Separation Anxiety

Kelsey - posted on 12/08/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My son will be 1 Jan 11/11 and is going through major separation anxiety. I cant even leave the room or get up without him screaming to be held.
I cant carry him all day long and I am heading back to work soon after mat leave so he needs to get used to being without me.
Advice (besides holding him or wearing him)?

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Shantelle - posted on 12/10/2010

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My son is the same way! I have to go back to work in Jan so I'm going to start taking him to day care for a few hours a day to get him use to not being with me 24-7... My mom also suggested leaving the house for a bit so him and dad get time in together with out me being there... When I have a shower and get ready (30 mins) he gets really excited to see me like I've been gone forever... Makes me feel good though cause you know they love their mommy lots!

Mechelle - posted on 12/10/2010

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As a possible explination, I read somewhere once that when a baby can't see you they think you're gone. At a certian level of development they start to understand that there is a world other than what they can see in front of them.

Mechelle - posted on 12/10/2010

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Well, just remember it's a phase and he will outgrow it. When you leave him to go back to work he will be very upset, but he will eventually bond with the care provider. Is it possible to introduce him to the person who will be caring for him now so that he will be familiar with them? I dont' think you should try and fight his need to be with you. Allow it when you can, and dont' feel bad when you cant. Talk to him in a soothing voice so that he knows you're near, but ignore the cries.

Alinka - posted on 12/09/2010

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Angelo is not the only one!!! Thank God! I was kind of worried about this, my mom helps me with him sometimes and he does the same to her. Does someone knows why is this???

Jacquee - posted on 12/09/2010

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Hun I feel ur pain my son is also.going to be 1 on January 11th. He is the same way, everytime I leave he cries n screams. I just let him cry its so hard to do but he has got a lot better now sense I.started doing that. Its worse when my hubby tries to do things with him. I do work outside of the house n he goes to daycare he is fine when I take him to daycate its when he gets.home he acts like that. My doc said to let him cry
It is hard but he is gettkng so much better now
Hang in there :)

Mandy - posted on 12/09/2010

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my 11 month old is the same way. i am a ananny so i am with him all the time. he goes to work with me. he hardly ever lets my husband do anything for him. if he cant see me he freaks out. he wants to be held all the time. he does play with kids and toys if i am in the room. his daddy has to take him into a different room if he changes him or puts him to bed because iff he can see me he screams bloody murder. you are not alone

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