Help! Advice for sleeping through the night for a 17 w.o.!

Mary - posted on 01/06/2010 ( 44 moms have responded )

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My little guy is 17 weeks old and does not sleep through the night! He has only maybe 4 or 5 times total. He is on the E.A.S.Y schedule so he eats every 4-5 hours and takes 1 hour nap in the a.m. and one 1.5 hour nap in the afternoon. He goes in his crib between 9 and 9:30 pm and I do a 12 a.m. dreamfeed. He wakes consistently around 2 am and 5 am. I try to do the Pick Up Put Down method to see if maybe he just needs to be comforted but at 2 I finally resort to formula because he won't settle down and stop crying. At 2 am he takes about 4 0z. and then at 5 takes only about 2 oz. It is so frustrating especially at 5 because he is screaming like he is starving but really he isn't since he takes only 2 and falls asleep until 7:30. When he wakes up he isn't even hungry until like 8:30 am. My husband works 3rd shift so I'm mostly doing all night feedings on my own so I'm feeling like a walking zombie. I've tried tracking his day, shortening his naps and adding more formula and cereal to his day but nothing seems to be working. I have only seen posts about babies sleeping thorough the night. Are there other babies who are not sleeping through the night? For those who are - please advise!

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Amanda - posted on 01/12/2010

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Luckily my baby has been sleeping through the night for a little over a month now. He still rooms in with us. He stirs sometimes and I need to give him his pacifier again - but I haven't had to feed him during the night at all this last month. I also tried to use the EASY routine. I try to follow it as much as possible - but I found myself getting so stressed when he wouldn't follow it completely. In that book they said to not cluster feed in the evenings after 8 weeks...but I never found an explanation as to why. My baby's 4 months now - I have not started cereal yet. I breastfeed him...he eats about every 3 hours during the day and then he still cluster feeds in the evening...eating every 2 hours. Usually this is around 6, 8, and 10pm. Sometimes the 10pm feed is a dream feed....if it's not he always falls asleep after that feed. I'm not exactly sure what to tell you. Advice that I have been given is to not pick them up during the night. Try to give them a pacifier, pat them, and reassure them with your voice. Maybe your baby has now in a habit of waking at those times. If this absolutely does not work then pick him up. Especially at 5am he must not be waking due to hunger since he only eats a few ounces. From other moms I've talked to...some babies just don't sleep through the night for quite some time. So don't think your baby is not normal! I wish we could just read these "helpful books" and know what our baby should exactly be doing....but every baby is different.

Megan - posted on 01/11/2010

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The women who have kids this age that sleep through the night are extremely lucky. But keep in mind that most babies DO NOT sleep through the night until they are closer to a year old. So those who do sleep all night long are rare! Consider yourself lucky if you are one of these parents!

That being said. The rice cereal may actually be waking him up at night. Their digestive systems are not ready until 6-7 months to fully accept and be able to process solid food. Especially something as constipating as rice cereal. Most babies on rice cereal wake frequently due to bloating and digestive issues. This is straight from the mouth of my Ped GI so I trust what he says!

I've had two children sleep through the night by 3 months. One didn't until about 11 months and now my youngest is 3.5 months and not sleeping through. All children are different. You could do everything suggested in this thread and still nothing might not work. It all depends on your baby.

Good luck and I hope you can find something that works. If not, just remember that it is completely normal!!

Marcie - posted on 01/11/2010

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Hi Mary! I was told not to expect my 16 week old to sleep through the night. He normally goes down anywhere between 7:30 and 10:30 pm. He wakes twice in the night and eats 4oz at each feeding. He sleeps a lot more than your baby does during the day. Maybe you should stop the Dreamfeed and just let him wake when he is hungry. We tried rice in his bottle, but that didn't keep him asleep any longer and it constipated him. Unfortunately, I don't think most babies sleep through the night at this point and those that do, well, their mom's are lucky! I know it is hard because I go through it too and sleep is at a premium! Do you work or do you stay home with him? You could try napping when he naps, that might help get you a couple extra hours. I figure, housework can wait :)

Alexandra - posted on 01/11/2010

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My son turns 4 months old tomorrow and lucky for us, he's been sleeping through the night for about 3 weeks now. He's on a similar nap pattern- takes about an hour nap around 10 am and another longer nap around 2 pm. When I first started encouraging him to sleep though the night, I'd put him down, on his back, around 7:30-8, and for the first couple weeks, he did all right, but he'd always wake up around 3 am on the dot. I'd nurse him and he'd be back asleep in minutes. My mother actually took him for the night and put him down on his stomach and TADA, he's been sleeping through the night ever since.



