My 1 yr old wakes so often help!

Jessica - posted on 01/24/2011 ( 31 moms have responded )

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My little boy is so gorgeous but the one thing I hate is that he wakes so much at night-sometimes every 2 hours! I am at my wits end and so tired as I have 2 other boys! I just don't know what to do with him and would appreciate some advice. I have put it down to teething pain but paracetomol doesn't seem to help much. Aaaaahhhhh!

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Lisa - posted on 02/02/2011

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I just had this same problem, and then we hired a sleep consultant group called The Dream Team, and now my son is sleeping 12 hours through the night and taking both his naps, and it has been less than a week - so crazy! In my experience with my son, I had tried doing the Ferber method, but it didn't work because whenever I went in to check on him, he got excited to see me and then angry when I left, and he refused to fall sleep until I patted him down to sleep. And then we also tried bringing him into our bed, but that was a big mistake and he was still waking up. So, with the consultant - this is what happened... I know it sounds cold, but it absolutely worked. This woman came over for the first night - she taped black garbage bags to the windows in my son's room, to block the sunlight, brought me a white noise machine, and asked me to assign my son a lovey for him to become attached to in his crib. I used to nurse my son to sleep, but now she had me separate my nursing from the bedtime, and we just put him in the crib and left. For that first night, this woman had a sleeping bag and she stayed next to my son's crib as he cried. He cried for an hour and a half, which sounded awful, but then he fell asleep... she explained later that he did great because he finally realized that he needs to put himself to sleep by lying down and no one else is going to do it for him, so now he'll remember how to do it. The next day, the routine she gave me was that I don't pick him up until 7:30 am (we put him down at 7:30 pm), and his naps are 9:30-10:30, and 1:30-3:30. In the morning and during the morning nap, if he sleeps over the time limit, he can sleep for another half hour - this doesn't apply to the afternoon because if you go past 3:30, it'll be bad for the nighttime sleep. Anyway, it's been a few days already, and my son is sleeping so much now, I can't believe it. The only thing that has concerned my husband and I is that he was a bit traumatized - becoming very clingy to me when I try to hand him off to my nanny or my mother, and also nervous when he enters his bedroom... but, I've already noticed that that is going away already. I think it was a tough thing, but it was necessary for him to learn this skill, and I hear it only gets worse as they get older. My son still doesn't feel attached the lovey - he actually throws it out of the crib, but the woman said he'll become attached to it later. I mostly care that he is really sleeping now, and also, he is barely crying now. Tonight he went to bed after only 10 minutes.

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I came just to send you hug. My boy is awake every hour through the night and he is "screaming". I dont know what to do :/
my older daughter told me to put his bad into her room. ♥
so i could sleep a little more.

Nicole - posted on 02/02/2011

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I always feel like I am the only one that has a 1 year old that is still nursing...and nursing frequently through the night so these posts make me feel so much better. My son is a light sleeper and is in my bed with me just so i can get a little more sleep. The only advise i've been given is to use the cry it out method, put him in his crib awake so he can learn how to soothe himself to sleep, etc. and I am just not ready for that. This time is short so I stay confident that he will not always be this way. so let's support each other through these early years and try to enjoy the short time we have, mamas! ;)

Elizabeth - posted on 01/31/2011

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Maybe this will make you feel better. I have a one year old who will not sleep more than 1/2 hour without being cuddled. (but she's so cute) We have spoken to the doctor and this is just who she is. She's not sick, she's not teething, she has always been like this. She nurses on demand and only just started solids, but she can go a very long time without eating. She just gets uncomfortable.

We think we have discovered what's up. She moves so much during the night that she really hates her crib because she bonks into the sides. She sleeps like a log if she is cuddled with me in bed though, so that's what we do for most of the night. Unfortunately, I work from home and do a lot after the kids are in bed.

I put her in her crib at night on the off chance i'll get more time than usual, then, when she wakes up I put her down on a palette in the living room to sleep. Sometimes she will sleep 2 hours that way. And I can get short naps out of her that way too. We think this may be the solution to naps at least so we're probably saying a goodbye to the baby cage and making a comfy palette in her room - 2 large quilts folded to crib size on top of each other, blankie on top, pillow above her head just to give her something comfy to butt against. She is comfy, safe for wiggling and rolling, not overly firm but safely firm.

Than when it's time for lights out for me she comes to bed with us - king bed, no rails but a fixed barrier to keep her from rolling when shes on the outside (homemade, safe, hard to describe). We all sleep well and soundly.

Her sister was similar but not this extreme, and is now an extremely soundly sleeping three year old. She took naps like a champ, but wanted cuddles and woke a lot to nurse (every 3-4 hours). She ended up in our bed but now spends most of the night in her room - bed at 8, she usually comes in to snuggle around 5 or 6am, sleeps until 7 or 8, and still takes a 2-hr nap.

