Can cps do anything about a boy being a boy?

Proud - posted on 01/13/2012

I'm visiting from November 2010 moms but kids are going to get cuts, bruises, scratches.

I helped babysit my cousin Tanner when he was a baby and he liked to give kisses and then all of a sudden headbutt you. He always had these big goose egg bruises on his forehead.

My niece was just learning to walk and fell and bumped her head on a coffee table and got a cut that seemed to bleed forever above her eye.



CPS can tell the difference between a kid being a kid and a kid being abused.

Kyleigh - posted on 01/11/2012

how is your DS doing now?

Hannah - posted on 01/05/2012

I'm sure you had the odd bump when you were a child! Sometimes I think babies should come with crash helmets! My son has done some really stupid things but thankfully never been badly hurt. It must be hard living with your parents I think grandparents can be a little interfering sometimes.

Donna - posted on 12/21/2011

My youngest atarted to walk at about 15 months old....he then fell all the time for ages because he was constantly trying to keep up with the older 2. One particular week he bumped heach corner of his forehead daily and looked horrific. I use a creche and had to fill a previous accident form daily for that time and I was worried they may report me. Now I know them well enough to make a joke about it, and they did say that they kept them all on file, but had no issues with Mr bump, as he was the same there. He still has big bumps from time to time, but I am not worried, as I can easily explain it.
Don't worry.....we managed to improve things a bit by getting some less chunky shoes, and although his Christmas presents will include a Mr Bump t-shirt, he only falls once every couple of weeks now.

Elizabeth - posted on 12/19/2011

Doctors are often more concerned when they see toddlers without bumps and bruises. It's normal and expected, even more so in boys. Don't fret. My doc said that he was glad to see my 3yr old girls legs covered in bruises and scrapes. He said, "yep, she's a kiddo. That's what we like to see."

Medic - posted on 12/14/2011

I will share just to make you feel better.....this year my kids had two sets of christmas pics made...one with their grandparents one with us... they were made 3 weeks apart. In the first set my daughter has a huge bruise on the right side of her head from her meeting the coffee table when she bent down to get a toy. In the second set she has a ginormous bruise and scratch on the opposite side from her playing WWF with her older brother. Right now she has two black eyes because she jumped on her brother and wrapped her legs around him causing him to fall forward ontop of her, headbutting her right between the eyes. Shit happens, my parents have funny stories and pics of when we were kids and like human bumper cars.

Alexandra - posted on 12/13/2011

kids are kids, and they have to learn through a lot of mistakes. it's impossible to be there for them 24 hours a day. don't feel bad, your kid will get hurt a lot in his life and there is nothing you can do about it. take is as a lesson for you: until he knows how to operate the gate, you have to try and teach him how and be attentive. If something happens, then you just have to confort him, nothing else you can do. As far as your parents, they need to put things in perpective. Have you thought about moving out, or getting other living arrangements? I feel this is putting a lot of stress on you unnecessarly. Beside, if you all live together, why weren't they watching the kid? Come on, they can also be guilty, if they are going to point out the guilt to you.This is unrealistic!

Kyleigh - posted on 12/11/2011

i dd is 22 months old and she has got more hurt this week than her WHOLE life. So I feel just awful, we were shopping (holiday) and she fell asleep in the cart at the store and fell over bumped her head on the cart i was pushing her in! Then she tripped and fell on my battary laptop pack that was laying on the wooden floors here! So her forehead got it too! Shes into this running stage also and learning quicker than most!

Jackie - posted on 12/09/2011

thank you! i honestly feel better.

Medic - posted on 12/08/2011

There is no way that you NEVER got hurt on your parents watch. My son walked around with what seemed like a perminent bruise in the middle of his forehead for what seemed like a few years. My parents set my kids up to get hurt by encouraging my childrens brilliant ideas. Then when they get hurt and call me to tell me my son always says but papaw let me.

Jackie - posted on 12/08/2011

it's not that they've expressed it, I just feel like he's always getting nasty bumps and bruises, and my parents are always telling me i'm not watching him close enough (even if I'm right there) I guess maybe it's just paranoira.

Medic - posted on 12/08/2011

Who would report you? your parents? If your parents are like that then maybe you need to find a better living arangement.