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Due July and Can't wait!

Jennifer - posted on 03/28/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

My husband and I cannot wait to welcome the new baby in July. Already time has gone so quick and there's only 3 months and 2 weeks left of my pregnancy left! Lately I have been cleaning and painting and doing all the handy work around the house! (most of the time its this urge to do it!) Getting ready for this baby is all I want to do! My eldest daughter seems to be very jealous of other babies when I hold them, so the only stress on my mind is how she is going to accept the new baby! The last thing I want is for her to be under the impression that Mommy doesn't love her anymore! I try so hard to prepare her for the new arrival, yet I am still so afraid of what the outcome will be!

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Melissa - posted on 03/30/2010

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When I was pregnant with my daughter I was so worried about how my son would react once she finally got here. We talked about how he was going to be a big brother all the time and how fun it will be for him to play with her when she was old enough. He was 2 years and 3 days when she arrived and he adjusted even better than I did! I was so impressed. He never once tried to get her out of her crib or bassinett or tried to hurt her. And of course we did make special time for him all the time. I hope this is what happens in your case!! Good luck!

Jenny - posted on 03/30/2010

I was in your spot a few years ago when I had my second baby...I was so worried through the whole pregnancy that my oldest would think mommy doesn't love him. My oldest was a year and a half when the second came and all he wanted to do was love on his baby brother which was great but at the same time he did get jealous if brother was getting the love and he wasn't. Luckily my ex husband was pretty good with the older and really wanted nothing to do with the newborn so my oldest got his loving from daddy and mommy when I could. Unfortunately I was a stay at home mom and ex was in the military and second baby was a very colicky baby....but you find ways to make it work trust me. I couldn't even begin to tell you how but in the end it all works and your oldest is still way to young to remember 3 months from now that mommy didn't pay attention to her all the time. Good luck and just think the two of them will be the best of friends growing up...my boys are inseperable, my youngest bawled when his big brother had to start going to school cause his best friend wasn't around any more

Anna - posted on 03/28/2010

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Just make sure people still pay attention to her. It is important for guests too to pay attention to her first and then see the baby but still not ignore her. We have a 16 month old and I know there will be jealousy but the best thing to do is still do the same things you did with her. Make sure that she still gets mommy time and daddy time. If you have a bedtime routine make sure you follow it as best you can. You could also start doing something new after the baby comes with just her to make her feel special. Also let her help. I feel that so many parents push the older child away with fear they are going to hurt the baby, this only causes negative feelings. Figure out something she can do to help.