Help! I have a 3 year old and just recently had a baby and my toddler has begun to act like a big crybaby! She wines & cries about EVERYTHING, even if she's just asknig me a simple question. How do I deal with this???

Angel - posted on 08/28/2012

Well changes can be difficult believe me even for a toddler. My daughter has a 8 yr., 4 yr. and a set of twins just turned 2 yrs. She has to make time for each. One weekend its mommy time with the oldest, the next saturday its mommy time with the 4 yrs. old and of course the little ones is all the time. Her husband watches the kids when she makes personal time for each. So far its working, we shall see. lol hoped this helps.

Karma - posted on 08/24/2012

The baby is getting the attention she used to get. Try to find ways to include her in something to do with, the baby like being mommy's big girl helper bringing you diapers and such. Find one on one time with her everyday. Remember not to let her get away with the whining though. Remind her to talk in a normal tone. I have six kids and have one who still whines now and then and she is 7. I tell her that I don't speak whine-ese and she needs to talk to me right if she wants me to understand her. This helps discourage the whining so she can get what she wants. Yours is still young enough that she doesn't understand that she doesn't need to whine to get the attention that the baby is getting. Hope this helps you. It takes time and a little understanding.

Danette - posted on 08/17/2012

My four year old son just stormed off so I now have time to respond, take a huge breath before responding to her. My son was very attached to me from infancy (to the point where only I could hold him) and I encouraged this as it was the style of parenting that I chose. He never had a "terrible two" stage so now he is rebelling. He is sassy, whiney, and overly sensitive to any sort of slight (real and imagined). I have less patience now than I had pre new baby, but I try to remember that his behavior, no matter how annoying, stems from feeling left out and having to wait for everything! I was blessed to have a daughter that is far more content and self entertaining than my son was, but he also needs to learn patience. Remember that this, like everything else, is just a phase that they soon grow out of. Good luck and know that you are far from alone in this!!