How do i get daughter to use potty when she has pull up on?

Amritam - posted on 07/03/2011

I was told Patience and Perseverance is the key
to have fixed time for the child to sit on the potty seat
for poop, 20-30 minutes after they have had their meal could be a good time to have them sit a while, (all along read a book, playin with toys or chattin with you could help) Hope this helps.......

Julie - posted on 07/01/2011

Natalie, some children can stay dry when they are awake, but take a while longer to stay dry when asleep or be able to sense when they have to go and get up and go and then go back to sleep. I think you're safe to do panties during the day and just put the Pullup on for sleep time. If you have her go on the potty just before she goes down for a nap or to bed that is helpful. Other than that there is nothing you can do until she's able to stay dry when she's asleep, but if you have daytime dryness you're doing great! One caution though. Make sure she isn't holding it all day because I had a daughter that did that and it led to urinary tract infections. You're ahead of my current 3 year old though so feel good.

Margaret - posted on 06/24/2011

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Natalie - posted on 06/24/2011

We started potty training at the end of May. At first my daughter liked to sit on the potty and even peed on it after a day or two. But then she just stopped even wanting to try. She just said "no" every time I asked and would throw a fit if I tried to get her to sit on it. That was the first week. Then I decided maybe the Pull-Ups were not the best way to go and we went and picked out some big girl panties. The first day we put her in them, she didn't have any accidents, and peed on the potty once. The rest of the time she stayed dry. I only put her in a pull-up for nap time and bedtime. The second day of underwear was another story. She sat down on the potty when I asked if she wanted to go, she peed and was excited. Then she asked for some juice and so I gave her some and since I know that it doesn't take long for her to pee when she has juice I had her sit on the potty again within 15 minutes. She went again, and got a reward. Then she peed again in her underwear, and threw a huge fit because she was upset. We got cleaned up and tried again, she peed 2 more times and this time she just didn't seem to care, she didn't tell me she had to go or anything. She never tells me when she has to go. Now we are on week 3 and I put her back in the pull ups to try and figure out what works best for all of us. So far she is doing much better in the sense that she is willing to sit on the potty now. She hasn't gone in it. She will stay dry from the time she wakes up in the morning until she takes a nap, and then she pees in the pullup. When she gets up we change her into a new pullup and she stays dry until she goes to bed at night, and then she pees. So it seems like she is holding out until nap time and bedtime to actually pee in the pull up. I am thinking about trying the underwear again and see how she does now. I don't know, she is such an independent little thing, she doesn't want to do what you want to do, only what she wants, lol. I guess we just keep chugging along.

Sorry that was so long. I hope that you figure out what works best for you :)

Oh and any suggestions that anyone may have for my situation, would be greatly appreciated!

Natalie - posted on 06/24/2011

We started potty training at the end of May. At first my daughter liked to sit on the potty and even peed on it after a day or two. But then she just stopped even wanting to try. She just said "no" every time I asked and would throw a fit if I tried to get her to sit on it. That was the first week. Then I decided maybe the Pull-Ups were not the best way to go and we went and picked out some big girl panties. The first day we put her in them, she didn't have any accidents, and peed on the potty once. The rest of the time she stayed dry. I only put her in a pull-up for nap time and bedtime. The second day of underwear was another story. She sat down on the potty when I asked if she wanted to go, she peed and was excited. Then she asked for some juice and so I gave her some and since I know that it doesn't take long for her to pee when she has juice I had her sit on the potty again within 15 minutes. She went again, and got a reward. Then she peed again in her underwear, and threw a huge fit because she was upset. We got cleaned up and tried again, she peed 2 more times and this time she just didn't seem to care, she didn't tell me she had to go or anything. She never tells me when she has to go. Now we are on week 3 and I put her back in the pull ups to try and figure out what works best for all of us. So far she is doing much better in the sense that she is willing to sit on the potty now. She hasn't gone in it. She will stay dry from the time she wakes up in the morning until she takes a nap, and then she pees in the pullup. When she gets up we change her into a new pullup and she stays dry until she goes to bed at night, and then she pees. So it seems like she is holding out until nap time and bedtime to actually pee in the pull up. I am thinking about trying the underwear again and see how she does now. I don't know, she is such an independent little thing, she doesn't want to do what you want to do, only what she wants, lol. I guess we just keep chugging along.

Sorry that was so long. I hope that you figure out what works best for you :)

Oh and any suggestions that anyone may have for my situation, would be greatly appreciated!

