how do you celebrate a birthday so close to Christmas?

Nicole - posted on 06/20/2009 ( 28 moms have responded )

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I feel kinda bad my son's birthday is so close to Christmas. He was born Dec. 8, so it's not that close, but close enough. How do you plan to do the whole present thing when Christmas is so close? Now that they're babies it's not such a big deal, but it will be when they're older!

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Jannette - posted on 09/15/2013

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I'm having a difficult time to plan a birthday party for my daughter she was born on Dec.26,2010 what should I do please help me!

Michelle - posted on 06/20/2009

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My daughter was born on the 17th!! We're going to throw her a normal birthday like any other child would have. We have also already started to pick up Christmas gifts to put away. Mainly just toys, but it will help cut the cost of Christmas and we'll be able to have a party with presents. I am a firm believer that your child should get seperate birthday gifts. You wouldn't co-celebrate a bithday anyother time (ex. Halloween) so why do it because of Christmas? It's really no different then my sister who has a birthday in April and it often falls around Easter. She always got both. I think it just takes more planning on our part! If your child's birthday was at any other time of the year they would get a gift so why change it?

Ivanna - posted on 10/28/2013

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My birthday is on december 26 and i like it so much because my family has always celebrate it like we are not even in christmas. When i turned 18th i realized i could celebrate dec 23 with class mates and friends and let the 26 to spende a private time with family and very close friends

Sabina - posted on 10/03/2011

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My daughter was born Dec 11th and she will be 3 years old and Yes we are having a b-day party for her. Its her day and thats all there is to it. I will never not give her a bday cause its in the same month as x-mas I had a friend who never had a b-day party as it was on xmas and now she hates her b-day and xmas.

Tanya - posted on 09/17/2013

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My daughter was also born on December 8th. We have decided that we are going to have her party in November and then on her actual birthday then we let her decide what we do all day. Usually something special like a movie or a trip or whatever she wants to do. We make it her day. We started doing the party in November because she always wants her party outside and in December it is raining most of the time. It has worked out well for us. It also makes it so more people show up for her to enjoy. During December most people are very busy and can never make it to her party. She was getting so sad because noone ever showed up but everyone would show up for her sisters and brothers partys in May. It made her feel left out.

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Lacy - posted on 10/25/2011

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our oldest Tristan, is dec.8,2006 and then Declan is Dec.4,2008 .we make their birthdays just like it would be if it wasn't near christmas. we don't look at it as "close to christmas so we will slack on the celibration. " we make it fair .they both have their own special day,their 1 big present from us and then all their friends over to party (well we rent a hall cause our house is too small for so many people) even though it is an expecive month we like to make it their birthday :)

Antoinette - posted on 10/08/2011

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Sister-in-law 13th
friends son 22nd
little sister 23rd
nephew 28th
nephew 29th
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my daughter & I are New Years Day.

It's one of those months where we definately have to plan ahead. Because there are SO many in my family, we like to focus more on hanging out than presents or expensive parties and tend to do alot of combined parties (September is also a big month for us with 7 birthdays) with potluck & BBQs - Christmas is the middle of summer in NZ.

If you can afford to make a fuss every year then I reckon why not but otherwise IMO I think it's ok to alternate between having a party, doing something just as a family (cake at dinner type thing), an activity that the birthday person chooses (going to the park, out to dinner, movie night), sleepovers etc. and plan (and save) to make a big fuss on the major birthdays (starting kindy/school/high school, getting drivers licence, reaching 'adulthood' - legal drinking/conscription age)

For me I like it simple and usually just have a picnic at the beach or river - we're often camping anyway - so it's nice and relaxed.

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Well I have 2 that's in December on the 5th and 10th. I alternate the birthdays...one year I have it on the 5th then one year the 10th..but I give one huge birthday party for both...but they only get one present each...then they get one present for Christmas....so give ur child a huge party then a great present for Christmas.

Sara - posted on 10/07/2011

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my husbands birthday is the 23rd. He said as a kid it always got combined in with christmas and would get to open one of his gifts under the tree on his b-day. His mom was also a single mom raising 2 kids. Our daughters b-day is 3 weeks after x-mas.

