my 8 month old still wakes up twice a night, is this normal?

Lynette - posted on 05/20/2010 ( 31 moms have responded )

6

15

1

My Daughter is 8 and a half months old and still wakes up twice a night for a breast feed- she eats a good meal of solids before going to bed as well as a breast feed so I am wondering why she still needs to wake up twice a night for a feed. She has a consistent night time routine of a bath feed sleep and always lays down wide awake and will go to sleep by herself. I am told babies should stop needing a feed from 6 months old but am also told some babies just need to be fed and will learn to go to sleep in their own time. Just wondering what other mum's think about this subject? Am I doing something wrong? this is my first baby.

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Kimberly - posted on 05/31/2010

22

0

2

my son used to wake up in the middle of the night to eat but i asked his doc. about it and he said that babys dont need to eat i the middel of the night he told me to try to give him a warm bottle of water.the doc. said that most babys wont wake up and wast enregey for water. it worked great for my son now he sleeps alnight

Sara - posted on 11/19/2011

3

6

0

My son is the same way, only he wakes more in the night sometimes up to 5 times, each time usually staying awake only long enough to eat.. I feed him good solid foods and mix rice cereal in with it so it feels him up good, ive tried just about everything to get him to sleep therw the night and nothing has worked.. this is my 2nd son

Mama Of - posted on 10/25/2012

1

0

0

You know i hate when other moms try to put you down about what your doing wrong!!!!!!! I am a new mom also my son (8 months old) is formula feed ans he still wakes up in the middle of the night!!!!!! I went to go visit my parents and they helped get him out of my bed he now sleeps in his own crib and slept through the night for the first three days he was in my parents room!!!!!!!! Now that i am back where i live he sleeps in his crib but wont sleep through the night!!!!!!! I asked his dr and he told me he just wants comfort he is use to drinking a bottle then falling asleep and he knows i am there and will get up to get him his dr also told me to move him out of my room into his own room and let him cry!!!!!!!!! I have not tried it yet but will soon me and my husband need to set up the babies room!!!!!!!! May be you should try it ans see!!!!!!

Tiffany - posted on 11/16/2011

10

0

1

My daughter is almost 10 months old and she has been getting up alot at night here lately!! a couple nights ago she got up a total of 5 times!! I feel like I have a newborn again.But I believe its due to her cutting some more teeth. At least i hope so I hope its not a thing thats going to last a long time.

[deleted account]

Besides, my doctor personally told me formula is just as healthy for baby. SO dont tell me to research!!!! I have. And when a medical proffesional is telling me its just as good, you cant argue with that. Mothers on this sight have to realize that we dont all do things the same. Get over it. We're here for suggestions, take them or leave them. Dont judge

This conversation has been closed to further comments

31 Comments

View replies by

KArli - posted on 09/12/2012

1

1

0

crying it out can have benefits when done correctly and if you fel comfortable with it. Babies sometimes just need to burn off energy and crying helps them do it (ofcourse letting them scream for hours on end is probably not beneficial for either of you). I say try anything and if it doesnt sit well with you, ditch it and try something else. (i have an 8 month old too who wakes atleast once so i understand what it is like to be sleep deprived!)

Susan - posted on 11/19/2011

74

1

4

I went through this also I know how tiring it is. Mine was waking 3 times a night at that age. All different advice came to me, but one nurse said to me that some babies just dont sleep that well. Apparently studies show that its rare for breastfed babies to sleep through the night, or its more common that they dont. Children dont develop adult sleep patterns til after age 3. The only thing that worked was 'controlled crying' which was very difficult and some babies take longer to take to it than others. We had to do it for 10 nights with our son as he is more the stubborn type, he just resisted it. Look up controlled crying if you have not already its where you let them cry for 10 mins then go back in and soothe them keep doing that until they fall asleep, it can sometimes take an hour each night. Its not easy but if you were completely exhausted like me you might want to try it. Its not the same as "crying it out" though which I do not believe in. The only problem with the controlled crying is that once you have a change in their routine or they get sick you have to start it all over again after that. I never did that as it was just too hard.

