Combining birthday and xmas??

Shana - posted on 09/22/2010 ( 109 moms have responded )

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Is anyone else combining their baby's 2nd birthday with xmas? We have been strongly contemplating it. We have no family around us so a party probably won't happen for our son ( it was a disaster last year). I feel guilty for doing it but i don't think he'll really even know what's going on.

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Iliana - posted on 10/04/2010

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I will definitely be doing that this year. We don't have any family around us either and we have some coming in for Christmas. For his actual birthday, we might have a cake and maybe one or two presents from mommy and daddy. I think it's ok to combine them. I have a sister with a bday 2 weeks before mine and we always had a combined birthday party. I NEVER minded as a kid or now. Good luck!

Beke - posted on 10/03/2010

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but I will add, Its up to you and your family! What works for you and your family is all that matters. Parents understand anyway.....and should respect what ever you and your family chose :)

Beke - posted on 10/03/2010

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My son's birthday is the 12 th of decenber, (2 this year) and even though sometimes it seems easy to combined, i think after 2 and beyond they know that its a special day. Birthday's are more important to our family than the religous part of Christmas, but I still like to celebrate the holiday with family. So i persoanlly would ave it seperate. I like the ideas from soem of the otehr mums with children whoa re born on x-mass or the day before/after. about still keeping a secial moment to focus on the b'day child. Maybe like others have said having a part a week before or after once they start getting older :)

Laura - posted on 10/02/2010

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Girl I have 6 kids I combine when I can!! I dont care what anyone says if it works for you and makes your life easier so you can be a calm relaxing mom do it!!!

Rachael - posted on 10/01/2010

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My daughter will be two on christmas day and I have another daughter who will be one on 18th november. So i have a big dilema. I plan to do a joint party this year. on my youngest girls birthday. Although on christmas day she will have her cake and presents in the afternoon. When she is a bit older i will do her birthday party a few days after christmas, just save money aside. I don't want her regretting she was born on Christmas day.

Nicole - posted on 10/01/2010

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No they should not be combined!! im sure you wouldnt like it, its not hard to have a little birthday for him on HIS BIRTHDAY like some cupcakes or even a day out and then have christmas as christmas its just mean to combine it

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My husband was born on December 23rd and always hated his birthday. His parents offered to switch to summer celebrations for him as he got older, but in his kid mind he thought that meant he would have to skip a birthday in order to do that, so he always refused. When my son was born on December 30th we made the decision to celebrate half birthdays. So, we did a small family brunch on December 30th but then had an actual party with friends and family and kids from his day care on June 26th. We will continue celebrating 1/2 birthdays from here on out with probably just a small cake or something to acknowledge the actual day in December.

Nicole - posted on 10/01/2010

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My son was born Dec. 31st and my birthday is Dec. 28th. Growing up I always had my special day, and my parents would always wrap my birthday presents in the Sunday comics. Some of my friends would give me a combined Christmas/Birthday gift, but I would turn around and do that to them on their birthday as well (even if their birthday was in June!). Last year we celebrated Christmas then my birthday and then my sons just with my husband myself and my DS, (we had a big party for him at the end of January). I hope that in the future we can start the tradition of giving him a unbirthday in June so that he can celebrate with his friends.

Carrie - posted on 10/01/2010

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Having a father whose birthday is on Christmas and a sister whose birthday is the 30th, I know I will not combine my daughters (the 31st) with Christmas. When she is older I am considering having her kid party on her half birthday instead and doing the family and adult friend party on January 1st like we do now. We ask for donations for underprivileged children in lieu of gifts since it seems to be such a huge amount of gifts all at once for her.

Fuchsia - posted on 10/01/2010

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I was a december kid and so was hubby and it was no fun having them combined so we don't ever want to do that. She deserve her own day.

Ashlee - posted on 10/01/2010

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my daughter will be 2 xmas eve so i understand everyones points.. I love the half bday ideal someone said..

Crystal - posted on 10/01/2010

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Both of my daughters were born in December! So, 2 answer the question, NO i will not combine their birthdays with christmas! My oldest is dec2 and my youngest is dec 31! They need their own day 4 their birthdays! Christmas is a whole other day and "holiday!" I want them 2 know that they have their own day and their own christmas! :)

Missy - posted on 09/30/2010

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We arent combining but we have tons of family around! I would just do something special on his birthday-fav restuarant, play area, whatever he likes to do-that can be his special birthday dinner!

