im havig trouble&gettn quite impatient w/this potty traing thing...my lil boy will be 4 in October..i need help.

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Marciela - posted on 07/07/2009

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My son, is 4 and he was very easy to potty train. He was 2 when potty trained. As soon as he knew the concept of wee wee and pooh and were it went we started. We began with letting him try not very persistent basiclly getting him familiar with the toilet and what it's purpose is, after he knew and went a couple of times in the toilet step 2 came in play. I took 2 weeks solid from work stayed home with him and all we did was potty train. If he had an accident it was time out. This worked great and he has been potty trained ever since. Reminder,you do have to stay home the whole time. I hope this works if you try it, it really is wonderful when they start going on their own.

Marty - posted on 07/03/2009

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One of the doctors I work with told me about a book they used to potty train their 4 children (all under 5 years of age...) It is called something like "How to Potty Train Your Child in 24 Hours". You need to have a doll that wets and a potty chair. You start in the morning by feeding your own child salty snacks and lots of liquids... Then you give the doll a drink and tell your child that the doll has to go to the bathroom. You made a big deal out of the doll using the potty. Then, when you think it's time for your child to need to use the potty, you ask, 'Do you need to go to the potty like the dolly?". That's a very simplistic version--but he swears that they potty trained their kids like this. He said it is very time consuming because you have to keep at it over the course of the day, but that it works.!

Jennifer - posted on 06/13/2009

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i had the same problem with my oldest he was 2 months away from being two. i pushed him to get him trained. then one day i said thats it..and took the pull ups and diapers away and only gave him underwear. it worked! Take him to the store and let him pick out super hero underwear or what ever kind he likes. he'll get there good luck!!

Jess - posted on 06/13/2009

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My son was nearly 4 before he was trained. I tried everything - rewards, incentives, etc. and nothing worked. One morning, my husband and I woke up to the sound of our son peeing in the toilet. We were amazed!!! After that, it was pretty much smooth sailing. When they are ready, they are ready!

One thing that helped with our other children was a the Bear in the Big Blue House Potty Video. In the story, Tutter (the little mouse) has to stop playing to use the bathroom. He doesn't want to stop, but Bear tells him he better go. It helped our kids see that you have to stop playing, and that it is ok to stop playing, when your body tells you it's time to go. It's a really good video on the subject!

Tammee - posted on 06/11/2009

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another thing to try is to give him a timer and try to encourage him to go before the timer goes off to beat mummy coming in to tell him if he does this reward him big time with praise or something else he loves to do.

Tammee - posted on 06/11/2009

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Perhaps you could try toilet timing him putting him on the potty or toilet on the hour every hour it may take a few weeks or longer but he should soon get the idea or you could make notes of roughly how long after a drink that he wees

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I was very frustrated when we were potty training our son. The thing that finally worked with him was going outside. We live in the country and when summer hit he was constantly peeing off the porch onto my flowers that I had planted. I would tell everyone that I have the prettiest flowers around, but if I was them I wouldn't smell them. :)

Michelle - posted on 05/23/2009

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Make it a game. Get some cheerios and tell him to sink the cheerios. Cheerios don't sink. My pediatrician told me about this game. It helped my son.

Jennie - posted on 05/23/2009

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Jessica,



My son will be 4 in June and he still has #2 accidents. He's got the #1 thing down, like no other. Thank goodness. But he has been having poop accidents for 2 years! I've been doing the treats prize, toys for prizes and he's gotten to the same place as your son where he wants one everytime. I'm not sure if there is anything that we can do, accept just know that one day (which won't come soon enough for us) they will both get it and go on their own. Oh, and if your son is in school, he should see other boys going potty standing up, that always helps to see your peers doing something. But obviously it hasn't worked for my guy and going poop on the potty...

Best of luck.

Andrea - posted on 05/22/2009

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HI I had trouble with my then 3 year old... big problems and I listen to all the negative comment and there are plenty... My little one had Giardia.... he was unable to control himself... He is better now but worth getting him checked.... his stools where a clay colour and smelt bad...really bad... Cheers dont listern to the negative..

Jessica - posted on 05/19/2009

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Thanx Jen....now I feel bad .nothing against your comment or nothing..its just when he pottys in his clothes,well ive been taking toys away...now i really feel like the bad guy in this situation.but Thanx for Ur advice,I'll def pay more attention to those factors....Love Lots Jess

Jessica - posted on 05/19/2009

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Thanx Tanya!! That is very helpful...The exciting thing is....he doing ok with it now..were now able to put BigMan pants on during the day & a Diaper @night.....we havent started letting him wear"BigPants"on long trips yet,bc were not sure if he can hold for that long....That Im sure will take time.....We normally bring him every 20-30min..we did this for 2wks & it worked.but now he's not wanting to...He's being what most would call Lazy...& Hardheaded...but maybe im putting to much pressure on him.,,sometimes i feel like im failure as a potty training parent,but i just keep going..but it is now going well,he's startrted to tell us when he has to go & he goes on his own...but maybe its to soon for us to want the absolute..Yeah prizes have worked but he's smart about it...were tryn to get him in a place where he doesnt have to have the prize in order to go...but its hard..bc thats the only way he'll go...but like i said i'll def try the timer thing,bc that sounds legit to me..oh & how did u get ur husband to get comfy w/the idea?..Thanx again for all ur help!! Love Lots Jess

