Should I be worried that my 19month old doesn't say too many words just gibberish?

Megan - posted on 08/21/2010 ( 31 moms have responded )

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My son says a hanful of words that we can understand. he talks alot but just sounds. Should I be worried???

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Jennifer - posted on 08/26/2010

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I work with developmentally delayed children and the general rule of thumb is that they should have between 10-20 words by 20 months. That being said, all children develop at their own pace. If your child is babbling, saying the words he has purposefully and trying to indicate his wants and needs in other ways such as pointing/reaching while vocalizing I wouldn't worry too much. Signing also can be a great way in order to teach children to communicate and reduce frustration until they have verbal language.

Vicki - posted on 08/23/2010

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I find with my son, a lot of his "words" are practically indistinguishable to anyone other than me, and honestly, a lot of times I can only understand because a certain sound has been linked to a sign he has used. For instance, bird is "kiy." Figure that out.

Eventually the babble will become more clearly defined as actual language. And you must remember that is it just as frustrating for the toddler to be misunderstood, perhaps even moreso than it is for you trying to understand. You can encourage language through reading, rhyming, pointing to pictures and real life objects, for instance.

And even though it is very difficult to vocalize at this stage, our kids are absorbing and learning SO MUCH. They can learn a new word every minute!!

And the memory is there too. My son pointed out a squirrel to me one day after having seen one weeks beforehand!! He was saying "qua" and pointing, and honestly I had no clue, because he says car more like "ka" but still I asked if that's what he meant. He said, "no, qua! QUAA." And then I saw the squirrel. So amazing.

Shana - posted on 08/21/2010

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My son is 20 months old and only says about 10-15 words. I wouldn't be too worried, alot of children don't start talking till they are closer to 2. I just try to pronounce things to him and name everything i hand him or that he points to.

Rhianna - posted on 09/02/2010

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my 20 month old daughter has around 70 words but don't stress too much about talking yet. my oldest daughter didn't say much at all up til almost 3. my middle daughter had arount 10 words at 20 months. all children are different and they'll each learn at their own pace. perhaps reading with ur bub may help. that's really the only thing i've done differently this time around is that i read more to my baby and the words just keep flowing from her. good luck.

Cindy - posted on 08/26/2010

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I am a teacher, I do know if your child is pointing to objects it is a fantastic sign. You can ask more questions like what do you want? and wait for answers. Do you want juice or milk and really bring the milk and juice out for him to see. I also play with my daughter and sit on the floor and say bear is hungry and I pretend to feed bear a cracker. Bear is so tired and we put blankets on him. See if this makes a difference.

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Amanda - posted on 09/04/2010

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Our 20-month old is the same. She says a few comprehensible words but talks all the time. Sometimes she looks at us, "talks" and seems to wait for a response.

Angela - posted on 09/03/2010

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I wouldnt worry at all! My daughter turned 20 months a few days ago, and she talks a storm.. but her own language! Mama and " I da ba" are among things she says daily! I was worried for a bit, but she understands everything Im saying, shes using the potty, Kids just grow at their own pace.

Jenna - posted on 08/31/2010

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My 20 month old son knows a little over 30 words, and can fit a few of them together in a sentence eg "Whats this?" "What's That?" "Where's/Where'd it go?" but doesn't 'speak' as such otherwhise.
He does babble HEAPS, and tries sooo hard to get us to understand what he's saying and then gets so frustrated when we don't understand.
He saw our maternal and child health nurse on Monday and she is concerned that he isn't speaking many words or putting many sentences together and thinks it might be related to his hearing, even though I am not worried one single bit, as his hearing seems to be perfect, he has never had an ear infection and he is trying soo soo hard to speak properly.
Also, my both of my brothers (One is 21, the other is almost 4) didn't start putting sentences together until they were around 2 and a 1/2, and both of them have above average IQ's.
My son is showing many of the same signs of having a high IQ as both of his uncles, and gets bored very easily and needs lots of stimulation.
My advice would be not to worry, and let your child develop at his/her own pace. Every child is different and will develop at a different rate from another child who shares his/her birthdate.
Try not to stress too much, as your child can pick up on your stress and this can make it harder for him/her.
HTH's

Julia - posted on 08/30/2010

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My son is 20 months and doesn't say ANY words, he just babbles on, and he "chats" on the phone with Nana, and tells stories like you wouldn't believe, and asks questions, it's so funny to think that he doesn't say a single word I can understand! He does however have certain "words" that are really just sounds that don;t sound anything like the real word, but I try putting it into words for him. (After reading some comments, I realize that maybe he doesn't form them because he doesn't always look at me, but at the thing, and he doesn't know how to move his mouth) Anyways, I wanted to post this so anyone who is really nervous about their child not saying anything "real" might not feel so alone. I am almost certain that he will get it eventually, and is learning every day.

