Should I get my daughter's ears peirced?

Angie - posted on 05/22/2010 ( 55 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 4 months old and I want to get her ears pierced but I am not sure I should.. On one hand I think it would be good to do it now so she doesnt mess with them, but on the other hand do I want to cause her pain for a day?

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Jessica - posted on 05/30/2010

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I think it is abuse to do it when they are so young when they have no choice.. just my opinion...i wont get my 2 girl's done till they ask me...

Nikki - posted on 05/31/2010

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I personally think there should be a law protecting babies from this. It should be a choice that they make when they are old enough to decide. If they are pierced when they are only 4 months, you're obviously doing it for yourself, not for the baby! I find it horrible. I have a 21week old baby and would never dream of doing it.

Suzanne - posted on 06/05/2010

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Piercing a baby's ears is something selfish parents do so they can make them look 'pretty'. Maybe you'll get a good deal if you get her bellybutton done at the same time.
I can't understand why people would choose to cause their child pain for no benefit whatsoever, at least when you take them for vaccinations you're trying to prevent them from getting sick...by getting their ears pierced all you're doing is causing pain and possibly introducing infection. I've had ear piercings that got infected, they're not pleasant but at least I only had myself to blame because I was old enough to decide for myself to get them done.

Murielle - posted on 06/04/2010

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I think it's absolutely cruel and selfish. Inflicting pain on a baby just for vanity's sake? You don't even know if they will like it when they grow up. I had to watch a baby being pierced and it was heatbreaking. The little girl was so distressed and screamed that you could hear her miles away. In my opinion, this is irresponsible and cruel and should be illegal. Also, there is always a risk for it to get infected.
Don't get me wrong, I have many piercings myself, but I got them when I decided that I wanted them and I would never ever put my little girl trough such pain.

Jaimee - posted on 06/03/2010

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my husband and I agreeed to what till our girls are 13 if they want it then we will take them but if not we arent putting holes in there head they might not want later on

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Angie - posted on 06/07/2010

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Thank you everyone for your comments most of them were very helpful on the should I or shouldn't I as for the other ones now I know if I ask any questions I should add please be kind and dont tell me that I am a cruel mom. I would never tell a mom that and I am shocked that it was said to me. As for my daughter she is 5 months old now and we are going today to get her ears pierced that way I can take care of them and we wont have any problems.

Lisa - posted on 06/07/2010

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Personally i wouldnt do it just because i dont it suits babies, i think it makes them look older and its ugly to me, The father says he would do it but i refuse for my daughter rto have them the injections are bad enough for me to sit through let alone somebody hurting my baby just for viewing pleasure

Emily - posted on 06/07/2010

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I had Paula's ears when she was 2 months old. It was not as bad as I feared it would be. She did cry, but only for a couple of seconds - while the shock wore off and then she was smiling again. Cleaning the ears till they healed was a little harder because she was not too keen on having her ears touched, but after about a week, they were healed and now all is well. I pierced my ears when I was over 20 and the pain was unbearable moreover it took almost 2 months for the pain to go away. I think better now than later.

Jo - posted on 06/07/2010

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I wouldn't get my daughters ears done, any of them. (i have 3) My eldest is 11 & every year i ask her if she wants them done & every year she says no. She uses clip ons & she likes them. I had to wait till I was 13 before I was allowed to get mine done

Allison - posted on 06/06/2010

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I considered getting our daughter's done that first year. I talked with my husband and we came to the conclusion that it is HER body we'll wait until she wants them. I didn't have mine pierced until I was in grade school and it was a responsibility to keep the holes and the earrings clean. Good luck with your decision!

Diane - posted on 06/06/2010

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I think that inflicting any pain on a child without good reason is cruel and as the lobes continue to grow then you won't necessarily get the best result as they get older. Wait until the child is old enough to decide for themselves that the pain is worth the beauty. Don't compare the pain to the pain of vaccinations. I hate getting my children jabbed but they are necessary to prevent far greater pain, distress or even death. The same goes for blood tests. This is unnecessary!

Natalie - posted on 06/06/2010

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I just got Daniela ear pierced on Wednesday and I too was worried about causing her pain. But it was as bad as I thought it was going to be. She cried for a second and she was back to laughing and cooing.

Gina Lee - posted on 06/05/2010

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personally, i would wait till she's in elementary school. that way she can take care of her ears to avoid infection and she has a say in whether or not she actually would want to pierce her ears.

