have a 7 month old and want another

Linsey - posted on 09/06/2010 ( 26 moms have responded )

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my fiance and i have a 7 month old little boy, and we're told he is a crazy good baby (and i agree). i'm a full time student in college, and my fiance works full time selling cars. we're doing great financially, and we are starting to talk about getting married and right after trying again for another baby. i would like to wait until our son is at least a year old before we start trying, but i'm a little nervous about taking care or two little ones and going to school. school has been easy so far and i've kept straight a's the whole time so i'm curious to hear from y'all about how raising two little ones is. what's y'all's advice?

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Melissa - posted on 09/10/2010

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I have a 5 year old and a 7 1/2 month old and I personally like them being spaced out. My son got to be the baby for longer and I know he really enjoyed it. Now he is big enough to really enjoy his little sister and he loves her so much. I would say wait at least till your child is 2 then try so your baby can get to be a baby for longer.

Jodi - posted on 09/09/2010

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i think you should wait! i got pregnant when my first son was 10 months old, and my boys are exactly 18 months apart! i feel like my frst son missed out on a lot and didnt get all of the attention he deserved! its a HUGE difference going from 1 child to two! i am soo soo tired by the end of the day, i cant wait to go to bed! lol and my 2 yr old isnt potty trained yet, so im always buying diapers! i would wait a lil bit and let your son enjoy all of your attention! good luck either way!

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Emily - posted on 09/19/2010

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having 2 kids close together is hard work, but I wouldn't change it for anything! My 2 girls are 18 months apart, and their relationship is beautiful. I think alot depends on the support network you have around you aswell. I don't have any family close by, so I rely on friends alot (especially cause my 8 month old has been in and out of hospital with seizures). It would definitely help if you have a good support network.

Sarah - posted on 09/18/2010

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I know how you feel i have an 8 month old little guy and he is an awesome baby, we are really lucky too. i am also in university but part time, and my husband works out of town sun-thurs so its hard to work part time or take more classes being by myself most of the week. but we want to try for another one in a month or so and i think do whatever makes you happy.

Madiha - posted on 09/18/2010

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if u can manage u should go for another one... but i would recomment NOT to do so, coz it is REALLY a full time job taking care of two little kids...

Kelly - posted on 09/16/2010

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i faound out i was prego with my second when my first was 9 mo then with my third when my 2nd was 6 mo with my 4th when my 3rd was lil over a yr and my 5th when my 4th was 15 mo I think it was easier handling a baby when the other was a lil older than trying to juggle a newborn while chasing a 1 yr old but thats me if you really want another and can handle ot by all means have another Congrats on getting married

Natasha - posted on 09/16/2010

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my baby is 8 months old and i just found out im 6 weeks , if you can handled it go for it :D

Alexandra - posted on 09/16/2010

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we have two babies 14 months apart. it is hard work, but wonderful. go for it if you feel you can do it.

Shellie - posted on 09/15/2010

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I have an 8 month old daughter and I am 3 months pregnant with my second. I work full time right now. I will take off 5 months with the new baby and then I will go back to work full time. If you think you can handle it, the go for it!!

Jacqueline - posted on 09/15/2010

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Millions of moms before you have done it! If you think you're ready go for it!! It took us 3 years to get preggo so I haven't been on bc at all since having our 8 month old and it's only been in the last couple of months that the idea of getting pregnant again didn't totally scare me! Good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 09/15/2010

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My baby girl is so good. I would go for it. Just know the risks because another baby might not be as good as the first one but it will always be worth it in the end

Jennifer - posted on 09/15/2010

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I would think it over very carefully. Going from 1 child to 2 is much harder thaqn you would think, especially if both are still young. I have 4 children ages, 10, 6, 2.5 and 8 months. its more than just doubling the work. Even though it seems like that since you are already doing it for 1...

Erin - posted on 09/14/2010

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We have an 8 month old daughter at home, born in mid-January, and we will have a second one come late February, early March. I definitely agree with you on the waiting until your first is a year old to try. This second one for us was not planned, and we had been hoping to wait for awhile longer. It took us three years of trying to get our first child, so we definitely weren't expecting such a quick second. I have sought out a lot of advice already from other moms in the same boat, and have found their experiences to be fairly similar in that it is likely the children will be good friends, but also that it is going to be really hard for the first few years while they are both so young.

