2 baby means no baby shower?

Michaela - posted on 11/15/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )

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I'm having my second (had my first-a girl-Oct 2006) and just went along assuming I wouldn't get a baby shower. I am having a boy this time. I'm just curious if anyone is getting a baby shower for their second baby?

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Christene - posted on 03/01/2010

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Just want to say I hope you got a shower every baby needs to be spoiled even if it is what I call a "disposable shower" that is what I threw for a friend for her 2nd baby

Cindy - posted on 02/25/2010

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Hi Michaela, these days, second baby mean that you can have another shower for sure...In fact, I was lucky enough to have 3...One from the work ladies, one from my mom and one from friends. It helps with those added little things that you will need. I have a ton of toiletries for my little girly, only have to top up with buying more nappies ever so often. We did the same for my little sister, her second little one is due in about 3 weeks time. She had a boy the first time round, so having a girl now she can not use the first ones clothes. So go for it. :)

Emily - posted on 02/21/2010

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Hi I have 2 girls (19 months, & 5 weeks). I had a baby shower for both. My first was a full on one with the games and everything pink etc. The second was at a cafe, we all paid for our own food. It was basically just a catch up without children. If anyone asked me if I wanted or needed anything I would suggest they cook a meal that I could freeze and have once baby was born. If you want one I would do it in a way that is informal, then people may not feel they have to get pressies etc.

Alicia - posted on 02/19/2010

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i had a boy first and had a baby shower and then i just had my daughter and had no baby shower. my mom said that i didnt need one since im not having my first child. so i know how you feel. but thankfully i have a very best friend who went and bought me everything id need for my baby girl. i think personally no matter how many babies you have you should get a baby shower at least for the general stuff diapers wipes milk bottles that stuff

Aubrey - posted on 02/19/2010

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my oldest was born aug of 2007 and i just had my 2nd Jan of 2010 and both are boys and i did not get baby shower for my 2nd one. i feel bad but what was i suppose to do? throw one for myself? since both of mine are boys and close in age, we still have everything from my 1st so i guess its ok not to get one for your 2nd. if they are close in age and you still have some stuff. goddluck to you!

Tamara - posted on 02/18/2010

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I "heard" you get ONE shower per gender. BUT I have a friend who is on her 3rd bay along with her THIRD shower. =) I say have that 2nd shower!

Amanda - posted on 02/18/2010

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i had my first son in 2004 and my work threw me one, my mom threw me another. When my second son was born in 2008 I had 2 more. My family and friends are awsome and all my friends that have had more than one baby we have throwneach other baby showers.

Tessa - posted on 12/15/2009

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yea, i did. we had our girl in june of 2004 and i just had my baby shower a few weeks ago for my little boy. baby showers are about the celebration of life. every child should be celebrated.

Veronica - posted on 12/05/2009

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I had a girl April 08 and will be having another girl in Jan. I had another shower last weekend but it was more of a celebration of life with cake, punch diapers and wipes. It was really nice. Try that you could do it yourself.

Jacinta - posted on 12/05/2009

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i had a girl in june 08 and no baby shower but i had one with this boy so why no lol

Michelle - posted on 12/03/2009

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I had a shower with this baby too bc the first one was a boy and this one is a girl. I would understand if it was the same sex, but bc they are different sexes I think you should have one for the second one as well.

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i am getting another baby shower , I heard it is ok if your babys are a different sex or if there is big space between the 2 so you most likely dont have all the stuff saved from the first. mine will be 5 years apart and they are both girls.

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I had my son Dec 2008 and will be having a girl this time! They'll be a year and 24 days at most and I had one baby shower Nov 15 and will be having a second this saturday!!

Christina - posted on 11/21/2009

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i didnt have a baby shower for my first or my second. but i did have a small one with my family for my 3rd. nothing big just parents and siblings so it was no big thing. it doesnt matter what baby your having if you have one you do if you dont you dont. like i said i didnt have one with either of my first two and i still had plenty when they came home from the hospital

Christine - posted on 11/20/2009

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I have quite a bit left over from my first and seeing as we are expecting another boy, there are a lot of hand me downs already! All we have had to get is a new stroller and few other pieces of furniture. I think rather than having a baby shower, it might be a good reason to get all the girls/kids together for a BBQ or something.

Virginia - posted on 11/19/2009

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I had to throw my own baby shower for my second and my third non at all, my fourth my mom threw me one.... but realitity is baby showers are really just a time to get to spend with family and friends you love and care about.. if you want one, the maybe you should share it, other wise some may think the reason you are not having one is your choice.... this happens with multiple babies.

Heather - posted on 11/17/2009

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this is my second, my son was born 0ct 29, 06 lol. so far no baby shower, but we might have a get together after the baby is born. we shall see. i hope i get one!

Jennifer - posted on 11/17/2009

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This is just my first child but I have been to lots of showers for friends having their second, or even third child! I don't think it's inappropriate to have more then one shower..especially if a lot of time has gone by or the children are different genders! I don't think it would hurt to mention it to a good friend or family member...every little bit helps with a new baby!! Good luck!

Melanee - posted on 11/16/2009

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I had my daughter and 5 years later I was pregnant with our son. We didnt have a traditional baby shower because we had all the baby things we needed really (we got alot of hand me down clothes from a family friend who had just had a boy) But my sisters decided to throw me a "Diaper party" The invitations said in lew of gifts to bring diapers or a frozen dish. It was nice because my family and I got to get together and when the baby was born we didnt have to cook meals for the first week or two plus it really cut down on the amount of diapers we had to buy for the first few months ( ended up helping us budget a bit better) Because you are having a boy this time having a baby shower is a little more acceptable.
Another option is instead of a baby shower have an introducing party right after the baby is born. (most likely people will bring a gift for the baby but it wouldnt go against the whole baby shower "rules"
I am pregnant with my third child now and I didnt think it would be appropriate to have a baby shower but my best friend really wanted to throw me a shower as she was sick with the flu with my 2nd child and didnt attend the party. Instead of a big party she invited close friends and my sisters and we went out to lunch where everyone surprised me with a big gift card to Babies R Us and then we all took a shopping trip over to Babies R us and they helped me pick out some things that I needed.

Jeni - posted on 11/16/2009

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I was assuming I would have one, until my mom informed me that "you only get one!" I had a girl in Jan 2007, and am due in Jan 2010 to have a boy. I was living in CA when I had my daughter, away from all my family, so my friends threw me a shower out there. We moved back home (to MN) once my daughter was born, so now we are near all my family. I just assumed my mom and grandma and aunts and cousins would all want to throw me a shower, but apparently my mom feels very strongly about the "only one baby shower" rule. (???) Seems silly to me!

Ashley - posted on 11/16/2009

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I am having a baby shower for my second child. My first child was born in 2003 so there was a huge age gap and I did not have anything left from the first child.

Melissa - posted on 11/16/2009

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i may be having another one, but with lots of family losing their jobs due the poor economy i may not be. i just had my daughter a 1.5 yrs ago, however my fiance is not her dad but is to the new baby so his family was going to have one. if they dont we are going to have a family get together after the baby is born as a meet the baby thing instead of an official baby shower, unless between now and then someone has one. but im having another girl so most of the stuff we have already. good luck,

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