when is sex comfortable after baby?

Stephanie - posted on 06/01/2010

I've had sex with my husband a month after I had my son. It hurt at first, but we were just slow at first (sorry, TMI) and I kinda just pushed through it and now all systems, they are a go!! ;)

Haleana - posted on 05/11/2010

Hi, my son is 14 weeks old and me and my husband have only tried to have sex once. When we did it was absolute agony. I went to the doctors after the 8 week mark and was told I had an infection. I've just finished my antibiotics but have since come on my first period since the birth (typical) so we still haven't tried again. I'm a bit scared of it to be honest as it was so painful last time. I would get checked out anyway to be safe because you never know. You might have an infection too. I had an episiotomy at birth so this has made things slightly worse too. I hope it gets better for both of us! x

Debbie - posted on 05/10/2010

I think it all depends on what type of delivery you had as well. With my 4th child, i had sex 6 days after he was born (I know, you are probably thinking how could I of even thought about having sex so soon after, but the timing and mood was right for us!!!!), but then with my baby born on 9 Jan 2010, things were so different, I didn't feel like it cause it was sore and uncomfortable the first time we tried, around 8 weeks. It was uncomfortable for the first few times, but we tried it everyday for about a week, and things are great now. We used lubrication and that really helped a lot. Good luck

Gwen - posted on 04/28/2010

It does hurt when you try it at the 5 week mark, so I recommend waiting till 6 weeks have passed. If more than 8 weeks have passed, then there should be no pain. If you still experience pain, then you should tell a doctor.

Manda - posted on 04/28/2010

thank you all so much!!! i really appreciate it and sarah i am going to try the grapeseed oil thank you for the suggestion =)

Amanda - posted on 04/28/2010

make sure your body heals it will tell you when it is ready believe me. it is frustraing for a little bit mut just think your body just got done carring a baby and it need time to heal. I started feeling comfortable when my son was almost two months old.

Amanda - posted on 04/27/2010

when i had my son we waited 2 weeks after he was born it was painful the first two times, but then it was back to normal, also if your breastfeeding it might be making you dry.

Sarah - posted on 04/27/2010

It is always a little uncomfortable after having a baby to have sex. The more you try the better it get. I had my daughter january 23 and it hurt the first time so my husband tried the your and mine ky. I didn't think it was all that great. Something he got off of a tv show was grapeseed oil. He gave me a massage with it which made me totally relax. Then try having sex. The grapeseed oil can also be used as a lubericant. It's cheaper too. Good Luck!

Morgan - posted on 04/27/2010

I am 14 weeks in and have been trying since the 6 week mark,
It is still a bit painfull, but my doctor said the less you try the more it hurts :) just keep trying and lots of foreplay/lube, it gets better :)