Christina - posted on 08/30/2010

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My son is 21 months old (nearly) and says "Bubble", "Quack", "pop" and "yay"... not very often though. I'm not worried - he communicates pretty effectively without words.

In perspective, his Daddy was 24 months when he started talking. He is very articulate and intelligent (i would say that!!). I was nearly 3 and a half before I said a single word. I seem to have suffered no ill effects.

I would say no, don't be worried, just enjoy the cuteness of your son's own language!

Jessica - posted on 08/30/2010

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My son is 20 mths old and talks a lot!! He doesn't quite use sentences yet, but he does let me know if he needs something, he will bring his sippy to me and say, "more." Or if I ask him a question he does understand & answer, for instance, "Are you ok?" And he'll say, "yes". Simple things. He doesn't pronounce everything perfectly, but he does talk to where I can understand him. To me, it seems like it happened over night...And now everyday he is saying something new, & he repeats a lot of the things I say to him. With that said he does have 2 older siblings, & I talked to him all the time from the day he was born. Even if it was just me & him. He also loves books, so the reading helps as well. Many things play a big factor into the child's vocab. I've seen a lot of the other posts, saying their children are the same way as yours, & I'm just pointing out that every child is different. Some pick it up real quick, while others get it when they are ready!!! I wouldn't worry one bit about your lil man!! Before you know he'll be talking up storm, but not before he's ready. As I've learned real quick, they have their own lil agenda!! So just keep doing, what you're doing & enjoy!!

Maria - posted on 08/29/2010

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According to a book "What to Expect - The toddler years" By 21 and a half months a toddler should be able to use at least 6 words.
It sounds like he can probably do that already so I wouldn't worry! Most kids have a language explosion where they go from a handful of words to talking a lot.
By 27 months they should be using 50+ words.
As far as the babbling goes, it's normal!

Jenn - posted on 08/29/2010

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my son only clearly says hi, bye, ma, da, & ba. everything else that comes out of his mouth is completely babble. my doctor has us watching but says not to worry. he is otherwise motivated and intelligent. just not vocal.

Cinda - posted on 08/27/2010

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I wouldn't worry too much. He MIGHT say more words than you think. I actually wrote down a LIST of the words my son could say at 1 point b/c I didn't think he could say much either. I surprised myself when I really put some thought into it. Also, the HIM the word maybe perfectly clear when he's asking for 'cracker' but we hear 'ak' or something non-sensicle.
I have a niece that didn't really start talking much until age 3 YEARS. It seemed like it was just over night that she went from not talking much (pointing & grunting to get what she wanted) to a non-stop CHATTER BOX.
Just give him some time. Clearly say what things are (several times) when you give them to him, if you aren't already.
Rumor has it that Einstein didn't learn to tie his shoes until he was much older than most kids are when they learn.
Each child develops different skills at different ages.

Kaarlah - posted on 08/27/2010

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My 18 mnth son has quite an extensive vocab as we do not use "baby talk", and his pronunciation is very good - very clear. My other son who is now 10 and has been diagnosed as having ADD, has a speech impediment - has he also had grommet 3 times, and it is believed that it is because of this that his speech has been affected. My advise is that if something is nagging you, or you have a feeling, rather have it checked out. But also, as everyone else has said, children develop at their own pace.

Danielle - posted on 08/26/2010

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Absolutely not, you should not be worried. Each child develops at their own pace, and all the talking or worrying in the world won't change that. Boys are also a lot less in a hurry to talk. I have 2 boys and a girl, and neither one of my boys were quick to talk. My middle one is 2 and a half, and he still talks a lot of jibberish and we have been told he is age appropriate. My daughter however, who is 18 months, talks almost as good as my 4 year old. He'll talk when he's ready. just be patient, and talk to him like he's a grown man. I know that sounds weird, but when he babbles at you pretend you know exactly what he's saying, and talk back. It will help alot, and he'll learn to respond more. Hope that helps.

Rosa - posted on 08/26/2010

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I dont follow or belive in rules of thumbs. There is no benchmark for a baby. But I can tell that my baby is so intelligient bcause she is aware of everything, sometimes i think she has a mind of a 3 year old. But she is only 20 months, she says a lot only in a language she can understand.

Rosa - posted on 08/25/2010

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He will speak at his own time. If you start listening to evryone and their babies u will go insane. Especially doctors who will tell u which is the appropriate age. All kids r diferent, but the point is they will eventually talk and know how to potty.