Natalie - posted on 06/24/2011

We started potty training at the end of May. At first my daughter liked to sit on the potty and even peed on it after a day or two. But then she just stopped even wanting to try. She just said "no" every time I asked and would throw a fit if I tried to get her to sit on it. That was the first week. Then I decided maybe the Pull-Ups were not the best way to go and we went and picked out some big girl panties. The first day we put her in them, she didn't have any accidents, and peed on the potty once. The rest of the time she stayed dry. I only put her in a pull-up for nap time and bedtime. The second day of underwear was another story. She sat down on the potty when I asked if she wanted to go, she peed and was excited. Then she asked for some juice and so I gave her some and since I know that it doesn't take long for her to pee when she has juice I had her sit on the potty again within 15 minutes. She went again, and got a reward. Then she peed again in her underwear, and threw a huge fit because she was upset. We got cleaned up and tried again, she peed 2 more times and this time she just didn't seem to care, she didn't tell me she had to go or anything. She never tells me when she has to go. Now we are on week 3 and I put her back in the pull ups to try and figure out what works best for all of us. So far she is doing much better in the sense that she is willing to sit on the potty now. She hasn't gone in it. She will stay dry from the time she wakes up in the morning until she takes a nap, and then she pees in the pullup. When she gets up we change her into a new pullup and she stays dry until she goes to bed at night, and then she pees. So it seems like she is holding out until nap time and bedtime to actually pee in the pull up. I am thinking about trying the underwear again and see how she does now. I don't know, she is such an independent little thing, she doesn't want to do what you want to do, only what she wants, lol. I guess we just keep chugging along.

Sorry that was so long. I hope that you figure out what works best for you :)

Oh and any suggestions that anyone may have for my situation, would be greatly appreciated!

Stacey - posted on 05/09/2011

my daughter did the same thing. I stopped using pull-ups because i didn't want to confuse her. So, sounds like she may be a little confused. Dont worry! Just don't use them anymore unless just for bed if she is not waking up to go potty yet. To hopefully solve your problem, see what happens when you don't put panties on her. let her wear a loose pair of shorts, I did this for almost a week and my daughter ran to the potty everytime. She knew there was nothing there to "catch" the poo. That's why they need to be real loose. Hope this works for you too! (hopefully, this will fix the pee issue as well)

Jeannine - posted on 05/05/2011

Pull-ups are the worse thing ever! Take a few days to a week and don't put them in anything! (modify for your lifestyle). My son regressed when we put him in pull-ups and then I went out and bought him "big boy" underwear and that was all it took. My daughter it took a little longer and more accidents but the pull ups are still diapers and I think kids know that.

Ntahli - posted on 05/04/2011

What I can tell u is be patient, she is not used to potty so its new to her. My daughter did the same thing tho it was only panties no pull ups, every time maybe after 30minutes say go and pee baby and go with her and show her how to pull down pantie and sit and if she did "congradulate her or u may give something she likes just to show her dat she is doing a good thing." Dont eva be aggresive be nice she will understand. GOOD LUCK.

Nicola - posted on 05/04/2011

When potty training my son I always used pull ups basically as a back up for any accidents. What i did with him was every 15 minutes I asked him if he needed to pee pee (yes it seems a bit much) if he did I would take him to the toilet and that helped him associate that even though he had his pull ups on he still had to go to the toilet. He was fully potty trained in 3 days - he still had the odd accident now and again but very rarely. Hope this helps x

Margaret - posted on 05/04/2011

I got this idea from www.BedtimeAndToiletTrainingSolutions.com.au
you have your daughter teach a doll who wears pull-ups to go to the toilet everytime. Oh and the site is worth checkinjg out too. Yyou can find them by googling, bedtime and toilet training solutions.
Good luck, they helped me so much.

Dawnie - posted on 05/04/2011

Unfortunately, you may have to go cold turkey. She's a smart cookie, she knows there is no mess or need with her pull-up on.

Jennifer - posted on 05/04/2011

With my kids, I only used pull-ups for naps and nighttime. I would also use them if we had to go somewhere that might take a long time. The rest of the time they didn't have anything on but a t-shirt. The other thing was, that I knew they wouldn't be independent right away. I would say "Let's go potty" and take them to the bathroom and have them try to go. It worked for me.

Sherri - posted on 05/04/2011

Let her pick out new panties, reminder her Dora (or whoever she picks) doesnt like to get peed on. Pull ups does confuse them. Also when she pees herself have her change her own clothes wipe herself with a wipe and talk about how yucky it feels and it takes a long time to change pee clothes but only a minute to use the potty. Good luck

Krissy - posted on 05/04/2011

when i trained my boy he had no pants on until he could go and didnt need to say 'oh i peed on floor' he forgot when he had pants on. it was easier i stayed at home for 2 weeks -had time off when hubby home though - and it really did help him alot. poos were something different and we found out the casue was that he has autism. my daughter is almost 2 yrs now but is petrified to go potty and whe i had tryed her she clearly wasnt ready when she would pee on the floor and try to play with it when i had my att taken away from me with my boy. no pull up they end up depending on them and i have a friend who had to end night time as well with them as he held on pretty much all day until he got them on at night and the big poop happened. im going to try in our summer -australian- as it wont be chilly and its alot easier to clean up the mess and drys just as fast.

Julie - posted on 05/03/2011

When you figure it out let me know. My 3 year old comes and tells me after she went in her pants.

