14 Month old and throws "fits"

Christine - posted on 04/12/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )

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What is your oppinion on this?



My baby girl throws a fit over every little thing. Now if you catch her before she gets "really interested" in something she is playing with and knows she shouldn't be then she throws an even bigger tantrum.



However, any little thing, you walk away from her after feeding/changing her. You set her down after playing with her. You start to make her dinner..I mean every little thing she throws a fit with.



If she has something she shouldn't have and you ask her politely "Can I please have that?" and you hold your hand out to take the item she will scream and throw it on the floor. (ps3 controller, remote things that can break which stings a little bit)



What do you suggest when these sort of things happen? I try to ignore it but sometimes she over exagerates it and will go on for a good 10-15 minutes with the screaming and fussing. (even at times will throw her self on the floor and bump her head on the hardwood.)



Ive tried preoccupying her, I've tried time outs.



Advice please?



I do NOT want to be one of those mothers that goes into a store with a enraged child who screams at the top of her lungs every time she doesn't get her way. Im sorry but its embarrassing and a bit ridiculous. (No offense to those mothers who have that issue, but I have socializing issues, being looked at by the entire store all because my child is screaming and I cant stop it would embarrass me. - Im a realist)



I also recently separated from her Father who had two other children living with us. They threw fits on a constant basis and were old enough to understand the difference between right and wrong. They would hit each other and scream and cry etc. The first time my daughter hit me I automatically knew they were being a bad influence. Could this be what caused it? How would i reverse the affect they had on her? (they were demon spawns)

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The thing i found that worked with my kids, is to just walk away. Take her away from whatever she is doing wrong and just let her have her tantrum. She is only doing it to get her own way. It does take a while, but it will work... Goodluck~~

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Alexis - posted on 05/30/2011

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I agree with everyone else. You just gotta ignore them. My 16month old has the worst temper tantrums i have ever seen. I can't ignore them completely cuz i have to make sure she doesn't hurt herself. The worst tantrums are when we come back inside from being outside. She just wants to be outside all the time. She must say "Go" about 500 times a day & she'll bring me her shoes too. Naturally her nickname has become "Go Go". She's one busy baby! Still not sleeping through the night either :-( Really got my hands full with this little redhead!

Arqesha - posted on 05/06/2011

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When my son throws tantrums I just let him sit there and cry. I take parenting classes twice a week at his daycare and we were talking about tantrums Monday. When I told about my sons tantrums and how I let him cry he said that it was good I do that. By letting them cry and not giving in shows them that their not suppose to do what they were doing. It just takes patients to hear them crying all the time.

And the other children could also influenced it. At my sons daycare there is a boy a little older than him and he has big fits and I guess from seeing him do it my son picked it up but I broke him out of it as fast as I could

Sonya - posted on 05/02/2011

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My daughter does the exact same thing too. I agree with the advice below. If you just walk away and ignore it, then they will do better. I discipline my daughter and I just walkk away and now she sees it that I'm not going to put up with her tantrums, so she has gotten better with her situation. I'm not telling you to discipline your child, but just take her things away from her, show her that you're ignoring her tantrums and she will do better && good luck!

Janielle - posted on 05/01/2011

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my sons been doing the same, i spoke to his pediatrician at 15mmo checkup, she said to put him in a "time out", move her from where shes misbehaving to designated sitting spot, tell her to sit. for about a minute. she will get the idea the behavior is unacceptable. hopefully!! good luck!

Heather - posted on 04/16/2011

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I ignore her and walk away or just go on with whatever I'm doing. I confirmed with my doctor and she agreed. I don't acknowledge her in any way.

Tanya - posted on 04/15/2011

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My daughter does the same thing exactly i just ignore her and let her fuss till she plays with something she is suppose to have. Sometimes offering a distraction like a snack works or juice and sometimes just putting her in her crib for like 5 min letting her scream and t give her a hug and next time repeat she is starting to learn that she doesn't get what she wants when she throws a tantrum. However out in public she is an angel always lol oh well

Tanya - posted on 04/15/2011

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My daughter does the same thing exactly i just ignore her and let her fuss till she plays with something she is suppose to have. Sometimes offering a distraction like a snack works or juice and sometimes just putting her in her crib for like 5 min letting her scream and t give her a hug and next time repeat she is starting to learn that she doesn't get what she wants when she throws a tantrum. However out in public she is an angel always lol oh well

Paula - posted on 04/14/2011

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I am not an expert but would suggest getting wiser advice from a child psychologist or counsellor. The advice about the step children would probably be a good idea and also regarding your separation. I have no idea if this is affecting your little one but it would at least give you peace of mind and guidance through this journey.
On the tantrum side, my sister used to be a shocker, she's 35 now, but as a toddler she was terrible!! My mum used to just leave her and walk away. She tried lots of things but this worked best and eventually she grew out of it.
Hope it works out for you.

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