I know there is all this advice out there discouraging babies to sleep on their stomach bc of SIDS risk, but we put a fan on to keep the air circulating and make sure there is nothing in the crib that can get caught around his face and it works. He goes from about 7:30p-7a now and even though I still get up to check on him, he never actually needs me.



Good luck, I'll be crossing my fingers for you, in my opinion, more sleep = happy ma!

Donna - posted on 01/18/2010

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hi my little lady is 4 months old and im sorry ive never had this problem ive had my daughter sleeping though the night since she was 6 weeks but what i can suggest is the three Bs bath bottle and bed, and if he wakes up during the night try talking to him softly keeping the lights as low as possible and if that dont work (i know it sounds hard) but dont talk to him just tuck him back into bed and leave im, it may mean a few restless nights but its worth it in the long run, hopr this works

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Amanda - posted on 05/22/2014

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My 17 week old has slept through the night since she was born! Now she sleeps about 8-10 hours through the night without waking, then wakes to eat, and goes back to sleep for 2-4 more hours. My best suggestion is to try your best to make your evenings a routine with your lo. My dd gets a bath around 7-8pm and then gets a bottle and then I put her in her swing and she goes to sleep. I also leave the tv on the "baby first" channel. It plays really soothing music for babies to sleep to. And, I give her a bath with the night time bath set made by Johnson & Johnson. It works like a charm and always has for her. I feel very blessed to have a baby that has slept well since birth. I also give her some baby food at bed time before her bottle. Her pediatrician has had her on rice cereal since she was a month old to help with her acid reflux. Now, the baby food helps keep her bottle down because it's more solid on her belly. It really helps keep her full at night. It doesn't hurt them, a lot of pediatricians recommend giving it to them at this age if you've already done the cereal. But, still I would ask your lo dr before giving it to them. And, if by some chance you don't, you should wait a few days in between the kind of food you give them (apples, pears, sweet potato's etc) to make sure they don't have an allergy to any of it. I hope this helps!!

Niki - posted on 01/18/2010

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i'm lucky, my 4month old basically sleeps through the night, i noticed that a lot of the babies on here had long naps during the day. my son is usually up for an hour or 2 then has a half hour/ 45min nap, and so on. usually about 3-4 naps a day. we have a bedtime schedule between 7-8 (but we're thinking of changing that to 8-9), and he now knows that that means bedtime and a longer sleep. if he does wake up through the night we just give him his soother and stuffy and he rolls over back to sleep. what i understand is that by 4 months they shouldn't need extra feedings at night, but some babies wont sleep through the night for a long time. i really hope it gets better, for all of you, and i highly recommend a bedtime routine!!

Korey - posted on 01/13/2010

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My little guy was born September 26th. He doesn't sleep through out the night. We co-sleep and he wakes a couple of times through out the night to feed. Have you tried bringing him into your room? I know it's a double edged sword because then you have to break him of sleeping with you but I know, I hardly wake up when he wants to eat and I certainly don't have to worry about walking to his room. My guy sleeps two four hour periods with a feeding break in between, no naps during the day except the occasional cat nap. He doesn't like to really go down before 2 am., which is rather anti-social but I'm happy to get the sleep. I'm a single mom so all hours of the day are just me.
I hear it gets better :)

Taisha - posted on 01/13/2010

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My son is 3 1/2 months old and has been sleeping through the night since he was about 7 weeks old I give him a bath about 8pm ( with lavender soap) and a 6 oz bottle with 2 spoonfuls of rice cereal mixed in it Than we play for about 30 min and I turn the lights out and put him in his bed I than play classical music to calm him He sleeps until at least 7am sometimes later! Hope this helps you

Dana - posted on 01/13/2010

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I also have a 17 week old, he has slept thru the nite since he was 5 wks. You are off to a good start with the short afternoon naps. Here are my suggestions:

1. Longer morning naps

2.Only feed him cereal/food after the bottle is not enough

3.keep him up about 4 hours before YOU want to go down for the nite

4.Feed him at least 6oz about an hour and a half before bed,leave time for burping

5.Morning bottle will be about 6-8oz

6.Most important, stay in rutine. Feed every 3-4 hours in the day be ready with all you will during feeding(burp rag,toys for distracting him while burping, ur phone ect.)BEFORE you wake him.