Erin - posted on 06/05/2010

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My step-daughter Alanna was a pain in the butt and we waited till she was 5yrs old, ugh. so as soon as My new baby Breya was 11weeks I went ahead and had them pierced, No problems or infections they healed really fast where as Alanna's were all red and she had to get antibiotics so i think she played with them too much.

Katalin - posted on 06/04/2010

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I think it makes girls really pretty. There are some countries where they do it just a couple of days after they were born. My parents asked me to have my oldest daughters done when she was a baby, but we refused to do it, because my mother-in-law was against it. I have a 4 month, and a 22month old daughter and had their ears pierced a few weeks ago. There was no problems at all. Not even with my oldest. Kids take it easier than adults! I was fed up with people asking if my little one was a boy!!! (even though she wears pink)

Jennifer - posted on 06/04/2010

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I had my daughter's done at two months, same day as her shots. In a few minutes she forgot about them, and now they're healed. Much better than doing it when she's older and will mess with them all the time. She was hurting from the vacc. anyway, so when she got home, she had some baby tylenol and slept through it.

Allyson - posted on 06/04/2010

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I had both of my girls done as soon as they had their first shots. Where I am in Ontario, as long as they have their 2 month shot and can hold their own head they will do it. the nerves in the earlobes are not developed at this point and they do NOT feel the pain. Most babies cry because the noise of the gun is loud right next to the ear. It is easier also from a hygeine stand point to have them done at this young age. This way YOU as the parent are taking the responsibility of cleaning them, instead of letting them take care of them. My youngest who is 4 and a half months is going this weekend to get hers done :)

Tori - posted on 06/03/2010

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i think that 4months is too young. babies are just learning to reach and grab for things, and i'm sure she'll pull at them, [especially if she gets an ear infection, heaven forbid]. i think it's better to wait to pierce little earrs until the child can talk, at least a little. that way if they start to get infected or something, they can let you know...instead of just crying and pulling at them.

Helen - posted on 06/03/2010

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I'm sorry, I think that it is wrong that you would think about inflicting ANY sort of distress or pain upon your child for vanity's sake. You're crazy... thats just my opinion.



thats a cop out that 'it only hurts for a second' and 'they don't remember it'

any pain is distressing to a baby. To think that you would willingly subject your child to that to serve what is obviously a desire of yours (nothing to do with the child) is WRONG!



If she wishes to make that decision when she is older, then that is her choice NOT YOURS!

Lizzie - posted on 06/03/2010

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its up 2 u but my partner whants my son 2 have just 1 of his done but i sed if he wants it when he is older coz then he can make his own mined up coz as he gets older he may not want it and is kinda a wast of money so if u think of it that way it would be a bit better but its up 2 u reali

Shcquaaya - posted on 06/01/2010

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Hey. I took my daughter to get her ears peirced when she was 2 months old. Yeah she cried for a little bit but that was it. Before I took her I put baby orajel on her ears to numb then a little. I think little girls look so pretty with earrings. You should go for it!

Melissa - posted on 06/01/2010

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if i were you i'd wait until she is 6 months. it would just be safer in my eyes. She is so young though that she won't remember the incident at all after a few days so i would do it while she is a baby. They are tougher than we think and her ears will heal pretty quick too

Julie - posted on 05/31/2010

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i always thought it looked cute on baby girls, but i dont think i would ever do this. my own opinion: if they want holes in their bodies, let them make that choice... when they are old enough.

Jena - posted on 05/31/2010

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I had my daughters ears done at 3 months. It took alot of convincing from my hubby and my family. Ok Yes she cried but it was for a total of 1 minute after it was done. She never fusses with them and I think it is better to do it when they are this young as the pain is forgotten very quickly. My brother waited until his youngest girl was years older and after the first ear was done she freaked and would not let them do the other ear.

In the end it is really up to you.

And as someone pointed out what if she doesn't want them pierced when shes older... Thats an easy fix she just takes them out. LOL

Angela - posted on 05/31/2010

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i got both of my daughters ears pierced when they were 6 months old... i thought it was a good age, because they dont remember it and they only cry for like 2 minutes... then it was on with their day. i think if you are going to do it, either do it when the baby is young enough not to play with them or old enough to take care of them her self

Estela - posted on 05/31/2010

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My daughter just turned four months...and after she gets her shots we are getting her ears pierced.

Karren - posted on 05/29/2010

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i want to get my daughters ears pierced before she is 6 mths because they deal with pain alot better while they are younger but finding places that will do it is a nightmare and its easier while the are young to clean and maintain them so yes get them done now i say for 2 secs of pain now then having hrs later.i will as soon as i can find somewhere to do it in melb and my daughter is nearly 5 mths

Jennifer - posted on 05/28/2010

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why not i got my daughters done when she was 3 months old. just go when baby is going to be ready to eat that way when she is done you have a bottle ready.

