is there anything wrong with me being seen naked by my sons?

Gladys - posted on 12/17/2009 ( 68 moms have responded )

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Hi evryone,i have three kids.the oldest is 5 and the middle child is 3.i dont put on much clothes when am in the house especially when am in bed.i know my kids are growing and they are beginning to undastand that our body parts are different .a few family members and friends feel am corrupting their young minds by letting them see me in that way.are they right?

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Janice - posted on 11/20/2012

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Do you think there is anything wrong with it? Your opinion is the only one that matters :) Your friends are closed minded by judging you I think.

Mona - posted on 11/08/2012

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No Gladys i disagree, theres nothing corrupting about showing your own body to your sons. That is simply derranged to think that. Boys are curious at a young age about women's bodies, and they do wonder about their mom's at a young age as well

Kirsten - posted on 01/19/2010

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I agree with Michelle. My kids are 18 and 16 and I still sleep naked, sometimes my daughter comes into bed with me for a chat and a cuddle. Sure I cover up with a sheet if my 18 yr old son comes into the bedroom but he is quite comfortable too. I will occasionally walk aroung in a bra and kickers, my gosh kids see more flesh at a beach or on the tv than at home. As for Social Services, you are not abusing your child in any way. I used to have a bath with my kids when they were preschoolers and they ae well adjusted adults now. I would rather have them come to me to discuss personal issues relating to their bodies than to their classmates. As for the Mum who got embarrased about her 3 year old asking about her penis, if she's embarrassed now what will she be like when he wants advice later on as he ages. He will learn to be embarrassed about his own bady and that is certainly not healthy. We joke about body parts and are quite open, therefore my kids come to me for help. I think you are a great Mum and to hell with what others think. xx

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My son is only 2 but he does see me naked. I don't see the big deal when. I never saw my parents without their clothes on and I turned out fine. My hubby says he used to see his parents naked quite a bit and he turned out fine. IMO, do what you're comfortable with...

Janet - posted on 03/20/2014

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Nothing wrong at all. When did being nude become something to be ashamed or even afraid of? Our kids range from 5 to 12 (boys and girls). We have a very liberal house and our kids have seen me and my husband nude several times in normal situations (changing,bathing, etc.). We also have a pool in back so on very hot days we'll all skinny dip. Innocent fun and a great way to cool off. I also don't have to wash swimsuits. ;-)

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Amy - posted 6 days ago

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This is not corrupting at all. Boys and girls are in africa with no clothes and they arent "scarred" for life by seeing their mom(s) naked. But I think you should stop letting them see you naked when they are 14 or older. That's your choice.

Mikey - posted on 07/06/2014

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When I still slept with my mom and dad my.mom slept naked my dad worked at night so idk

Janet - posted on 03/21/2014

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That is true. Hmmmmm...maybe that's a strong argument for everyone being nude at home all the time. ;-)

Sara - posted on 03/21/2014

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Not having to wash swimsuits is a plus. the less laundry I have to do the better

Mona - posted on 11/26/2012

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Heather i understand that fully, but i feel that nudity should be free of choice and even encouraged. especially for a well developed 12 yo girl, it makes a world of difference for her and her self-confidence. may i ask what cup size she is?

Heather0478 - posted on 11/22/2012

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Mona, my daughter is almst 12 and she is very well developed for her age and she dosnt not want to be see by her younger brother (10) as he does not want her to see him naked. So we respect that n make sure they they respect each others wishes aout that.

Labionda - posted on 11/16/2012

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Yes they are! I remember one time my then 5 year old put on her nightie and took off her panties and went to bed. I asked her why and she was like mommy doesn't go to bed with panties. Honestly I don't remember her catching me without one. Now imagine she had been at a relative or friend's house. We all do it but our kids don't have to know at such a young age.

Mona - posted on 11/16/2012

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well Heather i just dont understand your resigning. you let your kids be free until an age that you feel they shouldnt see each other naked? what does have to do with it?