Megan - posted on 09/30/2010

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Hi Shana! I totally understand what you mean. We're combining our son's birthday with Christmas, but ONLY because I know he won't remember. Probably next year we'll start doing it separate. :)

Summer - posted on 09/30/2010

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I wont do it, my son is the 10 so chritmas is right there i do two things.

Robin - posted on 09/30/2010

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you are wrong and think of money. my little girls birthdya is the 31st of december and yes it is crappy but it is the time of year. she will have to deal with it her whole life and you are the parent are the one the sets the rules. i shop early to ease the pain of the cost. good luck and maybe get a credit card!
good luck

Shannon - posted on 09/30/2010

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my little boy's birthday is dec. 31. so hard because it's so close to christmas...what my family does is as soon as we celebrate christmas we take all christmas deco down and the day of his birthday we decorate so he knows that that day is his only...he just turns two this year so he really doesn't understand but hopefully he will one day;)

Faye - posted on 09/30/2010

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I think kids at any age want to have a special day to themselves. I also think Christmas & lots of presents & activities at once can be overwhelming at this age. I do not think they need a big party, but a cake or cupcake, a song, a hat or balloon & 1 present is fine. My December baby is the 3rd child and he very much knows what a Birthday is & the birthday song.

Heather - posted on 09/30/2010

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Please don't combine. My birthday is 12/15 and my parents always made my birthday a separate event. Not big parties or anything, but at least a special dinner and a cake. Not only is my birthday 12/15, but my 5 year old's bday is 11/30 and our almost 2 year old's birthday is 12/16 (yep, day after mine!). Both of my girls will have their special day and Christmas will be separate. We might combine a kid's birthday party, but ON their birthday will be a special time and for a combined party they will each get their own little cake. If it is a finance issue, make a homemade cake and just have a special celebration at home for the baby. Yes, they may not realize it now, but soon they will. Heck, if I had to buy a Hostess cupcake and put a candle in it, that's what I would do. ;)

Sarah - posted on 09/30/2010

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I have the situation that Graces B/Day is on the 21st of December and Jasmines is on the 29th of December, they will have a separate day from Xmas, I feel it is their day and they can enjoy it themselves.

Keeley - posted on 09/30/2010

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Both my daughter and myself share a birthday on 28th dec. At the moment he won't care but in the future give him his own birthday cos as a child I hated it when people gave me a pressie in christmas paper and told me it was my birthday pressie as well,:)

Judy - posted on 09/30/2010

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I think at this age it is fine. When he gets older, you might want to consider doing a special party with his "friends" sometime in January. This has worked well for my sister whose son's b-day is the 26th. It's too hard to get anyone to come so close to the holiday in December, but no one usually has plans the following month. Just remember, no x-mas paper on the b-day gifts! My brother was the 23rd and this was always his pet peeve!

Gina - posted on 09/30/2010

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My father is a Dec 14 baby. He always had his birthday combined with Christmas; something he hated. When I arrived (another December child) he made sure that I got my birthday celebrations separate from Christmas. I am thankful for that. As I got older, it was my choice to combine birthday presents and wait until Christmas (one week later) to get my presents. Now, I have December babies (Dec 23). We will celebrate their birthday seperately from Christmas. Unfortunately, we will have holiday decorations up (my parents didn't decorate until Dec 18). December birthdays always get looked over in the holiday hype. I do not want my children to feel overlooked. As a final comment; the December birthday kids seem to get fewer presents than siblings who celebrate birthdays in other months...not right.

Cindy - posted on 09/30/2010

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My daughter's birthday is the 9th - somewhere between the thanksgiving and christmas hussle. Her first birthday was not my usual faire in that I always go over the top for my kid;s birthday. This year I;m tyring to find a place back home as we live so far away from family and friends and it was a logistical nightmare last year. This year hopefully will bebetter but then again she wont remember it so it's really just for me, as my 15 year old son and husband have said! My birthday is two weeks after christmas and I always felt jipped because I wasn't able to have the fun parties like my friends who had outdoor parties later in the year. As she gets older it will be more of an event just like I did for our son...

Beccie - posted on 09/30/2010

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My son was due 18th Dec, and I was so desperate for him to come early to get it away from Xmas. Thankfully I got my wish and he came on the 6th dec !! I said there and then that he would always have a separate birthday and Xmas to make it fair to him, although Im sure at this age it wouldnt really matter lol ! We had a big party last year, but this year it will just be a small thing. We used to put the Xmas decorations up on the 1st Dec, but since our boy was born we agreed we would put them up a week after his birthday, so there is a clear distinction between the 2. We also decided when he gets a little bit older that we will do something for him in June, either a special day out, weekend away, party etc, so that he doesnt have to do a full year to get something

Sarah - posted on 09/29/2010

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My daughter was born on December 16th and I plan to keep it seperate from Xmas. No Xmas decorations until the 17th and no combined presents. All of our other family b'days are in June so we might do a half b'day when she's older and more aware.