Lia - posted on 01/13/2010

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my son if 18 weeks and doesn't sleep through the night, but he does take 7 oz each time i get up with him so just put him on 3 meals of baby food a day. what is E.A.S.Y method?

Sarah - posted on 01/13/2010

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my little 1 was sleeping through the night but know teething i cant do much but had a fue people tell me that if my little 1 wasnt sleeping to give them just water when they wake after a while find it pointless waking for water n stop so maybe give that ago

Sarah - posted on 01/13/2010

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Violet is my first baby who has slept through the night at this age- I think it is mostly temperamental. She is a much "easier" baby than her older 2 siblings.

Do you think maybe he is a getting overtired? I find that the more they sleep during the day, the better they sleep during the night on the whole. I would try maybe adding in an extra daytime sleep to see if it helps- it sounds counter-intuitive but it has worked with my 3 to varying degrees.

With my more wakeful older babies I just co-slept and fed through sleep, but that isn't the solution for everyone. Now they are almost 6 and almost 8 they both sleep through the night, so it all comes out in the wash.

Allison - posted on 01/13/2010

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. . . .I have a 4 month old who sleeps the whole night. . .and has done so from about 6 weeks old. She is breast fed exclusively. . . her older brothers did too!

So when talking shit be sure you take everything into account. All of my children have done this. And yes they are somewhat scheduled. I don't mean we have a time scheme for things but they tend to know whats going to happen next. . . it's good to have a routine. The baby has it's needs and you meet them, and by following his/her leads in the first month or so, you can adapt the routine to the baby. . . wake up, new diaper, get dressed, eat, play, swing, sleep. . . perhaps it may sound a little stringent to you, but then you did have to read a book in order to bond with your baby. . . .be nicer, she was looking for advice not criticism. When someone is desprate and exhausted it's best not to kick them when they're down. . . .and also, reading a book may not be all that easy for someone who is sleep deprived.



i don't mean to be mean here. . . but have some compassion



martyrs are not great mothers. . . they're just martyrs



p.s. i have a friend who read that book. . . her kid is a jerk. . . 3 years old and not sleeping through the night and generally thinks she's the leader in the family. . . great book



p.s admin sorry i said shit

Allison - posted on 01/13/2010

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Now. . . how has my baby been sleeping through the night? Well she started out in between my partner and I. . . swaddled in her blanket and propped up on a pillow. Then when she was about 2 months and able to move her head around a bit better I flipped her over on to her belly and put her in a sleeping bag. Seriously. I give her her last feeding around 11:30 in the pm (she's breast fed) and some days she'll sleep till like 11 in the morning. . . most days she wakes up at nine-nine thirty. I thought she only slept so well because she was in bed with me, but i got tired of having her between my partner and myself so the other day i moved her to her own bed, and still she slept the whole night. I'm not trying to rub it in here. Try to move the last feeding. I usually wake her for this one the fifth feeding for the day. . . and i don't know how much she drinks because i don't have any way of measuring she just takes what she wants and passes out. . . normally she'll do a huge burp (i swear she sounds like barney from the simpsons) and then it's truly lights out.



try doing a bath late in the evening, just to let the baby soak and relax. . . massage, oil, pyjama, feed and in bed.

i find that babies sleep best on their bellies. . .think, you lay them on their backs to play right. . . looking up at those stupid jungle things or whatever ridiculous mobile you've recieved or been suckered into buying. . . when you lay the baby on its belly then its learning that its now time to sleep. My little girl just told me in her own screachy way that she's had enough for now. . . i put her in her box (playpen) on her belly not 3 minutes ago and she's sleeping.



I think routine is the key, when she's on her belly, she knows it's time to sleep. it's that simple. . . find youself a routine that works and stick to it,

Channa - posted on 01/12/2010

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my baby is four months now ..when he was a few weeks old he had trouble sleeping through the night..he would sleep better during the day..turned out to be acid reflux..got him meds and it worked a little..i changed his formula to sensitive after that and now he hardly needs meds for acid reflux and he sleeps all night.