Angela - posted on 05/28/2010

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I had my ears done when I was about 10, and had alot of trouble with them, because I didnt take care of them like I should have. My husband and I wanted to get our daughters done, so we asked around. We were told to do it when she was about 5 months. She done fine, they had two people, so they done both ears at the same time and she barely even cried. She was more upset that I was holding her still than from any pain. She has done fine with them and with her being small I was able to properly clean them and take care of them without her picking at them. She is almost 2 and she doesnt bother them since they were done when she was little. I think it is better to do it when they are smaller if it is something you want done, and if she decides she doesnt want them when she is older she can take them out.

Kara - posted on 05/27/2010

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My 1st Daughter was about 9 months when I got her Ears done. She is now 8 yrs. old. My other daughter is a bit over 4 months and I'm going to wait until after 6 months. Doctor recommends that they have shots before getting them done

Reena - posted on 05/27/2010

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hey there! My daughter is also just over 4 months and I am going to pierce her ears this weekend... the reason that I am doing it now is because my Dr. advised us that to wait longer is actually more traumatic for the baby because at this point in time the nerves in their ears are not quite fully developed, so there is less pain... the longer you wait the more they are going to feel it...

So, I'll be doing it this weekend! Good Luck in making the decision!!!

Naomi - posted on 05/27/2010

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When they are babies that is the best time to get them done unless you wait untill they understand to NOT play with them. however it depends on where you go to how old... some places wont do it till 6 months i know where i live that is the case and i still believe that is fine. my mum got mine done when i was one. there is no inportance to getting them done at any age but alot of mothers like to have their daughters ears pierced cause its more girly. i think do as you see fit she is your daughter no one elses but make sure where ever you go that everything is clean, obviously, and clean the ears with warm sold water 3 times a day (i used to work in the industry) you can use the solution they recommened either is fine but sometimes its also good to alternate too :0 good luck

Cherri - posted on 05/27/2010

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I did my daughters at 8 weeks, she is 20 weeks now and has had no problems.She only cried for a minute when thye were done. My older girls didnt get them done until they were 8 and 10 and both girls got infections. I recommend doing them young.

Shannon - posted on 05/27/2010

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I had a friend of mine that works at the Walmart jewelry counter do my daughters. there were 2 of them and they each did an ear at the same time. it made things so much easier. 1-2-3 and it was done. Mikaela fussed for a second then was smiling.

Shannon - posted on 05/27/2010

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I just got Mikaelas done yesterday.. she barely cried I think it lasted maybe 15 seconds then she was fine. She cried more at her 4 month shots. Shes doing great on day 2. just cleaned them with the solution and a q-tip. but she has no trouble rolling around still and laying on her side. I read that its easier to get them done when they are young cause after 6 months they are more apt to grab at her ears and tug at the earrings. Good Luck..

Emily - posted on 05/26/2010

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i have friends from ecuador that litterally got their daughtes ears pierced 2 hours after birth!

i know it looks cute but i personally wished my momwould have waited a little longer for me. i dont like wearing earings now because of the placement of the hole.

earrings hang really close to my jawline so it bothers me to wear dangling earings. your ears grow even after death but the placement of the hole never changes.
i have also seen lots of girls whos parents got her ears pierced too young and their ears hang funny when they hve ears in.

they make lots of cute clip ons for kids and adults that look like the real deal online.

Jennifer - posted on 05/26/2010

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I have 3 girls and all of them have pierced ears. My 1st two were 2 months and the youngest was closer to 3 months. They each cried for about 5 minutes, give or take, and that was it. I personally think they had a stronger reaction to their shots than to the piercings. They are easier to take care of when they are little. I was 10 when I got mine pierced and although I didn't find it painful (in fact the woman who did it was so impressed with me that she gave me a free pair of earrings), I wish I could have had it done sooner. I remember my sister was jealous and wanted hers pierced too, she was 5 and they had to take the 1st earring out because she freaked out and wouldn't let them do the other side. She was a teenager before she got them pierced. I think it's up to you but I personally think babies look cute with little earings.

Tammy - posted on 05/26/2010

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My daughter is 4 months old and we decided to wait. We will get her ears pierced when she is old enough to care for them herself.

Karen - posted on 05/26/2010

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I got my daughters done when she was almost 4 months and she didn't even cry. The younger they are the less likely they are to play with them and get them infected or fuss when you are cleaning them. The chances of a child growing up not wanting them is very slim because if they've had them all that time they will be used to them and if it does happen it's easily remedied....Just take them out. No biggie.

