One Year Old Tantrums?

Michelle - posted on 08/27/2011 ( 27 moms have responded )

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My son just turned one year old on august 14 and has suddenly started to throw rediculous tantrums all the time! I dont know what to do! Everytime I leave the room, or do somthing that is not completely focused on him he screams bloody murder! Its awful he kicks screams and crys for a good 15 min. Even somthing as simple as me putting away an object that he shouldnt have or not reading the book fast or slow enough throws him. Is anyone else having these problems with their one year old? What is the right way to deal with this?

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Emma - posted on 10/10/2013

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I am having the same problems - as i type - my daughter just turned 1 and she decides to throw herself on the floor, often hitting her head on the floor deliberately.. i never had this problem with my 3 year old. I cant pin point what she is so cranky about, it just happens all the time. it happen alot when i take something unsafe off her - i try to explain but she is obviously not interested. I have taken to ignoring the behaviour. Unfortunately it doesnt just last 2 minutes, she can be rolling around on the floor for sometimes 15 minutes. i just dont know what to do sometimes. Time out makes her so much worse...

Brandy - posted on 02/25/2013

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I'm also extremely relieved to find I'm not the only mom who experienced this. My son has always been so easy going and quiet and happy. Seems as soon as he turned one the tantrums began. I'm still not 100% sure if its due to teething pain or straight up tantrum. It's so hard to know the right thing to do. When nothing else seems to work such as distraction, cartoons, singing, ignoring then I feel it's pain from teething since he only has two teeth and I then give a dose of Tylenol. Good luck to all you mommies out there. ♥

Summer - posted on 10/26/2012

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My son turned 1 August 30th. He has been throwing fits since then. He is throwing one right now because he is in the pack and play and I am not paying him any attention. I have two other children and I can't let him roam around the house while I am taking care of his siblings. He mainly just wants to be free. He doesn't care if I put him down so long as its on the floor where he can be adventurous, but I can't (and won't) always do that. The screaming is pulling on my nerves so bad that I get migraines from the sound of it. Sometimes just a little help from a friend or family member would be nice, but I don't have anyone. I just need a break...a day out and about...alone :/

Julie - posted on 08/27/2011

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Every child goes through this phase where they have to learn it's not always about them. My daughter is starting to throw fits. I mostly ignore her, and she'll calm down after a few minutes. If she gets kind of out of control, I just give her a firm "no more." Just be very consistent, and don't ever give in because he throws a tantrum. He wants your attention, so the best discipline is not to give it to him. Walk into the other room if you need to, you can put him in a playpen and leave him to himself to calm down where he is safe. Also, work with him on being able to communicate his wants, that will help decrease his frustration. Use simple words for common things and encourage him to repeat it, or try some simple sign language.

Shannon - posted on 09/01/2011

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My son who has always been extremely easy going and such a good baby has learned the same. I believe that he has learned that there are things he likes and dislikes and wants and doesn't want now and although he can't speak has learned to communicate. So in a way I see it as a good thing. Of course in the moment it doesn't feel like a good thing though so I try not to be very reactive to the negative behavior because if he gets a rise out of me he is getting attention for a negative behavior and attention wheter negative or positive is still attention. So I try to stay calm or distract him to something else. I am hoping that as he gets older and better able to communicate he will learn to use words to express himself. Until then we just do what we can and hang in there. :)

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Danielle - posted on 08/22/2014

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Hello! I am a nanny for a little gal who just turned one this week. Suddenly the tantrums are exploding!
I am new to their family. Their old nanny who was with them for quite some time had to move on to do other things. So I am a new person taking care of her. She warmed up to me very quickly, we laugh, giggle, play, make silly noises and do fun stuff all day. But suddenly, at the turn of 11 months to one year old, she started throwing these screaming tantrums. She falls on the floor, rolls around, crying the whole time. Sometimes she is so forceful with her little self that she hits her head on things because she is having such a big fit.
I have a ton of patience while I worked in childcare for 5 years and have had to deal with multiple tantrums from multiple children of all ages. However with a one year old, it's different because it's hard to know if I am doing the right thing.
Right now I let her cry and throw her fit and I try to not acknowledge that it's happening. If it continues I try to read a book or get her attention with something else. Usually that turns into her throwing whatever we try to do, usually throwing it at or near me.
The last resort is to take her up to her room, put her in her crib with a sippy cup of water, and leave. I generally will sit at the bottom of the stairs and see if she stops. She usually calms down and plays by herself for a while in her crib. Is this just reinforcing the behavior? She seems to like her crib and I don't want her to associate throwing a fit with getting to play in her crib.

