How to keep the older one feeling included & excited as well as secure & loved.

Shannintipton - posted on 12/20/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )





My partner and I have recently found out that we are expecting a happy surprise!!! After a life-time of health problems and other issues; we have been blessed with a miracle bean/pregnancy!!!!

We had pretty much given up on the possibility of a child. So now we will have a 16 year old (my step-son) and a new baby (my 1st biological). Since sharing this news with the brother –to-be, things have been very tense and he seems extra moody.

In addition this is of course a “high-risk” pregnancy, which brings with it a whole new kind of stress and emotional roll a coaster.

So how do we proceed in order to keep the older one feeling included and excited as well as secure and loved?

Thanks for all feedback,


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Lise - posted on 12/20/2011




It's probably just the age - most 16 year olds don't want to think that their parents still have sex! My husband, though, is 16 years older than his youngest brother and they are very close. Just give him time, make sure he can ask any questions he has, etc.

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