All my eight year old daughter wants to do is argue, how can I stop this??

Wendy - posted on 12/19/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Help all she wants to do is argue, that is how I describe my relationship with her, she argues about EVERYTHING.

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Christine - posted on 12/29/2009

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I have 2 daughters...Bryttny is 9 and Alexia is 7...they both like to argue...when they start arguing with me and telling me no...i send them to their room until they decide that they want to behave like young ladies...i dont believe in spanking them...never have and never will...when they decide to act right i let them out and sit them down and ask them to tell me why they got sent to their rooms...and let them know that their behavior is uncalled for and is not apreciated...i talk to them like they are young adults and i dont yell at them...but you have to remember that there are some things that she wont understand...so try talking to her in words that she will understand...thats my advice...

Laura - posted on 12/20/2009

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She is arguing with you because she is applying all of the things that you have taught her to this point in life. Simply refuse to enter into a conversation with her that will lead to an argument. State what it is you are expecting...and walk away. If you have already taught it..there is no need to explain it. Sometimes a response such as, " I understand that you feel that way, however this is what I expect" goes a long way in putting a stop to arguing. She argues with you because she feels that your "buttons" can be pushed, she argues with you to avoid confronting the real issues. Tell her that you will be happy to listen to her...and that you expect her to listen to you as well...and then LISTEN. It does take two people to argue, so do not provide that for her. If she is one who argues about chores, let her know that you will not provide something that she is expecting until such time that she is able to meet your expectations as well. Long story short....Keep It Simple!!!! I hope this helps you through what can be a very frustrating time in life...the testing period.

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Julie - posted on 12/30/2009

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have you tried telling her that if she doesn't stop or do whatever it is your arguing about that you will take television out of her room and she'll be banished to her room for the day or however long you feel is necessary that used to work for me

Shan - posted on 12/30/2009

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Hello Wendy,,,



let her get it out,,,,when she is finished or at least take a break,,,sit down with her,,,and talk calmly,,if she doesn't want to talk calmly,,,place her in time out,,no tv, no games ,,,stand her in a corner or sit on the floor,,,,but you get back in the parent in control . and not child in control,,,she is 8,,,get her attention now,,,,tell her that when she can sit and talk calmly then you will be there and listen...at 8 years old how many problems could she possibly have.



try to spend one on one with her as much as possible.



your friend

shan hayles,,,seniorcitizen52@yahoo.com

Diane - posted on 12/21/2009

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Don't argue with her, she is more than likely doing this for attention. the more you argue with her the more she will do it. simply walk away from her when she starts. Even if it means you need to lock yourself in the bathroom. This may take awhile but after a while she will realize it's not working.

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