When is a good time to start thinking of having another?
Brandy - posted on 05/12/2010
While most of you are considering getting pregnant. i found out to my surprise that I was pregnant again when my son was only 3 and a half months old. I am currently 15 weeks pregnant. My personal advice, just make sure emotionally as the carry you are ready. I have been pregnant for the last three years. I have a two year old as well. So, I have a 9 year old, a 2 year old, an 8 month old and almost 4 months pregnant! Thats 4 in all... LOL. And the last.... So I am guessing that the last and the surprise will be a girl. Saying that I have all boys so far.. keeping fingers crossed!
We have been talking about that, too! Our girls are exactly two years and two days apart and while I would like a bigger gap this time, I really would like to have a third and final one soon. It's extremely difficult some days dealing with two, but for us, we want a third child and that will complete our family. I would rather go ahead and have it whenever it happens, rather than wait and go through the baby stage after I've become accustomed to my freedom again! :)
Morgan - posted on 05/06/2010
Danielle is almost 8 months now and we have already started tying for another baby. We had a hard time with her and it took us a year to get pregnant. So we decided to go ahead and start trying, but it all comes down to how comfortable you are having 2 kids close in age.
Brandy - posted on 05/05/2010
my husband and i are discussing another baby now :) Our daughter is 7 1/2 months. We wanted to wait long enough so that she would be a little independent (walking, eating etc.) I am worried about her feeling like we won't pay enough attention to her when a new baby comes only because my niece was extremely jealous and was freaking out when her mom held our new baby and she was 1 1/2 yrs (which is about how old my daughter will be if we conceive now), but I'm told that's just regular mommy worries. Basically it all depends on you and how you feel towards 1 fully dependent baby and 1 semi-dependent toddler. I personally don't want them to be too far apart because I have worked in preschools where I would have 3 and 4yr olds whose parents are expecting and they were happy when mommy was pregnant but after the baby was born they were very upset because baby got to stay home while they had to go to school. Though I am a stay at home mom and that wouldn't be much of a problem for me, but I am afraid of having kids too far apart that Kathleena (my daughter) would get so used to me and mommy time that she would not like the idea at all of someone else taking up mommies time. Now, shes young and doesn't really understand it so i dont think there would be much of a problem (then again I don't really know because I only have one so far =D ) And wow i just wrote alot so im cutting my self off now :)
Basically, if you feeling comfortable . . GO FOR IT!!!!!!!!!
Jessi - posted on 05/04/2010
It seems like a lot of replies are moms having babies very close together! I feel the difference in age between my kids was good. My older daughter was 3y7m when Henry was born in September. I think it's great because my daughter is completely self sufficient. She can go to the bathroom on her own, she can dress herself. i'm glad i don't have two in diapers and i'm not carrying two around. He is completely enamored by her and she's very helpful with him too! If he starts fussing, she can go entertain and distract him until i can quickly finish what i'm doing and tend to him.
Laura - posted on 05/04/2010
My little boy is 8 months old & I want another one, Preferrably a girl but it doesn't really matter.. Im broody but I Dont think that in my head it is the right time for me, I want my baby out of the baby stages before I consider another.. It depends on you as a person as to when YOU feel ready for another baby!x
Katherine - posted on 05/04/2010
Well I am 15 weeks preggo with my 2nd. My 1st is 8 months old. They will be a little over 13 months apart. I am worried but excited. I know it will be hard but am expecting it to work out. If I didn’t get pregnant again so soon I think I would have waited at least a 1 year to let my body heal, but oh well. the Dr.s seem to think it will be fine, so I am not worried. I think that whenever you are ready would be fine to try again. My 2 sisters and me are all 3 years apart and we are still close. I don’t think that it matters all that much.
Janelle - posted on 05/02/2010
I have a 3 year old daughter and a 7 months old son. I was pregnant a few weeks after my daughter turned 2. My daughter was 2 years and 9 months when her baby brother came and there was some jealousy for a few months but things are great now. My son has been crawling for a few weeks and his big sis is loving chasing him and playing with him.
I would love a third bub and am hoping to (if hubby agrees) to try for #3 at this time next year. That would mean my daughter would be just 5, my son 2 and 3/4 months when #3 came.
Amy - posted on 05/02/2010
I really want another and I want them close so they can grow up together and so that my first baby isnt spoilt rotten :) Also I think (not meaning to sound hard) that it would do my first child good not having all my attention cause surely that will affect the way she is when shes older. Me and my husband plan on trying for another pretty soon. I think as much as it may be hard at the start you will reap the benefits when they are older and become friends. Also if you have close friends and family help will always be at hand.
Charlene - posted on 04/25/2010
well i loved bein preggers & want 2 b all the time however its not gonna happen lol i think maybe wen my daughter turns 2 sept 2011 would like 2 b preggers by then so not preggers in the summer i would like 2 say WOW! 2 jamie gr8 times i would love them so close but wouldn't dare lol is the 3rd a sept baby 2? congratulations & gd luck girl! i have 14 nieces n nephews ranging between 14 yrs - 5mths n lots of friends babies i see which 3 were born in the same wk & r now 3.5 mths old so lots around me 4 my daughter 2 get used 2 n playmates yey!!
