Any other moms out there having a Christmas baby??

TeBeth - posted on 09/17/2011 ( 19 moms have responded )

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Okay, pardon my language....but I'm pissed that just because my due date is 12-25-2011 my family and friends think it's ok to rip off my child on her presents and birthday. WTH!? Just because every other person has a birthday during a different month they get their own birthday presents and get their own on christmas. Also, that they will only celebrate Christmas and not their birthday? Why can't we have a cake and a party for my child? Im beyond livid if you can't tell. No, instead we just have Christmas dinner and then open our presents. They get happy birthday and merry christmas on their gifts and that's it! No sorry. I guess I will be the only decent member in my family to throw my child a birthday party, buy birthday gifts (separate from their xmas), and then go out and buy them xmas gifts as well. Does any other mother out there feel the same way I do? Or going through the same thing as me? What did you tell them and what are you doing to fix their ignorance??

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Faye - posted on 10/03/2011

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My MIL had my BIL on Dec 23 and she felt the same way. She insisted on having a party for him each year. Granted it was a few days before BUT she insisted so we complied. I always kept a package of birthday paper in the Christmas paper box for his birthday. My daughter is due this year on Dec 29th so I am sure she will have the same issues with her in laws. Our side understands but his may not.

Desiree - posted on 09/27/2011

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my birthday is 5 days before xmas.. other then my parents i always got one present for both my birthday and xmas and as a child i HATED it!! i have a younger sister whos birthday is april and i didnt think it was fair at all that she got presents twice a year n i only got presents once a yr. i didnt really have birthday partys cuz everyones always to busy doin family holiday stuff and "cant make it". i never thought it was fair. to make me feel a lil better my mom used to give me one present on my sisters bday n it was the best thing she ever did for me. im due dec 12 and i pray every single day that this baby will come a week or 2 early. the farther from xmas the better i think!!!!

Sarah - posted on 09/22/2011

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I'm due on the 27th, so she could be born on Christmas. Everyone says "Aww, a Christmas baby!" like it's a good thing. I feel the same way you do. My poor child will get ripped off as far as presents go. I have a close family member whose birthday is the 31st and growing up she always felt ripped off because other relatives would get her joint christmas/birthday gifts. I guess if my daughter is born on Christmas I will tell her the same thing my Mother-in-law told my husband (his b-day is the 4th of july) "everyone is celebrating your birthday." And try to do as much as I can to make her feel special.

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Amber - posted on 11/01/2011

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i am due on christmas eve,,, and yea everyone thinks it is going to go togther.. but... i decided i would just celebrate his birthday earlier in the month and have them seperated.. so.. they have no choice but to seperate them as well :)

Faye - posted on 10/19/2011

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Just an idea. Have an unbirthday party in the spring or early summer. My son was born on Jan 30 so we don't have much of a problem but there have been years when we have had a party for him in April for the kids at school so they can play outside which they can not do the end of Jan.

Stefanie - posted on 10/19/2011

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Our second baby is due a week before christmas. I have no clue how we're going to handle this. My first was born a week before thanksgiving. So far we're doing good with that.

Amy - posted on 10/15/2011

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Hi, My son was born on Christmas eve of 08, I completely understand what u mean!! Its hard for them too as he is turning 3 this year and has been asking about his birthday for the last 2 months because he has sung happy birthday to everyone else so far this year and its has not yet been his turn but because birthday & xmas are with in a day of each other is so full on & overwhelming of double gifts from everyone that its like happy birthday - presents then happy xmas-presents then its over for a whole 12 months .. i buy him presents for easter instead & do an easter hunt to his presents. He always has a cake and gets sung happy birthday to multiple times to blow the candles out over & over again. As he gets older will make a point of putting up no xmas deco's or tree until after we have celebrated his birthday ... when he gets to school, I'll organise his party for before school breaks up maybe like 1st or 2nd week of dec ... so all in all just takes few extra things on our part to make it special and seperate for them & to seperate it for your family to make sure your baby gets the recognition for both very special events ... have a seperate birthday party before xmas then have xmas on xmas, they'll have to acknowledge both events then!!! Good luck!!!! :)

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I can't remember ever celebrating my birthday on the exact day I was born and I was born in February. If I had a party at all I'd need to wait until the weekend at least, so I wouldnt' worry about moving the party date. In my family and my husbands birthdays were not large affairs. Some years I had a party, some years just a friend over, and most years it was nothing particularly special. My mom would give me a gift and I would get cards in the mail. Honestly, that was enough to me. We're due on the 29th and people will always say " Christmas Baby or New Year's Baby" like it's a shame and they say she will get jipped. I look at it as a blessing to have a child during such a wonderful time of year and that she will be my Christmas present. Our plan is to just not make a huge ordeal out of birthdays. As parents we will give her a cake and do something special. Maybe on extra special birthdays we'll plan a party. I think by keeping birthdays low key it will help us be fair to all of our children (should there be more in the future). On the flip side, I think if you want to have a big birthday celebration for your child, you should go for it no matter what time of year it is and what other people think. I think it matters more to the child that their parents think their birthday is special and clearly we do because everyone posting has put a lot of thought into it already.

