Pacifier??

Nichole - posted on 05/15/2011 ( 18 moms have responded )

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How many mom's still allow their now 19-20 month old to use a pacifier?

When did you take it away? When do you plan to take it away?

My son is 20 months. I haven't even tried to take it away. I also have not decided when I am taking it away. He hardly uses it. Just when fussy, sleepy, hurt, or sick. I don't see an issue with it right now. He takes it out to talk, because I ignore him if he don't. I don't know, how about all of you?

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Candace - posted on 05/17/2011

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I asked our ped this question at our son's 18 month check. He recommended allowing him to keep it until his 2 year molars come in because the sucking helps with the discomfort, then to take it away. He also said to use it sparingly. We use it for bedtime and naps and teething pain. I know some kids can teeth well without extra soothing but our son has struggled with every single tooth he has. Our ped did mention to not let him use it when trying to talk because he may get used to talking with it in his mouth so we always take it out when he wants to tell us something. I like the suggestion from the ped and we will follow it.

Jess - posted on 05/16/2011

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Thanks Francine, that should have read her dummy, but I'm sure you were able to see what I meant. Its been stressful but we have live near a fantastic hospital they always take the very best care of her ! I think dummy's have this horrible stigma attached to them that they don't always deserve. A lady once told me "its disgusting that your daughter still has her dummy". It made me so mad !

Dummy's help children with inflamed tonsils and they also reduce the risk of sids by keeping the brain active during sleep ! They get my seal of approval !!!

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DAWN - posted on 05/24/2011

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my daughter still sleeps with pacifier (teachers at daycare do not allow it there....) & I plan to take it when she turns TWO....

Becka - posted on 05/18/2011

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My 19month old still has her's. She calls is a 'mingky', and she is very attached, but as she has gotten older she uses it a lot less. I plan on gradually taking it away, and hopefully by two she wont use it anymore.

Danielle - posted on 05/17/2011

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My mom and my husbands mother both let their kids use pacifiers until the kids decided to give them up on their own. I'm told it took me until I was 4 (But I was a chewer). My siblings both stopped shortly after 2.

We plan on doing the same with our daughter. Right now pacifiers (we call them binkys) are her only comfort object. Even if she doesn't have on in her mouth she likes to carry around one ... or two .... or three. She'll know when she feels secure enough with herself to give them up. =]

Sarah - posted on 05/16/2011

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My dr said the easiest time to take it away is between 18 and 24 months. I slowly started taking it away from my daughter but then she started biting so now she has it more than before. AHHHH She will never get rid of it. I used to care and I used to look at other kids and think they are too old but now I don't. It's not my business. My Older daughter just stopped taking hers at 9 months. On her own it was gone. My baby though I swear she teeths on other kids so I give it to her more than just nap time now. I'd rather her have a pacifier than bite other kids.

Francine - posted on 05/16/2011

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"At this point the tummy keeps Ava's tonsils where they are meant to be so she doesn't choke on them in her sleep.".... That does not sound good at all!!!! Hope all goes well with the doctor!

Jess - posted on 05/16/2011

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Ava still has her dummy too. We have no immediate plans to take it away. We are waiting on a specialist sleep appointment and the doctor will determine if it's safe to take it away.

At this point the tummy keeps Ava's tonsils where they are meant to be so she doesn't choke on them in her sleep. After 3 incidents l'm very happy to keep her dummy. We try not to let her have it outside of bed, but we have been a little slack with this as its cold and flu season here and she has been really sick :(

Francine - posted on 05/16/2011

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My daughter still has hers. It is for bed time or in the car only. It is not for general use. If she goes in and gets it during the day, I will ask her to either put the dummy away or is it bed-time.

She knows, when she wakes up, that it stays in the cot, and she knows that when she gets out of the bath that she is allowed to get it.

As long as they are not sucking it all day, it is not going to be dreadful for their teeth. I plan to take it away when she is 3. We will have the Dummy Fairy (we call them Dummy's ) come to collect them all. It worked well for my sister & her twins.

