When are you telling people?

Rebecca - posted on 11/21/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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We have decided to tell my parents on Thanksgiving. We are going to have our daughter wear a big sister shirt and wait for my parents to notice. We aren't telling my in-laws until after our first appointment/ultrasound with is on December 9th.

I've noticed that a lot of people are going the Thanksgiving route too (at different boards).

When are you going to tell? Have you told a lot? I didn't tell my work until I was half-way through my 2nd trimester.

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Amber - posted on 01/07/2010

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I told my close friends a week after I found out, but I am telling everyone else starting today, cause woohoo I started my second trimester :) My Mom and Dad aren't in my life for Religious reasons so I don't know how or when I will tell them, but we are telling my Boyfriend's parents tomorrow night at dinner, crossing my fingers :)

Mel - posted on 01/06/2010

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Last time I told my work straight away, like the day I did my second test before any doctors confirmat ion or anything. My manager was really happy for me. I worked til a week before she as born at 39 weeks and put in for 6 months maternity leave but went back early. This time I am nto working just a SAHM and I told everyne straight away when Id had it confirmed by doctor, and I told my mum dad and fiance the day of my first test so only 4 week one day pregnant. I was way too excited because we'd been trying for 13 months where as the first we had been trying for 2 years and thought it wouldnt happen so it was total shock and unexpectd

Lauren - posted on 12/27/2009

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We told everyone as soon as we got our 7 week picture because it seemed too unbelievable! As soon as we got the picture we told everyone because it was confirmed!

Anna - posted on 12/19/2009

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I have had two miscarriages before so we are waiting until we find out the sex and then will tell people then. Our immediate family knows but I'm currently considered a threatend miscarriage so as for friends, they have to wait. I have heard the heartbeat and saw the little guy/girl but am experiencing bleeding. I told everyone with the first two and it was hard to have to tell them what happened.

La - posted on 12/04/2009

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So far I told my mom, a few close friends, and the girls in my nursing class. As far as announcing it to everyone else I think I'm going to wait until I find out the gender in February then send out a mass email saying It's going to be a boy or girl. I don't feel like having the attention about it like I enjoyed having with my first.

Amber - posted on 12/04/2009

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I went ahead and told anyone and everyone :) With my first I waited until 5 weeks to tell parents and that was it. Then at 12 weeks I finally told everyone. It was so hard to wait last time. I figure if the Lord allows for this little one to join Him in Heaven, then it'll just be more prayers from everyone that knows. I work in a setting where everyone's close (although there's about 1000 employees) So if I do lose the baby, it won't be awkward since news spreads fast anyway~

Kat - posted on 11/24/2009

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Quoting Laura:



Quoting Katrice:

Laura - why wouldn't your friends be supportive. That's awful of them.





Hmmm they wouldn't be giving me crap to be mean...I would just get an earfull of  lectures about why I should have waited because of A, B, and C.  I agree that this is not good timing in my life, but what is done is done and I want my baby to be welcomed regardless.





I guess they mean well & you know it, so that's all that matters. Things happen for a reason. You don't have to understand or know why, just know the timing is perfect for YOU.

Tania - posted on 11/23/2009

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I have told close friends but not my family yet or inlaws lol They will find out after our first scan which is just before Christmas :-)

Krista - posted on 11/23/2009

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I've told a few people.....mostly my close friends and family. Haven't told the in-laws yet, however. We'll probably do so around Christmas. I'm in Canada and we've already had Thanksgiving so I can't go that route.

La - posted on 11/23/2009

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Quoting Katrice:

Laura - why wouldn't your friends be supportive. That's awful of them.


Hmmm they wouldn't be giving me crap to be mean...I would just get an earfull of  lectures about why I should have waited because of A, B, and C.  I agree that this is not good timing in my life, but what is done is done and I want my baby to be welcomed regardless.

Kat - posted on 11/22/2009

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I've told everyone important to us, all our closest friends & our families. Now the gossip network can do the rest. I'm only 7 weeks. I don't personally worry about waiting to tell, I figure if something were to go wrong it's my girlfriends that are going to get me through it so they need to know.
Laura - why wouldn't your friends be supportive. That's awful of them.

Sarah - posted on 11/21/2009

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I just found out 2 days ago I am pregnant.. and just figured out a due date too. Anyways.. I was thinking of waiting until Christmas, and my fiance said to wait, when i showed him the pregnancy test, but the next day he told his mom, brother, and some friends. So I told my mom, dad and sister. I am not going to announce it officially yet. I want to wait until later on. But it is hard to not say anything... I told my parents right away too with my first child.

I think it is up to you when you feel comfortable telling people. I think I will make it official Christmas, like I first thought though.

La - posted on 11/21/2009

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I'm really struggling with when I will tell everyone. I've told 2 close friends, but haven't told anyone in my family even my mother who lives with us! My network of friends is completely in the dark as well. Honestly, I know that most people aren't going to be supportive and are going to give me an ear full of why I shouldn't be having a second child yet and I'm avoiding the inevitable...I don't want to hear everyone's crap.

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