Cheryl - posted on 10/04/2011

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I was born on Valentine's Day and always loved it until about 20+yrs into my marriage I figured out my hubs got a bargain with me lumping my B'day in with V'day!!LOL well we have saved a lot of money with that I guess.. I also have a December baby.. on the 17th and some of the time it was an issue and others not.. here recently, tho he is now almost 24 we kinda mixed his B'day with Xmas I can't remember but one fell thru the cracks and I felt badly about it.. one way you could do it is celebrate it early like end of November or even in January so it is not so close to Xmas.. just a thot!

Jennifer - posted on 09/12/2011

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My youngest was born on Dec. 27 and we have always just celebrated on her birthday. We send treats to school, usually after Christmas break. A bigger problem for us is celebrating my husband's birthday, which is on Halloween! Fortunately, he is grown up enough to handle it. ;)

Pamela - posted on 09/10/2011

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I think having a baby around Christmas is the perfect way to introduce the real meaning of Christmas (the birth of Jesus) and the birthday of the child. Too much emphasis is put on the grand splendor of the gifts swallowing up the base of the tree because Santas toy shoppe is so busy. Take advantage of this time. It is Jesus' birthday. All he got was Gold, Frankinscence, and muir. We give gifts to celebrate his birth, and Santa helps with a few gifts. The birthday should be celebrating the birth of a child. Whether is was Jesus or your child. HUGE celebration with family and friends, and a few gifts from family, friends, and Santa!

Kristy - posted on 07/01/2009

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I have 2 December babies, Mathew will be 3 on Dec 18th and Josh will be 1 on Dec 4th. While they are still young I will pick one day to celebrate them both and it'll be cheaper. Once they get older and not want to share birthdays anymore, Josh will have a party in November and Mathew will get his in January after the Christmas holidays!

Kim - posted on 07/01/2009

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Quoting Lesley:

My son was born on Dec 8th, but my husband's birthday is the 12th and I always feel as though my husband doesn't get a big deal made of his birthday. Now it will only be worse since our son's is days before. Poor daddy :(
I'm just going to throw our little one a regular party. If my friends care about us the way I think they do it wont matter when it is. We are going to do curious george theme!


If he's anything like my hubby, he won't care.  My hubby doesn't like a big deal being made out of his birthday.  He says he doesn't want any gifts but we usually get him something anyway.  He's most happy to have a little QT with mommy  LOL

Lesley - posted on 07/01/2009

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My son was born on Dec 8th, but my husband's birthday is the 12th and I always feel as though my husband doesn't get a big deal made of his birthday. Now it will only be worse since our son's is days before. Poor daddy :(
I'm just going to throw our little one a regular party. If my friends care about us the way I think they do it wont matter when it is. We are going to do curious george theme!

Kim - posted on 06/30/2009

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Quoting Nicole:

See, I was thinking more for like when they're older and in school and have friends. Everyone will be gone or busy during the winter break and there will be no one around to have a party! We're also military so we don't have any family around either. My mom's coming up for his 1st birthday (they have the same birthday!) so we'll do something then.



My hubby is also military.  I have 2 step kids that have moved around a few times.  Their family is kind of scattered all over so they ship gifts to the kids.   Our first move as a family is coming up next month.  He has been here for only 18 months.  Our new baby girl was born December 11th.  His daughter is January 10th, mine is January 25th and his son is February 13th.  It can put a dent in the finances.  Rather than spending a fortune on a "by invitation" birthday, I bring cupcakes and treat bags (think dollar store trinkets) to school for the kids and we celebrate as a family at home or a local fun place of their choice.  My SD wanted to go to Build A Bear so we spent the day at the mall with ice cream and she got her Build A Bear and had cake & presents from family at home.  My SS wanted Safari Sams (like Chuck E Cheese) so we did pizza and mini golf and let the kids play and had cake & presents at home.  Since I won't be in my home town where my family is for our baby's 1st birthday, I won't do a huge deal (which kinda makes me sad because 1st birthdays are a big deal and are really for the big to-do) and will probably just continue the tradition of cupcakes at school and a family celebration.  She won't know any better.  Since your son is December 8th, school should still be in session.  And you can also just have him invite his closest bud and have one friend come along for the "family" celebration.   And I vow to never do birthday presents under the Christmas tree LOL. 

