9 month olds temper
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Gabriela - posted on 08/22/2012
my daughter is 10 months.. she hits ppl when they take things away from her or when she wants things from them i never seen a baby this way shes just out of control! when its time for bed she wont sleep she wants to play all night i usually let her play with the lights off! she gets mad and cries all night but it only last 45 mins the most till she falls asleep on her own. i honestly dont know how to control her i dont want to spoil her and give her everything she wants! i thinks shes like this because shes always around boys.
Catherine - posted on 07/05/2010
my little girl has had a bit ov a temper for a while she will throw herself backwards or forwards and scream ery loudly...i will tell her no shake my head at her and point the finger....i belive that babys of this age do understand as my wee girl will go 2 touch something now and look at me and point her wee finger and shake her head and if a tell her no she will some times crawl away
Christy - posted on 07/04/2010
My little girl has a huge temper. If she kinds something on the floor and tries to put it in her mouth I tell her no no. She will scream at me and try doing it again and I say no again. She will then throw her hands in the air and try hitting her head on the floor.
Jess - posted on 07/04/2010
Just wanted to let you know I have deleted a few post's that were promoting spanking. This is because it goes against THUMPS as these babies are under the age of 2.
On a personal note, Ava has been doing this a lot lately. I think now is a great time to start teaching them what that feeling is, whether it be anger, frustration, tiredness.
So when Av is cranky at me for taking something off of her I say "are you cranky at mummy? Its OK to be cranky". I know she doesn't get it, but one day she will and it builds up her communication skills so we will have more talking and less screaming ! * Thats the plan anyway*
Just a quick note, there is a new group on COM's that focus's on behaviour technique's its called "Positive Behaviour Strategies - solutions without smacking". It has loads of tips for these very issue's.
I would love to see you all there !
Nanette - posted on 07/02/2010
After reading all of your tempermental kids I realized mine doesn't have such a bad temper.... yet. lol. she doesn't have any teeth, and she doesn't hit... yet. praying it doesn't happen, but guess it might be inevitable. She just gets mad and screams and cries...
Ruth - posted on 07/02/2010
yeh its normal, my son, is told no in a firm no nonsence voice often. most of the time he listens but sometimes, he starts fussin and baby talking in a loud voice. dosnt work. he gets told no a lot and sometimes even moved away from what he is after and told no one more time. the best defence is a good offence keep on saying no and teaching your babys right from wrong. it take a long time because there is just so much to learn.
Maria - posted on 07/02/2010
Oh my gosh. My son is a lil monster! He literally gets violent. He will kick his legs, scream at me, slap me, throw his head back and cry, and he's just barely 9 months old! I try to tell him "be gentle" and "niiice baby" when he pulls hair, and hits, but so far no luck. If he's throwing a fit over not getting what he wants I will just ignore him until he realizes that does NOT work.
Nicole - posted on 07/01/2010
My daughter is nine months and she has MASSIVE temper tantrums where she screams and throws her body into fits for any reason. wether it be for changing her diaper or telling her she cant have something or trying to feed her. i just tell her no and put her in time out in her bed lol and shel scream for a few minutes but shel get over it....I refuse to let her get away with that
Lucinda - posted on 07/01/2010
oh my! i thought it was just me, my little girl has a temper too especially when she needs to go in the buggy, she'd straighten her legs so rigidly and makes it difficult to make her sit then she'd cry, only does it to me though not to daddy hmm
Mylene - posted on 06/30/2010
It is normal at this stage for kids to start pushing their boundaries. My little girl has not shown much of a tantrum yet, but when she does something we don't like, we immediately say no and redirect her to something else that is acceptable. The key is consistency.
Katrina - posted on 06/30/2010
Yes my DD has a temper too, if she doesn't get her own way, look out! Especially when she wants a magazine you're reading etc. DH says "No" to her, but she's too young to get that, so I try to take her mind off it with something else :)
Krista - posted on 06/30/2010
Ava has a temper. She cried when I take something away from her that she's not supposed to have, like the remote that she keeps managing to get at no matter where I put it! I also watch a little boy and when she tries to take his toy and he takes it back she cries. I ignore the crying and re-direct her to another activity. If she's still angry and crying I ignore it and start doing my own thing until she's done. I'm hoping that if she realizes at an early age that I'm not going to give in it won't be as much of a battle when she's older (but maybe that's just wishful thinking!)
Laura - posted on 06/30/2010
Yes lol. I have a strong-willed little girl. We just make sure that we maintain control when she wants something. Getting mad back doesn't maintain control. We just calmly take back or put back or undo when she gets mad and takes something or messes something up. That way she knows her tantrums aren't working.
On the other hand, I am glad I have a strong-willed daughter. I know it will be hard when she is young, but I am glad that she hopefully won't turn out too shy and insecure like me. :)
I would much rather her be secure and have lots of integrity than be a doormat when she is older.