Kersten - posted on 01/12/2010

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Have you tried to add rice cereal in his bottle at night? At 17 weeks, I started adding cereal in my daughters bottle at her 11pm feeding. She sleeps through the night, waking up between 7-8am. Now at 19 weeks, I add the cereal to at least 2-3 bottles through out the day too.

Claire - posted on 01/12/2010

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The one thing I can chalk my little guy to sleeping through the night since 1 month old is using the halo wrap sleep sack. I'm not sure if this is 100% the solution, but I swear by it, and have noticed that when I've tried putting him to sleep without using it, he tends to wake up frequently during the night.
I feed him for the final time between 9-10pm and then let him fall asleep while holding him, sometimes I'll put him down while he's starting to doze, but if you let him sleep too long while holding him, then putting him in the sleep sack wakes him up and sometimes getting him to go back to sleep it a little tougher.
So, feed around 9-10 then place him in the sleep sack, and make sure you get the velcro swaddle part, lay his arms straight down at his sides, then wrap him good and tight. He'll sleep soundly till at least 6am, sometimes I can even give him his pacifier and he'll stay content till 7 or 8.
I believe this has worked since he's not able to move around a lot and wake himself up... I hope you're able to use this method and it works for you. Maybe try the swaddling with just a blanket first to see if you'll get some relief, and if it works, get the sleep sack, basically the same idea, but the sack is quicker to get him into at night, and doesn't jar him around while I'm putting it on as much.

Michelle - posted on 01/12/2010

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my lil man is nearly 18 weeks and he isnt either! he was wakin every 2 hours but i have just been putting his dummy back in and now he is sleepn every 3 hours ish. last night i started on routine bath bottle and bed at 7pm. he woke up twice within the first hour but then slept through until half12. i also feel like a zombie as after half12 he kept waking up. i tried given him water instead of his bottle but he noticed and just spat it back out so 2nyt i will try reducing his milk each night as this is supposed2 help them eventually think shes not given me any milk so no point waking but have yet to see if this works! started him on baby rice but he gags...sorry i cant help but thought id let u no im in the same boat and if anyone can help me2 i will be greatful!!

Mary - posted on 01/11/2010

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Thank you ladies so so much for your posts! It feels good to connect with the September moms! All of your experiences help me understand my little guy more.

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Hi everyone!

First off Heidi...you are a legend I totally agree with you!

Letting your baby cry to sleep does NOT in anyway mean you do not love them it just means your not so far wrapt around their finger you no longer have a life of your own.



I have a 16 1/2 week old (formula feed) and she has slept through the night (8pm-6am) for around a month now.

I do realise that I am very lucky to have a baby that is sleeping so much, my mother says to me the more sleep they get the more they want and i find its very true, if you try to keep your baby up during the day all it does is makes them over tired and then very hard to get to sleep. (I know because i tried it...NOT FUN!)



I do however have a routine for my girl, I find routine is good because then they know what to expect everyday around around what time, my girl has her 1st bottle whenever she wakes then every 4hours through the day so usually a total of 4x 200mls (7oz) sometimes she will not drink it all but unless she is sick i give her her dummy, to hold her off untill around her due time, i think some people tend to mistake "sucking time" with being hungry. I also try to give her atleast 2 naps over 2hours each and yes she cries herself to sleep half the time sometimes this will go on an off over 45mins especially if she is overtired, after 20mins i will go in and give a kiss (not get her up) and stroke her forehead for a few seconds then leave, if it is after 40mins then i will check her nappy etc as i ALWAYS put a clean nappy on just before i put her down.



I do sympathise with you and i really hope your little one starts to sleep longer periods, even if your baby is in his cot/bassinet just talking away to himself (sometimes mine will be in their an hour having a good old chat to herself) but it is still resting as it is easy for a baby to get overstimulated.



My heart truly does go out to all of the mothers that have a waking baby through the night, reading all of these messages really makes me appreciate my wee girl even more.



Good luck to you all :-)

Robyn - posted on 01/11/2010

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We found that our son (now 3 1/2 mths) slept loads better when on his tummy during his day time naps, (even though it's not recommended). We have a breathing sensor baby monitor and sleep him on his tummy for all his sleeps now and have been since he was 2 mths old. We went from 3-4 hrs sleep to 7-8 hrs. Daytime feeds are generally every 3-4 hrs and 1 early morning feed. Some babies just like to sleep on their tummy. Good luck!!

