Am I doing something wrong?

Brittany - posted on 08/04/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My son is a great baby until it comes to bed time. I did the CIO method consistent for awhile and it didn't do anything but driving me insane because he would cry forever and then just cry some more and it never got any better. He's being treated for reflux a little over a month now (not sure if that makes any difference). But there are some night he won't nurse to sleep (which is what I prefer) and then he's up for like an hour or more past bed time because he just won't relax. He's up between 2 to 4 hours after going to bed almost every night. He just will thrash around till you take him out and nurse him. He WILL NOT take a paci which I tried many times to get him to take one because all my friends are saying they can just put the paci back in their kids mouths and they go back to sleep! I just don't feel like I'm being a good parent, but don't know what else to do. My husband doesn't know what to do and isn't much help with sleep stuff. Please help me figure something out.

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Carlyn - posted on 08/17/2011

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Have you tried swaddling? My daughter had reflux and when we started swaddling her, she began sleeping much better. I bought some Kidapottamus swaddles and that night everything changed. There is a book called "The Happiest Baby on the Block" that outlines a great way to calm upset little ones and help them sleep - especially GERD babies. Good luck! Remember, it is a phase - it will change eventually!

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Brittany - posted on 08/18/2011

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We did swaddle for a while. But now I kind of feel like he's to big for it. I guess I could try doing it again. He just is so mobile in his sleep I don't want to hinder him from moving around.

Brittany - posted on 08/15/2011

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Yeah our bed time routine seems to work pretty well. Unless if he's not feeling well or teething he will go down pretty easy. Just the staying asleep is what is getting to me. It used to be twice a night he'd wake up but the last 2 nights it's been 3! I think it might be a growth spurt (I hope) and that this two will pass quickly.

Janice - posted on 08/14/2011

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I have three children, 2 are good sleepers but they are all different. One has a "lovey" that she must have to go to sleep, and my youngest doesn't take a paci either. This won't last forever. Establishing a good bedtime routine will help in the long run for sure. My "bad sleeper" has good nights now but it felt like it took forever to get there. We still some rough ones and she's almost 2. You are being a good parent by continuing to try so keep it up :) it will get better, just stay consistent. Good luck

Jessica - posted on 08/14/2011

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Summer is starting to stand in her crib too. we lowered it so she wouldn't flip out lol we are working on switching her to a bottle cause dang those 2 teeth hurt lol and trying to get her in her own bed at night last night went really well but she also played hard and had screamed for hours before finally taking the bottle. still doing breastmilk just pumping instead :)
good luck with your babe he will get the hang of it

Brittany - posted on 08/12/2011

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Well we haven't gotten to the point of needing to all sleep together. Dana how old is your daughter? It has gotten a little better and worse at the same time. I have figured out some of the trouble was going to sleep was gas related since we just did one big meal at the end of the day but now we separate them out to stretch out during the day. What has gotten worse is my son has figured out how to stand up in his crib. We have it now all the way lowered and tonight the kid was standing again! I think he has a lot harder time doing it because he didn't do it for long before he went to sleep. That first night he screamed for like 2 hours just standing there. But would smile every time I came in to check on him. LOL! So thank you for the advice ladies. :)

Dana - posted on 08/12/2011

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I used CIO very successfully with my oldest and have tried it with not much luck with my little girl. She will nap in her crib and I put her down only when she is looking and acting tired. At night however is a different story. She only relaxes when in bed with my husband and I and will scream for 30 min or more which I have a hard time dealing with. She has a 'nap' at 6 or so then is up at 8:30 or 9. She nurses or eats cereal then goes back to bed around 10pm. I was frustrated that she was not sleeping 'like she should' and I realized that She and I were stressed with forcing the issue and I now try to work better around her schedule. I guess my point is that every child is different in their needs and if you can become comfortable with her sleep pattern as it is now she may sence you are more relaxed and in turn will sleep more which is a good thing all around. I will wait for my daughter to stop cutting these teeth, perhaps wait for her to reduce her constant desire to move around and explore before trying the sleeping in the crib at night idea again. Until then we are happy cuddling.

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Hi, just have a suggestion. Breastmilk is digested fast and since you baby has reflux, some may be getting spit up. So two to four hours, I would imagine he is hungry. If he has been eating cereal(?), then I would give hm some at his last feeding al ok ng with nursing. This will give him some "weight" jn his tummy and may take longer to digest. Also keep him on an incline. My daughter and I play in her room for ab 15 mins, then I turn out the light and rock and sing her to sleep. Ab5mins and shes out. Babies go through growth and learning spurts and never keep the same sleeping pattern consistantly. Hope you and baby can get some sleep :)

Jessica - posted on 08/09/2011

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my lil girl is 7 months old and having some of the same problems. breastfed won't take a paci doesn't want to sleep. only difference is she don't want to nap during the day and gets so fussy it drives me up the wall. I feel like I can't even eat some days. we cosleep at night so i know that has a lot to do with it. I just figured if I can get her used to napping alone then we can work on night time alone. he could be teething too that always seems to bother babies more at night than day. try doing oragel or teething tablets before bed with your routine and see if it helps.

Brittany - posted on 08/04/2011

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We do have a bed time routine that had worked for awhile. He was sleeping through the night for awhile, but not anymore and that's what so hard. I did the adding time with the CIO stuff, but he'd keep crying for about an hour for several nights and it never really got less than that. So I gave up after awhile. Didn't see the point.

Tasha - posted on 08/04/2011

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Somtimes babys with reflux are more comfy sleeping at an incline, so their head is abovr thier bellys that may help. Im not sure if you have a routine or not but that can help. Try a feeding, a bath with lavender,(aveeno makes a good lav baby soap), some quite time with a story might help too. All babies are different so you just have to try everything to see what works for your little guy, and probably more than once. Mine usually sleeps great but sometimes has a rough night, i rub his belly and shhh and sing to him and that usually works. I did the CIO untill it worked, it didnt take long for my LO but i do believe it works for some, not all families. I would let him cry, after 5 min id go in, not say anything, rub his belly for a few sec then leave, then id let him cry for 10 min and go in and repeat, do it untill they sleep and being consistant untill it works, if thats what you decide to do, again i guess. I do belive it is important for babies to learn to put themselves to sleep, and they have to learn that even if you leave the room that your still there. I know its hard to listen to your baby cry, but if you know hes not hungry, wet or dirty, cold etc.. then letting him cry is not torture, its teaching your baby a skill it needs to make himself, and you happy. Youre not a bad parent because your having trouble, you care enough to realize that you and your baby arent happy and you want to change that, thats a great parent. Have hope, it will get better, good luck

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