Jamie - posted on 04/24/2010
Haha! I actually have a 20 month old, 7 month old, and am 19 weeks prego with our 3rd! We weren't planning on having them this close together but I do see the benefits with my girls already. I'm not going to lie and say it was easy but I take comfort in knowing that my oldest daughter and now my 2nd daughter will never remember life without eachother. They absolutely adore one another. Harper (big sis) always looks out for Josephine by bringing her toys, bottles, burp rags and anything else she thinks she might need. It's heartwarming and a relief. I was concerned Harper didn't have enough time to be the baby but it's amazing that you really find time to bond and love each of them individually and together. Good luck and I hope whatever you decide that your little one likes being a big!
Adrienne - posted on 04/24/2010
I think it has everything to do with your life situation and how far apart you wants your grows to be in age. As for me, I had a c-section for our son and would really like to try for a v-bac for the second baby. For my doc to consider this, she told me I have to wait a year before conceiving again which works out fine because we'd like our children about 2 years apart. Try to find a balance between your desired age range between your kids and when you're emotionally, financially(as much as you can be), and physically ready and just cross your fingers....and toes. ;-)
Angela - posted on 04/24/2010
My dr told me that you really need to wait at least a year after giving birth (especially if you have a c-section like me) before getting pregnant again. Its a lot of stress on your body (you should remember I know I do lol). After a year you should be medically ok to get preggers again, and I've heard it usually happens a lot faster after the first kid. It took us 2 yrs to get pregnant the first time so we're not going to wait too much longer to start trying again.
CHRISTINA - posted on 04/24/2010
at least two years i think i have my son who is 7 months old then i have my daughter who is 19 months old and it is hard i think i would have preferred to have had twins i think it would have been easier my son was born 10 days before my daughter turned one year old and when i was very very pregnant to where it hurt to move my daughter was learning (very fast) how to run and open doors cupbards you name she got into it and then when my son was born she would sit and play nicely and then as soon and i put my son on the breast she would run and get into anything she could
Genet - posted on 04/23/2010
Well I am dealing with two babies right now my 1st is 22 months and my 2nd is 7 months it is less than 15 month different bitween them. It can be hard but it is joy to see them playing together at the same time. I have been very lucky my 1st one is not a jelous at all. I must say the hardest time i pass it, now it is been joy and they do not want to much attention as they are there to each other one on biycle and one on the walker running.
Jenny - posted on 04/23/2010
Girl, I was ready for number two before my OBGYN finished stitching me up on the delivery table! Haha. ♥
I'd like to get started for number two sometime this fall...maybe September or October, once my little girl is a year old. I think an 18-month age gap between little ones would be fantastic. Plus, I'm 31, so my clock is ticking, if I'm going to have one or two more.
Ashley - posted on 04/23/2010
I have been thinking about this too, but I am think somewhere around when my son is 3 or 4... personally I don't want to have to change two diapers and etc. My brother and I are 7 years apart and we are closer than any other siblings i know. This is my first child and I really want to enjoy him and give him all my attention right now. I wish you the best of luck.
Kristin - posted on 04/23/2010
We've just started talking about this - I think 18 months apart is the closest I'd want them, but I'd be comfortable with anything between that and about 2 1/2 years... so we might start trying for no.2 when our son hits 9 months. It took a looooong time to conceive him, so we aren't assuming that it'll just happen easily.
Marsha - posted on 04/23/2010
only you can decide that. Make that choice based on you and your partners emotional take on it, whether you are ready to start it all over again, and never forget your little one in this decision. Will they receptive to the new addition or will it cause problems? Is your little one very clingy, cause if so a new baby may upset them cause then your attention divided. Trust your instincts on this. None of us knows how to answer this better than you. After losing my baby girl in November, i think i'm ready to start again, key word is think. But my husband is definitely not.
Sarah - posted on 04/22/2010
My two kids are 21 months apart and it is great! Mason is now 2 and a half and loves his sister. It was difficult being pregnant in the summer with a 1 year old wanting to be picked up ALL the time! But I wouldn't change a thing.
Sarah - posted on 04/22/2010
My husband and I have talked about this a few times, and I think we are going to try for another next spring/summer. So, assuming we get pregnant within a few months, my son will be around 2 1/2 when the other baby is born. Although, we did talk last night about how it would be if we ended up pregnant right now and had our babies like 16-18 months apart or something. I think it would be hard, but people do it everyday.
Betty - posted on 04/22/2010
Hey Christina, I've been thinking the same thing. I really want to have another one by the time my daughter turns two so there's not too much of a age gap between them. But I don't want my daughter to feel like she's not getting all my attention.
I'm having this dilemma. But everyone is telling me that she'll be fine once the baby comes along. One of my friend has 2 kids that's 15 months apart. (She got pregnant unexpectedly). They had a hell of a time in the beginning as the older child didn't really like the younger one much, but the youngest one just turned 1 and they told me is the best ever as they're getting along just fine.
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