Anyone making a birth plan yet?

Shaina - posted on 01/06/2010 ( 31 moms have responded )

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I'm just curious if anyone has started talking about or working out how they want their labor and delivery to go. Is anyone planing on going all natural, or using a doula, or having a water birth, or a homebirth?

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Laura - posted on 01/19/2010

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I'm heading for a vaginal birth again and asking for an epidural as soon as i get in the hospital! I had a very relaxing labour for the last 8 hours and wish i had have had it sooner(17 hour labour). no need to try and be superwomen i say cos at the end of the day its you physical health and mental health that are important.

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Rebecca - posted on 04/13/2010

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Another home birth here...yay! I've done hospital and home (both natural). And I would never go back to a hospital unless one of us was dying. So much I wanted to say to a couple people, but can't figure out how to quote someone!!!

Kate - posted on 04/05/2010

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I'm writing mine this week but there are a few things we already decided on. We will be birthing at a hospital but we don't want any drugs including the IV. We want to be able to use the squatting bar instead of laying down since laying down makes the birth canal smaller.

Kerry - posted on 04/05/2010

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i had my 1st daghter naturally and the only drug i had was pethodine due to me not handling my contractions very well and my midwife was worried about my epilepsy, it worked wonders but wore off so after that i was allowed to have a shower and that also worked wonders, next thing i know im being helped to my bed and my midwife said your there so you now need to start pushing.

my birth plan for the birth of my baby boy is basically what happend to me when i was in labour with my daughter.

Ali Marie - posted on 04/04/2010

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^^Some things to remember; (because that was also my birth plan, and what I talked with my Dr about, but it went down a totally different way)

-the Dr will not be in the room with you hardly at all until the babies head is crowning. Not to say that the nurses and other hospital staff wont try to be accomodating, but you never know who you're gonna get taking care of you. You might get a wonderfully sweet nurse for the first 6 hours of labor, then an old hard ass for the rest of it lol

-Many hospitals have weird, seemingly outdated policies. I was told by my Dr that I would be able to take a shower during inactive labor, as thats what they were there for. But the day of, all the staff was like "Shower??? No, no, no, no not during labor, only AFTER the baby comes."

-Sometimes you have to fight for your right to do what you want. It was really really important to me to be able to move around during labor, but when I got to the hospital (barely in labor mind you) they immediately went to hook me up to a bunch of machines to check my blood pressure, babies heart rate, measure my contractions, an IV for "just in case", etc, etc! I argued with them that I really didn't want all that shit so I could move around, be free, and go NATURAL, but in the end I gave up because it was such a huge ordeal for them. I think they're afraid of getting sued in case something does go wrong...

i think its important to just keep an open mind, not all hospitals are as bad as the one in my town lol

Whitney - posted on 04/03/2010

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I'm hoping for a natural birth especially since its my first one. God gave me wide hips for somethin'! I'm also requesting and requiring my Doctor to allow me to move during labor so that I can work it out myself and not in a lying down, no using gravity position. Its important for you to do as feel is comfortable a position for you. Doctors who honor that and help you along are the best!

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going to try for a VBAC but it all depends on how big this bubba is.
OB says we will do a scan between 34-36 weeks and make a plan then!

Christina - posted on 03/23/2010

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Well from what I understood from your post I felt when you said you will try not to let your husband let you have an epidural that it was something bad. I know you didn't say that but that was just what I understood from reading it. I wasn't trying to come off rude I was actually sharing my story too. I also meant mentally strong as well. When I said it take s a lot of strength. I understand some women can have a natural birth and it be a piece of cake and for others like myself you have difficulties.

Shaina - posted on 03/23/2010

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I'm sorry, but why do you feel like you need to defend having an epidural? Having one is fine if that's what you want. If it isn't that's fine, too. For some women, having a natural delivery doesn't take a lot of strength...I practically sneezed out my last baby. But I also had an epidural with my first. I regretted it because I ended up having a milkd allergy to the medication in the epidural.

Christina - posted on 03/22/2010

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I know its your decision what you want to do about the birth of your child but epidurals are not bad. I tried to have a natural birth with my daughter I made it to 5 centimeters and couldn't handle it so asked for the epi. I was so upset at myself because I always wanted to deliver naturally. I just am trying to say try not to be so stubborn on natural birth because it may not turn out exactly how you want it. This time I decided to not really have a plan. Just let what happens happen. If I end up having to be induced again like I did with my daughter then most likely I will do an epi if not I will try for natural. Props to you for doing ti natural it takes lots of strength.