Dawn - posted on 09/29/2010

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he is 2 young to know.every birthday is special but he doesn't have any friends yet?lolwe're combining his b-day and xmas.good luck

Alicia - posted on 09/29/2010

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My sons bday is 2 days b4 xmas & we give him a few presents on his bday with a small cake after dinner then he gets the rest on xmas

Gwen - posted on 09/29/2010

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I'm all about celebrating half birthdays...especially for these cute little Christmas Babies of ours! I would like to have a family gathering - maybe combine New Year's day with P's birthday party - everyone is off anyway, so why not?

Cari - posted on 09/29/2010

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i think at this age, its ok to combine them. i was born dec 26th, at about 1am. my parents always made a big deal about separating christmas and my b-day. they always took the tree down after i went to sleep christmas night so it christmas was over by my b-day. even though i am now 24 with a husband, 3 kids and a house of my own, my dad will still come over christmas night and help my kids take the tree down for me. :)

Sandra - posted on 09/29/2010

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Kristen perhaps you should make a point the next time you are invited to a family members birthday party. Tell them that since they don't feel they need to make a special effort for your child that you will just see them on another day too. I bet the tune changes quickly. Your child deserves a special day and not just to be lumped with Christmas because it is convienent. (I need spell check). Or maybe you should talk to them now and make the point. If you let them get away with it now in a few years they will say "But it is what we have always done." Good luck. I am just worried about one brother who lives a 3 hour plane ride away and doesn't come home for Christmas with his family. I am just waiting to see if they send a combined gift. I will talk to them if it happens. I really hope it doesn't though. I send their kids birthday and Christmas presents. This year they were home for both kids birthdays and I spent hours making them cakes. So I hope they can put special effort into my son's. I don't care if they ship the packages together to save money and I don't care if they come after his birthday but at least put for the effort to have 2 things.

Kristen - posted on 09/29/2010

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Anyone find that family wont come to the party cause they say "well, we will just see him and give him his gifts on Christmas anyways"? I dont want to combine, but in some ways I think Im stuck. Like I read in the other comments, I think for now since he is young it wont be a big deal, and when he gets older we will work it out then.

Christina - posted on 09/29/2010

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No, I dont lump christmas and her birthday as one. I have let all friends and family know this as well so they dont combine the two. We have Christmas, then we have her birthday. I let them know the bday plans a few months ahead though so they can plan for it as well. I dont feel that its fair for her to have to "share" her special day. My bestfriends bday is the 24th and she mentione how she feels jipped on her bday. Since knowing her I've made it a point to have an early birthday lunch with friends and family for her at a restaurant. Then we all disperse to our own family for xmas eve. Its been working for the past 4yrs and she's been really happy about it. I dont want my daughter to feel jipped when she gets older.

Amanda - posted on 09/29/2010

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My son's birthday is Dec 27th. We live in Germany and for his first birthday we just did a little cake and a couple friends came over since we don't have any family over here. The way I see it, they are too young to even care right now. This Dec. we will be adding another baby to the mix so lots will be going on. I figure, as long as they get presents that are strictly Christmas and then strictly birthday I can't feel too guilty lol. Once they get older we will separate the two events but for now it doesn't bother him.

Naomi - posted on 09/29/2010

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My daughter will be 2 on Christmas Day. Last year we split the day in 2. Morning was christmas presents and then we had Christmas Lunch. the afternoon was birthday presents, cake and birthday dinner. If she was born a day earlier or later I definately wouldn't combine the days. You don't have to do anything big but even at this age it is important for them to know their birthday is their day, christmas is for everyone. my sister is dec 21 and gets combined presents. she is only young and it really upsets her.

Sandra - posted on 09/28/2010

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My son is the 19th of December and he will always have a seperate special day. When he is in school it will likely be the week before his birthday so that we can be sure his school friends can come also. My mother is December 26th. She has always insisted that her birthday presents should be wrapped in birthday paper. She tells everyone that their birthdays are special and celebrated seperatly from Christmas so why should hers be any different. One year my brother wrapped her present with Christmas paper and when his birthday came in July my mother wrapped his present with Christmas paper. No one has done it since. Everyone gets one special day. Why should these kids not get it just because people are too busy at Christmas to celebrate a special day for them. If they can't make or choose not to then that is their business but the kids will realize it in the future.

