Post-natal depression?

Laura - posted on 03/10/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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Has anyone been diagonised with post-natal depression? i have 13 week old daughter and finding it really tough to bond with her and generally look after her! this is my second baby and wasnt like this before...! anyone else feel like this?

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Rhoda - posted on 04/13/2009

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hi laura, dont worry, u are not on your own, i had it after my fourth and fifth child, i just walk away when i am having a moment of finding i cant cope and just count to 10 slowly then you are not in that frame of mind anymore, it works wonders for me.

Karley - posted on 04/11/2009

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iv been diagnosed with it because i was getting fustrated all the time crying lots and getting angry and not coping with shane.

iv been on zoloft since my son was a month old.



if you have any worries go to your dr. zoloft helps me heaps im doing great now



good luck

Michelle - posted on 03/12/2009

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Hey Laura, you're definately not alone, sound like you have a great network around you, for that i am glad, keep talking to them get it out .I'm happy for you that you are feeling better atm. One thing that is commonly said among pnd groups and its kinda like a mantra...

today is a good day
or toady is a bad day
or today is cr*p!

we take one day at a time, cause some days will be worse/harder than others, some will be good some really bad, but it's just today.

we do this cause feeling like everything is negative or going wrong can be extremely overwhelming at times and it's harder to see the bigger picture when you have pnd. i wish you all the best, if you ever need to vent pm me.

Jessica - posted on 03/12/2009

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Hello Laura, at first when I had my daughter I was feeling lonely all the time and sad...I was crying for no reason at time, and couldnt get myself together, but now that she is 13 weeks old it has gone away...I think that it was gone since she was about 1 month old...I just think that I was dealing with the baby blues...did you try to talk to your doctor about it?

Viola - posted on 03/12/2009

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my daughter is 12 weeks and im going though the same thing i am bonding with her great but my emotions are gettin the best of me i have a 2 yr old as well so trying to do what you need to do around the house and the baby and giving my 2 yr old the attention she needs its very over whelming i see my doctor today i wasnt like this with my first either

Laura - posted on 03/12/2009

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Hi michelle, thanks for your advice its nice to hear it from somebody that fully understands, i feel i am gradually starting to improve day by day... i have to take my son to nursery everyday so that gives me the 'kick up the bum' to get out of bed and be motivated... the support i have is brilliant i see a mental health nurse every 2 weeks and a counsellor every week now, also my health visitor comes once a week and calls me in between... my partner has been fab aswell really patient with me... thanks again for sharing your experience with me makes me feel like im not alone xxx

Laura - posted on 03/12/2009

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Hi michelle, thanks for your advice its nice to hear it from somebody that fully understands, i feel i am gradually starting to improve day by day... i have to take my son to nursery everyday so that gives me the 'kick up the bum' to get out of bed and be motivated... the support i have is brilliant i see a mental health nurse every 2 weeks and a counsellor every week now, also my health visitor comes once a week and calls me in between... my partner has been fab aswell really patient with me... thanks again for sharing your experience with me makes me feel like im not alone xxx

Michelle - posted on 03/12/2009

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oh i forgot...remind yourself ALWAYS you are doing the best you can, and how you feel is ok, you don't have to be perfect. you are a good mum/partner/daughter/person. the house doesn't have to be spotless, so you didn't vaccum today?..the world wont end, it will be there tomorrow. Take time for you, you deserve it!

Michelle - posted on 03/12/2009

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Hi Laura, i had severe pnd with my first daughter who is now 7. i couldn't bond with her. I have a 14 wk old and monitored very closely this time. i have been lucky.

there is a lot more help available out there now 7 years on, there is less shame attached because more ppl talk about it, and the medical profession are more open to it. i could barely get out of bed only i had too cause i was a single mum then. i see you have spoken to your gp. well done it is the hardest step, i too was medicated and it saved my life. but dont rely totally on it it wont fix it just makes things clearer for you to see past the negative. i also joined pnd groups(in person and on line) this was my lifeline and it is so good to talk to ppl who REALLY understand, if you have a suportive partner and family and friends make sure they are well informed about it so that they have a little understanding about what is happening for you. but please be aware that they wont fully understand, simply because they aren't experiencing it, this can be very frustrating for everyone.

be proud of yourself that you have reached out, things will get better :-)

i hope this helps good luck xxxx

Laura - posted on 03/10/2009

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Hi Lulu, i have been in touch with my doctor and have been diagnosed with PND, i have started medication last week so hopefully my mood will lift in couple of weeks... it is very hard to try to manage everything and i get myself worked up if i cant cope... but i know i will gradually feel better though and start to enjoy my baby... thanks for your advice! 

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Hi Laura, I found it tough to bond with my 2nd baby as well. I think it was because I was dealing with a toddler and school at the same time. I just didn't have time to bond ...always in a hurry to get things done. Just try to take it easy and enjoy the baby. Get a baby sitter for your other child. Also, you should talk to your OB if you think you might have PPD. Best of luck!

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Hi Laura, I found it tough to bond with my 2nd baby as well. I think it was because I was dealing with a toddler and school at the same time. I just didn't have time to bond ...always in a hurry to get things done. Just try to take it easy and enjoy the baby. Get a baby sitter for your other child. Also, you should talk to your OB if you think you might have PPD. Best of luck!

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