Heather0478 - posted on 11/15/2012

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i have 3 kids, a girl 11, and 2 boys 10 and 4. we only have 1 bathroom so it is quite common especially of a morning when i am in the shower to have kids barging in for the loo etc.. or for me to pop my head in the bathroom to hurry them along in the shower. in the really hot weather i get around in a bra and boxer shorts and my girl for as long as she feels comfortable doing so, only when it is us hm gets around on a sports bra and boxers as well and thats how she sleeps. my youngest still showers with me (we have no bathtub). regularly they will also walk in on me on the loo. I have tried to be very open with my kids without going too far in relation to their age.nudity isnt flashed around, but it also isnt hidden and made to be a shameful issue. the kids know if my bedroom door is totally shut they need to know and wait, if it is only partially closed they can come on in. i think it is important to be open and honest with your kids and make them feel safe and comfy etc.. not only in their own bodies but in realising that we r all the same as well as diff to each other. my eldest is quite happy to come to me or her dad with questions or anything else because we have been open and honest. as i said b4 we dont get around naked and encourage nudity, but it is treated as a normal, natural thing and nothing to be ashamed about. in saying that we dont let the older kids see each other etc.. as they r at the age where they dont need see each other or want to be seen by each other like that.

Ken - posted on 11/15/2012

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Whether this is wrong is up to you and nobody else. I saw my mother naked quite often when I was a child and honestly, I never had an issue with it.

Michael - posted on 11/04/2012

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Hello, Gladys, I think it is normal that your children see you romp around the house completley naked. When the time comes, they might prefer to see you with a little bit of clothes on. Just leave it up to them, dont sweat it at all !! even if you put on a sexy, little something, like a short babydoll nightie, it is totally fine. My friend, Nadine, is 31, and has 3 kids 5yrs old to 15 yrs old. She has a gorgeous, barbie-like body and is completley comfortable romping around totaley naked in front of her children.

Laura - posted on 10/13/2012

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Its just silly to think kids are going to be corrupted by seeing others' bodies. Its natural. Bodies are beautiful and kids should never be taught that it is something to be ashamed of or feel weird about. No there's nothing wrong with them seeing you nude.

Leonor - posted on 10/09/2012

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of course not! i do have a 4 year old and a 3 year old, and also they still see me naked when i take a shower, or if i go to the bathroom! and despite they know also there are differences (they say i do not have "pee pee" like them, just like daddy, LOL) they do not have any malicious comments about it! i think if you act normal at it, they will see it normal... mine do!

But! i am starting to implement the privacy policy! I am trying to tell them i will need privacy when i go to the bathroom, and that they need privacy when they go to the bathroom... litlle by little!

Jennifer - posted on 10/07/2012

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My son and I are nudists so we are always naked at home...Or he will wear his lil boxers and i will wear a g sting and tank. Not shy at all...

Tina - posted on 10/02/2012

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The boys should learn the facts at the right time. I had only one son, and don't remember now when the last time it was when he was very little that he saw me like that if at all. Perhaps when he was an infant and I was nursing him, and or was able to give him a bath and I took one too, but I didn't do that very long. When he stopped nursing that's when I think I stopped the other. But I do remember taking him to my husband to know the masculinity that would be important for him when he got older. I don't think that you should have allowed that past the age of nursing. But that's just my thoughts on the subject matter. One thing you should do is talk this over with your husband hopefully you still have him with you, and see that he understands what is going on and see if he is concerned about that, if he is then I would follow his advice on the subject matter.

Sumathiranisunder - posted on 10/02/2012

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i t is wrong to see your naked by your sons. you do show naked body to themnot

Jen - posted on 12/20/2011

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i have three grown kids i was not one to hide around my kids and we healthly naked relationship im always naked around them now that they are in their 20s , jenny

Telika - posted on 05/07/2010

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my son is 15 and has seen me naked he'll jokingly say put on some clothes but dont pay me any attention,if it helps you might want to wear a robe,and tell them to knock before entering your room and bathroom

Megan - posted on 04/04/2010

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I am not scared to let my daughter naked nor her friends. If she is ok with it I am too.
She is a nudist too.