Not sure what else to do....

Any suggestions?

Thanks!

-D

Jennifer - posted on 04/15/2014

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OOOOOOhhh... Thank you ladies! He screamed for quite awhile and just now fell asleep. My son is 14 months and the tantrums have been happening since about 9 or 10. Dad and I are separated but he is with baby often. I will let him know that ignoring the fit is what works, even though he says "Baby never does that at my house".

Robert - posted on 11/07/2013

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Does anyone know why they are throwing these tantrums. My little man just turned 1 year, and it has just increased. I for the most part give it no attention and at most will sternly ask him to stop. Sometimes he calms down but most times not at all. Distraction doesn't work at all and if you try to cuddle him it just increases the intensity. I am just wondering is this his way of asserting himself as an individual or has something disturbed him without me knowing? I just wish I knew what was going on in his head so I can try to make it better. Anyone have any ideas?

Melissa - posted on 09/13/2013

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Yup! My Grandson is doing the same thing and plus some. It is really scary, it started with diaper changes then went onto anything and everything. From what I have read from the previous post, his tantrums are somewhat normal to everyone else. He screams, throws stuff around, push's, pinch's ect. The stuff that worries me though is the exorcist moves he has going on. His mom went in to check on him and turned the light on and was actually scared at what she saw. He dug his head in and his feet and arched his back higher than anything she thought was possible, while doing this crying/growling thing that was making him choke and cough. She yelled for me to come in and sure enough, he was spazzing out all over that crib. Got him out of the crib and it got worse, if I thought it was a normal fit I would have just let him finish it but I was concerned. Anyone else have this kind of tantrums? I brought him out into a different room to walk him and try and calm him with soothing sounds and it got REALLY bad. He eventually calmed, but I never had nothing like that with my own two children at any age. Any helpful ideas? Similar situations? Because I am at a loss as far as helpful advice for his young mommy with that behavior. Especially with the diaper changes, mine just never did that. So any help would be appreciated, thanks.

Ashley - posted on 09/05/2013

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My son will be 16 months on the 15th and he is throwing temper tantrums over EVERYTHING. It makes me feel so awful, like I am doing something wrong. He cries before all of his naps too, which used to be a peaceful time for both of us. He throws his bottle at the wall and then chucks his blanket out of the crib and then screams until someone comes in to give it back to him (happening as I type this!) I've tried ignoring him, distracting him, everything... nada. I can't even change his diaper without him screaming like I'm trying to murder him or something!! I thought the first year was hard, but I'd give anything to go back to sleepless nights but having a little baby that just wanted to be fed and changed and cuddled.

Jenny - posted on 03/30/2013

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Omg! Im having the same problem my babynis 11 months and my husband and me dont know what to do .... Sometimes i want to cry with her LOL ....

Alisha - posted on 09/25/2012

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what do you do when a one year old throw tantrum, you ignore him, you let him throw his fits, i tried all those tecnics but still he cries for hours straight. so what do i do??? do think its some kind of mental issues or what??? please help

Anjail - posted on 09/13/2011

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dont pay him any attention. My sister's son use to do the same thing and my mom told her when he started to act up get away from him and dont pay him any mind. after a couple of tantrums he realized that was not going to get him attention he stopped. I was suprised.

Heather - posted on 09/13/2011

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It's the toddler 'tudes! My son started around 11months old with the freakish tantrums out of nowhere. I learned to ignore it and I won't pick him up or give him my attention until he calms down. Sounds mean but it works and also saved my sanity. Whoever said you get used to it was lying. You won't, you never will, and no matter how long you go through it, it'll still be the same deafening decible. LOL!