My thought is - my little one was a preemie and due to her nicu time and how far away the hospital was, I was only able to be in the nicu for one feeding a day during the month she was there. So she had so much time without mommy cuddles (But there were wonderful volunteers who liked to never set her down). This baby time is so short. We have found a workable, doc approved solution, that keeps everybody happy healthy and safe. If it means i'm having to hold my sweet adorable baby a lot...oh woe is me. ;-)

Brooke - posted on 02/04/2011

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Bring him to bed with you. It's so nice and sweet to have them there, and then everyone gets sleep :)

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My son had been doing the same thing! Separation anxiety is at full speed at this age and I also heard that babies start to dream at this age so they wake up startled and unsettled. Tonight we had a struggle at bedtime and I decided to see if he would be able to get himself to sleep (after I rocked him for 20 mins) and he only cried for 10 mins then to my surprise he layer his little self down and went to sleep. I'm totally pleased because he's usually the winner of the night time battle (he's so persistent!) but I guess he's growing up. We'll all miss these days some day which is crazy to think!

Jasmine - posted on 02/07/2011

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My son just turned one about a week ago just recently i have started giving him less naps i only allow him to take one nap! When he has teeth cming in i give him a bath, put orajel on his gums and give him 3/4 teaspoon of tylenol and lie him in the crib and he goes fast asleep threw the whole night!! my son ggoes to bed at 9 PM and Wakes up at 9 am!!

Nicole - posted on 02/07/2011

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Is there a brand besides hyland that makes teething tablets? I use those but can't anymore since they were recalled.

Nichole - posted on 02/07/2011

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My advice is teething tablet and pain reliever it works for my one year old son. He sleeps through the night every night until it is time to get up for the day. I also use hurricane gel on his gums you can buy it over the counter at your local pharmacy it is expensive but does mircles it is like 10 bucks but worth every penny.

Lisa - posted on 02/05/2011

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If you bring him into the bed, you'll have a harder time ever getting him to be in his own bed, and it's harder as they get older. You have to think longterm. Sorry to sound harsh, but I just went through this with my son, and I'm so happy that I'm nipping this in the bud now, so I don't wish these sleeping troubles on anyone.

Lisa - posted on 02/02/2011

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Yeah, although it may seem comforting to us to go in and show our presence, I think it's just a big tease to the child. And by this age, they have to learn how to do this on their own. I feel so great getting some zzzz's. Now I'm working on giving him cow milk over my breastmilk, and I have no breastmilk left in the freezer, and I barely make a drop when I pump, so I am really trying to get him to gradually drink the cow milk - then I'll really feel independent!

Sandra - posted on 02/02/2011

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Lisa, I just read your post and to tell you the truth, the Ferber's method i did notice my daughter got more upset when leaving the room...so i just never went back in again. Two nights later I just put her in the crib and said "Nite Nite" and she just cried for 20 minutes and fell asleep! Doesn't it feel great getting your Zzzzz's! Good Luck to you all!

Sandra - posted on 02/01/2011

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My daughter turned 1 on January 4th and she woke up every 2hrs and I thought it was because she wanted to nurse (co-sleeping) but it was actually her knowing I was there so she figured...why not? I was so delirious and I couldn't take it any longer. A friend told me about Ferbers method. Let me just say my daughter sleeps in her crib now from 8pm til 9am and puts herself back to sleep throughout the night! It is all about routine...routine...routine..she also takes naps after 3-4 hours being awake...naps at 12 and 4. then bedtime! Wish I would have done it sooner! She will cry at first but never longer than 20 min and now about 2 min

Kelly - posted on 02/01/2011

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I have twin 1 year old boys. They were both sleeping great through the night and then one of them started waking up every night around 12:30 or 1am. I also figured it was due to teething. I read something that they may too tired when you put them to bed. That didn't seem to be the case but I thought I'd give it a try. The boys were going to bed around 7:45pm and we kept putting them to bed earlier and earlier. Now they go to bed at 7pm and sleep until 5:30am. It worked for us so give it a try :)

Denise - posted on 01/31/2011

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just a few words of help look up Tizze Hall she has a great book out that has all the may be problems and how to solve eg
has he ate enough is he thristy is he cold or hot wet or dirty nappy is the room to cold or to hot is he waking up because when he was going to sleep it was aided etc

Terry-ann - posted on 01/31/2011

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Well if he is not waking up because of the pain,you should try letting him fall asleep by himself in the night. Feed him and put him down when he is very sleepy he will cry but let him cry for 5 mins then take him up back put him back down for 7 mins and so on.Within about 3-5 days he will be able to fall asleep on his own. When babies turn in the night they sometimes wake n if they are use to mommy of daddy rocking them to sleep then when they wake during the night they are going to want that to fall back asleep. This really work.