So take it as it comes, all you can do is encourage.

Faye - posted on 08/25/2010

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each child develops differently. I have 1 child who talks a lot at 20 months, but his older brother did not & needed speech therapy. What they recommended at this age is to start teaching signs while saying the words, to repeat words (pushing a car say "go, go, go"), and hold items near your mouth while talking to him, so he looks at how your mouth is forming them. My doctors told me that at 2 yrs old 50 % of what they say should be understood by others. Also in some states it is easier to get early intervention help the earlier you start due to funding cut backs. If you have any concerns I would talk to your pediatrician. My son who needed speech therapy is 3 1/2 & is now, on track for his age, but still needs help making his mouth form the words, speech therapy / early intervention really helped him.

Stephanie - posted on 08/25/2010

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My nephew and cousin both just turned 2 and are both still barely saying anything. As long as your child is communicating and obviously watching and taking things in, I wouldn't worry. My daughter is 20 months as well, and likes to say a word once, and then won't say it again! (as my mom says. she's not a trained monkey lol) But she communicates with us and lets us know what she's thinking, and i know that she's start talking soon and we won't be able to shut her up! ;)
Good luck!

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The rule of thumb on when to be worried is if he shows signs of understanding you. My dr says many boys, especially 2nd children, don't really try to talk until between 20-21 months and often catch up at 2 or 3. However, he should be able to understand some commands and point to something simple when asked like his head or a picture of a cookie in a book. If he cannot do these things he needs to be evaluated by a doctor (not a speech therapist) for hearing problems and/or autism (austistic children often have other signs that you could google).

Kaysie - posted on 08/25/2010

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If you have talked to your child's pediatrician and they don't think it's a problem I wouldn't be worried about it more kids are more advanced and some just take a little more time that's all. :)

Karina - posted on 08/25/2010

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My 20 mnth old also only says a handful of words, but spending time with his 3yr old sister has helped alot, he has now started putting 2 words together but still has a long way to go! Kids should be given their own time to develop different things ..... why the hurry? Just keep talking to them and pointing things out to them .... they will eventually get it, thats what worked for my 3yr old and now she talks our ears off!! LOL!!!
And Angela Cruse ... your Dr is definately crazy!!! and you should seriously find a new one!!!

Dorene - posted on 08/24/2010

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For Angela Cruse : I know you don't know me and it's none of my business, but i think you should find another Dr. this one sounds crazy

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My 19 mo old as well just says a few words very clear but is babbling all the time and a lot of it is reptitious,but my Dr. tried to tell me when he was 18 mos he should be say at least 30 words and putting 2 words together. She gave me 3 weeks to right all his words down even if they where only said once and if he hadn't said 30 words she wanted to put him in speech therapy. I disagreed with this and from what I was hearing from other parents and after reading the post here I feel as though my son is on schedule. He totally understands everything that is said or asked of him.
I am not to sure my son's Dr. is going to work out even though she is the only Dr he has seen, but only for his check ups. Other than that he has been fortunate and hasn't had to go to her for anything else. Anyway at his last check up when she told me about his talking she also said " if you want a baby have another but when he turned 1 he was no longer a baby", and "it is time to stop treating him like a baby and treat him like an adult" Can you believe that? He is a baby maybe not an infant but def, not and adult. They are made to grow up to fast already don't you agree? Anyway I feel better after reading all of your post and good luck and best wishes with your child. :)

Dorene - posted on 08/24/2010

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my daughter is 20 months old and says few words and starting to say more. Just be repetitive and talk to your child always. eventually your child will talk before you know it.

Kristen - posted on 08/24/2010

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Nope, because if you worried than I should! lol It all comes together for kids differently. my daughter was saying ALOT more at this age than what my son is doing. He too only says a clear handful, otherwise its any guess as to what he is saying! I would think after 3 is the time to "worry"

Sarah - posted on 08/24/2010

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Yep same with my 20 month old. She does say a lot of words but doesn't seem to be picking up the pronouciation as well as the other kids she plays with. I do worry that she's a little behind but from reading your posts and replies, it seems like she may be right on track! thanks!

Jennifer - posted on 08/23/2010

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My daughter says only very few words too. no need to worry they all develop at their own pace

Marjorie - posted on 08/21/2010

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My son is 20 months old. He also appears to be struggling with not saying as much words. I was advised to keep reading with him in order to familiarize him with words and speaking. I also started showing him "Your Baby Can Read" DVD series. I hear that he will eventually begin speaking just before he turns 2 years old (which is average). At that point, he'll start to have conversations and know words at a faster pace.

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