Ali Marie - posted on 03/22/2010

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I **WISH** I could afford to have a vbac at home, but I just can't afford it!! Over $3500!! So looks like i'm gonna have to schedule another csect which SUCKS. I hate the hospital. They were so shitty to me last time :\

User - posted on 02/24/2010

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I want a natural birth for sure, wish i could have a home birth, but couldnt get a midwife they were all booked up. The second doc i found is for natural birth so i am happy with that. Gonna try for a homebirth with my next one though....and I don't want any pain killers what so ever, they do have birthing pools at the hospital tho so am happy about that. We will see how labor goes i guess you never know what could happen, I was the first child and a cs cause the ubilical cord was wrapped round my neck choking me every time mom had a contraction, and a small baby. my sis was late, a month, and 10lbs some ozs ad mom had vbac with her no pain killers. so we'll see how lucky i am :)

Jessica - posted on 02/14/2010

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i had a epidural 5 min after they broke my water.. not one contraction!! i just hung out with family and waited for the dr.... gonna try this again for my next one.. but with my first i did have a epidural, but not till the last min.. so i have something to compare to .

Heather - posted on 02/11/2010

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I'm deciding if I want to try VBAC, (vaginal birth after c-section). Does that count?

Chelsey - posted on 01/23/2010

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I am planning a vbac and cosidering on doing it at home. I have a midwife and she said that it is not recommended for a homebirth after c/s but she didn't say I couldn't have it. So I think if I push for it I could get it. I am a good candidate for one I have done my research on the subject. I just really want to be relaxed and to be able to give birth and fall asleep in bed without having to be moved and then having nurses come in and bother us at regular intervals. Anyone else feel that way?

Amber - posted on 01/15/2010

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I don't know but I saw this documentary on the whole thing recently and it freaked me out. When I went to my OB/GYM a month ago he asked if I had any questions and at the time I didn't and now I have a ton seeing as how one of my friends just told me that out of the 3 friends that she had that used him as their OB/GYN 2 of them ended up with C-sections and now I am a bit freaked... I thought I wanted the whole epidural thing and then after seeing alternatives I am just confused! I think I need to talk to my Doc and start coming up with some kind of concrete plan... So many options though it is all a bit overwhelming.

Shaina - posted on 01/15/2010

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Wow! That is definitely fast! But it sounds like it was pretty easy, so that's good.

Jalnena - posted on 01/12/2010

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Quoting Shaina:



Quoting Jalnena:

home birth as i had a super quick emergency birth at home wouldnt have made it to hospital! so gotta prepare for another quick one in case





How quick was your labor?





i woke up at 6 in the morning and felt weird and was calling my midwife panicing she said she'd be there as soon as when, she said that i felt like going on to the couch and started pushing was around 7 i had my girl 20 mins later my midwife just got there there was no moving me tho! i was fully dialated and her head was poking out :) it all was a shock cause was a month early to boot!

Ashley - posted on 01/11/2010

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Planning a homebirth with a midwife here. I just finished reading Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein's book "Your Best Birth"-- and no matter *what* kind of birth you are planning, I really, really recommend it! It's good to read as early in your pregnancy as possible so you can get the ball rolling on making sure you're with the right care provider for your goals. If you realize that your doctor or midwife isn't sharing your birth vision, it can be hard to switch if you wait until your late second or third trimesters. (And just crossing your fingers and hoping that things will work out is rarely effective if it comes down to major doctrine differences between you and your care provider!)

Kayla - posted on 01/11/2010

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c-section, i had one with my first after being in labor for 16 hours...my pelvis isn't shaped right for a natural childbirth so vbac wasn't even an option this time!

Kat - posted on 01/10/2010

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I hope natural, just going to wait & see. Sometimes plans can go wrong & that can be upsetting.

Jessica - posted on 01/10/2010

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I also had a quick birth with my daughter. Seems to be a trait with the women in my family that we dont go into labour on our own we need our waters broken but once that is done there is a baby. From the moment they broke my waters (nothing else had started my labour) to when our daughter arrived was 1 hour and 55minutes with no pain relief. I plan to go for an all natural labour again and really want to look into using a birthing pool (just to labour in, not birth in) as the hot water from the shower really helped last time. However I know that there is still a chance that this labour will be long and gruelling so I am happy to follow doctors directions if things get complicated.

Shaina - posted on 01/10/2010

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Quoting Jalnena:

home birth as i had a super quick emergency birth at home wouldnt have made it to hospital! so gotta prepare for another quick one in case


How quick was your labor?

Jalnena - posted on 01/10/2010

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home birth as i had a super quick emergency birth at home wouldnt have made it to hospital! so gotta prepare for another quick one in case

Shaina - posted on 01/07/2010

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I'm having a homebirth with a midwife. Going all natural for the third time!

Mel - posted on 01/06/2010

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well i didnt get an epidural last time but i would have cause i ended up wanting one but thank God it was too late

Mel - posted on 01/06/2010

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natural again , I hope long as I dont try and beg them for an epidural again lol ill tell my partner not to let me

Krista - posted on 01/06/2010

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Mine is unfortunately going to be another c-section. Based on the factors surrounding the birth of my son, a c-section is being deemed safest for all involved.

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