I am new here so if you want to be my friend and is a nudist please add me. Oh mom's ONLY. NO MEN

Karen - posted on 03/11/2010

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Our children come into this world naked and enter through the most private area of us women. NATURAL EVENT! I breast fed 4 children they were exposed to nakedness every few hours. this was again a NATURAL EVENT! When my children finished their baths they would run run around the house laughing at the feeling of freedom and then would be ready for pj's. Every Mom just needs to use common sense when it is appropriate or not to be in the natural. I question why the outside family has concern in the first place? are you walking around with outside immediate family seeing you? maybe they are uncomfortable at your exposure. I would suggest that in certain areas of the house it is ok to be totally naked in the bathroom or bedroom. What does the family think about swim wear? very similar to under ware! Enjoy YOUR HOME! my children are 22,23,25,& 27. My son at the age of 23 had to have a tailbone procedure and asked that I be present this totally surprised the dr's my sons response was my Mom has seen my rear more times than I have! create security by being honest about your body images!

Caroline - posted on 02/08/2010

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hi i am funny about my 9 year old son seeing me with not much on but my youngist son he will be 5 in march and he still comes in to the bath with me. i think most mom heres are right when your eldist son turns round and says mom get some clothes on then you should start to think about it i always wear my pjs round the house but everyone has diffrent ways of things

GAYLE - posted on 02/07/2010

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I don't think there is anything wrong with it either as Adriana has said it is natural and I think your children will grow up learning to love their bodies and not having any issues with theirs which is a good thing as they to be comfortable in their own skin.
I think if you hid away from your kids all the time it might have the effect of them being prudish!
Maybe when they get slightly older and ask you to wear some clothes then you can start to change your ways.

Adriana - posted on 02/07/2010

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I don't think there's anything wrong with it...it's natural I think.If they get to a point where they tell u they r not comfortable with it then u can reconsider it. Maybe u should have a talk with them too to kind of find out how they feel about it, they probably don't see it as anything weird since they're used to it.

Michelle - posted on 02/06/2010

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Nichole..theres a difference with you walking in on your b'f s dad to Glady's in bed at home... Yes of course you shouldnt be naked when you know your older children are coming home from school with the possibility of them bringing a friend over. Sounds to me like your b'f''s dad didnt really think that far ahead : ) and seeing that would have scarred me for life! I probably would have laughed it off so hard that I keeled over too...at the end of the day you do need to be respectful to others around you...people from outside dont need to see your body...I just dont see the problem with a child seeing thier mother naked...like I dont see the problem in older boys seeing thier dad naked, nor a girl seeing her mom naked...there is a cut off point where a boy should not be allowed to walk in on his mum and vice versa a girl walk in on her dad or the other way around. But I think that age is more when puberty starts to kick in, not 1/2/3 yrs of age.

JEsse - posted on 02/05/2010

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like the other mothers said this is a personal desion there is no need for judgement

Glory - posted on 02/05/2010

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as soon as they realize that your body is different from them is not a good idea to be naked in front of them.

Nichole - posted on 02/05/2010

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Hey, Gladys, I had a boyfriend in Jr High school, one day we were going to his house to study for a test & we walked in on his big fat Dad naked. (Yeah, it was awful. My boyfriend was humiliated, I was too. The guy's Dad just said "whoops", put the newspaper over his penis, & waited for us to leave the room.) The point of all this is if you're having doubts as to when it's inappropriate to be naked in front of your kids, you're answering your own question. Better to be safe & end it early, than sorry, like my old boyfriend. I saw him years later after graduation & he was still humiliated by that day. And robes & PJ's can be comfortable too.

Marianne - posted on 02/05/2010

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thank you Michelle & others for the professional reply and not a value judgment! that's not what this is about!!!!

Marianne - posted on 02/04/2010

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I would LOVE to know the answer too...my 2 yo already tells me to put clothes on!!!

Carrie - posted on 02/03/2010

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I feel you need to cover up .you kids do not need to learn that it is ok to dress this way. You are setting a examble .

Keli - posted on 02/02/2010

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hi im a mother of one and another on the way i have taken showers with my son hes 2 he still breast feeds and i think the best place for a child son or daughter to learn about body parts is from there parents just like love and sex (not letting ur kid watch of course) but letting them know how things work and why where different i where a big T and undies for most of the day for im stay at home mom and dont go out much so what ever u think is fine for ur family is fine for ur family even when my son is ten or 15 he will know that breast are just fun bags but that they give life and nutrients to babys and thats how there ment to be feed and that a womans body is a beautiful thing and why should he be a shamed.....

