teen mum vs social services

Abi - posted on 11/10/2009 ( 48 moms have responded )

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i cant stand it when social services think that because your a young mum that you arnt capable they took my daughter off me then did some assesments and realised that i am more than capable to take care of her. they have no right without proof to take a child just due to your age i still havent got my daughter back nearly 5 months later even tho i have been proved to be capable. it makes me so down not having her.. i still see her everyday but its not the same.. not being able to put her to bed and give her a goodnight kiss... bath her and splash about i havent even taken her swimming i dont know how to cope with her its like taking a part of my body away so i cant function i want her back :'(

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Michelle - posted on 12/08/2009

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Something is not right....

1.your solicitor lives in a different part of manchester??? So far for you to travel??? If what I had to do..concerned my daughter...Id travel accross the world walking....let alone across one city. What happened to phonecalls/email???

2. Your babies daddy does not have nay parental responsibilty over your child. Yes hes biologically her father...but to the courts hes only that.

3. When you left care on your 16th Birthday why did you not go straight back to your moms??? Or why didnt you tell social that you were going to a mother and baby hostel???

4. Why did your daughter get taken in the first place?
(Your mom called them after she was born, and said something nasty about you?, then they took her away, did some assessing and realised your were capable of caring for her? Yet in the meantime your mom hit you and you went into care yourself, sophie was given to your mom...now they are not giving her back to you?)

First thing Id do, now your old enough is to move away. Tell social where you are moving too. Give them a new address and contact number. Go to the council (anyone) and say your homeless, youve been in care and have a child that is in the hands of the social at the moment..you have nowhere to live.

2nd Get a job...if you havent already. Decorate your house and buy toys, clothes and everything that is needed for a child to live with you.

3rd. Write to the social and explain what you have done and that you have matured, and would like to see your baby more often. Send them photos of your new place and get an adult to vouch for you...Someone like a GP....move doctors from where you are and ask them to do an assesment on your wellbeing and mental health.

4th Have no contact with your mom...at all. shes obviously not making things easy for you.

5th Once you have done all these things social will re assess you, you may be swapped to a different council which means different social workers.

Have you a copy of all the things they write about you..try asking for one or ask someone to come round and explain everything to you in detail and take notes.

Theres soemthing still really fishy about all this Abi...and its either social services not acting right or its someone not telling all the truth.....

Courtney - posted on 11/11/2009

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Under what premise did they say they could, would, and were taking (and did take) your child away from you?? I've got a niece who is fifteen and just gave birth a couple months ago. Our DHS hasn't said or done anything as far as she's concerned. Darlin, my advice would be to get a lawyer to take your case and go after social services. If they've indeed taken your child for nothing and you've been proven fit.. I'D GET EM FOR KIDNAPPING!! I'd hit em right where it counts. Threaten em with a law suit!! Tell em either file charges NOW or they have just so long to give you back your kid or else they better lawyer up!!!

Michelle - posted on 12/01/2009

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first of all...yes people do phone social and they call it 'malicious' but they normally check it out and see that it is really just someone being nasty.
second...when they told you to leave becasue your mom hit you, why did you not take your daughter with you. yes you did abandon her, with your mom, who is violent...right??? correct me if im wrong please abi.

3rd..does your mom have a criminal record? was she convicted of abuse towards you?

I take it they have given your mom parental responsibilty been as they have found her to be the closest person to you that can take care of your child..and yes Abi...social services CAN get it wrong...look at the baby P case.

I dont see why your solicitor is not helping you more... what is stopping him doing the right thing? what is getting in his way of being able to get your daughter back?

Sorry to ask but how old are you? Are you under 18?

im ot pressing you..but another question, if you had been subjected to abuse when younger by your mother, why was you still living with her/around her when your baby was born??? surely if you know she was capable of hurting someone youd get away. If my mum had hurt me (unnessessary punishment for things id done)...i wouldnt live with her..id have asked the police to get involved and get me as far away as possibel.