TeBeth - posted on 10/08/2011

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See, I don't want to celebrate the baby's birthday on the day it's born. I hate shifting things around. I feel its unfair to the child. Everyone else gets to have their bday on the day they were born. Why does my child have to be different??

Marie - posted on 10/05/2011

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I'm due December 21st but its a possibility I could have a Christmas baby so we'll just have to see how that goes.

Lotte - posted on 09/28/2011

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wel...I'm due December 30th and my daughter is turning three Jan. 7th. with Boxing Day Dec. 26th; and gst Jan 5th there should be NO excuse to be able to celebrate BOTH of their birthdays AND Christmas all considering- child tax is a week before Christmas as well :)

Rose-Anne - posted on 09/26/2011

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I'm due right on Christmas, but because of cholestasis I will be induced 3 weeks early. I don't think it will be a big deal to have a birthday 3 weeks before Christmas. I have a son whose birthday is November 27th, so only about a week earlier. It also sometimes is Thanksgiving. But it has never been an issue. I do his party the weekend before so friends won't be out of town. It doesn't really affect anything. The hardest thing for me will be having 2 kids with birthdays so close. I don't plan on doing joint parties either because I want them each to have their own special day. Also, they will be 5 years apart and opposite gender. I say just throw a party either a couple weeks before or a couple weeks after if you have a Christmas or Christmas Eve baby. Most friends wouldn't be able to make it on the holiday anyway, and as they get older friends will be important for them to have at their party.

Brianna - posted on 09/25/2011

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i think it would suck to have a bday in dec lol. honestly i im about to start trying to get pregnant and when the month comes that i would be due in dec i will stop trying for a month lol i just doesnt seem fair to the baby to get ripped off cuz of xmas my father inlaw bday is like the 28 of december so its so annoying cuz we are tired of all the visiting with family and then we have ANOTHER party to attend i totally dont want a dec baby lol

Janice - posted on 09/25/2011

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I agree that it totally sucks that your family is being so difficult. This wont help too much but are you sure you can't change your Csec date? When I found out I would be having a c-section after a failed ECV I was able to choose (with-in limit) my daughters B-day. She was due 11/4 and she was delivered 10/30, my choice. Of course people will still try to combine presents but maybe if its not exactly on X-mas it will be easier to plan parties. I have a friend who was born on X-mas and he hates his B-day and doesn't tell people.

Angie - posted on 09/25/2011

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My brother in law, his wife and his daugher all have birthdays with a week of Christmas. You just have to be sure to make it special. Even me best friend is just 10 days before. A few tricks ALWAYS make sure that they have birthday wrapping paper for a birthday gift (I would even provide it for others if they show up with christmas wrap, but that is me). My B-I-L got a 1/2 Birthday during the summer where he could have a pool party and have the big outside, non-holiday party like all the other kids (the grew up in Nebraska) and most importantly,,, Just make sure that they know that they are special on that day, have a special place setting that gets used on only that day, for special things only. I also have a cousin that falls on thanksgiving, we would just try and make it special, take a few minutes out of everything to have cake and candles and open presents.

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It is unfair. Do remember that the chances of him being born on the actual due date are slim. So you might not even need to worry about it.

TeBeth - posted on 09/22/2011

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See, I want to celebrate my child's birthday on Christmas. I want the cake and presents along with the tree. Not "just give them Christmas" and call it their birthday too. To me that is a total rip off! Why does every normal child get 20 presents for their birthday and Christmas but mine gets just 10 and its called "birthday and Christmas." It just eats at me really. I find it unfair and cheap!

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I'm due on the 25th as well. I have a similar problem with my daughter whose birthday will sometimes fall on Thanksgiving. It is foriegn to my husband's family the idea that you don't have to celebrate on the person's actual birhtday.

We told them off for this one too. That if he's born on Christmas that we will throw a party another day for him. That way he has his own day. There are to be NO birthday presents given on the holiday (for either child). But it also pissed me off that my husband's grandparents gave my daughter a present (all wrapped up) on his birthday. It wasn't her birthday she didn't need a present.

I am the lay down the law type and they will just have to eat it.

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