Separation Anxiety?

Whitney - posted on 06/10/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Is anyone else dealing with bad separation anxiety? I am a stay at home mom and my son won't let me take two steps away from him! He doesn't want his toys anymore either. It is getting so bad that he won't let me bathe him. He sits and screams through the whole thing with his arms up and he loves his baths! He also won't take any naps. I rock a little and then put him down and he screams immediately. I let him cry it out because he is a very stubborn baby but now that is not working either. He is so overtired, any suggestions on what to do? I need help!

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Emerald - posted on 06/10/2010

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My daughter was acting like this but I thought she was teething. It lasted for a week though and I didn't know what else to do so I took her to the dr and it turns out she had tonsillitis so if he's continuing to scream and not want the things he usually likes you might want to take him to get checked out just in case :/

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Noreen - posted on 06/10/2010

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We have a baby carrier for when it comes to times that she fights sleep or I have a ton of stuff to get done and she just wants to be held. I have 2 other children too. SO I just throw her on my back in the Ergo Carrier and go.

I only have a double jogging stroller for when I run with her and my 4yr old. She doesn't mind sitting in the stroller as long as her big brother is there to hand her puffs. Instead of buying another big bulky stroller I spent my stroller money on the Ergo and haven't looked back at all!! I did buy a cheap $5 umbrella stroller for when I go to my dr appts and need a clean safe place to put her while I'm getting checked out.

Whitney - posted on 06/10/2010

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I would even co-sleep with Braden but he doesn't like it. He has been sleeping on his own and through the night since he was 8 weeks old. This is a baby who needs his sleep. He sleeps 12 hours at night and takes 3 2 hour naps during the day and now all of that has stopped. I don't mind the not playing with toys or not getting chores done. I just know my baby needs sleep and he won't. We have been doing the cry it out for 4 days now and today he has been up since 5:45 am! As for dad, he is an UPS driver and isn't home until he is in bed. He doesn't get up in the middle of the night because he needs his sleep since he drives all day.

Do I just keep my normal routine with him? And if he doesn't sleep keep him up until bedtime? That is what has been going on here. My mom is trying to help and we are both exhausted.

Sarah - posted on 06/10/2010

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Wow Noreen! i havent mastered that yet as shes my first child and this just started but im sure ill be a pro in no time at this rate hahahaha...im breastfeeding and co-sleeping as well :)

for bath time ive found that sitting in the tub with her and encouraging her to play with her toys in there has made her pretty content, its nice to see her laughing and splashing and enjoying bath time like she used to, you may not get very clean at the time but you can get baby all washed up no problem and get some good bonding playtime in as well. I try to save my showers for nap time when daddy is home now but obviously that doesnt always happen lol

For chores i just bring the high chair into whatever room im in and give her some puffs and some toys and as long as i dont go out of site she is usually pretty happy....a baby carrier/sling might work as well depending on what youre doing

anyone elses babies starting to hate their strollers as much as mine hates hers? before this is was a confinement issue she hates her carseat as well for that reason but now its because im not holding her...i felt like the only mom whose kid hates walks because of it, but i got us a kelty the other day and she just LOVED it! she can pull daddys hair and stay close enough and eye level with me to keep her happy!

Chandra - posted on 06/10/2010

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My son is having some separation problems too. It doesnt help not having his dad around much either because even if his dad is at the house, he still wants me to pick him up and hold him. Its not easy getting things around the house done when he wants to be held all the time.

Noreen - posted on 06/10/2010

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Sarah- yes, it's VERY challenging to shower while holding a 20lb baby!! LOL I've mastered shaving my legs one handed too!!!

Noreen - posted on 06/10/2010

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It's completely normal for babies to have serperation anxiety at this age. The world is such a scary place for a little person :). I co-sleep with Abby during the night and nurse her to sleep for night time and nap time. When she falls asleep, I just slowly scoot her to the otherside of the couch or I just let her sleep in my arms. Nap time here is from 2ish-430ish (my 5 and 4yr olds still need naps). I've always tried to relax and put my legs up when my children are napping (or take a nap myself).

As far as him not playing w/toys or screaming in the tub, maybe you could get on the floor with him in your lap and encourage him to play with his toys. Then he'll start getting comfortable and you might be able eventually slowly slip away. And bathtime, have you tried giving him a quick bath in the kitchen sink or taking a shower with him? Your husband can help you with getting him out. It's only a phase, I promise!! He'll outgrow it in a few months and before you know it, you'll have a very confident independant little boy and you'll miss these days! I promise!

Sarah - posted on 06/10/2010

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cant offer much in the way of suggestions but im going through the EXACT same thing with my daughter!!!! it started to get really bad once she really started to teethe about a week or so ago...even if i put her in her tub in the shower with me she still wants me to pick her up and hold her and let me tell you its very hard to shower holding a 20lb baby lmao

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