Alecia - posted on 05/16/2011

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the binky is the only thing my daughter has held onto. she refused to BF after 5 mnths and then dropped bottles on her own at 8.5 mnths. we limit it to mostly bed, but my hubby is a pushover and usually backtracks on me. i have made up my mind that by 2 she will no longer have it and we are gonna switch to big girl underwear then as well. until then we are just going to limit it as much as possible because she tries to speak better without it. and i really dnt like walking around stores with a toddler who has a bink in her mouth. i dnt judge others (though upwards of 3 is too old in my opinion...at least in public), but i prefer for my daughter to learn to comfort herself in other ways

Cynthia - posted on 05/16/2011

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i took the bottle and paci at one. a lot of people thought this was too young. but after about a week my son forgot he ever had eaither. it was easy for both of us. and i'm going to do the same thing with my expecting baby. on the 1st birthday it bye bye binky bottle and hello new cup and 1 hair cut.

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I let my son keep his Paci until he was three - which was WAY too long, I admit. he has another lovey - his blankie. But my son is a very sensative child and the few times I had tried to limit the pacifier it just turned into thumb sucking. which is just as detrimental (trading one negative for another). So I was at a bit of a loss and just let it go on longer than I should have.

Than - I stumbled across "Bye Bye Binkie". I never could bring myself to do the Binkie fairy thing - creating a whole falsehood just to get my son to give up the binkie? and he just doesn't go for things like that anyway. the bye bye binkie routine is all about breaking the desire to suck on the binkie. I tried it - it was STUPID easy - and I wish I had done it a year or two earlier. plus there was some slight satisfaction in being allowed to mutilate those binkies...

When you feel you are ready and your son is ready to let go of the paci- check out this method:
http://www.bye-bye-binky.com/

two other things I had heard worked well but didn't use is the tieing binkies to balloons and releasing them, and also taking binkie to the hospital nursury to give to the newborns.

Amanda - posted on 05/16/2011

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My daughter loves her paci, but I onlt let her have it at nap time and bedtime. That works for us. She's a great sleeper so I hesitate to mess with that routine but I don't want her out and about with it mostly because it get's a lot of germs on it. That's just my two cents.

Meged - posted on 05/16/2011

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My son hasn't had a pacifier since he was roughly 6 months. But, he was never a fan!! So, every kid is different. There's a kid, a little old, almost 24 months at my church and he still has a pacifier. So, it's all just different.

Corey - posted on 05/16/2011

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My daughter still has her binkie and like your son, she takes it out to talk. How I see it is you will know when to take it away. As for me, I want to take them away by her second birthday. The only trouble with my goul is that I will have to take them away from my son (7 mo.) at the same time or she will just take his.... fun, fun!

Nichole - posted on 05/15/2011

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Yea, I tend to feel that way, but I worry the longer I allow it the bigger the fight will be to take it. Because he is not going to have it as a preschooler...or even at 3. So I'm stuck trying to pick when I want to start the battle. Sometime between now and before 3.

Kellie - posted on 05/15/2011

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If you have no problems with it than I don't see any reason to get rid of it. If everyone's happy why change?

Nichole - posted on 05/15/2011

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My son has another comfort object already, he's always slept with it and his paci, since about 6 months. And he has been sleeping through the night regularly since 10 months. With his teeth he's gonna be cursed there regardless. My husband and I never sucked our thumbs or used pacifiers but both severely needed braces.

Kellie - posted on 05/15/2011

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I'm not a big fan of older babies with pacifiers but that's just my opinion. My son was an avid paci user but at 13 months I took it away cold turkey and he ended up having no issues with it. In fact, four nights after I took it away is when he first started sleeping through the night. I have had nothing be positive things from taking it away. I think the thing that helped was that he had a blanket as well so he still had another comfort object. I admit to being one of those moms who looks at older children (not to say ours are at that age yet) with a weird eye. It just looks strange to me. If they can talk, paci days are over find a new comfort object. Not to mention it's not the greatest thing for their teeth!

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