Sarah - posted on 01/11/2010

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Hi Mary, i have a 16 week old who has only just (the last two nights) started really sleeping through the night, she sleeps from about 8.30pm to 6-7am. My husband also does shift work so i do all the nighttime feeds and i know how tiring it is. I never put our baby on a schedule, i just feed her when she's hungry, however much she wants to eat. She used to be on a very similar timeline to your little guy, bed about 8.30, feed at midnight, up at 2, up at 5, then awake at 7. All we did was pick her up during the night as soon as she started to cry, nappy change and feed, rewrap and straight back in the cot, no talking, no playing. She gradually started weaning herself off the midnight feed, and then for the last few weeks she wasn't hungry when she woke up in the morning. It sounds like your little guy is getting close, i don't give our baby any cereal or solids at all. Giving cereal fills up their tummies but doesn't give them the nutrition they need, that could be why he's waking up "starving" at 5am, he's lacking the nutrition but his tummy can only take a little bit because its full of cereal. You need to make sure he's eating plenty of formula during the day, if he's not he's going to wake up during the night to eat the formula he's missing out on during the day.

Erin - posted on 01/11/2010

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I have to clarify one thing because it seems I was misunderstood. Anyone will tell you the using any kind of "Cry It Out" method at 4 months is not a good idea, nor is it likely to work. I have never done this and would not recommend it.

Noreen - posted on 01/11/2010

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I feed my baby whenever she is hungry!! If that means she's hungry at 1am, 2am 4am, etc, I feed her! I don't EVER let her Cry it Out because IMO, that is horriable and cruel! I feel that if you try to make your baby independant when they are babies, that they will have mental issues when they are older. I also co-sleep so I can still get the maximum amount of sleep and still be awake and energized during the day while I tend ot all of my children's needs. During the day, I wear Abby in the ergo carrier and I am still available to be my boys mom.

Seriously!! Read The Baby Bond Book! It's a fantastic book!

Erin - posted on 01/11/2010

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Thank you for your post Heidi. Lets remember that all babies are different. We are here to learn from each others experiences, not to judge.

Heidi - posted on 01/11/2010

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Quoting Noreen:

WOW!! Do you have a baby or a robot?? Seriously! You expect a 4 month baby to sleep through the night!?!? Are you kidding me?! Putting a baby on a scedule is the most ridiculas thing I've ever heard!!! WHY? What good will it do? Besides stress both of you out? We are parents! IT's part of the job descriptoin to not get a full niht of sleep anymore. I'm sorry for being mean, but this is crazy to me!!

Read the Baby Bond Book. It will change your life for the better! Great book!


Wow, Noreen!



This sounds a bid judgmental.  Here a few things to consider:



1. Parents are led to believe that once they become a parent they can forget about a good night's sleep.  In fact, babies as young as 6 weeks old are capable of sleeping through the night as long as they are getting enough nourishment during the day and are napping, as appropriate, for their age.



2. Uninterrupted sleep is important for a baby's development.  It is hard for a little one to reap the benefits of uninterrupted sleep when they are nursing every 2-3 hours during the night.  Of course, for newborns, it is normal and a must to nurse that often during the night but as they get older they are capable of going through the night, provided there are no medical issues. Even pediatricians will tell you so.



3. My little one was sleeping 8 hours a night at 2 months old without any tears or any stress on the both of us.  My guidance during the day (I would call it a routine rather than a schedule) helped promote that nighttime sleep but he started sleeping through the night on his own. I woke one morning and had to check the video monitor to be sure he was okay because it was day light and he was still sleeping.



4. I find myself to be a lot less stressed than other moms who are still waking all hours of the night to nurse or to console their child.



5. I am well rested in the morning after a good night sleep so I am able to spend quality time with my child and get things done around my house without feeling like a zombie.  



6. I will be home with my child until he is 7 months old but then I will be going back to work.  There is no way I could be productive at work if I am waking several times during the night.  Of course, when a baby is ill, etc. that can be expected.  However, I do not expect waking several times during the night to be a norm in my household.  Like I said it will happen on occasion but I don't anticipate it being the norm.



7. My child is in his crib sleeping at around 7:00 every night which is very predictable for me and my husband.  We can actually plan to have a nice dinner together and have some quality time together before going to sleep for the night.  This is great for our marriage.  On the contrary, having zombie-like parents can create some tension in one's marriage.  I refuse to allow my marriage to suffer because we have a baby in the house.  The priority of my marriage is right at the top of the list with my child.  This predictability also makes babysitting for our child very easy so we can actually get out of the house and have a date night with little worries.