Kelli - posted on 09/28/2010

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I refuse to combine because I believe every child deserves their own special day. It's not their fault that they were born right next to the holiday. I told my family they can buy her gift in October if they have to, but they should recognize her birthday just like they do all the other kids. I also refuse to do something like a 1/2 bday because again, they deserve their day..........Just my opinion.

Lindsey - posted on 09/28/2010

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i dont plan on combining b day and Christmas. Mine was born on the 15th of Dec. and i want Christmas and birthday to be a special time and not to combine the 2 they are 2 separate occasions.

Nicolle - posted on 09/28/2010

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My son was born on the 22nd of December so I know exactly how you feel. We however live very close to our families so getting together isn't as hard. My husband and I have made a decision to always celebrate Kayden's birthday seperate from Christmas. I don't want him to get half the presents because he only gets presents for Christmas. That may sound selfish but we all got presents for our birthday and presents for Christmas seperate from each other. For his first birthday we celebrated it the weekend before Christmas and we will be doing the same this year. It has worked out great so far. Good luck!

Andrea - posted on 09/27/2010

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My youngest daughter's birthday is the day after Christmas. She will be 2 this year. My nephew's is the day before Christmas. He will be 17 this year. I have always given him a gift on his special day in the am, then Christmas the next day, and as he got older I gave him a special half unbirthday birthday in the middle of summer just for him. I am also trying to do that with my daughter as well. I'm sure it stinks to have you special day lumped together with every thing else.

Benita - posted on 09/27/2010

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I think that while the child is young--and, especially if funds are tight--it is a really good idea. As the child gets older, he/she will have friends and they will have some type of Christmas break from school. That means you will probably have a decent turnout as well--what else will they be doing?
My first born was born right @ Lobor Day (Sept. 2), and I would incorporate him into the family barbeque. As he got older he got parties--both of which made him very happy.
Good luck!

Amanda - posted on 09/26/2010

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never. my birthday is the 5th of december and it was always combined with my brothers birthday (dec. 17th) and christmas and i know how it made me feel so unspecial on my day. My son will be 2 on christmas and even though Im a single mom I will make sure that he has a birthday and christmas but not together. As long as i am alive i will make sure that he never has to feel that unspecial feeling.

Marie Jayne - posted on 09/26/2010

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Amy will be 2 on christmas day, this year she had a 1and a half birthday on June 25th. which as she gets older i intend to keep the tradition as her Granma started this and as we have only recently lost her, i want to keep this going , also I'll try to make sure her christmas prezzies equal her birthday prezzies.

Melissa - posted on 09/26/2010

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My son's birthday is December 24th... Last year he had a little party on his birthday & then xmas day we still had our regular family festivities. I don't think it would really matter if you combined them

Juli - posted on 09/26/2010

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My son's birthday is the day after Christmas. We did hold a birthday party for him last year, but he ended up with reindeer and santa cupcakes. This year, I bought cake toppers in advance so we can have a separate party for him with dinosaurs on his cake. Our party last year was very small (my parents & siblings, and his dad's brother) - this year I am not really expecting anyone in addition to that to come. They do not join us for Christmas, so I like to give Niccolai a small party. Friends and family keep telling us to have a half birthday party instead but I do not feel comfortable with that idea.

Amy - posted on 09/26/2010

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My daughter's 2nd birthday is Christmas Eve so we're going to do Birthday stuff in the morning and family/Christmas stuff in the evening. My family always gets together Christmas eve so we celebrate both then.

Laura - posted on 09/26/2010

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My daughter is December 17th... last year we had her 1st birthday party a week or two before her birthday and just had cake on her birthday. Last year was a big party, this year we will do something smaller with just the immediate family, probably on her birthday. I agree with the sentiment that if you start combining it now, it will be harder to separate it later when he is older. My ex-boyfriend was a Christmas day baby... After he'd go to bed on Christmas eve I would put a happy birthday banner on the tree and cover the Christmas presents with a sheet and set his birthday present on top. My grandfather is a Christmas day baby also, and I always get him a separate gift, and make sure I wrap it separately. If family will be there on Christmas but not his birthday I would do Christmas presents in the morning, and then have a birthday dinner with gifts afterward.

Elizabeth - posted on 09/26/2010

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No Christmas wrapping for his gifts! lol.

Our son was born on Dec 26, and he will be 2yrs old this year. We haven't had a birthday party for him yet because, I just feel that at this age it's not something that he would really want. What we're doing is getting separate birthday and Christmas gifts. He'll have his Christmas gifts on Christmas and he'll have his birtday gifts and cake on his birthday.

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