My husband and I are also both working full time, plus he picked up a weekend job when we found out about the second one on the way. And we both attend college classes as well - mostly online. I am supposed to graduate with my BA in May, and right now, I am worried that our new arrival may set me back a little bit. I wouldn't necessarily say to wait until you're done with school if you still have awhile to go. We had our first one when I was school and it worked out alright. But it may be beneficial to look into some summer online courses to get yourself ahead a little bit, and closer to finishing up before you have a second one! :)

Dawn - posted on 09/13/2010

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I have a question to add.....many times you are not able to breastfeed while you are pregnant either because your quality of milk is not as good or your milk dries up. if you get pregnant before your child is a year old, yet they are already on solids (my son is 8 mo old), do you need to supplement with formula? I have really been trying to avoid formula but I am going nuts with wanting to get pregnant again.

Dawn - posted on 09/13/2010

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I cant offer any advice, but it is good to hear that I am not that crazy! My husband and I are in the same shoes. We have a 8mo old baby and I have been dying to have another but I am currently in my masters program right now. I am nearly done and have maintained a 4.0 even with a new baby at home. I am actually nervous because my first pregnancy, labor, and birth was so perfect and easy and my son is a super easy baby, it makes me nervous that the next one will not go so smoothly. I really enjoyed my first experience so much (which is probably why I am already willing to have another so soon) and I want to enjoy the second just as much. I know every pregnancy is different, how can you make sure you enjoy everyone of them?

Malina - posted on 09/12/2010

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same here. i want another but i wanna go back to school. i'll wait til i'm finish and when he starts school.i REALLY want another, but i gotta think about my nerves first lol

Leslie - posted on 09/12/2010

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OH I do have ONE good thing to add. They are now best friends. They love eachother so much right now. The first 5mths my older one didn't like him, but now they play all the time:) so there is a good point:)

Leslie - posted on 09/12/2010

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I have an 19mth old and a 8mth old. They are 11 mths apart....
My first was a really really really good baby. So easy going, so happy, the PERFECT baby....

MY second.... hmmm, he is a HANDFUL! Even at 8mths, he is triple the work of my first. I haven't slept in 8mths, haven't had a second to myself. Just be prepared, that the second may or may not be like the first. I LOVE my second with all of my heart and I wouldn't trade a minute of him. It's just A LOT more work. I would start thinking about having another one when you think that your second can help you out and do more things by himself before you have a second:)

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i think its down to personal choice, my daughter is 8 months and so is soo good everyone says shes like a little angel, we started trying when shes was 6 month old and im now 5 weeks pregnant, im so excited but nervous aswell, having 2 babies is different for everyone hun, they will be the bestest of friends and my daughter will still be the baby and get just as much attention as the new baby i think babies turn out to be more well behaved when their only 15-18 months appart because they will have a constant play mate, be similar ages, go thru school together, they wont be as bored and they wouldnt crave your attention constantly and be as clingy and one baby would, my advice, go for it! you only live once x

Paula - posted on 09/12/2010

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Hey Linsey, I'm going to go for it asap!! I would've already but my BP is still a little high so I need to get that under control first. My goal is to start trying again in November, but I can't wait! My sister had two 13 months apart and she did it well by following a strict routine. Her two are 2 and 3 years old now and they're great friends!!

Eve - posted on 09/10/2010

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Your body normally needs about a year to 15 months to recover from baby #1 you risk having a miscarriage.. Also remember when you have baby #2 baby#1 will be mobile and you will no longer nap when new baby naps and also both children are going to strive for the same amount of attention. I would wait until school is closer to done. However that is just me. . GOOD LUCK!! I too am having baby fever

Em - posted on 09/08/2010

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far out really???? im not wanting another one anytime soon, no way, not for at least a couple of years. I really want to give my boy a chance to be a baby before another one comes along and he is turned into a big brother

Brittany - posted on 09/07/2010

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If you guys think you are ready, I say good luck and go for it!!! Our son will be 8mths on the 16th and we have been trying the last three mths to get prego!!!

Danielle - posted on 09/07/2010

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if you started trying for another one once this LO is 1 then he will be almost 2 when ur second child is born so it wont be as hard and perhaps by then he may be toilet trainned which may make it easier

Khloe - posted on 09/07/2010

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if you feel like you can handle caring for 2 babys & going to school then go for it! im in the same boat i have a 8month old & i want another. but i only work 2 days a week & my hubby works full time. & if i had another i wouldnt work after i had her/him.

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