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Debbie - posted on 05/24/2010
My 17month old daughter picks up objects to hit you with. Also she bites and she thinks its funny. I have tried the naughty seat. what a waste of time that was. At first I thought maybe a smack but. it makes no sense to correct a hit with a hit really does. Any way she just laughs at me when I try. The trouble is now my daughter when she does something she is not allowed to do or before she hits you she will say what I've said she says ouch then hits you. No when doing something she knows she shouldn't. What to do when there to smart for there own good.
Kathryn - posted on 05/22/2010
No attention is better than ANY type of attention, including negative attention. I think removing him from her or having her get far away from him where she is safe from his hitting should stop his naughty behavior. Say nothing and don't give eye contact. He is getting some type of attention by hitting and that is reinforcing his bad behavior. Good luck to you because it could take some time. If you accidently give him attention it will put you back at square one and you have to start over. I hope your daughter is able to help out- it depends on her age.
Christina - posted on 05/22/2010
A child this age isn't doing it to be naughty....hopefully your son, like mine, has no reason to understand what it feels like to be hit. Chance doesn't understand GENTLE at all. He just knows that when he does something like hank the cat's tail or pound on the wall that it gets a reaction he likes. Just be consistent, saying no and distracting him from the behavior. It WILL stop if you are.
Amber - posted on 05/19/2010
I use time outs on my daughter, she likes to slap us a lot! She doesn't anymore since we started the time outs. I usually do 2 mins and I make her look at me and tell her why she is being put in time out. After wards I ask her if she is sorry for hitting so and so and give her a big hug and tell her I love her. It worked...took a couple of time for her to know we were being completely serious with the time outs.
Jessica - posted on 05/18/2010
I have to say my 17 month old daughter hits and bites her 5 year old sister. She also does the same thing to her daddy. She sees both of them as people that play rough. She does not do this to me but she did pull my hair a few times. At first I tryed to pop her hand and she would just look at me funny then laugh and run away. The last time she pulled my hair I pulled hers back (not hard just enough to get her attention) she relized then that it hurts. She has not pulled my hair nor anyone elses hair since. Time out seems to work sometimes when she does something like hit or bite her sister though. She has been throwing a lot of temper tantrums lately and she gets time out for that. We are doing better with the hitting but the tantrums not so much.
Tina - posted on 05/18/2010
Hi there..my son does the same thing, he likes to swat and hit. This is completely NORMAL for a child at this age. They are still feeling things out at this point. I'm not a believer in "time outs", but as I've read on a lot of these posts it works for some. I have 3 boys and it's never been an affective method for me. Some of the hitting my son does is from what he's seen his older brothers do (not that they are hitting one another all the time) but at this age they mimic everything. I was just cleaning a spill and he came right behind me with a sponge and was wiping too. I tell him BAD and no hitting and he understands. We just keep reinforcing that and eventually it stops. They get to a point of knowing right from wrong. As with the other Mom's consistancy is key. It also depends on the child..some respond with time out, some won't every child is different. You can try different methods and use which one is the best for you and your little one. I hope this helped a bit ;0)
Liz - posted on 05/17/2010
Oh, please don't say your son is naughty :( He is displaying naughty behaviour, but that doesn't make HIM naughty (or bad, or whatever word we like to call children that misbehave).
You haven't mentioned how old your daughter is. If she is old enough, maybe show her how to walk away from him if he smacks? She is then in control of the situation and he will eventually realise that he loses a play buddy if he's rough.
If she's younger and can't assert herself that way, I agree that you remove him from the situation.
My 17 mth old started to occasionally swat at our faces, after he saw an older boy doing it at family daycare. It surprised us as he had never done that kind of thing before. I tried the firm 'NO' with him and then tried ignoring it. The behaviour has stopped but, when I think back, it was only happening when he was really tired and one of us would be right up close to him. I guess, without the proper reasoning or the words, how do you tell someone to get out of your face!? lol
Anyway, goodluck with it and I hope you find a way that works for you :)
Alicia - posted on 05/17/2010
My son goes lovingly to hug his big sister 4yrs and ends the hug either by biting her or pulling her hair. He know he is doing wrong because he looks at us and says Nooo .... LEE. I tried removing him from situation, time out and positive reinforcement but nothing has worked yet. Any suggestions....?
Marlana - posted on 05/15/2010
If he knows what ouch means you could get his older sister to say it one or two times when he hits her. If not if you started this and saying it when you or him got hurt as well he could catch on that its hurting her.
Everyone is different in parenting but when my daughter does something like this I tell her no sternly and make her sit in her chair for a min or 2.
Tarina - posted on 05/13/2010
my son just started doing this for the last week or two, hitting us and his 9 yr old brother. He gets one warning, a reminder "no hit. owee" - then we redirect him to something else. If he does it again, he gets put into his bedroom to play alone for 15 minutes. They say for specific time outs (doing nothing) 1 min per year, but 1 min doesnt really affect him so we just put him in a new area where he has to play alone, and remind him to play nice when he come out.
Brandi - posted on 05/12/2010
Ryan is almost 17 months old, and is a slapper as well. He gets a minute and a half time out in his pack n play (we tried a naughty chair, but he would not stay there) when he hits. Time out will usually chill him out for a while. Some days he's in time out a lot (13 times on mothers day), but after time he will start associating time out with the behavior that landed him there!! It's all about consistency though!!
Karen - posted on 05/12/2010
Yes, I agree with Amanda, taking him away from the situation is a must, but I also think there has to be a consequence - he may not understand it fully now, but if you do it consistently, it will start to sink in. I have a 17 month old boy and a 4 month old boy also, and my older son lays on his brother (with all his weight) and I've found taking him away and facing him in a corner for 30 seconds (which he doesn't like) stops him from being naughty, most of the time. Of course tomorrow is always a new day! LOL