[deleted account]

Also Noreen, I was simply suggesting to give a bottle of formula before bed, not for her to quit breastfeeding all together. So before you judge me for a suggestion, read what I said! Also you can get formula with omega three, which helps with brain development! So I dont think formula is that much of a disadvantage!

[deleted account]

NOREEN - Im not recomending anyone to quit breastfeeding, and I know the benefits of breastfeeding, I have done research, which is why I know formula is more filling and it has vitamin D, which breast milk does not!. Im not stupid! I was giving a suggestion, you dont have to get mad at me for it!

Noreen - posted on 05/29/2010

914

16

77

I don't agree with Crying it Out either. I feel that it is a lazy way of parenting and just plain mean.

Noreen - posted on 05/29/2010

914

16

77

Karalyn- why on earth would you encourage someone to give up breastfeeding?! I don't understand why! You should do some research on the benefits of breastfeeding vs formula feeding!

Noreen - posted on 05/29/2010

914

16

77

But breastfeeding is better for baby then formula. Babies are supposed to wake up in the middle of the night to eat. Plus, if you're baby has never had formula before, giving it to her might make her stomach upset which would cause her to be up all night with a upset belly. Just hang in there. It will pass, I promise! My daughter has never had a drop of formula. Just breastmilk. She gets up 2x a night too. She's my 3rd baby, she's not my first to wake in the middle of the night. They all did until they were around a year or so.

[deleted account]

If you are ready you may want to stop breastfeeding before bed. Formula is more filling for babies and may help her sleep through the night better. Completley up to you, but its a thought!

Angie - posted on 05/25/2010

53

11

4

My daughter is the same age and does the same thing. Her doctor said it's just out of habit. I tried to break her and let her cry it out and it worked she started sleeping pretty good, you just have to deal with the crying every now and then. BUT my problem was once I started doing this my milk supply went soooo low, I was barely pumping 2-3 bottles through the whole say (as apposed to 4-6). So that's the risk you'll take. I just started letting her feed from me during the night when she wakes up, I want to BF her until she's one and not feeding her at night was making me have to supplement with formula more than I really want to.

Ashe - posted on 05/25/2010

10

14

1

At first my daughter slept through the night at about 2 months old. Now on the other hand unless she's only had about 2 cat naps ( 10-15mins) she is up alot durin the night. In the begining of the night we lay her down in her crib. but by 4 am she's awake. She'll normally drink at least 6oz & takes her binkie sometimes she'll fall back to sleep but most of the time she will stay awake or until she lays in our bed she will continue to wake up. I don't want it to become habit but there's nothin else she wants so we just let her & she'll sleep all night til bout 9am.
i guess some babies dont sleep all night.

Joanne - posted on 05/23/2010

1

10

0

I have read that it is possible that the baby maybe cold if they are waking during the night. Just a thought. My 8 month old still wakes for comforting a few times a night however she takes a bottle.

[deleted account]

Perhaps it's the teething that's keeping your little one up at night. My baby slept through the night maybe 10x in her life! She wakes up usually around 3am to nurse then she lays back down until 7am. I think she just wants the comfort more than the milk. It isn't forever... My first one slept through the night at 6 weeks, then had a spurt of waking during teething, and went right back to sleeping through the night after. Every baby is different. Don't worry. Sleep is overrated anyway, right? ;0)

Jahna - posted on 05/22/2010

23

18

0

Hi Lynette,

My baby (born sept 25th 2009) has been sleeping through since 6 months but my other daughter now 2 didnt sleep through the night till she was about 12months old, wanting a bottle at about 3am every morning. I just think all babies are different! My 8 month old will occasionaly wake for a nightly feed but I think that might be due to a growing spurt. Alot of people tell me that I shouldnt give in to her but she is obviously hungry and needs that feed. My two year old still occasionaly wakes up and asks for a cup of milk but still goes straight back to sleep... I always listen to advice given to me but in the end I just do what I feel is right, my babies let me know what they need and we just go with the flow :)

Sharon - posted on 05/22/2010

3

3

0

Well hi, I have 4 children, and my youngest is nearly 9 months and is the only one that still gets a feed through the night... I think don't stress about it and its not forever... My other children were sleeping right through from about 3-4months.. but hey every child is different..it wont be forever I'm sure. x

Nanette - posted on 05/22/2010

349

21

34

I just made my daughter Prunes. Pretty awesome the things you can make for your baby!

