26 yrs, working, unmarried & pregnant

Ditlhare - posted on 09/15/2010

Thank you everyone for the support, i finally did the right thing and i was very suprised to see their reactions, they've just accepted and now my mom cant wait for the little one to arive and i also have finally made peace with the fact that im going to be a mom. Thank you very much and God bless you all

Amanda - posted on 09/05/2010

i know what your going through. i was 22 when i got pregnant with my son. im 24 now. and my son is almost 2. i was unmarried and my parents still saw me as their LITTLE GIRL. the one who never disappoint them. always did everything right. i was sick for about a month straight. i finally went to the doctor to see what was wrong with me. and my mom took me because i was really sick, and the doctor ran some tests. the nurse told me what was wrong that i was pregnant. i couldnt beleive it. because i didnt think something like that would happen to me. you know because idk i guess i was one of those people that thought that way. silly but i did. and then the doctor rudly came in and told me again. that i was pregnant when my mother as sitting right there. when im over the age of 18 they arent suppose to do that. but in a way i was releived because that was done. i didnt need to tell her. then all she was tell me what i needed to do because like i said she saw me as her little girl so thats what she does tell me things. but anyways

things will get better im a daughter of a pastor and a strict chirstian mother. if i can get through i believe that you can to. i dont know your parents but i think your parents will be supportive of you and love you no matter what. and see that you are after all 26 and having a baby. that ITS OKKK. and if your babys father ISNT like my babys father maybe he'll have the respect to go with you. and be there for you to tell your parents with you

Sharon - posted on 08/13/2010

Dear 26 yo, working, unmarried and pregnant, You are still a truly good girl. Your parents may be a little hurt, but they will understand and support you. You are a 26 yo young lady who has a job. You are capable of handling anything. I'm sure they will always love you no matter what. As a mother of a 28 yo female child I would rather here it from her and I definitely would be there by her side and support her. Just sit your parents down and tell them about your pregnancy. I don't know your family situation but I know if they loved you before they will love you now. Just tell them.

Geneva - posted on 08/08/2010

Take some advice from a mom on the other end of a statement like that. I have two great daughters never did much of anything to dissappoint us either. They both greaduated top of the class,(val & sal.) we thought they were going places. Surprise they made some hugh mistakes. My oldest got pregnant her senior year. She "didn't" tell us. We found out when she went in for a physical for school. Believe me that was the worst way to find out we were going to be grandparents. Our grandson is now almost 8 and there is no way I would ever change the fact that he is here. Long story short. I have 4 grandchildren that were not "planned". My second daughter leanred from her older sister that not telling the parents was a big mistake. Just sitting down and telling us what happend, what their plans for the child were was much better. It showed me that even though some mistakes happend, they were adult enough to deal with what happend to them. Sadly enough 2 of my grandchildren were the result of the exact same faulty birth control pill. BUT I wouldn't change the fact I have all of them in my life now. Being a grandparent is one of the best things you can imagine. Trust in your heart that your parents know they raised you right and that you are adult enough to handle what ever God has given you. I am sure they love you enough to know you will make a good mom too. Good luck with the new blessed addition.

Amanda - posted on 08/06/2010

I was the same way with my mom, I was more scared that when she found out I was pregnant that she knew I was having unprotected sex. I was so scared and I cried and finally told her and she was ok with it (she is a little crazy though). She said she doesn't care how babies come into the world, she will love it no matter what. One thing though, my boyfriend and I did get married 3 months later and have been married for 6 years now. Just tell them and let them know you do not want this to change the way they see you and your relationship. That you need their support and love. Let me know how it goes.

Angelita - posted on 07/30/2010

26 yrs wow. that is great, your not under 18, you are old enough and believe me even if they don't understand, but I know they will, your baby is going to make you the happiest woman in the world and no husband or parent can replace that feeling. Take it from me, I have lived my life. I am 40 and just had my first baby and still not married. I am engaged to my babies daddy, but have been for over a year.

Schyla - posted on 07/30/2010

I am not in quite the same place It was very hard for my husband to tell his family with our first (she's almost 5 now) They (his parents and ALL four older sisters) were not happy at all (we where married and working had our own place and in a good spot to have a baby although she was unplanned) I'd been sick for almost three weeks and his mother finally made me go see a doctor (she's had three transplants and we'd been avoiding going over for visits) well turns out I wasn't sick it was hard for them to swallow but once she made her grand entrance they were all so completely head over heals in love with this child they seemed to forget why they'd protested so loudly in the first place. (There are now 9 other grandchildren ALL under 5) It was equally hard when we got pregnant two years later but with this one we simple said Twas the week before Christmas 2010 Joe and Schyla are pregnant again! haha (we're due the week of Christmas with our first little boy and couldn't be more thrilled and even his sister's hints that we shouldn't be having another baby don't bother me anymore (the last time she made such a comment she ended up unexpectedly having twins! and she didn't want children and now has THREE! I point this out every time she makes her snobby little comments) Ok so my point is they may be disappointed in your situation and they be even be upset with you but YOU being thrilled and ok with it will make things easier for them so ok it's not ideal and it's not what they pictured for you but once that little angel is here they will be enamored beyond belief so take a deep breath and dive right in! Congratulations Mommy!!!

Ditlhare - posted on 07/29/2010

Thank you Melanie! its really hard at the moment but deep inside i know it will get easier with time, just need to take one step at a time. I'll have to find a way to tell them, before is too late. Thank you once more for the reply

Melanie - posted on 07/28/2010

I was the same with my parents. I didn't want them to be disappointed in me. But no matter what stupid things I did, they were still supportive. I just wasn't giving them enough credit. But you are also 26! If they don't think you can handle it etc. than that's crazy. Its scary but Its got to come out somehow. And better from you than someone else right? Just be strong and tell them. They are your parents and they have a right to know. Hope all goes well!