Alicia - posted on 01/22/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )
Okay, I hesitate to ask these questions, but here goes nothing. And I do assume that I'm not alone, so advice might be nice.
So.... I had my daughter on 9/20/09 and since, I have lost my sex drive. I had it up until I gave birth. AND even had it right afterwards.. in the time that you are not suppose to have sex. SO my first question is - where did my sex drive go now? I am nursing, and am a stay at home mom, but I could care less about sex. I want the baby taken care of, take one good nap during the day, (usually at 2 or 3pm for 2 hours) and then get her to bed at 8.. and by the time that comes AND I've been doing stuff around the house when I can.... believe me, I'm not thinking about sex anymore. How can I get back into the swing of wanting it? My husband says he understands, but to me, he either understands "too much" and gets that I'm tired and doesn't bother or is afraid to feel like he's pressuring me.
my second question is why does it hurt? I didn't' even have her vaginally ... is this normal? We do use lubrication, but it seems to hurt no matter what.
Please help, I do miss being intimate with my husband and would love to know what others have done in this instance.