthday and christmas seperate. Like a few others his party will be on the 27th and although all of the christmas decorations will still be out we are putting up happy 1st birthday things too. Even though he is too young to know what is going on! When he gets older and has school friends he wants to invite, that's when it will get tricky as many will be out of town or otherwise unable to come. My younger sister's birthday is dec. 28th and we would always have her party either the week before christmas or one of the first days of the new year when most friends were free. I must say that I love the birthday tree idea! And will keep that in mind in the coming years when he starts to gain an understanding of all of this and keep both occasions seperate. Hopefully he won't want all of the ornaments off of the christmas tree because they are mostly disney, pixar, nickelodeon and many other characters! Merry christmas and happy birthday to all the December babies and may the new year bring happiness, good health and lots of love to everyone!

Amy - posted on 12/19/2009

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My son turned 1 on Dec 9th. We've already decided to separate his birthday from Christmas but getting family together for an additional party can be difficult. We worked hard to get our parents to understand that it wasn't fair to punish our son for being born in December and that celebrating his birth different from Christmas is very important to us. They seem to be mostly supportive but it was still a frustrating weekend.

Francesca - posted on 12/19/2009

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My son will be 1 on the 27th dec. I am keeping the 2 separate, i am making more of a fuss of his birthday so he will know the difference as he gets older. start a tradition, so as he gets older he has it to look forward to but while he is young he will know that it means its his birthday. i will be taking my tree down boxing day night so it keeps them separate. they could sit in a cupboard and they would still know its christmas, make his birthday the more important one until he understands.

Vanessa - posted on 12/19/2009

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My daughter turned 3 on 12th December and my other daughter turned 1 on 18th December. This year we did a joint birthday on the 12th since we are going away today and I will keep the birthdays seperate. I just glad they are this side of Xmas before everyone goes away. Normally we will prob do two different parties but my 1 year old doesn't really have any seperate friends yet so just combined so people weren't coming to two parties, two weekends in a row when is such a busy time of year.

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My sons turns one on the 23rd, which is my mothers birthday as well. We are going to have a family/friend party on January 9th to try and separate the birthday from the holidays. On his birthday day on the 23rd we will give him a cupcake and his present from us so that he still gets his true birthday recognition.

Rosa - posted on 12/19/2009

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i had the same problem, but i decided to do his b-day party on the 20th of Dec so that i can have everyone over ( im still going to do alittle cake for him on the 23rd which is his real b-day) and then celebrate x-mas with him. i don't want him to get fussy if we do it all in one day.

Susie - posted on 12/18/2009

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Hi, my son is turning 1 on the 28th........... our intentions are to always celebrate xmas & birthday separately starting now, including separte presents. This year we are having xmas with my in-laws at the beach, boxing day with my family at mum & dads house and then a BBQ party on the 28th at our house, which is a Monday public holiday. So hopefully it will all work out ok............... I like the idea of having a half birthday celebration when he's older so that he doesn't have to wait all year for presents, so we might look at that later on............... good luck with whatever you decide (or have already decided!)

Tania - posted on 12/18/2009

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hi my son lucas turns 12 mths on xmas eve, this year we have choose to celebrate on the 20th, but not sure about future years

Kerry - posted on 12/18/2009

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My twins just turned 1 on December 15th. We had their birthday party on the 12th. Everything went fine. However, it was a huge headache to plan a first birthday party and prepare for Christmas at the same time. Half the things I planned to do for the party never got done. Plus I feel that I am buying them Christmas presents they don't need simply because you have to buy them something. I've decided that beginning next year I will either have their party the weekend before Thanksgiving or in June on their 6 month birthday or "special day" as some December baby mom calls them.

Katie - posted on 12/18/2009

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My son will be one on the 23rd so we wanted to do it before Christmas but we moved so we're going to do it after Christmas. But we plan on keeping it seperated so he gets the best of both

Nicole - posted on 12/18/2009

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My son turned 1 on 12/15. We held a party that night. The house has Christmas decorations and many people showed up in their Christmas clothes. I guess that this is something we will have to get used to. 2 celebrations that were never celebrated together before. Next time I think that I will celebrate it the weekend before his birthday. This way it is at least a little separate. But overall conclusion: I think that people saw this as the start of the holiday season.

Laura - posted on 12/18/2009

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My son will be one the same day (26th) and we're celebrating them seperate. Like Sadie Cossa when hes older we will explain the difference of Christmas and birthday but they will always be celebrated seperately like everyone elses.

Amanda - posted on 12/18/2009

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my son will be one on december 24th. for us, even though he is too young to really know the difference now, it was important to get in the habit of making his birthday a special day all his own. we had his party this past weekend (dec.13) with family and a few close friends. will also be celebrating on his actual birthday with just myself, my son and his dad. he gets his presents from us on his birthday, not his party day. we will be having his favourite meal and a small cake on the 24th. we have also booked a sleigh ride that afternoon for just the three of us - should be a fun family tradition!