Michelle - posted on 02/02/2010

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Tina, what did adam and eve wear???? I didnt think clothes were made at the start of time? modesty is the best way of raising children who respect thier bodies and others BUT modesty can come as:

1. having or showing a moderate or humble estimate of one's merits, importance, etc.; free from vanity, egotism, boastfulness, or great pretensions.



with this definition you can teach your children that not boasting about how 'beautiful' they think they look or they have the best looking eyes etc...



2. free from ostentation or showy extravagance: a modest house.



You teach your children to not have loads of toys if they dont play with them, to share thier things, to be concerned for others if your children have a nice house, not to boast about it when there are children who have no home...



3. having or showing regard for the decencies of behavior, speech, dress, etc.; decent: a modest neckline on a dress.



you teach your girls that they dont need to dress provocativiely infront of boys just to impress and that they should respect themselves for men to respect them...

you teach your boys the way that a woman dresses does not mean he has the rights to tease/ridicule or use her.



4. limited or moderate in amount, extent, etc.: a modest increase in salary.

obviously not one your chidren will be concerned with just yet :)



We have to teach our children RESPECT more than anything else and with this, they learn ways to live and love.

Mary - posted on 01/29/2010

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Gladys nothing to be embarresed about that . I am glad u explained that boys have a penis and girls don't he must have been relieved. My 3 year old came up to me once quite upset after seeing her brother going a wee and she was so upset cause she thought she had lost her willy.I laughed and sat down and cuddled her and told her that she didn't loose anything as girls did not have one only boys . She was so happy after that laughed and went off to play. Lol

Mary - posted on 01/29/2010

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Hi Glady's I guess it depends on how u see it personally. I had no problem with my children seeing me go in and out of the bathroom with no clothes and wheither I wore somrthing in bed or not.But from the age of three onwards I covered up a bit more they never took no notice of me as they were used to me and I never wanted them to grow up thinking there was something wrong the naked body which is a thing of beauty. They are grown up adults now with children of their own and would drop dead if they saw me running round in the nude now lollll

Dessie - posted on 01/29/2010

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If you want to go around half naked in front of your kids that is ur right.But when they get older well u need to put more clothes on.How would u feel if they want a sleep over at ur place and the child says well watch out for my mom she wear ever little clothes and the parents says NO to that.Ur kids are mad at u but hey that is ur right.Just make sure u dress better when hey get older.

Tina - posted on 01/28/2010

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Everyone indeed has their view of what they feel is right and what they are comfortable with. I was taught modesty at an early age, and did my best to remain that way when my own children were young. I felt it was better that way. Though when they were infants, I took them at that new born age to bed with me for nursing, and they did well in that time frame. But when it got to the point that it was a harder time to have them in bed then they moved to the crib, where my dear husband seranaded them to sleep. It took a longer time for our son to go to sleep, but they did manage. I had to have my three in the same bedroom, and the son was the youngest his first year like that. When we moved then they had their own bedrooms. I didn't walk around like that in the house, pj's was the best I did at those hard times of illness and they knew that too. We are all grown up and my little ones are now in their 20's ! No issues of questions there as they learned what they needed in the classroom, even though we would have shared if they had asked. It worked out fine, and my youngest will soon be a father ! So I have reason to be happy about that . My daughter in love, is a dear sweet wife to my son and for that I am so glad. God created the body, to be loved by the mate, the children were not exactly instructed to be unrespectful of their parents, but to respect them. I wouldn't want to hear, that I was indecent even in front of my kids when they were little in the home, let alone anywhere on a trip. We did well, and for that I am glad. Pray if you know the Lord, and ask HIM otherwise seek to come to HIM if you want to know the answer that is acceptable to HIM. I.E. Jesus is the One I am referring to. His Word does help, and yes modesty is the preferred way to learn even though I realize there are many who are happy with the way they were brought up and not worried about it.