Cara - posted on 01/30/2011

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I have a one year old daughter who is up often at night too. We have been struggling for awhile and have tried so many things. It seems that if she naps well, 3-4 hrs, during the day, she sleeps a bit better at night. We ended up letting her nap in her carseat for now, as she tends to sleep for about 2-3 hours there. She will only nap for about an hour tops in her crib. I hate having her nap in her carseat but I've read that naps are key to night-time sleep and to do what you can to get good naps in while you are working on night sleep, and then work on better naps later. She is still up several times at night though, but we are still plugging away, trying new things and trying to stick to a routine. My best of luck to you!

Gail - posted on 01/30/2011

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I also have a 1 year old boy. He wakes all through the night as well - mostly every night. I decided early on to wait a few minutes before rushing into his room. I was hoping he would learn to fall back to sleep on his own.

It worked to my amazement the very first night and he puts himself back to sleep within minutes.



The Best Part; I have been able to sleep through the nights. Maybe you can try it? When you hear him wake; take a deep breath and wait a few minutes (maybe 5 maybe 10 if he seems to be getting quiet) if your lucky your baby will go right back to sleep. Its not the easiest thing to do but it is soooo worth it. Good Luck.

Jessica - posted on 01/29/2011

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Thanks ladies! I appreciate your comments. I am still battling with little one and let my mum have him for a couple of nights to give me a break! I've got so used to sleeping bad though that its hard to get a good nights rest! I am sure he is teething but need to try help him settle himself off at night without too much fuss or stress. He eats well daytime and doesn't sleep too much. I am trying everything I can to help him and just need to keep hoping things will change!

Kristina - posted on 01/28/2011

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is he eating a lot of solid foods during the day? not trying to insult you at all i just know that if my daughter sleeps more during the day and doesnt eat as much she wakes up more at night.

Ellie - posted on 01/28/2011

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My LO went through the same thing. We are just coming out of it now. He's still waking at 3am for a bottle. But I can live with that! Hope it goes well for you!

Alexandra - posted on 01/27/2011

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i would definitely check with the doctor. he might have an ear infection or something that is bothering him, and the doctor might even have some advise if there is nothing going on. we give teething tables, baby oragel and baby ibuprofen to our babies. we also like the gripe water because it is cool to the teeth and we use a small cloth that we put in cold water so that they can bite. it seems to help.

Tina - posted on 01/26/2011

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We've had the same issue here. What I've discovered is that if I do my best to keep to his "ideal schedule" and spend some one on one time with him after his nap in the afternoon it makes a big difference. We also have a night time routine...change diaper, put on PJ's, read story, go to bed. With the "constant" teething I have added: give teething tabs. They are the best! Give them to him right before bed. They don't cost much and work wonders. Also, I make sure he has eaten well and has a bottle shortly before bed.

Erin - posted on 01/26/2011

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Hi Jessica,

Is your son still taking two naps a day? If so, are they solid naps, or does he wake up early from them, or fight you when he's going down. He may be ready to switch to one nap if he hasn't already. It seems like my daughter started sleeping more solid at night when she started taking only one nap a day.

Jessica - posted on 01/26/2011

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Wow. I am not the only one going through this situation then, at least that is a little comfort. I feel for you two as I am going through it and know how you feel. Its hard especially when you have other kids to take care of and stuff to do around the house during the day. I hope you get some rest. Thanks for your replies...

Imola - posted on 01/25/2011

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Hi Jessica,

I am going through the same situation with my son, he is also 1 year old.he has been teething since he was 4 month old,and he is sleeping really badly.His gums have been swollen since he was 6 mo old,especially his canines, now his molars are swollen also. I give hi paracetamol suppositories, he is not taking meds orally well, and sometimes it helps, but he is waking up sometimes every hour!!!!! I had some lucky nights when ge slept through, but thoser rare. Motrin is the American version of ibuprofen, and teething tablets are like teething tablets. Sometimes they work, mostly they don't. I know how u feel, I am tired also, I just hope this passes soon.my son won't eat either, just formula, yoghurt and baby cereal.and that for 3 weeks now.I am desperate also

Jessica - posted on 01/25/2011

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Hi thanks Jessica - I haven't heard about teething tablets (are you in UK or USA?). We have teething powder which has chamomile extract but doesn't seem to help. What is motrin? I usually don't feed him unless he wakes after 5am as he does eventually settle off when he wakes up the rest of the night (without feeding). He wakes nearly every 2-3 hours and it seems to be a bad habit unless he really is in pain. Just don't know what to do!!!

Jessica - posted on 01/24/2011

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If its teething have you tried teething tablets? I use them for my twins and they work great. When they are about to cut a tooth I give them teething tablets and motrin before bed. It usually helps. They both get up once through the night just for comfort. Are you sure your LO isn't hungry? I know when mine go through a growth spurt they wake up often when they dont get enough during the day.

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