Amy - posted on 12/18/2009

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My son will be 1 on Dec 26th also and we are doing both parties separate. We will have Christmas then on the 27th we will have his birthday party. I made sure to not use holiday paper on any of his birthday gifts. Everyone that I know that has a birthday close to christmas has told me to make sure that the two are separate. Good Luck and Happy b-day to your son and Merry Christmas

Kaci - posted on 12/18/2009

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My son will be 1 on the December 24 and his dad's birthday is on the 25th. This year I will not be separating them but in the future I will be. I will either do it two weeks before or two weeks after. My daughters birthday is on January 16, so I might just do a joint party the first week of January for the both of them.

Skye - posted on 12/17/2009

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My twins are New Years Eve babies and with this being their first birthday we have been really stuck as what to do, so we have decided to have a small party in the morning and then people who want to ring in the new year with us can stay and continue celebrating and those who have other commitments can leave and do there on thing

Brittany - posted on 12/17/2009

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My son just turned one yesterday actually. My plan was to spend the day celebrating with just our immediate family: me, his dad, and my parents. We spent the morning with grandma and I let him open one birthday present and open some birthday cards he got in the mail, we went to visit Santa for the first time, went out to eat, went back to his grandparents house to play with grandpa once he was off work, then played with daddy just before bedtime. And his actual brithday party is being held this Saturday, the 19th. We invited an easy number of people to handle so that it won't be too overwhelming for him, even though he LOVES people! There will be about 12 or so people, mainly adults. We'll be doing the whole smash cake, present opening, games, and all. Like the other moms said though, the first few birthdays are mostly for the parents, a way to celebrate their little joy. The way I look at it though is that if my birthday were so close to the end of the year when everyone is busy, I wouldn't want to get jipped just because of something that I obviously can't help. So I am throwing him a party for the pictures and memories so he can look back and know that he had his own special day to celebrate.

Jennifer - posted on 12/17/2009

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Ugh.. December 19th here.. I feel your pain. we plan on keeping things separate. It's very important that we do that. We aren't doing a party this year. So much has happened this year in my life that I just didn't really feel like doing one (lots of family members died this year, lots of stress, etc)



So we're going to take him somewhere fun buy him a small cake and call it good.



as for parties I'm thinking about doing it eariler in the month.. like the weekend before his birthday or something. I know some people that celebrate the half birthday.. so you do it in june.. But, I couldn't do it. It's too far away from his actual birthday, it would just feel weird.



when he gets into school and has friends that want to come to the parties, it will get harder. my BFF has a son that was born on the 30th of december (of 07) and we were just talking about it the other day that the kids birthdays will fall during winter vacation at school.. everyone will be out of town or busy for thier birthdays.. it totally sucks.. makes me feel bad for them already.. lol



however my daughters birthday falls BEFORE school even starts by mere days (3rd of september) so she'll have problems for the same reason.. schools out.



I'm not going to worry much about jake's until he's atleast around 3 or 4, until then it will be small go out and do something birthdays, instead of the parties I think.. Atleast that's what I'm saying right now. :)

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Oh, I got a great idea from a friend when I was pregnant with my last son. I was worried he'd be a Christmas baby, and unsure about how to separate birthday from Christmas. My friend's father is a Christmas baby and his parents would have 2 trees. One would be his birthday tree, which he got to decorate any way he wanted and the other was the family Christmas tree. All birthday presents went under the birthday tree and other presents went under the Christmas tree. To this day he has his own tree for his birthday.



That same friend ended up having a Boxing Day (26 Dec) baby too and did the tree thing (just a small imitation one from Target). For her 1st birthday, they decorated it with bunnies because the little girl's nickname is "Bunny". When she gets older, she will be able to choose her own tree and decorations so that it's entirely her creation. I thought it was a brilliant idea and would have used it myself, had I needed it.



Oh, also, they kept the celebrations (for the father) separate, but that won't be such an issue for you. Lunch would be his birthday and dinner would be the family Christmas. Another thing you can also do is the "half birthday". Do a little celebration at the 6 month mark (when they turn 5 1/2, for instance). Of course this will come in handy when he's a bit older and wants to have a party with friends. Doing one at the 1/2 mark will mean he can invite friends to a party, since people tend to do family only things over Christmas.



Being a December baby myself (10th) with a father who's birthday was the 3rd... I hated having a combined birthday as a kid and Christmas never existed until AFTER my birthday. It's tough having a December birthday (my son's is on the 5th thankfully), so as long as you make sure your child's birthday is made special (and noted as being separate from everything else), it will make it easier for the birthday child.



Of course it doesn't really matter so much until they are about 4, until then the celebration is more for us parents. :-)

Laura - posted on 12/17/2009

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I know how you all feel...we are overflowing with birthdays this month...