Kelsey - posted on 05/26/2010

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Hi! I really think you should get them done early. I got my daughter's ears pierced when she was 11 weeks old and she cried at the time she hasn't cried about them since, not even that evening when I cleaned and twisted them! It was heartbreaking to hear her cry for that five minutes and I admit I shed a tear too but now I'm glad I did it then because recently she's started grabbing her feet, hair and yes her ears, but no problems so far. Good Luck!

Melissa - posted on 05/26/2010

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Before I made any decisions, I went down to the mall and watched another young baby, prob 4-5 months get her's done. She screamed terribly and after that, I just haven't been able to do it. I know its better to do when they are younger so they don't tug and pull at them but watching that baby cry was simply too much. I have a hard enough time seeing my little girl go through shots! Just be prepared because not all babies take it very well.

Joanna - posted on 05/26/2010

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It should be her decision in my opinion. You say it hurts less now but where is the proof, just coz they can't say it hurt does not mean it does not. My LO had her jabs done today and it breaks my heart so why you would choose to have needles stuck in your baby is beyond me. Not wanting to offend anyone as its your life, your baby but I don't like to see little babies with pierced ears, there is plenty of time for things like that when they are grown up. I like my LO's earlobes fleshy just the way she was born!!

Amber - posted on 05/25/2010

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Mine were done at 6 weeks and there were no complications, but I think there is a lot to be said for giving your daughter the option to make the decision for herself. I don't mind if my daughter wants to get hers done, but I'm going to wait until she asks for it.

Candice - posted on 05/25/2010

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My daughter was 3 weeks when we got hers done and she don't mess with them. My nieces got their when they came home from the hospital adn none of them has a problem. Just clean and turn them everyday and change them about 4 weeks after it's done.

Jayla - posted on 05/24/2010

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My daughter is 4 months old and I am going to wait tell she is at least 6 months old. I used to work at wal-mart and I pierced the kids ears all the time. They don't recommend you do it tell they are a little bit older because their ear lob can get bigger when they get older but its up to you mommy.

Angie - posted on 05/24/2010

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Well after talking to my mom she helped me. She informed me that I had my earings in my ears the day I left the hostipal I guess they did them back then. She also told me that my younger sister had hers done at 2 months and we were both fine with it. And that it will hurt me more than her so We are going to go this weekend and get them done

Melissa - posted on 05/22/2010

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I have really wanted to get my daughters done too but I cannot get up the nerve to take her LOL. My doctor said that it was fine though. My husband is not happy that I want to do it and threatens to take her for a tattoo if I take her but I think as long as he isn't there he will be fine with it. If you take her please post. Maybe I will get up the nerve then :)

April - posted on 05/22/2010

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Well the way I look at it, it should be your childs decision. I had to wait till I was 9 before I could get mine done and my sister is almost 40 now and doesnt have hers done and doesnt want them done. What would she have done if she would have got them done when she was a baby and grew up not wanting them. That is just my opinion. I know it is less painful now but if they want it done then you can explain how it is going to hurt instead of them just hurting and not knowing why.

Tiffany - posted on 05/22/2010

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my baby get is 4 months and i want to get them done and just like me and you it only hurt for a while then we are fine , babys take to pain really easy but i have to wait till she is 6 months which suck cux once they get older they start messing with them !

Becky - posted on 05/22/2010

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It is less painful then a shot at 4 months.. they have no idea what just happened and in 5 mins they are the same happy baby. I had my first daughter done at 2 months and 2 minutes later she was laughing again. And best of all they don't grab at them so it makes it easier for cleaning. I'm upset that where I live I cant get my youngest done till 6 months (because we are Americans)..

Tiffany - posted on 05/22/2010

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Both of my daughters slept right through it. Just a little whimper at the end. I say go for it.....if you can handle it LOL. There is nothing wrong with it! Everyone has there own opinion about these kinds of things. It's what ever feels right. My oldest daughter was 7 months when I got hers done. And my youngest daughter was 5 months. And I don't put diamonds in my girls' ears lol. Just regular hypoallergenic earings.

Laura - posted on 05/22/2010

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Personally - I think 4 months is too young. What is the benefit to her?

Growing up - I had to wait until my 13th birthday, but I know that is sort of out of the question these days.

It's crazy to think it, but my mother in law always comments when she sees little babies with diamond earrings - she says that there are 'sick people in this world, and they would take that baby just for her earrings...'. I know that's a bit extreme...

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