8. I can plan my daily activities knowing what to expect from my child.  I know approximately what time he will wake in the morning and I know when he will be ready to go down for his naps. I can plan my errands, doctor's visit, etc. accordingly so a crying baby doesn't stress out other people or me.



Those are just a few of the benefits of a child sleeping through the night.  Please don't judge me or others because we are so blessed!

Heidi - posted on 01/11/2010

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Quoting Noreen:

WOW!! Do you have a baby or a robot?? Seriously! You expect a 4 month baby to sleep through the night!?!? Are you kidding me?! Putting a baby on a scedule is the most ridiculas thing I've ever heard!!! WHY? What good will it do? Besides stress both of you out? We are parents! IT's part of the job descriptoin to not get a full niht of sleep anymore. I'm sorry for being mean, but this is crazy to me!!

Read the Baby Bond Book. It will change your life for the better! Great book!


Wow, Noreen!



This sounds a bid judgmental.  Here a few things to consider:



1. Parents are led to believe that once they become a parent they can forget about a good night's sleep.  In fact, babies as young as 6 weeks old are capable of sleeping through the night as long as they are getting enough nourishment during the day and are napping, as appropriate, for their age.



2. Uninterrupted sleep is important for a baby's development.  It is hard for a little one to reap the benefits of uninterrupted sleep when they are nursing every 2-3 hours during the night.  Of course, for newborns, it is normal and a must to nurse that often during the night but as they get older they are capable of going through the night, provided there are no medical issues. Even pediatricians will tell you so.



3. My little one was sleeping 8 hours a night at 2 months old without any tears or any stress on the both of us.  My guidance during the day (I would call it a routine rather than a schedule) helped promote that nighttime sleep but he started sleeping through the night on his own. I woke one morning and had to check the video monitor to be sure he was okay because it was day light and he was still sleeping.



4. I find myself to be a lot less stressed than other moms who are still waking all hours of the night to nurse or to console their child.



5. I am well rested in the morning after a good night sleep so I am able to spend quality time with my child and get things done around my house without feeling like a zombie.  



6. I will be home with my child until he is 7 months old but then I will be going back to work.  There is no way I could be productive at work if I am waking several times during the night.  Of course, when a baby is ill, etc. that can be expected.  However, I do not expect waking several times during the night to be a norm in my household.  Like I said it will happen on occasion but I don't anticipate it being the norm.



7. My child is in his crib sleeping at around 7:00 every night which is very predictable for me and my husband.  We can actually plan to have a nice dinner together and have some quality time together before going to sleep for the night.  This is great for our marriage.  On the contrary, having zombie-like parents can create some tension in one's marriage.  I refuse to allow my marriage to suffer because we have a baby in the house.  The priority of my marriage is right at the top of the list with my child.  This predictability also makes babysitting for our child very easy so we can actually get out of the house and have a date night with little worries.



8. I can plan my daily activities knowing what to expect from my child.  I know approximately what time he will wake in the morning and I know when he will be ready to go down for his naps. I can plan my errands, doctor's visit, etc. accordingly so a crying baby doesn't stress out other people or me.



Those are just a few of the benefits of a child sleeping through the night.  Please don't judge me or others because we are so blessed!

Noreen - posted on 01/11/2010

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WOW!! Do you have a baby or a robot?? Seriously! You expect a 4 month baby to sleep through the night!?!? Are you kidding me?! Putting a baby on a scedule is the most ridiculas thing I've ever heard!!! WHY? What good will it do? Besides stress both of you out? We are parents! IT's part of the job descriptoin to not get a full niht of sleep anymore. I'm sorry for being mean, but this is crazy to me!!

Read the Baby Bond Book. It will change your life for the better! Great book!

Erin - posted on 01/11/2010

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Luckily, my daughter has slept through most nights since she was about a month old. I talked to my doctor about the missed night time feedings and he said that day time is for eating and night time is for sleeping, so not to worry. I've never heard of a dreamfeed, but maybe it is making him accustomed to sucking/eating during the night. If I make sure that my daughter eats enough during the day and takes two naps, not more than 1.5 hrs each, she usually sleeps for 8-10 hours without eating during the night. She wakes up hungry, but happy in the morning. You know your child better than anyone, so I'm sure you know when he needs a bottle, but I wouldn't jump to giving him a bottle every time he wakes up. He might not even want it. Also I have rarely given my daughter a paci at night for fear that she will wake when it falls out of her mouth, she doesn't seem to need it. Good Luck, the sleepless nights won't last forever ;)

Catlin - posted on 01/11/2010

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I am blessed in that my 4mo. old daughter has slept through the night almost every day since she was 2 1/2 months. With her, I usually give her a bedtime bottle at 10-10:30 at night, with cereal in it now (we just started that this last week). She takes 6 oz of formula at every feeding. I will then rock her until drowsy, put her in her cradle and turn her mobile on low. After she falls asleep she is usually out until at least 5am, usually until 7 or 8. Through the day, she takes a nap after her morning bottle (all her bottles are 6 oz), then is up until 3:30 or so, and then takes an hour or two nap. I make sure she is up when Daddy gets home at 7, and she comes sit with us at the table while we eat. she plays with daddy until time for her bedtime bottle. If she does wake up during the night and is loud enough to wake me up 3 feet away, I will give her a paci. If she isnt asleep in a couple of minutes, then I will get up, change her and feed her.

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I agre with Heidi, make sure u are giving them enough sleep... My little man is 4.5 months old and has been sleeping through since he was 7 weeks old and I swear I owe it all too a book called babybliss by Jo Ryan (she is aussie but im sure u can get it everywhere) but It has info on ow long ur baby should be awake for at a time and how long/how many naps a day they should have so they are no over stimulated
http://www.babybliss.com.au/Services/pur...
2 naps a day isnt long enough for a 17 week old my baby sleeps 3-4 naps a day depending on what time he is up, and generally he sleeps 9pm - 7-8am then he is awake for 2 hours and goes down for a nap and we do that all day.
Hope this helps!

Tristan - posted on 01/10/2010

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My daughter 17 weeks old and still gets up 3-4 times a night as well. When she does get up, I nurse her for 20 minutes and then put her back in her crib and she puts her self to sleep. She gets up every day around 8am and goes down for her first nap around 10. She sleeps for 2-3 hours and goes down for nap #2 between 2 and 3. She used to take cat naps around 6ish, but I no longer let her do this because it ruins her night schedule. I begin her bedtime routine of bath, book, and nurse around 7 and put her to bed at 7:30. She puts herself to sleep. I did the CIO [cry-it-out method] once she hit 3.5 months old. It sucks for the first few nights, but it is healthy for them to learn to self-soothe. And now her self-soothing skills help me get more sleep at night.

I guess I think to myself that if I only lived off of milk, I'd be hungry every 2-3 hours as well and would find myself in the kitchen getting a snack. I view it as me being the mother, it's my responsibility to get up with my child throughout the night. My husband is in the Navy and has crazy, weird work times. Since I'm blessed enough to stay at home with her, I never ask him to get up with her.
Good luck and hope you can find something that will work for you.

Heidi - posted on 01/10/2010

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I would take a look at the baby center website which someone else recommended. They have helpful tips regarding schedules and sleeping. My little boy has been sleeping through the night (at least 8+ hours) since he was 2 months old. Just be sure you are giving your little one enough ounces of formula during the day. Also, you may want to increase the amount of time spent napping during the day. It is odd but if a baby is overtired they don't sleep as well which could be another reason for the frequent waking during the night. Babies 4 months old actually need 3 naps during the day totaling 5 hours in length. Although my little one was sleeping through the night at 2 months old we did go through a little stretch where he cried a few times during the night and would not stop until we rocked him back to sleep; I think this is because he was constantly held during the Christmas holiday when we stayed with our relatives for weeks. Just a few nights of controlled crying has been doing the trick to eliminate that behavior and he is now sleeping from about 7pm until 6am!! Keeping my fingers crossed that the crying behavior doesn't return but so far we are doing well!

Kerry - posted on 01/09/2010

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very helpful advice i'll try the controlled crying tonight , i remember doing this with my other child now, it took awhile but it worked. I'ts amazing how much i'd forgotten and i was only doing this last year with my other little boy.

