Lindsey - posted on 06/27/2011 ( 87 moms have responded )
I am a stay at home mom, taking care of my beautiful 18 month old son.
Recently my husband and I agreed that he needed more social interaction with children his own age (we live in a rural area and there really aren't any children his own age for him to play with and his cousins are all much older). While I was taking him to swimming lessons and mommy and me classes, he still wasn't interacting with the children as much as I would have liked.
And so I have enrolled him in daycare one day a week (with the option of increasing it to possibly two).
Problem is, I am feeling incredibly guilty for sending him to daycare. I am a stay at home mom because I wanted to be the one to care for him and raise him, and now I feel horrible about sending him off for someone else to do those things. And to boot, a part of me is actually excited about having some time to myself, which makes the guilt even worse, and makes me feel like a horrible mother.
What is your opinion?
EDIT TO ADD:
Thank you to everyone who responded to my post. I found most responses to be very encouraging. While some people suggested that perhaps my son isn't old enough to benefit from daycare, or that he would benefit more from being with his mommy, I decided to keep him in daycare on a trial basis.
My little guy has been going to daycare for a couple of months now and he loves it. At first the guilt was so strong I seriously contemplated pulling him out. But once I saw how much fun he had, and how much the daycare workers cared for him I realized it really was a good idea. He never fussed when I dropped him off (not even on the first day) and only ever cried when I came to pick him up at the end of the day.
And I feel like I am a better, more patient, mom after having had some time for myself. Even if I spend his "daycare day" cleaning the house, running errands or doing yard work I feel rested and renewed by the time I pick my little guy up at the end of the day. He gets to play with other children and he gets a happier mommy at the end of the day.
In fact, my hubby and I just found out recently that we are expecting baby no. 2 in April 2012 and are thinking about sending him an additional 1/2 day during the week so that I can get some much needed rest. By the time our little one arrives, he'll probably be going 2 full days a week.