Cinys - posted on 05/22/2010

68

7

4

Hey Christy,
No, avoid any seasoning. At the most, just a very very tiny pinch of salt.
Ill msg you with what I do

[deleted account]

To Cindy grooms... Hey I was wanting to make my own foods for Bubs but I dont know what to really start with. He doesnt like the baby veggies anymore.. gags as if its the worst thing in the world and he loves his fruits. Ive tried tricking him with the carrots and applesauce or the sweet potato puffs.. He has been interested in our food but i dont know what to start him with and if i should avoid putting any seasoning

Jodie - posted on 05/20/2010

14

5

1

im in same boat as u they grow up so fast enjoy your cuddles and feeding as it wont last much longer. were mums...... who needs sleep anyway......

Cinys - posted on 05/20/2010

68

7

4

oh my!
Sabrina is my first baby and my mother helped me a whole lot.
From the moment she was home we had her on a routine. (I spent 2 weeks at my moms. I had a C-section, and my husband was working) during those 2 weeks I learned a lot.

up until she was 6 months, it was a feeding every 3 hours. From 6 months on, it was every 4 hours and she was on solids. (I make my own. Juice, foods, snacks, you name it)

The kicker is, she has been sleeping through the night since she was 2 months old.

She would first wake up at 2 am, then 3..then it skipped to 6, and now, right on the dot, if I am not up and she has a bottle in her mouth by 8 am, she lets me know Im late.

Her last feeding is at 8pm, I sit with her and relax with her sitting on my lap and we watch tv for about 20 minutes, then I put her in bed, and thats it. I check in on her at 10 pm, to make sure she is not contorted in bed, and even if she is, I flip her around and cover her up. She might bat a lash at me, but falls right back asleep.

She was also sleeping in our bedroom up until she was 7 months in her own crib. If she would stir, I would give her, her sucky and would fall back asleep. (She doesnt like her sucky at all now. prefers her foot or her thumb lol)

She eats like a little piggy too.

Also teething has been a complete bliss. She had no colic either. Great with her shots. Only had one cold (My fault) since then as well.

If there is any thing I can give you advice wise, let me know! My mother gave me a mountain of knowledge I would love to pass on and help anyone with.

Good luck!

Uzma - posted on 05/20/2010

2

12

0

My son is 8 and half months too and he wakes up thrice (sometimes more) during the night :( Some of my friends have the same problem. I think some babies just donot sleep through the night. It will happen some day, hopefully!

Ella - posted on 05/20/2010

49

28

4

have you tried to give her the purity good night meals?
my Hester was also waking up 2 times a night. since i started to feed her the good night purity she sleeps through till 4am in the morning. then we put her in the bed between us , sometimes she will play & sometimes she will just go back to sleep with knowing we are close to her

Nanette - posted on 05/20/2010

349

21

34

My daughter is 8 months old too and is awake right now and its 4 am. She is playing in her bed though and when she gets tired of that she will cry to be fed. This is a nightly thing in our household too. She will occasionally sleep through the night, which is usually meaning she will sleep til 5 then b fed and go back to sleep. She usually goes to bed around 8:30-9 and wakes at 12,2,4 and then is up for the day at 7ish. I have tried everything too. She also is laid down and falls asleep herself, and is breastfed and is also on solids. Some babies just don't sleep through the night I guess. I mean I wake up throughout the night too, I don't usually sleep straight through the night, I guess maybe some babies just have a harder time putting themselves back to sleep once they've woken. I know how frustrating it is but "this too shall pass" I just remind myself that soon she will not want to be cuddled and breastfeeding will be over (when she weans herself), and she will be running around soon too, so I am just trying to enjoy these nighttime bondings of her and I. Do you work? maybe she misses you and this is her way of being with you. I don't work so I am with my Lilly all day so.... Hope that helps to know your not the only one out there!

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms