Need to stop breastfeeding.

Adebukola - posted on 01/02/2011 ( 16 moms have responded )

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My son is 15months old is still breat feeding at night.

I want to stop breast feeding during the night - he isnt really hungry he just uses the breast as comfort.

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Jeri - posted on 01/06/2011

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My son just turned 16 months and I started weaning him about a month ago. I did away with daytime nursing and only let him nurse at bedtime and when he wakes in the middle of the night. I've noticed that if I feed him a good sized snack before bed then he tends to sleep longer. Before I started doing this, we had several night awakenings. I don't really have any milk left for him to drink, like you, it is for comfort. I let him nurse for about 5-7 min. and make sure his diaper is dry and put him back in his crib. If he cries for longer than 10 min. I give him a leak proof sippy cup half full of very diluted propel fitness water. I don't want the sippy cup to become a habit, but also, I do know what it's like to wake up thirsty. Some mornings the cup is empty. He's been sleeping better since I started giving him the cup. My goal is to be completely weaned by 18 months. I did wean my daughter cold turkey at 18 months, b/c nothing was working. I really feel the best way to do that is for someone to take your toddler for a weekend. If your lil guy knows your there, he's probably going to be more focused (cry) on getting his way, than if he knows his milk is not there to cry for. Good luck!

Tranda - posted on 01/06/2011

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I had that trouble with my daughter. I nursed her until she was 18 months, then right before I went back to work I stopped cold turkey! It was a couple of rough nights, but then she started sleeping thru the night! If I would have known she would sleep thru, I would have stopped before! lol
If you have someone who can help at night, it would be easier, I didn't my husband was away at school! So just be prepared to get little sleep for a few nights, and then you should be good as gold!
My baby now, I had to stop at 11 months, when I got pregant. So I made the mistake of letting him have the bottle, so he still takes a bottle to bed, but he does usually sleep thru the night!

Billie - posted on 01/05/2011

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the only way I was able to break my daughter at 17month was stop cold turkey I let my sister takw her for 3 days and when she got back she wasn't interstated anymore :)

Amber - posted on 01/04/2011

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My daughter just turned 16mths and still breastfeeds at night also. Lastnight I tried not to nurse her but she just cried off and on all night. Its like she couldn't fall into a deep sleep until I nursed her. I really want to ween her by 18 mths and I know the only way to do that is to stop nursing at night. But she wants to nurse 5 or 6 times during the night.

Christie - posted on 01/02/2011

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I am jealous that yours is still nursing. LOL ok, now that I have that off my chest.. hee hee
How about trying slowly... when he wakes in the night let him fuss(if you can) for a solid 5 min... I know this is an eternity...but give him a few minutes see if he gets quiet. If not, then nurse, but reduce how long you nurse by 5 min.
Do this for a few nights, then every 4 or 5 days extend your time by another 5 min before you go get him and reduce the length of time you nurse.
I know this will take longer but if your not ready to go "cold turkey" it will ease the transition.
Honestly, I think cold turkey is easier & harder. Depends on both of you and your temperments. If you think you can get thru the 4 or 5 nights of letting him fuss, then go for it. (I wasn't able to do that with my 1st one, but my 15mth old had stopped nursing during the night before she was 1, so I didn't have to wean her on that feeding.)
Hope this helps. Good luck keep us posted how it goes.
Oh, the other thing you could try is a pacifier??? might get him thru the night without nursing??? dunno, might just be creating yet another thing you have to wean him off of if he takes to it! lolol

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Billie - posted on 01/16/2011

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when I stopped nursing my daughter would take milk of any kind just make sure you give the milk products like cheese and yogurt ....

Ruby - posted on 01/16/2011

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My baby was 11 months when I weaned him. I turned my ipod on full blast so I couldn't hear him cry and rocked him, offering him a bottle every 10 minutes. He hated bottles and pacifiers so you can imagine that battle! But after about a week he was not fighting so much (and we changed the bottle to a sippy cup which we found he responded to better).
Now at 15months he is on solids and loves his sippy cups, but every time he wants to sleep he puts his hand down my shirt and sucks on his arm because he correlates bare skin with sleep, so to keep peace I allow him to lay on my tummy instead of putting his hand down my shirt. I wish you luck and hope it is much easier for you!

Jamie - posted on 01/15/2011

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I just went through the same thing. It went really well though. My son only breastfed at night too. So when we were ready to stop I made evening trips to the store. We would leave to go up to the local Walmart or Krogers about a half hour before his usual bed time. He likes to watch people. I was just wasting time getting him relaxed. By the time we would leave he would fall asleep on the way home. When we got home he was so tired he rolled over and went back to sleep without nursing. We did that a couple of days in a row and he was weaned. If he woke up in the middle of the night I just rolled him over and patted his back. Sometimes he threw a fit but I didn't give in. My son used it as a comfort measure too. He responded well to me putting him in bed with me and cuddled long enough for him to fall asleep. At that point it was back to his bed he went.

Charlene - posted on 01/14/2011

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I also want to stop but at the same time it gives me comfort knowing that she is being nourished to the fullest. When she is ill or cutting teeth at least she is getting some nourishment. Breasfeeeding can be exhaustiing and I have made the decision that she will stop when she is ready. I have heard too many things from too many people and I just dont feel comfortable with their advise and am now just doing it my way.

Anila Inayat - posted on 01/12/2011

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@ Cecilia Thorn... my situation is exactly the same... my son wouldn't touch any other form of milk and I fear that if I stop breast feeding where would he get his nourishment from

Cecilia - posted on 01/12/2011

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My daughter Inés is almost 16 months old and I still breastfeed her several times a day and at night.

She goes to nursery 3 times a week and hardly touches her formula/cow's milk, so I fear that if I stop breastfeeding she will not have any milk like my niece. I don't mind breastfeeding and it gives me peace of mind (a few weeks ago when Inés had the flu and wasn't eating much, I was happy in the knowledge she was still having breast milk).

I know I will have to stop at some point soon but am not too worried right now...

Michelle - posted on 01/09/2011

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When they cry for it at night - go in to comfort (give them a hug) then put them straight back down. They will persist, but then eventually get the message. It will be a bad 2-3 nights, but then they should sleep through. OR go in with a bottle of water. I did this with my son early on - maybe at about 7-8 months - they don't need the milk at 2 in the morning! Actually - I did do a dream feed before I went to bed, then dropped it (another 2 nights of him waking at the 9-10pm) but he has been good ever since - he is 16mths now.
Tough love baby!!

Adebukola - posted on 01/07/2011

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I want to stop Brie cause i dont get a good night sleep. My nipples are constantly sore cause he has teeth.

Brie - posted on 01/07/2011

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Why the rush? My daughter (also 15 months old) is also nursing at various times throughout the day, though mostly in the early morning and before bed. I think I will stop soon too, I have doubts that she will ever ween herself. I truly am curious as to why you want to quit soon.

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