Michelle - posted on 01/26/2010

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Thanks Ify.
To charlene...I didnt mean 'abused' as in any term of illegal abuse as such. I put it in asterics cause I meant it to mean 'abused' as in not falling in love and pushing to lose virginity, and not respecting the womans body for what it does and who she is. Im sorry to hear of your siyuation when you was younger, I do know people very close to me who have gone through sexual abuse. Sorry if it was misunderstood. I just meant that boys should be brought up to be comfortable around women and not grow up to act like immature bad boys. I would much prefer it if when I was a teen and dating that my boyfriend knew about the ways in which the female body works etc...and so talking to him would be easier. I talk to my partner about periods, cysts down there etc...anything really and he understands..its really nice to have a grown up conversation. He grew up around 4 sisters...so hes seent hen go through changes and things, but sorry to say, when it comes to sex and babies and all that family stuff, he could be a lil bit more educated..and I know this is because his mom did not talk to him about this kind of thing when he was younger, it was forbidden and they are church goers so talk like that is unheard of. So its much better for them to be spoken to and given good and factual advice to stand them well in the future, for future relationships...and another point that I was meant to make for the 'abuse' term, was that if you teach your boys to respect women, they wont go around 'just dating for fun'...and they will know to be with someone if its worth it.

Vickie - posted on 01/22/2010

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not at all my mums has 6 kids 2 boys and 4 girls and she has a bath with door open and gets changed in front of us and sleeps in bed naked aswell i think there is nothing to hide as you are there mum

Gina - posted on 01/20/2010

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not at all. You are teaching them to be comfortable in their own bodies and to open the dialogue in the future. The body is beautiful and there are all types, it is not a shameful thing to be hidden at all times. Good Luck

Nicole - posted on 01/18/2010

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I think its up to you how you walk around in your home in front of your children. I personally dont think there is anything wrong with children seeing their parents naked. Unfortunately people tend to sexualise something that is innocent and make it a sexual thing ( corrupting them as you said) when its not. The adults have the problem not the children.

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Hey Hun,
how can you be corrupting their minds?? sorry but what a load of rubbish, first of all, what you do in your home is your business... I have a 5year old boy, and i walk about in my undies most of the time, because that is how I am comfortable, I don't make a big deal out of it, because I do not want to give my son issues that he does not need, I taught him from an early age, boys have diddles and girls have boobies and private parts (I must admit, i'm not comfortable using the term vagina, never have been)
Most of the time i sleep just in my undies and he will come in for cuddles in the morning and i give it to him, i'm not ashamed to be naked next to my son, and you shouldn't be either with your children... my son will walk in on me when i'm in the toilet or having a shower, of course I ask him nicely to leave so "mummy can have some privacy" and also he still pats my boobies and says "my boobies" which i tell him, no there mummys, but i don't make a mountain out of a mole hill, children are learning and curious creatures of everything!!!
I remember one time my son was almost 4 and I took him to the zoo, we were watching the giraffes and he yells out "*gasps* mummy look that that diddle!!" i replied, "thats because he is a boy giraffe isn't he" "yes he is" my son replied and that was that, there were these other parents quickly taking their children away or covering there eyes because of nature....
When it all boils down, the decision comes down to you, if you are comfortable being somewhat nakie in front of your children, so be it... DONT let others tell you that your corrupting their minds when TV does that by its self!

Charlene - posted on 01/17/2010

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Hey Hunni this is a part of every day life & I dnt see it as any problem as i do the very same as u and all you have to be ready for is the little questions n For us as parents to be prepared & ready with a very reasonable & understanding answer as Michelle has stated on her post. After all we entered the worl naked n by all means being naked is a part of life the human body is in no way anything to be ashamed of Nor Is It Any Object To Be Abused in Anyway as I Went through Being Abused at a very young age by my used to be step-father & i would kill any1 who touched any of my family even more so my son, step-kids, nieces etc in that way and this is what we have to teach our children that no matter what we can be naked or partly naked and in no way does that ever give any1 on this earth any rights what so ever to touch us in any abusive way in any shape or form as this in no way will ever be tolerated....

Marian - posted on 01/16/2010

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I have no problem with this matter, you can raise your family in anyway you desire. In the earier years families hardly wore clothes. I have an 8 yr old son. I dont do as much now but when he was younger, my husband and I were more free, we would change our clothes in front of him. We are very open in our family. You have to use your own judgement.

Good luck
Marian in Maryland

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