Sharon - posted on 01/09/2010

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hi my babygirl is 17 weeks and for the past 3 nights she has been sleeping from 10 - 12 hours as i have been putting a half of crushed up farleys rusk biscuit in her last bottle of milk(usual amount of formula milk/).and she has been fine with it no contispation or gripe pains i am really happy with it,,althought health visitiors dont recommened it i certainly do.good luck.

Renee - posted on 01/09/2010

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My little guy is doing ok he is 4 months old today - I follow the save our sleep routine (book by Tizzie Hall- similar to E.A.S.Y) - I feed bub a dreamfeed at 10.30pm and he will sleep anywhere between 3.30am to 5am (every morning is different) My little trick is to give him some water when he wakes in the morning and then his dummy and walk out ,he may winge a little and then fall back to sleep... I was told when bub tries water they think this is not my milk and its not worth waking for that?? don't know if this will work for you but worth a try. Goodluck.

Kerry - posted on 01/08/2010

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My little boy is 16 wks and i'm getting delerious thru lack of sleep now.He was awake last night at 10pm for feed then half midnight, 2, 4 and now i'm up at 5, he's only taking about 3-4 oz at a time its been like this since birth, i go back to work in 8 wks which means getting up at 4.30 am to do x3 12 hour shifts and i'm dreading it. My other little boy is 20 months old he's sleep pattern nd feeding was pretty much the same then one night he had the dream feed and went thru til 5 just out of the blue then about 8 months he stopped the midnight feed and things started to get better. All i hear about from other mum's is how their babies sleep thru the night but keep wakeing up at 6 like thats to early for them, poor souls! sorry i don't have any advice for you but i thought i'd let you know your not alone

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Let me assure you I know lots of mums who are having this problem... as am I !! My baby just turned 4mths the other day she is about 6 1/2 kilos. When i felt that i was at my wits end i went to see my doc and he said because of her age and weight she should be able to sleep from 10 till at least 4 without a feed. So with this info i felt comfortable in trying control crying at night which I have been finding so much more difficult than through the day.... but been doing it for a week and she finally did 10 till 3.30 the other night with out any settling but there has been some horrible night of patting her for up to half hour on and off till she goes back to sleep... only for her to wake again in 2hrs. I started doing the dream feeding at first and that seemed to work for a little while, then i tried giving a formula bottle at ten b4 i went to bed at night which seems to be working at the moment. But i definitly think control crying is the answer you just really need a support person otherwise it is just to hard to get enough sleep!! (If you know your baby is comfortable ie nappy clean, not to hot/cold etc...) I hope this was of some help and not just a big ramble

Ginger - posted on 01/08/2010

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have you been on the baby center... it has GREAT tips to help with sleep issues! Although not going through the same sleep troubles... I would rec (if he is a good weight) dropping the 2 oz feeding... just make sure he is getting enough oz through out the day. "they" say never to actually pick up your child when you go into his room when he wakes up. He needs to learn how to sooth himself back to sleep- We have ours sleeping from 9p - 7a consistently... we have the same routine nightly... bath, massage, bottle, and if he is still awake enough we will read one book. If I let him get nice and relaxed, not asleep and then put him down in his crib- i swear by the swaddleme as well. He soothes himself to sleep while his lights and sounds machine is on and is asleep by the time in turns off. If you son wakes up- go in his room rub him on his tummy, maybe try a paci? and sshhhhh him to see if that helps. He will be looking for you to pick him up- he has you trained :) I hope this helps?! Please let me know if you need any other help... GOOD LUCK, mommy!

Gemma - posted on 01/08/2010

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Hello Ladies, have you tried to put them on hungrier baby milk? My little one is 16 weeks old and now sleeps though most nights, I wake him up at around 10pm and feed him and then when he starts to stir in the night i offer him his dummy and this seems to settle him. If he starts to gurrgle i just ignor him and 8/10 times he goes back off without needing a feed. When your little one wakes, dont talk to him and keep the lights very dim if you need one at all. If you have to feed him just pick him up, feed him and put him straight back down without any interaction at all. Good luck x

Debi - posted on 01/07/2010

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I have just posted nearly exactly the same problem as you! If only I had read through the posts first!
I comiserate as your son is doing exactly the same as my daughter!
Lets hope for some advice.
A good nights sleep seems a long way off!

Erica - posted on 01/07/2010

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What is the EASY method? I am of no help in this area sorry, we co sleep and my daughter didnt sleep through the night until she was about 18 months old.

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