Ginger - posted on 09/08/2011

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my son is a little over 11 months and he's been doing that for a couple weeks now. Distraction is the best way to end the tantrums, but sometimes its impossible to find something that really distracts him well enough. Sometimes I just set him on the floor and after a few minutes he finds something on his own to distract him. Other times I have to hold him for a while and just cuddle him. Its always a guessing game.. but one of those usually works

Hayley - posted on 09/08/2011

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every child does this, my daughter and son did the same, i have 4 kids, my eldest 8yrs and youngest 14 months, she is throwing tantrums all the time,when i put her down,leave her in room for 2 mins, put her in shopping trolley lol!! i just tell he to shhh!! or NO BE QUIET and leave her to it, she will learn in the end, stressful i know to hear them cry and does your head in at times lol! but shouting wont help, going to them every second wont help as they will learn that they will get your attention, when they cry/tantrum make sure their ok, tell them NO/SHHHH!! STOP IT. and leave them to it

Ashley - posted on 09/07/2011

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I would say whenever your child does this behavior you stop them and say "no, that's not nice!". You can try to distract your child with a toy or maybe something of yours that is safe for them to play with. My daughter loves my bracelet, I think in part because she knows it is mine and I don't usually let her have it. But I will not give it to her until she stops yelling and crying. That way it becomes a reward for her calm behavior. You can also always talk to your pediatrician about good ways to cope with this type of behavior. I always take the advice of her doctor and then use my maternal instincts for any situation with my daughter!

Deana - posted on 09/07/2011

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I had a babysitter with two girls that screech and yell really loud. My 13 month old has picked up on this and it is really annoying and embarrasing. How the heck do I stop this behavior? Do I treat it the same way I would a tantrum and just ignore it?

Ashley - posted on 09/07/2011

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Yes! My daughter is exactly the same way! If the tantrum is just a minute or two I just let her work it out and try to get her attention on something else. If she is persistent and nothing else will satisfy her I just sit with her, try to hold her, try to explain that this is not a toy or whatever my reason is for her not getting what she wants (even though she may not really understand!). If she is throwing herself around and I am worried that she'll hurt herself I put her in her crib and give her a minute to calm down. She usually only cries and yells for a minute and then it's over. You can try singing, reading, snacks, or anything that will take his mind off of it for the time being. I suggest this for a one-year-old because it's not like he really understands a tantrum is wrong, therefore you can't discipiline him! When he is old enough to understand you may have to find new methods of easing the tantrum or light discipline. Hope this helped!

Shirley - posted on 09/01/2011

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Yup! We are going thru the same thing with my one yr old daughter. I ignore er and let her cry it out. Glad I'm not the only mommy goin thru this. Good luck everyone :)

Renee - posted on 08/31/2011

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My daughter began her tantrums around 2 mos. She would scream, pound her fists, and even bit me and my older daughter a couple of times. I brought it up to her doctor because no one in our environment remotely acts like that. I was told to not be too concerned. There is no way to.discipline a 2 mo old. She just turned one yesterday and still throws a fit every now and then. I ignore it and try distraction tactics. When she is old enough to understand consequences of her actions, she will learn such behavior is not tolerated. So, don't worry, be strong, and maybe get some earplugs. :-)

Nikkie - posted on 08/31/2011

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My son just turned one yesterday, and he does the same thing....He has been for at least the last month. He just seems so touchy. I'm not really sure what is the RIGHT way to handle it,...I basically just let him cry it out, or I try to distract him with a toy or maybe a cartoon....Sorry I can't be of more help!!!

Alison - posted on 08/29/2011

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My son has just turned 1 and has been doing this for a good 2 months now...what I do that works quickly is don't give in and just distract him with another toy or his sippy cup or simply ignore him! If it's really bad I just lie my son in his crib until he calms down

Noelle - posted on 08/29/2011

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OH praise the Lord! My childs not the only terror! I thought they called it Terrible twos, not terrible 12 months! I generally just lay him on the carpeted area in our house, and let him scream it out. Thankfully he is a social butterfly and acts like an angel in public,because I would not know how to handle it in a restaurant or something. But at home I definately just let him cry it out, and keep my composure. I act like I am ignoring him even though I am watching him out of the corner of my eye, and then the minute he stops crying I attend to him.

Katie - posted on 08/28/2011

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We're having the same problem. Glad I'm not alone. I miss my little angel baby. :/

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