kissing babies

Katherine - posted on 12/28/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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How to go about telling people not to kiss

my baby. It's mostly family members in most

cases but there have been others. It makes me

Upset when anyone but my husband and I kiss

him. How do I go about telling people to NOT to KISS HIM?

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Greer - posted on 07/20/2011

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I suffer from coldsores, they developed when i was around 4 and it's the worst thing in the world the scary thing is you can be a carrier and not ever suffer a single blister but you can pass it on. around the same time my daughter was born a baby 11 weeks old died because someone kissed the baby on the lips who had an active infection but didn't know. for this reason I don't kiss my daughter on the lips we don't share cutlery, plates or cups, but my extended inlaw family doesn't seem to understand this. I hate when people offer to share food from their plates and due to the culture eat mostly with their hands they still share while they are eating. Also did you know that they have recently discovered that you can infect people with gum disease as well which can tooth formation. my parents had horrible teeth and due to no fault of their own ignorance I believe that is the reason why I also didn't develop many adult teeth and still have a head full of bad milk teeth at the age of 24. so yes kissing babies should be a public NO-No.Education is what the world needs know.....it's just telling that to the people that love and judge you the most. friends and strangers are the easy ones to control

Natasha - posted on 12/28/2010

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sorry i miss read that as you or your or husband dont kiss him my apooligizes. I still personally feel family is ok but everyone has different opinions. like i hate it when i get told i shouldnt be doing things with my son or interacting with him when im at my inlaws and I simply tell them hes my son.
I dont think there could be anyway but to just say straight out "could you please not kiss him " or maybe you could comparise by saying could we just keep the kisses to his hands (if that would make you feel better) and maybe you need to get your husband to talk to his parents as it is easier for him to tell them than you.. it is a very hard topic spec for family because unless you tell them they would have no clue at all it upsets you as this is a way of showing love.

Katherine - posted on 12/28/2010

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I kiss him hundreds of times a day and tell him love him and my husband kiss him too. But it's others if they kiss him and then I kiss him it's like I'm kissed right on the lips, he's my baby to kiss there are other ways for others to show there love other than kissing our son.

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Greer - posted on 07/20/2011

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so kristen it's ok for for every family member to kiss him but your step daughter. who sees EVERYONE ELSE especially the adult who are more likely to carry something. i sence resentment

Kristin - posted on 07/20/2011

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i don't have a problem at all with my son's brother and sister and grandparents and uncles and aunts kissing him. it's family so of course i don't have a problem with it. i do get a little funny about someone kissing him on the mouth. my step daughter has a tendency of doing this and i'm always saying something to her. i'm a germ a phobe though lol.

Natasha - posted on 01/07/2011

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oh definatley i would not let anyone kiss my baby on the lips im not sure either if you meant on the lips. i dont even kiss on the lips i believe lip kisses are between lovers only. neither me or my husband or anyone will be kissing our son on the lips

Terri - posted on 01/07/2011

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is it the fact they are kissing the baby or kissing the baby on the lips? I would agree about kissing the baby on the lips. I have my older boys kiss the babys hand or feet and even my husband and I kiss the baby on the cheek. Especially this time of year with all the germs out there.
Im normaly a very shy person but this is one thing I do stand my ground on and will tell people up front not to do.

Karina - posted on 12/30/2010

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I agree that you will have to come right out and say it. Just tell the people in your life that you aren't comfortable with them kissing him.

It's never been a big deal for me, everyone (both family and close friends) smother my daughters with love and that includes kisses. They are very sweet cuddly girls!

Even though I don't mind the kissing, I would have no problem with someone saying they weren't comfortable with it so I definitely think that honesty is going to be your best policy here.

Karen - posted on 12/28/2010

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I've been pondering your question all afternoon and have some thoughts (which may be scattered as I just got done having 15 kids in my house overnight, lol!). I can't imagine, first of all, kissing someone else's baby. I don't even kiss my nieces or nephew and my siblings do not kiss my babies. It's such a personal thing, that facial contact, and a boundary I would not cross with other babies. However, I feel differently about grandparents kissing my babies (which they do). There is a different relationship with grandparents. I try to project myself to the time I am a grandparent and I know even now that I will want to love on my grandbabies and that includes kissing them. It would be as natural an expression of affection for me as it was when my own children were babies.

Now, my mil used to kiss my children on the lips and I had to put a stop to that right fast (she wasn't pleased but I didn't care).

It is your baby and if you don't want anyone else to kiss him then that is your choice. You could use the season as an excuse (avoiding colds/flu) but then winter passes and you'd have to come up with something else. You said that when others kiss him then you kiss him "it's like being kissed on the lips". I've not thought of it that way before...lol, I guess I'd keep a package of wipes handy and use it on his cheeks! But that's because I bet your little one has adorable, kissable cheeks and those cheeks are like a magnet for affectionate people.

Jaclyn - posted on 12/28/2010

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Natash she said it makes her upset when anyone BUT her and her husband, she doesnt want way one else to. But I do agree with you family members are ok but anyone else I would straight out tell then not to. It is my baby,

You can play it off like you dont want germs, or even make a joke and say " dont kiss my baby I dont know where your mouth has been, then give a little laugh and grab your baby out of their arms if they are holding him and if you are holding him just turn him to the side away from theim. hope this helps.

Natasha - posted on 12/28/2010

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why dont you or your husband kiss your son? out of curiousity..me and my fiance kiss our some all the time tell him we love him yes he is only 5 months old but he is learning .i would not like strangers doing it i would tell them straight out dont kiss him...but family members are just showing there love. when i see family member wether my own or inlaws we always kiss to say hello or good bye is this not the same as the baby?

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