Kandace - posted on 06/29/2010
MY SON HAS A VERY BAD TEMPER AND HE IS NINE MONTHS. HIS TEMPER COMES OUT WHEN HE I AM NOT IN HIS SIGHT OR WHEN HE IS JUST MAD BECAUSE HE AINT GETTING FEED FAST ENOUGH OR EVEN WHEN HE IS DONE EATING. HE HITS AND SCREAMS AND JSUT GOES INTO THESE BIG BLOW OUT TEMPERS. ME AND MY HUSBAND TELL HIM THAT IT IS NOT POLITE TO HIT AND TO BE NICE. AND WHEN IT GETS TO BAD WE JUST SIT HIM IN HIS BED AND HE REALIZES THAT HE HAD GOTTEN INTO TROUBLE AND THAT HIS TEMPER ISNT GETTING HIM ANY WHERES. HE ALSO THROWS A TEMPER WHEN HE IS TIRED AND HE FIGHT HIS SLEEP. IT HAS GOTTEN SO BAD THAT I JUST LEAVE HIM IN HIS ROOM AND WALK AWAY AND COOL DOWN AND LET HIM CRY IT OUT. I HOPE THAT THIS DONT MAKE ME A BAD PARENT. IHAVE TRIED TRIED AND TRIED AND I JUST DONT KNOW ANYTHING ELSE TO DO
Sarah - posted on 06/29/2010
well my 9mth old does not have a temper at all. the only problem i have is that i have 4 step kids that come every secnd weekend. the pick him up ever time he cries and that does not help when they go home and im trying to get things done like cook tea and he is at y feet crying to get picked up or he pulls him self up with my pants and then i can not do anything
Sonya - posted on 06/28/2010
my little ones going through the tantrums too. i think they pretty much all do. im not sure but it seems that every kid i've been around at this age has that little mean streak running through them some times. i think with time it will wear down. just as they get older help them to comprehend theres other ways to let out frustration instead of hitting or what ever
Kathy - posted on 06/28/2010
Oh yes, my 9 mo daughter has a bad temper... she usually will cry & scream, sometimes hit and what ever else she can till either she gives up or I give in (which only happens if she wants up) She also "talks" back... we'll say "NO" if she's getting into something, she'll stick her tongue out and babble at us in a tone that sounds like talking back. For such a little girl she's already getting an attitude!!
Jennifer - posted on 06/28/2010
My daughter is doing alot of the same things. Now that she is crawling, if sh gets into something she shouldn't and you move her away she yells. She does the same thing if she wants me instead of dad (which really bums out my husband). She is really starting to assert herself. Its worse when she is tired, naturally, but she is naturally so easy going and good natured, i'm not too worried just yet.
Bridget - posted on 06/28/2010
im with you- my normally very happy goes from smiling to throwing tantrums in a half of a second! She pounds her fists and kicks her legs into the ground! She hits hard sometimes! Her doctor told me one day that she is a brat (he said it laughingly!) and said I am going to have my hands full and should start working with her to not throw these tantrums! We have worked on it and she actually hits less now, and throws less tantrums but when she gets going its incredible!
Maggie - posted on 06/28/2010
oh good, i thought i was the only one with a tempramental baby. Oscar will put his head down on the floor and whinge. Not hit it or anything though. i try not to laugh. but it does get to me sometimes so i just pop him in his cot and ignore him
Andrea - posted on 06/28/2010
Oh yes I think it pretty normal for this age I have 4 kids and can remember each of them having all different some worse than other. My baby has to the worst of them all I blame it on the red hair lol. She screams, hits and bites. The hitting is usally when someone picks her up and she doesn't what them she smack you face and sream till you put her down. At her 9 month check we were in the room waiting for the Dr to come in and she keep going in front of the door and I didnt want him to open and hit her I kept moving her finally I picked her up and she got mad and screamed throw herself backward hit me right in the throat with her head it really hurt, i put my hand on the back of head so she couldnt throw herself backwards so she smacks me, then I stood on the chair between my legs an she bite my leg. I think biting is her favorite thing. It is worse when tired which is oh so much fun since she been fighting her naps durning the day. When she bites it really hurt those baby teeth are sharp. I havent done anything about it at this point she a baby there not a whole lot you can do or to my talking you can do I try to tell her not nice.
Cassie - posted on 06/28/2010
my daughter has the worst temper! she screams and throws herself back if you do someting she dosent like she smack you if you make her made and she tries to bite on purpose!! right now its more of a cute thing im more worried about when she gets older
Lacy - posted on 06/28/2010
My son also has a temper, especially if we take away a toy he is playing with or a bottle. He arches his back and just screams, its actually hard to hold him he throws himself around so much. At this stage I dont do much, I hold him till he calms down or try to distract him with something else. I also have a hard time not smiling or laughing when he does this, I'm sure when hes older it wont be so funny.
Sarah - posted on 06/27/2010
my little boy actually screams at me sometimes! I just cant believe it already... I just ignore it, and distract him. play with other toys. if he does it because he wants something, i do not give it to him, and find something else that will distract him. Its hillarious, for now, but just so unbelievable such a young age. we try very hard not to laugh, but sometimes i need to turn my head to smile away!
Nanette - posted on 06/27/2010
Yea, my daughter's temper comes out when she's tired too. While nursing my daughter likes to idky but push on my boob so that my nipple is the only thing in her mouth... I push her hand away and say "no" and she will flip out. lol. she will kick her feet and get mad. Also when she wants me and not daddy she will go balistic. when she doesn't want her diaper changed she will scream and hold her fists real tight and make her face all red. Maybe this is just a look into the future at terrible twos.. lol
Hazel - posted on 06/26/2010
I am experiencing a temper with my baby girl. She sometimes will hit my hand away from her when she's doesn't want any more baby food. I have been trying to teach her "gentle" and "not nice". Her temper comes out most when she's very sleepy and she has been known to scream already when she's told "No touch" I too would love some pointers on this subject