My son is 16 months old and he still wakes up twice a night is that normal?
Amanda - posted on 02/16/2011
@Anna.. i live in an apartment complex also and my neighbors upstairs would pound their feet on their floor. i'm also paranoid cuz i don't want to make them mad, so i give in also just not to cause problems. as soon as my son starts crying i hurry up and soothe him any way to help him go back to sleep. i wish i didn't care what the neighbors think so i can just let him cry himself to sleep and hopefully put my son on a sleeping schedule.
Anna - posted on 02/11/2011
once my daughter didnt need that night time bottle i let het cry it out. it took about a week ot two, but she had been sleeping through the night fine (apart from while teething) untill like a month ago she got sick with a really high temperature. so we took her into the big bed. she has never slept in the big bed and has been in her own room since she was one month old. now she wakes every night and she screams! we live in an apartment block and have new neighbours who bang on the wall if she cries longer than five mins. i want to let her cry it out again, but just lay in bed paranoid about the neighbours, so usually give in. i dont take her into the big bed though. i sit with her on the couch and after a bottle she is fine to go back to bed.
Bree - posted on 02/08/2011
Our daughter sometimes sleeps through the night, but often wakes once or twice. The goal is to go in, quickly soothe her, and get back to bed. We have a chair by the bed so we can rub her back or sit with her - we try not to take her out of the crib. But, sometimes we still do, and sometimes she ends up in our bed as well. I'm happy with this, and don't feel that cry-it-out is necessary. I can't stand listening to her cry. To me, it doesn't feel right.
Beck - posted on 02/08/2011
My daughter also wakes up 1-2 times a night for abottle. We have tried everything to try and cut out these bottlesbut she wont give in. Shedoesn't muck around simply has her bottle and goes straight back to sleep. We no longer see it as a problem
Kelly - posted on 01/29/2011
Try giving them a shirt or something with your scent on it. My son did the same thing until I started putting a shirt of mine that I had been wearing. It really seems to work for us. Maybe you can try it. Leave it in there for a while and then change it out when the scent wears off. I hope this helps.
Rachell - posted on 01/23/2011
I read in a parents debate a miraculous tip about playing soft music while your baby sleeps, it helps soothe them, regulate breathing while they sleep , & may drown out any loud noises you may not be hearing from your room. I have used this technique from the time we put my son in his crib for bedtime and nap time & I would swear by it! He is in bed by 8pm up at 7 and naps 1 1/2 to 2 hours everyday. Try it, we started with the disney lullibys but now we have an entire ipod of sleepy tunes for our lil dreamer.
Christine - posted on 01/21/2011
My son is 16 months also and still wakes up about twice a night. He doesn't cry often he usually just wants something to drink which I think is normal. I usually wake up at night for water too. He goes to sleep right away after he wakes up. He does cry once in a while but I can't just let him cry it out because it doesn't work for me or for him.
Candace - posted on 01/21/2011
My son will wake up once or twice a night routinely as well. I don't bring him to bed with us. He doesn't sleep well in our bed. I still have the rocking chair in his room from when he was a newborn. If he's laying down when I check on him, I let him cry for a bit and he usually settles back down. If he is standing, I pick him up and we have a quick rock in the chair. He usually falls back asleep almost instantly. I'm not comfortable with crying it out. This is also the age where kids can start having nightmares. He can't tell me what's wrong yet and crying is his way of letting me know. Their only little once!
Samantha - posted on 01/21/2011
I thaught Landon was the only one doing this. THis is great to know that he is normal and so I am if I can't stand to hear him cry for 30 mins or so (cuz he just doesn't stop). My boyfriend get's upset but I like to believe that he will grow out of this coming in bed with mommy. He will have to when he becomes a big brother in 8 months. I cannot have two in bed with me! Plus he has only been in a big boy bed for 2 weeks. It is a HUGE change for him...
Carol - posted on 01/21/2011
my child does the same and i always break down and put him in the bed with us. I cant stand to hear him crying. I am trying to work on getting him to sleep more in his bed, but i dont think he likes the bars on the crib he tends to roll around in his sleep like me. ive been thinking of taking the rail off the side and converting it into a toddler bed but just havent gotten around to doing so to see if it will allow him to sleep better.
Crystal - posted on 01/20/2011
My 16 month old has always woken up a few times a night. I have managed to stop giving her bottles at night now but I still go in and gently tell her it's still time for nigh nighs and if she goes to sleep she can (activity) ie go for a swim to the pool tomorrow.. and ask her to put her head on the pillow.. she usually does it and goes back to sleep. If she is really upset I will ask her if she wants a quick cuddle.. I will never ever let her cry it out. You can usually tell your own childs cry type. But I do agree above you have to stop taking him into you bed and get him to learn to fall asleep in his own. It may take a lot of time, I have had to sleep on the floor next to her cot to get her to sleep before.. every night you don't pick him up is a win. slowly graduate to him not needing to be picked up. Or CIO if that is your choice.. good luck!
Sabra - posted on 01/20/2011
I agree with Anna. You just need to be consistent. I am going through the same thing with my little girl and have tried everything (I am now convinced that if I get rid of the pacifier she should sleep better but that's a whole other problem) If you want to do it more gradually start by soothing him in his own room. Get a comfy chair and sit there with him when he wakes up. After a little while keep him in his crib and only pick him up every 10 minutes or so(for about a minute then put him back down) after that try having him lay down and rub his back then go into the crying it out method.
I'm glad that Anna has had so much success with this method and I am a believer in it also however it is not always as easy as she has made it out to be. We did it with my daughter a while back and it worked until she got sick and we gave in more because of it and went back to waking up in the night. However when my husband and I used this method it took about 2 hours before she would fall asleep and about a week before she slept through the night.
Just whatever you choose to do be consistent or nothing will work. It may be a few night (or weeks) without proper sleep but after that it should be much better
Anna - posted on 01/20/2011
When my 16 month old started doing this, we noticed that when she didn't take her naps during the day, she would wake up twice a night because she was overly tired. If he's getting good naps and there aren't any medical issues, I'd say it sounds like he's just grown used to you coming in to get him and soothe him. We eventually just had to let our little one cry it out. We would wait for 10 minutes after she started crying/fussing, then we would go in, give her a blanket or a stuffed animal without talking to her or picking her up, and then walk back out, never spending more than a minute in there with her. Then, if she starts crying again, we would wait 15 minutes before doing the same thing. Most of the time she would fall back asleep before 10 minutes goes by. It felt like she wasn't going to give in sometimes, but after two nights she's slept all the way through for weeks! I know it's tough to let them cry it out, but they have to start learning in small doses how to self-soothe, plus you need a full night's sleep yourself. Good luck!
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