10 month old thinks its funny to gag himself?

Ashley - posted on 12/02/2010 ( 32 moms have responded )

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My son is 10 months old. He has recently learned to gag himself to get anyones attention by sticking his fingers to the back of his throat as well as shoving his binky far back enough to do this! I do know he is teething since he has 10 teeth already HOWEVER he thinks its funny to do this! If you pull his hand out of his mouth tell him NO firmly and tap his hand he laughs at you and will continue to do it over and over. I try to pre-occupy him with something else but it doesnt work. My fiances mother told me to use hot sauce on his little finger so when he puts it in his mouth he wont do it again. I found that ABSURD and cruel to do to a 10 month old! I tried using vinegar since its less potent and it stops him for the day and the next day hes back at it again! Any other mommies going thru this? Any suggestions would be appreciated :)

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Angie - posted on 12/12/2010

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Ashley my daughter is doing the same thing I try to keep her hands a busy as I can but I use apple cider vinger on that little finger and that is starting to work but I give my daughter a tap on her hands to and if you feel that is something you are ok doing the do it the way I look at it is my parents raised me like that and I turned out just fine do what you think is right and your son will be great

Mechelle - posted on 12/10/2010

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try making a mean face when you say no. and holding that look until he stops laughing. My daughter gags herself too, although not as often. It took her a while, but she doesn't like when I look at her with that mean face for an extended period of time. in the beginning for the first second or two she just thought it was funny. Now when she sees me make that face she cries. It breaks my heart but it helps her learn.

Daleen - posted on 12/09/2010

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Andrew also started with that. I just check on him when I hear him gag - if it's his hand and nothing that can hurt him I ignore him. He does that twice maybe three times - because I'm not paying a lot of attention to that he stops and keeps himself busy with something else. Only if he really wants my attention - he'll start calling for me with his hands in the air. Morgan, I'm with you on NO hand slapping!

Diane - posted on 12/07/2010

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My son sticks his hands right to the back of his throat sometimes too. It's a normal reaction to teething. Sometimes it makes him sick so I just clean that up. He will do ANYTHING to get a fuss made, so negative behaviour is just ignored completely and the good things he does are praised profusely. BTW I too sometimes give him a tap to remind him not to touch things that will hurt him. It certainly doesn't stop my little Houdini trying to explore everything.

Please don't worry about the sticking hands down his throat. It is just a phase he's going through and so long as you don't make a fuss about it won't become a longstanding habit. You might also want to get some of those teething rings for the back teeth - he'll probably ignore them but if he doesn't it might stop him sticking his fingers right back. Hope that helps

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Patricia Maria - posted on 01/05/2013

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My baby girl stephanie is 10 months. Since she was 6 months old or so she always gags herself!! Then she laughs afterwards!! Lol.

Janice - posted on 12/11/2010

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Thank you Ashley, I hope thinks get better. I know somethings children can do are very scary but most of them can be sorted out with time and work. Good luck with everything and he should eventually get bored with it and move on to something as to worry you about lol.

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I do very light hand taps when he's roughing up the cats (the poor cats), but if he keeps going to touch something I want him to learn not to, I tell him no, or move his hand away. It takes a while but they start to understand. Us Mums need to have the patience!

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I agree with Morgan, babies looove to see our reactions to everything they do, including falling down, and even if they're fine but hear us gasp (*so hard not to!), some babies cry. My son loves my reaction when he scream, if I do anything he thinks it's hilarious and keeps doing it. Drives me bonkers, lol.

Dhara - posted on 12/10/2010

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hey my boy does similar stuff... he woudl put his fingers to ensure that he almost vomits! thats really concerning but then I came to knw he does that everyday. Now when he does that I give him puff (Gerber Puff) or baby biscuit (Heinz) and he is busy munching that. Ones that is over, he starts again. This time I give his toy or teether... most of the time it works that he forgets to nibble on his fingers.

Morgan - posted on 12/10/2010

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Report me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I left it alone....she attacked me!

this is a public website if you dont want me to post anything then dont ask questions

Ashley - posted on 12/10/2010

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janice thats for the support! i can only imagine what you have on ur hands with ur LO but mine is REALLY active and listening is apparently not something he is interested in learning!

morgan..seriously? enough is enough if you do not stop posting on this i WILL report your post bc that last one was TOTALLY out of line and innapropriate! so PLEASE stop commenting on this!

Janice - posted on 12/10/2010

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My son has adhd actually it's a medical condition. All i said was that i have slapped him lightly on his bum once in a dangerous situation as it's the only way to get him out of his trance. I don't think it is right in any way it hit or smack a child but in some situations it is necessary to. Tapping a hand to say no will not hurt a child in any way. My children would have been removed from my care if i wasn't a good mum, if my children are ever sick or hurt i'm straight to the doctors to make sure they are ok even if it's just a graze you don't know me at all, Why haven't you had ago at the other people that has said something you don't like?!

Morgan - posted on 12/10/2010

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you know what Janice you can kiss my ASS I gave an opinion just because you dont agree with it does not mean I was criticising ANYONE read my posts again,
I was trying to help, I dont understand why your so deffensive? you cant control your child but your putting me down??? from the post you just wrote, that by the way hardly makes sense, It seems to me that "slapping" your child is not working. A difficult 6 month old?? is that when you started "slapping" him around at 6 months?? cause that might explain why he acts that way, you dont seem to be in a postion to give advice, and you know what the funny part is, the person who wrote the OP thanked someone else for giving the same advice that i gave..................so whats that tell you????????
I might not know everything, I never said I did but I am very very sure I know more than you.

Janice - posted on 12/10/2010

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Hi, ashley your going a good job, I've got a very difficult boy who will do anything to get attention, not that he don't get enough. He's 3 now but ever since he was 6 months he's been difficult. He will bite punch and kick with real violence, and it is really upsetting, especially when you ask for advise and all you get is put downs i think morgan he/she should get a life and stop criticising peoples parenting because i bet she/he's no saint. And she i have had to slap my son, yes morgan, i said slap, not tap.Why because it was either that or a car hitting him where he ran out on the road so you do not know everything!

Ruth - posted on 12/08/2010

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Well, my daughter does the same thing, she's three. They do it for attention, just ignore it, when they throw up, tap the back of his hand, and say "no" then clean up the mess. The tap makes him pay attention, and that way, he should get the message.

Jessica - posted on 12/08/2010

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It's completely NORMAL for him to do this. My son is 10.5 months and he does it all the time. It isn't harming him and he will stop doing it. It's just a phase. Good luck, I know it can be frustrating sometimes!

Dana - posted on 12/07/2010

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My 11 month old does this constantly, but not to the point of throwing up, he just likes the gag sounds... And the way I look at the hand tap/slap thing is.. I was raised with a tap here and there.. I wouldnt tap for him/her putting his hand down his throat, he is exploring his own body, would you tap him for touching his lil penis? To each their own you know? What works for you may not for me :) I watch my lil stick his fingers down his throat, and say Noooo baby, uckie.. and he laughs and does it again, I say it again and he laughs, then he gets bored of it and moves on to trying to climb the diaper bag to climb the tv stand... It is a normal part of a child exploring himself, my oldest did it and my sisters 3 did aswell...

Karina - posted on 12/06/2010

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Well, my son doesn't exactly put his finger into the back of his throat. However, we have noticed that when he is teething, he wants to chew on soft things... interestingly, he will usually ignore the refridgerated teethers and want to chew on certain clothes or textured cloths instead. Sometimes, he chews on our big toes or our knees. Last night, he was chewing on my sleeve and got enough of the cloth in his mouth that he involuntarily gagged and ended up throwing up his formula. It doesn't happen often, but occasionally. I think it's more of him wanting to explore what he can put in his mouth and how much of it he can put in his mouth at one time. We do watch him carefully whenever he is putting things in his mouth and we remove things that he could potentially choke on from his reach.

Ashley - posted on 12/04/2010

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everyone else thank you for your comments! ive started to ignore him when he does it..however hes actually been making himself throw up from it so im PRAYING that he gets over this stage quickly! he only does it when hes in his highchair when im cooking or doing something in the kitchen and my full and undivided attention is not on him so im positive he is doing it for the attention! and as for my son and using vinegar on his little fingers..it stopped working because he now likes the taste of vinegar..go figure right! LOL

Ashley - posted on 12/04/2010

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yes it was negative advice! obviously this is the way i parent my son and for someone to directly put something on your post saying how im going to damage my son by what im doing is totally uncalled for and not needed. you automatically know by putting this on there that there was going to be a negative reaction from it so why post those things at all? obviously us mommies do what works for our kids and for someone to "attack" it is absurd. this is a place for advice however when something is clearly negative to what your doing as a parent you probably shouldnt post it. so for future reference if you see a post on this forum from me your advice is not needed since clearly we do not see eye to eye..as well as further comments from you on this thread.

Arva - posted on 12/04/2010

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my daughter is nearly 2 and that was her weapon of choice if she wanted to get out of going to bed etc !
I just ignore her and she stops .
But she has got sick doing it and she doesnt like the result so my advice is ignore. they are looking for attension and like in my daughters case being dramatic at the same time :-)

Angela - posted on 12/03/2010

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My daughter gags herself to, she dont laugh afterwards. i dont think she does it for attention cause she does while im right beside her and grab her hand. my daughter coughs for attention, then laughs!!!! every parent is diff and every kid is diff i tried telling her no when she first starting crawling but shes so hard headed she didnt do anything. so i started tapping her hand and now i tell her no and she stops. to each is there on.

Morgan - posted on 12/03/2010

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LMAO you guys are great!!!!
I still dont see how I was negitive at all, I was just giving an opinion, its sad that you are so close minded that because you dont agree with my comment it was "negitive" this is a place to get Advice, which I gave and you all got your panties in a bunch because I dont think a slap or tap will teach your child anything??? Grow up ladies

Tabby - posted on 12/03/2010

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Morgan I'm sure you would see a major difference between a tap and a slap if someone slapped YOU vs tapping you.

Ashley, no problem! I don't critize other people's parenting styles and I hate when other people do it... especially after the mom asks for no negative comments.

Ashley - posted on 12/03/2010

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ok seriously morgan..what part of NO negative advice did you not understand? apparently that in one ear and out the other and you STILL just had to put that in there. i didnt even bother to read what you put on here because i know for a fact my child responds just well with a hand tap..he knows that means NO and just goes onto the next thing to play with! for future reference if someone says not to put negative advice on their post why dont you actually LISTEN and just move on to the next post!

tabby- thank you SO much for 1-coming to my defense and 2- for making me feel better and i will just start ignoring him and making sure everyone else does the same!

Morgan - posted on 12/02/2010

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tapping smacking....same thing
Its like people who say I spank, I dont hit.
you seem to have a perfect little Angel on your hands Tabby, my daughter can do all those things and knows well over 30 words, also I can tell her NO Addilynn the stove is hot OUCH! and she moves away, I dont have to tap, slap or beat her to stay away :) but this was not A Brag fest, I was only giving my opinion, if you think slapping your child anywhere is good for her have at it, it not my business, I was just giving an answer to a question.

Tabby - posted on 12/02/2010

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Morgan- May I point out that neither Ashley nor I said we slap our children's hand. I give my daughter a TAP on the hand. Her hand is NOT hurt at all. She is fiercely independent and I do seperate her from whatever is unsafe during playtime and at other times. However, since she has to eat I have to cook. I would much rather give her hand a little TAP than have her touch a hot stove and get burned. I would also much rather give her hand a TAP than have her pulling things out of the cabinets that can be harmful to her. My daughter learned to crawl at 6 months, learned to cruise at 6 and a half months, and learned to walk at just before 9 months. She's now 10 months and can run and stand up without needing something to pull herself up on. She is the same developmentally as a friend's 13 month old (who BTW doesn't tap their child's hands, they would rather put them in a playpen and restrict they're playing to baby toys). She can open lids and cabinets, stack things, turn things on, push buttons, feed herself, almost use a spoon, drink from a cup with minor help, knows what her feet, ears, and mouth are. She helps me get her dressed, like helping but her feet in the pants and arms in the shirt and helps me change her diaper, she knows where the tabs are and what they do. She can also crawl up stairs and can say dada, mommy, go, up, come here, and a handful of other things. Also, if she poops in her diaper she will come to me pulling on the diaper. She knows where the diapers are kept and enjoys pulling one out herself. She can turn the pages in a book and loves giving the dogs treats. She will throw her food over the highchair because she knows both dogs are waiting below, I just give her twice as much and let her go to town. If that sounds like she is unskilled in exploring her environment in ANY way than I must be reading the wrong baby books...



Another thing I'd like to point out. The study you are quoting only uses 16 toddlers. I'm assuming they were split evenly which means each group had 8 toddlers. So, there were only 8 toddlers who had their hand smacked and only 8 who didn't. Considering each child's personality and considering you DON'T know what went on in each child's home those 7 months inbetween testing you cannot say that all children who had their hand smacked THAT day (or any child for that matter) are more likey to be unskilled in exploring their environment. There could have been circumstances outside of that experiment that effected the results. For example, those 8 toddlers who had their hands smacked may also not have been able to explore their homes freely or their personality may have been such that they would rather stick close to mom and play it safe. Maybe they were confinded to a playpen or only allowed to play with baby toys. You're also assuming that ALL 8 of the children who didn't have their hand slapped didn't have trouble exploring their environment. You said that the children were tested with their mothers. How can you say for certain that the children who DIDN'T have thier hands smacked weren't encouraged (even subconsciously) by their mothers to explore more. If that is the case than the point shouldn't be children who have their hand smacked are less skillfull at exploring their environment, it should be the mother's play a vital role in helping a child learn to skillfully explore their environment.



Also, I'm sorry your post got off topic Ashley... I just couldn't help adding my two cents about hands TAPS... :-)

Morgan - posted on 12/02/2010

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http://www.askdrsears.com/html/6/t062100...

SLAPPING HANDS
How tempting it is to slap those daring little hands! Many parents do it without thinking, but consider the consequences. Maria Montessori, one of the earliest opponents of slapping children's hands, believed that children's hands are tools for exploring, an extension of the child's natural curiosity. Slapping them sends a powerful negative message. Sensitive parents we have interviewed all agree that the hands should be off-limits for physical punishment. Research supports this idea. Psychologists studied a group of sixteen fourteen-month-olds playing with their mothers. When one group of toddlers tried to grab a forbidden object, they received a slap on the hand; the other group of toddlers did not receive physical punishment. In follow-up studies of these children seven months later, the punished babies were found to be less skilled at exploring their environment.

Better to separate the child from the object or supervise his exploration and leave little hands unhurt.

Tabby - posted on 12/02/2010

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My daughter used to think it was funny to pretend she was choking (she would do it when she wasn't even eating anything). I would freak out and she would do it more... I finally started ignoring her and that worked. She doesn't do it anymore but I will tell you it got worse before it got better. She thought that she just had to try harder at first but when she realized it wouldn't work she stopped. If I noticed she was about to start I would hurry up and distract her.

On a side note- about the hand taps... I do the same thing with my daughter... I'm like you... I let her explore just about anything she wants (with safety precautions of course) and I don't have to do it often but if she touches something that can be dangerous (like touching the stove when I'm cooking) I will tap her hand and she'll go find something else to explore. I don't think it hinders them from exploring AT ALL!

Ashley - posted on 12/02/2010

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We tried doing nothing and he just keeps doing it until he makes himself throw up so that didnt work. The vinegar isnt cruel just tart and it seems to actually work. We do tap his hand not even enough for it to hurt he is very strong will and he does listen to that.It doesnt stop him from exploring with his hands he is a very curious little guy and I basically let him roam free when I am in the same room with him with some bounderies for his safety. I guess everyone parents differently so I think I should have added no negative responses towards anything please.

Morgan - posted on 12/02/2010

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I would stop doing anything!

If hes looking for Attention like you say then ignore this behavior, dont react at all, dont use hot sauce or anything else thats just mean, and I am firm on the no hand slapping, children use there hands to learn and explore, a slap on a tiny hand can set back a powerful learning tool!!

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