Here goes: Dec 25 Christmas w/my family, Dec 26 Boxing Day w/ the in-laws, Dec 27 my sister-in-law's birthday, Dec 28, my husband's birthday, Dec 29 is my nephew's 6th birthday, Dec 30, is my daughter's birthday...and finally Dec 31 is New Years. Overall its a pretty busy time for us! We have always celebrated my nephew's birthday seperately from Christmas and we intend to do the same for our daughter. We will have Christmas and my nephew will celebrate his birthday on the 29th with family and a week later with his little friends from school and we have planned a party to celebrate my daughter's 1st birthday but we are going to wait until Jan 10 to do that....so it gives our family and friends a bit of a break!!

Happy 1st Birthday to all the December 2008 Babies!!

Alice - posted on 12/17/2009

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My daughter Mekaila is havingthe same birthday time she also will be one on the 26th and I am having a birthday party for her on the 26th after all this is her first big milestone in many of her long life. So Happy Birthday to all Dec. 26th babies and enjoy

Kalah - posted on 12/16/2009

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My son is also turning one on the 26th. and were doing a separate party on the 27th (bc more friends will be able to come) but i heard about parents doing "half-birthdays" like have a huge party for them mid year, than on their actual birthday just do close friends and family. But it will not matter now bc he's to young to know the difference . lol

Cassandra - posted on 12/16/2009

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It's so hard when they are so close! My daughter (turning 1) is on the 23rd of Dec, my Mum on the 25th and Hubby's on the 27th... I do my birthday shopping mid year to ease the expense! We always celebrate it separately, however we had my daughter's playgroup party a month before so that all her wee baby friends could make it - the only way we will be able to have friend's over for parties unfortunately! Good luck...

Rachael - posted on 12/16/2009

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my daughters birthday is 24th and were keeping them seperate, 24th is her birthday 25th is christmas. i wouldnt like having to share my birthday with christmas!

Laura - posted on 12/16/2009

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My daughter will be 1 on the 29th...what we're doing this year is going to my inlaws in TX for Christmas, then to my parents winter home in SC for her birthday. I think its improtant to keep them separate, and as someone else has said to buy a little bit off and on throughout the year so you dont have a huge bill for Christmas AND the birthday.

Amanda - posted on 12/16/2009

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My son will be 1 on Dec 22 and we will be having a small, family only cake and ice cream party for him on that day. At 1 they are too young for a big bash anyways and it is often times too stressful for them.
My little sister's b-day is also the 22nd and when she was little (kindergarten through 4th grade) my mother had her 1/2 b-day in June. This way she could have all her friends and have outside parties and the like. We will be doing the same for our little man when he gets bigger, but for now I think as long as it's recognized separately it's good.

Miranda - posted on 12/15/2009

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As a mother with a daughter's birthday in the december region I decided to celebrate birthday and christmas totally seperate. It's not our childrens fault that, that's when they were born. If you have to buy a crap load of things before the birthday decide what you're going to give that child for christmas and then some for the birthday they'll grow up hating that their birthday is so close to christmas because they always had to either wait til christmas for their presents or celebrate their birthday n it's totally not fair for them

Laurie - posted on 12/15/2009

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We're celebrating the two separately. This year, since he's only one, we had his party before his birthday and invited over family. In all honesty, it's not really for the baby at this point as it was for us, getting to watch him play and poke at the presents and the cake. I'd go ahead and have both!!

India - posted on 12/15/2009

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My son will be 1 on Dec 22. So this past Saturday Dec 12 I had him an indoor Beach Party Birthday...because he will never be able to have a beachy birthday with his bday in Dec. Also I did it early in the month so ppl couldnt give the excuse that they were busy because of being out of town or it was too close to xmas to get him a bday gift lol. Just do something to make it special and seperate from Xmas.

Jessica - posted on 12/15/2009

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hi my daughters birthday is dec.5 my sons is dec. 6, my brother inlaw dec.4, my dads is also dec.5. we have one big birthday party for all of them then we also celebrate christmas to. but i have found if you start shopping at the beginning of the year and hide the gifts till b-day and christmas you dont spend a ton of money all at once. but black friday is my best friend when it comes to shopping for all the gifts

Jennifer - posted on 12/15/2009

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At such a young age the children don't mind having them together and it can be easier with the busy month. However, my oldest will be 4 in Jan and she already likes her separate. My birthday is Dec 20th and my parties, when I was a kid that is, were usually the first part of the month, but I still got presents from my parents on my birthday.

My advice is to do what is easiest on you the first few years until your son starts understanding better that his birthday is his special day.

Sadie - posted on 12/15/2009

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hi my son will be one on the 28th dec and im celebrating them both seperately. for his birthday we are having a little tea party at my mum's house with all the family... when he gets older im just gonna explain the difference of birthday and christmas

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