He doest like his crib, what should i do?

Marcela - posted on 06/01/2011 ( 20 moms have responded )

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My Son is 16 months, and i dont know how to put him back in his crib. When i put him in his crib, he doest cry, he screaming like crazy, so i put him to sleep with us, until he falls to sleep and then take him to the crib. But its not working anymore...he goes in the crib util 12:30 nd then wakes up and cry screaming mammy mammy....so goes to our bed again. What shoul i do, is ti time to get a bed for him?? I let him cry, but it never stops. the last night he went from 12am to 430am crying...its crazy, i feel like a bad mom and terrible mam teaching.
During the day, just take hisnap on my bed too....if I show him his crib, and try to talk like, "here is your bed sweety, you should sleep in here, look how awesome is it, look your lion, he is waiting for you to sleep.." but nothing has working at all.
I dont know what to do.
Please help!!!!!

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Brooke - posted on 06/03/2011

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Aw poor guy, just let him sleep with you. Soon enough he'll be a big boy, and too cool to sleep with mom and dad... Enjoy it while it lasts. Or at least you could put a toddler bed in your room, but he probably wants to snuggle. Nobody wants to sleep alone!!

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Donna - posted on 06/07/2011

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My daughter has just gone 16 months she can climb etc so i have taken the solid side side off the cot dropped the drop rail and added a bed guard where other side was she can climb in and out as she pleases. I hate to say it but i dont think its the bed perhaps as you put him to sleep and then relocate him he doesnt feel 'safe' when he wakes he is in a different spot than when he went to sleep and he is scared. alot of people argue with controlled crying but i believe it works i have 4 kids and i have used the method with all 4 and they all go to bed and sleep no complications. it involves reassuring them every few mins or so maybe hum or sing to them as your leaving and even if crying hum outside the door so they realise even if they cant see you you are there? maybe a cd player with special bed time songs or a glowing musical stuffed toy ( my daughter has one of these too) it might take a week or even 2 but be consistent your not a bad parent at all you are doing something to make them feel more secure :)

Elizabeth - posted on 06/06/2011

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Maybe this will make you feel better. I have a 16mo old who used to not sleep more than 1/2 hour without being cuddled - and has HATED her crib since 6mos (but she's so cute) We have spoken to the doctor and this is just who she is. She's not sick, she's not teething, she has always been like this. She nurses on demand and just started solids and 12 mos, but eat really well now too, and she can go a very long time without eating. She just gets uncomfortable.

We think we have discovered what's up. She moves so much during the night that she really hates her crib because she bonks into the sides. She sleeps like a log if she is cuddled with me in bed though, so that's what we do for most of the night. Unfortunately, I work from home and do a lot after the kids are in bed.

I used to put her in her crib at night on the off chance i'll get more time than usual, then, when she wakes up I put her down on a palette in the living room to sleep (2 large quilts folded to crib size on top of each other, blankie on top, pillow above her head just to give her something comfy to butt against. She is comfy, safe for wiggling and rolling, not overly firm but safely firm.). Sometimes she would sleep 2 hours that way. And I could get short naps out of her that way too. Recently we switched to a mattress on the floor of their room made up just like her sister big bed. Now she can do at least and hour at naptime and much better at bedtime.

We call the bed "Anna's night-night bed" and she says "night-night" and puts her head down. She is very proud of it. She still gets cuddled or nursed down, but when she wakes up shes not angry about being in her bed.

Than when it's time for lights out for me she comes to bed with us - king bed, no rails but a fixed barrier to keep her from rolling when shes on the outside (homemade, safe, hard to describe). We all sleep well and soundly.

Her sister was similar but not this extreme, and is now an extremely soundly sleeping three year old. She took naps like a champ, but wanted cuddles and woke a lot to nurse (every 3-4 hours). She ended up in our bed but now spends most of the night in her room - bed at 8, she usually comes in to snuggle around 5 or 6am, sleeps until 7 or 8, and still takes a 2-hr nap.

My thought is - my little one was a preemie and due to her nicu time and how far away the hospital was, I was only able to be in the nicu for one feeding a day during the month she was there. So she had so much time without mommy cuddles (But there were wonderful volunteers who liked to never set her down). This baby time is so short. We have found a workable, doc approved solution, that keeps everybody happy healthy and safe. If it means i'm having to hold my sweet adorable baby a lot...oh woe is me. ;-)

Jessica - posted on 06/06/2011

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Our twin girls went to toddler beds shortly after they turned one. they started sleeping better once they were out of their cribs. Their cribs converted to toddler beds so all we had to do was buy a rail.

Nina - posted on 06/06/2011

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My cousin's son was the same, so she just put his mattress on the floor with some pillows surrounding it so he doesn't fall out and now he goes there every time he's tired WITHOUT anyone even telling him to... =) Hope you find a good solution that works for your son!