Analise - posted on 06/30/2009

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My son was born on the 29th, same as my hubby. I've already told our families that they don't get to be cheapo's just because his birthday's 4 days after Christmas. It's important that you celebrate their birthday a well. Don't let the fact that your child's birthday is close to Christmas stop you from giving him separate gifts. I have a cousin who's birthday is Christmas eve and she always had to choose if she wanted birthday presents or Christmas presents.

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My son was born on the 20th and we will celebrate it on that day. As my children get older (my other son is the 16/1), i plan on having a small family party on their special day and a party mid yesr with all their friends, as in Aust, most people are away for that xmas period.

Leisa - posted on 06/23/2009

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My son was born on the 17th and we too have given it some thought. I think we'll do the family thing on the day and bring the party forward, but my other idea with regard to presents is to leave a little money spare and give him some half birthday gifts in June so that he gets new things spread throughout the year. It might get a little complicated if we have more children but it is a long time to wait for gifts from one year to the next :(

Lydia - posted on 06/22/2009

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I am waiting to see how it goes - but I know alot of people are too busy or away over the xmas break. My Dads b'day is on Dec 30 and his birthday always got blocked in with xmas. I may celebrate her actual birthday with a family thing and have her celebrate her 1/2 birthday with a kids party. Liked this idea because it also spreads things out a little too. It depends on her andwhat she is happy with - she may not see it as a big deal to only have small or family things for her day as neither her father or I do much for our birthdays by choice.

Brenda - posted on 06/22/2009

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Well, I was born on Dec 28th and always had my birthday be 'my birthday'. My daughter was born on Dec 31st and her birthday will always be her day...then a kick butt party later for the adults! :)

Laura - posted on 06/22/2009

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tell me about it i am trying to explain to my 3 yr old who has just had her birthday there in june that her sister who will be one (big one) just after santa arrives (29th) and trying to make it sound ok and she wasnt as understanding as i would have hoped as for present i am looking at things now and making suggestions to family so gives them a chance to buy now instead of that horrible xmas time :)

Nicki - posted on 06/21/2009

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My son was born on Christmas day! We aren't sure what we are going to do this year. He is going to have a birthday party after Christmas, i just haven't decided when. My original thought was to just do it the weekend after Christmas, that could interfere with New Year's. My mother in law suggested that we celebrate his birthday at the end of January, because that is when he was due. When he gets old enough to understand and want to have a party with his friends, I think I will let him decide what he wants to do. I know some people who have kids with birthdays close to Christmas who have their child's friend party on their half birthday, and just do the family thing on their actual birthday.

Colleen - posted on 06/21/2009

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I am also wondering about this, my son was born Dec 28th.. I haven't decided what to do yet.

Michelle - posted on 06/21/2009

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In that case... I had a little guy at my daycare who would celebrate his birthday with his friends in November (his is right around Christmas). That way he could party with his friends and have a family celebration on his actual birthday:) So I would suggest having it early or even after the holidays is over (like in January).

Nicole - posted on 06/21/2009

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See, I was thinking more for like when they're older and in school and have friends. Everyone will be gone or busy during the winter break and there will be no one around to have a party! We're also military so we don't have any family around either. My mom's coming up for his 1st birthday (they have the same birthday!) so we'll do something then.

April - posted on 06/21/2009

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My LO was born on the 21st. I've talked with a friend or ours whose oldest was born the day after Christmas and she said that they do his party the first weekend of December where they invite friends, then they have a family celebration on his actual b-day. She found that most people haven't gotten too "wrapped up" (pun intended - sorta) with Christmas stuff yet, so having a b-day party that weekend is usually successful for them. I think we'll try that and see what happens.

Liza - posted on 06/20/2009

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My son was born 12/3 and we will have a birthday party just like it was any other month of the year. It will fall right between Thanksgiving & Christmas and be a planning nightmare, but it isn't his fault.

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