Andrea - posted on 03/07/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )
I have trawled the web with no results so thought I might put it to you ladies here and see if at least anyone is in the same boat...
DD is my second baby and I thought I'd seen it all, I'm prepared to get up in the night when she needs me and at the moment she will wake anywhere from once a night to 5 times a night (putting that down to teething). I have no issues with that. My problem stems with her flatly refusing to go back to sleep once she is awake!! So she will wake at 1am and I get up give her a feed (she is still mostly BF) and a cuddle, I play some soothing music on my phone (quietly) while we have a cuddle and pat her butt to help her go back to sleep... and more often than not recently I've ended up sitting there for 2 - 3 HOURS. She doesn't seem to want to play, she is quite content just to lay there and have her butt patted and have a cuddle but as for actually going to sleep NOPE! The room is kept dark (just a nightlight on which is v dim, just helps me to get my bearings) and cool but not cold, we have a blanket that gets drawn over the 2 of us while we snuggle to keep her warm and she wears a sleeping bag to bed so that even without blankets she stays warm. I just can't keep doing this 2 and 3 times a night! Sometimes there is only a 1/2 hour gap between when I put her down and her next waking which means I just start to really drift off and have to get up again!
We don't believe in cry it out as I tried it for a brief time with my son and it was horrible, not only that but she is a persistant little thing (had to travel in the car and with being just fed and changed before we left she cried for 2 hours at 4 months of age, so translate that to sleep time... I don't think CIO will work!), and like I said I have no problem with getting up to her, I just am hoping there is SOMETHING that I've missed which will help her to go back to sleep quicker.
She naps for 2 hours in the morning and then after I pick DS up from school she will generally go down again for another 1 1/2 hours in the afternoon but is ALWAYS up by 5 and bedtime is between 6:30 and 7 depending on how organised I am, by which time she is tired. She gets a good dinner, usually mashed sweet potatoe or pumpkin we are starting to branch out into other foods as well but nothing processed or coloured and I make all her food here (bulk lots that are frozen into cubes then thawed as needed).