Marcela - posted on 06/05/2011

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Yes...So i took off the crib gate, and he is going okay untill 3 am. Then he goes to my bed by himself, so now he can get off with no problrm. I think is fine now...Im going to leave like that. He takes his nap on the crib/bed, and during the night half and half, Half on the crib/bed and half with me. im loving it!
thankss

Ashley - posted on 06/05/2011

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My 16 month slees with us too. He was in his crib for naps and bed time at first with no problems, lay down and go right to sleep, but suddenly he won't sleep at night, only at nap time. It breaks your heart to hear them cry like that so I say if you are able to sleep and he is able to sleep, what is it hurting to keep him with you. Soon enough he will be old enough to understand what is his bed and what is your bed. I personally wouldn't recommend a toddler bed just yet. They are too easy to get out of and I for one don't want my little guy getting up and roaming around without anyone watching him!

Melissa - posted on 06/04/2011

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my daughter has been in a toddler bed since she was 11mn old and she loves it...I tell her to go to bed and she walks right into the room and lays down, sleeps the whole night through and never sleeps in my bed. Maybe allow him to pick out his own bed if you buy him a character bed, my daughter has tinkerbell and she loves it. I hope you have better luck.

Amy - posted on 06/04/2011

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I let my kids sleep with me. First I put a convertible crib (set up like a toddler bed) up against our King bed so it was like a giant bed. Then as the first two got older (two and three), I put a bunk bed in our room and they transitioned easily. Our third is still in bed with us. I breastfeed and personally love the arrangement. Everyone is snuggly and secure. Try EliAbeth Pantly's No Cry Sleep Solution book. I haven't read it but I hear great things about it. I think one solution involves a mattress on the floor and laying with baby but gradually each night gettung a little farther away.

Marcela - posted on 06/03/2011

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i Love sleep with him too...but now he is to big and too stronge. He is punting us during the night...so i guess he needs his space.
is the best feeling ever being with him.
thank you

Brooke - posted on 06/03/2011

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PS we do the double matress on the floor like dandelion chick, and it works great :)

Marcela - posted on 06/03/2011

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yes, i used to do it. Stay with him until he gets sleep. But in the last 2 nights, he doest want to sleep at all, and screaming asking for the floor. So, Im in the floor with him hauhauaha
Im not the olny one.
thak youuu

User - posted on 06/03/2011

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I have five kids and none of my kids slept in the crib - one beucase i breast fed - they slept with me and when i didn't want them in the bed any more they went straight to a bed. I never did the toddler beds - or side rails. I got a double mattress and put it on the floor. That way i could go feed them if i needed to or lay in bed that way i would just fall alseep there i needed. I hated the up and down 100 times. Also if they rolled it was close to the ground. My now 15 month is in a big bed with a box spring still on the floor - she sleeps all night and in the morning she gets up and climbs out of bed. the only thing is with this bed you can not leave them to go to sleep - but have to stay till they are sleep - but atleast they fall alseep in the bed with you close. Works for me
get out my site www.dandelionchick.com

Marcela - posted on 06/03/2011

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Yes, I thouglt about the dark, but ist not. If i leave the light on, he doesnt sleep at all. So, I turn the light off, and he goes fine, with me on the room. Then when que fall sleep, I took him and put in his crib. After 2 hours, he awake and start screaming, asking for the floor. He says, Florr mommy, florr. So the last 2 nights i slept on the flor with him, on his room. I dont know whats going on. He was fine on his room and crib.
But, thank you so much for the help.
Now im trying to take the gates crib off, and see what happen.
if it goes nice, im going to get him a bed.

Erin - posted on 06/03/2011

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It might be time for a big bed. We are having to change our son relatively soon. I am thinking of getting him a car bed. it is low to the ground and has high sides. the other idea that I have heard is to put the mattress on the floor for a while so they get used to sleeping on something with out sides. the scariest part is that they are not longer contained and can roam around their room. You are not a bad Mum! Don't feel badly, we all go through different struggles and this one sounds brutal. DO you think he might be scared of the dark at all? My friends got their child a night light and things seemed to settle down again. All the best to you and your little guy!

Amy - posted on 06/03/2011

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when my oldest daughter was 18 months old we had to get her a toddler bed she wouldnt sleep in her crib, but you have to put in him bed in his bed not with you or he will just get used to sleeping with you.. a big boy bed should work great but you might want to get a baby gate for the bedroom door since he will be able to get up out of bed whenever he pleases.

Marcela - posted on 06/03/2011

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Ohh, thats an ideia. I thought about it, but some people said is too early, he is just 16 months old. But it may works. Thank you so much!!!

Johnna - posted on 06/03/2011

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I would try getting him a big boy bed. :0) It couldnt hurt. But add some of those side rails for the just in case!

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