Jennifer - posted on 05/19/2009

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Quoting Tayna:

Our pediatrician told us to put the responibility on something else. Like a timer or a potty watch, there is something about mom and dad always saying, "Do you need to go potty?" that puts up a childs defenses. Also they train faster when it's their idea (less pressure). So I just set the oven timer for 1 hour and when it beeped we went to the bathroom. Then we went every 90 mins, Eventually our little guy just figured it out and started going when he felt he needed to. Also as embarasing as it was for my husband he let our little guy follow him in to the bathroom and watch him pee standing up. He was obsessed for a while, then he quit following him in. When we started potty training after two days of sitting, he decided he wanted to stand like dad (monkey see, monkey do). Rewards worked great for our little guy, we did a pez dispenser and would refill it for him when he would go potty (and actually go pee or poop). Also make accidents an absolute NON issue. We said "oops accidents happen sometimes, next time we'll try to get it in the potty", then the very next time he made it to the potty we made a huge deal about it. (it was hard the day he had three accidents, you get tired of changing their pants) but it helps them feel relaxed and secure. After all accidents do happen and it's not the end of the world like they might think. I was getting really impatient with our little guy too, but once I let the timer be the one to send him to the potty it was smooth sailin for us.



 



I agree totally with Tanya's statements.  Make accidents a NON-Issue..  We did the same thing, we've never scolded him or told him he was bad or anything.  They happen, it's part of toilet training!   Also, my son is to small to wee standing up, and gets agitated when he wants to try, as he can't... so he sits.  You have to watch and see what sets the kid off, what motivates him, and what worries him.  Try to factor those things into his training, and let him guide the experience. 





 

Jennifer - posted on 05/19/2009

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You need to find something that WORKS for your kid. With my daughter it was stickers and a chart, with my son, it was chocolate. M&M's saved us... one for each wee, two for each poo. Of course, now I have to get him off the chocolate, but at least we're not in diapers any more! Each kid has something that they would do ANYTHING for... you have to find the right motivator...

Allison - posted on 05/19/2009

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One thing I found differed between my 2 DS's, one used the potty, the 2nd did not want anything to do with it. So maybe try the toilet itself, or a potty, if you have been trying the toilet.
Reward charts, or small food treats can work (sultanas helped with DS1)
& most of all, Good Luck!

Tayna - posted on 05/19/2009

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Our pediatrician told us to put the responibility on something else. Like a timer or a potty watch, there is something about mom and dad always saying, "Do you need to go potty?" that puts up a childs defenses. Also they train faster when it's their idea (less pressure). So I just set the oven timer for 1 hour and when it beeped we went to the bathroom. Then we went every 90 mins, Eventually our little guy just figured it out and started going when he felt he needed to. Also as embarasing as it was for my husband he let our little guy follow him in to the bathroom and watch him pee standing up. He was obsessed for a while, then he quit following him in. When we started potty training after two days of sitting, he decided he wanted to stand like dad (monkey see, monkey do). Rewards worked great for our little guy, we did a pez dispenser and would refill it for him when he would go potty (and actually go pee or poop). Also make accidents an absolute NON issue. We said "oops accidents happen sometimes, next time we'll try to get it in the potty", then the very next time he made it to the potty we made a huge deal about it. (it was hard the day he had three accidents, you get tired of changing their pants) but it helps them feel relaxed and secure. After all accidents do happen and it's not the end of the world like they might think. I was getting really impatient with our little guy too, but once I let the timer be the one to send him to the potty it was smooth sailin for us.

Jessica - posted on 05/14/2009

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Thanx Ladies!! he's doin pretty good at it,its just not where we want him to be at his age...he doesnt like to stand..lol..so he sits,& reads a book or I read the book to him...but its like he understands only when i say so..bc i take him every 20-30minutes..we want him to beable to go on his own w/out us telling him so...i will def try the stickers & frootloops thing...we do give prizes but only when he goes...Thanx for all yall help...Jess

Sharah - posted on 05/14/2009

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I lucked out, my boys were easy. I did use cheerios or fruit loops. I put like 3 or 4 in the toilet and had them "sink" the ships...worked for them...

Lyn - posted on 05/14/2009

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Before anything, if your toddler is in a very secure setting and no nervouseness around him, then I would ask the doctor to firstly do a kidney test. If for no medical reason, he is not training, do a chart with your child. I used to use bright coloured stickers. On a very large fridge chart. Everytime we had success, he was allowed to pick a sticker and stick it to his chart, and if he had an accident, we ignored it completely. Never make the child feel naughty, dirty or ashamed. At the end of the week, count up the stickers and reward him with maybe 5 cents a sticker, for shopping day or 10 cents or a special treat. something like that. Sticker charts work magic for anything you are needing from your child, until about 6 years old.

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