Nikia - posted on 05/03/2011

She won't! My son will tell you I have on a pull up! I just got rid of them except @ bedtime.

Jamee' - posted on 05/03/2011

This was a huge problem for us too! I am on potty training #4 of 5 and I learned this trick with number 3--I put on panties UNDER the pull up, that way it catches the mess, but they still FEEL the wetness and learn quickly they can't wet the pull up. Try it, might work for you! :)

Amy - posted on 05/03/2011

if she is awake she should have on undies(IMO) and you need to ask her over and over if she needs to go.....its almost like crate training a dog but harder cause its your child.



My son is 3 and is potty trained while he is awake but at night when he is sleeping he might have an accident(more likely than none) so he sleeps in the pull ups....we've been having him sleeping in pull ups since he was 2 and in undies all the other times.

Kim - posted on 05/03/2011

I agree with pretty much everyone here. With my daughter (she is almost 4 now and has been potty trained for almost a year and a half), the pull ups didn't work because they felt the same as the diaper. At the time, she really liked Dora the Explorer, so I bought her some Dora the Explorer underwear and explained to her that she shouldn't pee or poop on Dora. She had a few accidents at first, but she caught on pretty fast. I just asked her often if she had to go to the bathroom and a lot of times she would say she had to go, but then nothing would happen. It was better to take her and have nothing happen than to not take her and have to clean up an accident. So, bottom line, I would say stop using the pull ups and go from there.

Teri - posted on 05/03/2011

If you let her do it in her own time, she'll do fine. My daughter pees and poops ont eh potty but when she's wearing clothing she forgets. We spend alot of time running around naked -- so she can understand the Urge. that helps tons.

but I figure she still needs more time. She does tell me that she has to pee and poop in her diaper -- and sometimes I can get to a bathroom sometimes I can't -- no pressure, a happy kid is more important that a trained kid.

Erika - posted on 05/02/2011

I have heard pull ups arent a good thing when potty training. They are too close to diapers and it confuses them. I have started training my daughter. She has undies on through the day. If we go out I put her in a diaper and she has one on at night. She has had a couple accidents, but doing very well so far.

Rachelle - posted on 05/02/2011

I have a boy so things mmight be different but... he spent alot of time being naked. I went straight to undies when we went out but if we were at home naked was the word of the day. Hang in there... Do the peepee dance... take her every 20 or 30ish minutes. Even if she tells you she doesnt have to go. The word "NO" has a different meaning to a 2 year old. Hang in there girl : )

Chancey - posted on 05/02/2011

Stop wasting your $$ on pullups. Either put her in a diaper or panties. When my youngest 1st started learning to use the potty she would also go in her panties but would make it to the potty everytime if she was naked. I let her run around bottomless for a couple weeks. Then tried panties again. Didnt work so back to being bottomless we went. The next week we tried again and we havent looked back. GL

Stephanie - posted on 05/01/2011

As a mom for a 7 ,6 and 3 year old I would greatly suggest NOT using anything like a diaper. They can't transfer well during the training stage. In fact a little story...my youngest was fully potty trained for about 6 mo. We had to go on a trip that required no stops. So I bought some pull ups and reminded her that she needed to tell us before going to potty like always. Well after hours of her not saying anything which was very unusual, I stopped and checked her. She had gone in the pull ups because she said well it will hold because it isa diaper.
So their little minds have a hard time with this not so different change. Panties or bare bottom actually help because they feel everything and most of the time don't like it. Since summer in coming it is a great time for this. Also make sure that you pack LOTS of extras. Even let her wear them in the car. They make a great product called a piddle pad. It won't leak! This has helped me potty train them all VERY quickly and successfully. Good Luck

Christine - posted on 05/01/2011

My daughter was d same age and d same thing. Just keep puttin d nickers on her and leave her. She will soon learn not to go to d toilet in dem as she will feel all wet and uncomfortable. My daughter was much better after a week. Xxx hope dis helps xxx best of luck

Elizabeth - posted on 05/01/2011

pull ups are an expensive diaper..if you don't know it ..your daughter sure does..It feels exactly the same as a diaper

Ditch the diaper and see how much faster things will progress. Put undies on her and if she pees put her on the potty after anyway so she knows what went wrong..and let her be uncomfortable in wet undies for a little bit.

Tiffany - posted on 05/01/2011

With my son using pull ups or diaper was a set back. So I finally let him go in his birthday suit for about a month, then bought him some underwear. He thought he could go in his underwear but we just had to tell him that he had to use the potty. We would have him help clean his underwear and explain to him about using the potty. There were alot of accidents and he still has accidents sometimes its all part of the learning process. There was alot of stay at home time so that he wouldnt have to wear a diaper or pull up and could just work on using the potty. But my suggestion is to either go all or nothing. They seem to get confused when you switch back and forth between underwear and diapers. It sends them mixed messages. Some people say try letting them sit in their soiled underwear for awhile and that they wont like it. Hope this helps you out some! Good luck!