Irritated with the breast/bottle issue

Stasia - posted on 04/01/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Right now I am irritated with women who judge each other based on no information other than their feeding style.
We have all met women who believe that women who bottlefeed are inferior, and we have all met people that believe that "breastfeeding isn't all its cracked up to be anyway"
I breastfeed my daughter and had to go through a lot of pain and frustration (two months of it actually) in order to do it. It is something that is important to me that people respect and it is so frustrating to hear a bottlefeeding mother say it doesnt reallymatter.
That aside, it also pisses me off when people make you feel bad if you do formula feed, its formula-NOT poison. It is an excellent source of Iron and vitamins.

Sorry for the rant I guess I am just sick of hearing people putting each other down. We all do what we belive to be best for our families in our own unique situation and that should be respected

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Jessica - posted on 11/06/2009

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I hear ya Stasia! I actually did both. I breastfed until a little over a year, but for some reason when I pumped I couldn't keep up as well as when he nursed from me, but I had to work. I ended up mixing breast milk and formula and that seemed to work out great! I've heard mothers tell me in shame that they could only feed for a couple months before they dried up for some unknown reason, who would I be to hold that against them? Every mom has a reason for whichever way they go feeding-wise, and as long as it's not purely selfish or something I don't see any problem with either. (Examples of selfish would be if you want to breast feed your child so bad but they're not getting enough milk and you refuse to supplement, or on the flip side you don't want to nurse because you don't want your boobs to get saggy {which they will anyway} or out of ignorance of one fact or another)

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Ashleigh Jade - posted on 03/12/2011

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I fully agree, we get caught up in tiny insugnificant lil details! All that matters is that they are healthy!

Racheal - posted on 09/14/2010

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hey let's look at it this way.....at least these babys are getting fed!! lol it could be worse, ppl could be starving babys

India - posted on 06/13/2009

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totally agree, I wasnt sure at first which one i should do. Nobody in my family ever breastfed, so they couldnt give me advice but they almost madew me feel like it was the strangest thing in the world to consider, My boyfriends family all breastfed, some even breastfed each others kids. While i wouldnt go that far with it, i did receive some quality tips. Once my daughter got here, I tried to breast feed and the first couple of tries were awful! I got so frustrated and scared she would starve, I gave up and fed her formula, once I saw a lactation specialist at the hospital, she worked wonders! My daughter latched on with no problems and I have been mostly breast feeding for six months.

I do bottle/formula feed with i have to, my daughter dose not mind, so i could give a care less what other people say. Its so funny how much more open to criticism you become when your a mom, especially a younger mom. What you have to know is you can get all the advice, wanted or not and at the end of the day,its all different and depends on your baby. Instincts kick in and you will know whats the best for you and your baby

Jessamy - posted on 04/12/2009

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Brittany if ppl come say that to you turn around and say "well im sorry, but both my breats have been removed for cancer!)



I hate judgemental ppl, we all do whats best for us and our babies, i loved breastfeeding but if i had for some reason not been able to (or cant this time around) i am glad there is an alternative. Cripes some women just hate it, should they really be forced to continue to breastfed by stupid stigmas? they will probably end up resenting their kids! Peace and love man, each to their own!

Jen - posted on 04/04/2009

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Quoting Brittany:

OMG! I totally agree with you. I tried my hardest to breastfeed my daughter. It just wasn't happening. I even have scars on my boob! It turned out the the way she latches on was ripping my nipple off and there was nothing I could do about it. So now we use the bottle and the bottle can deal with her strange latching methods. :) I don't feel like a bad mother for formula feeding. I don't feel like a "missed out" either. It really does irritate me when women are like "Oh...... you didn't breastfeed. Tsk, Tsk". It drives me nuts!!!!


I had that problem in the beginning and a lactation consultant helped me latch her on correctly and then my nipples weren't sore anymore lol.

Jen - posted on 04/04/2009

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I know what you mean. I breast and bottle fed from day one. I also went to a breastfeeding mom's group once a week and I constantly heard remarks about how bad bottle feeding was and we were doing the right thing by breastfeeding. I never personally got any remarks, but I believe by doing both from the beginning it was easier for Savannah to adjust when my supply dried up at 6 months. Formula is loaded with so much vitmains that it's still good for the babies. Some women just can't breastfeed so formula is all they have. People just need to learn to except that everyone thinks differently and you shouldn't criticize them if their opinion is different.

Brittany - posted on 04/02/2009

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OMG! I totally agree with you. I tried my hardest to breastfeed my daughter. It just wasn't happening. I even have scars on my boob! It turned out the the way she latches on was ripping my nipple off and there was nothing I could do about it. So now we use the bottle and the bottle can deal with her strange latching methods. :) I don't feel like a bad mother for formula feeding. I don't feel like a "missed out" either. It really does irritate me when women are like "Oh...... you didn't breastfeed. Tsk, Tsk". It drives me nuts!!!!

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