Another thing...social services will redeem you incapable of caring for your child if you...yes you allow the child in the first instance to visit/see a family member that is abusive. My friend was with a man...just had his baby and because of his history social services got involved...shes not allowed to take baby to see him nor is he allowed within a certain distance of them both. If she breaks this condition...she will ave that child taken away from her because she is putting him in danger. Even though she is not an evil person.

Michelle - posted on 11/18/2009

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Abi...i feel sorry for you. Like most have asked...what was the reason for them to take your little girl away?

Tips I can give you (as I work alongside social services as a child carer) would be to :

-Get a job

- Either get your own place, or stay with your mom where she can be a witness to your behaviour with your child as well as being your gaurdian she has rights over your child too. She can actually get parental responsibilty for your baby from the courts which can be lifted when you are 16.

- Get off the benefits if you are on any and provide for your child...a 15 yr old can gea part time job (i did as a medicine counter assistant in a pharmacy) and did GCSE's too.

- Do you still go to school? If not, Go back or go to college and do a night class in childcare.

- Save whatever money you get in a bank account for the little one.

- Make sure where your living is clean and appropriate for a baby and growing child.

- Make sure the area you love in has mother and baby groups and things like that where you can take your child ( health visitors love to hear of mums taking children to rythem time etc...)

- Work with the Social....not against them..prove to them you are capable of raising your baby.



Can I ask whether your child's father is involved in your life?

And if so what is he doing to help you?



I feel for you, but the social do have thier reasons for keeping a child in care...but you have to fight them in a mature way to be heard.



As Susan pointed out... I suggest too, that you visit your citizens advice berauo and get a free solicitor to help you if you feel you are being mistreated by the services.



I hope this helps and If you would like to chat please message me. I will try my hardest to offer you support to get your child back...if you are a 'good enough' mother...thats where she belongs...with you.

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Teena - posted on 10/30/2013

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im fighting for my kids back right now..... my kids fathers sister has a obessive disorder with my boys!!!! she came to me with a power of attorney form asking me to sighn it giving her permission to set up docters apts and take them out of state enroll them in school.... /:/ (she only had them on the weekends because dad was never around) i said NO WAY! literally the next day c.p.s came knockin on my door stating theyv been getting reports of child abuse and neglect and took my kids and placed them with his sister and her fiance who is btw out on parole for MURDER! his parole officer came to court and testified for him, saying he wasnt a harm to the boys..... its like a conspiracy and here i am seven months later still fighting for my boys back!

Bonzz - posted on 02/19/2013

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When my first kid was born, after 22 hours of labor, 15 of them hard, he had a "labor bump" where the presenting part of his head hit my not open-enough cervix. The medical term is non-calcified right perinatal hematoma. At the hospital, I asked two docs and five nurses why my newborn's head was kinda/sorta squared off and weird-looking. They all said it was a labor bump.

Six weeks later, at a new baby wellness visit with the pediatrician who was one of the docs who had seen the labor bump at the hospital, or should have seen it and remembered it, I was accused of child abuse -- slamming my baby against the wall. I would never do anything like that. About 10 super-frightening hours later in the ER, some Ahole handed (nearly threw) my baby back to me and remarked, "We couldn't prove anything."

Yes, they can take your kid, and for No good reason.

Swayla - posted on 02/05/2013

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im goin thru the same thing at the moment they took my son outa my care hes 13 days old and i been crying and alot has been goin on between me and his dad its just a shame and the nurses at the hospital lied and said i was yelling at my son the social worker said i was a unfit mother wich is messed up hang in their do what you gotta do have faith and trust in the lord because it matter the lies of other peoples

Sherry - posted on 11/07/2012

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Talk to your social worker, ask what you need to do to get your daughter back. I know there is a plan to assist you at being a better mother. If you go to the classes, find a job, or do what ever they suggest, if you are mentally healthy and able to be a good parent, it is THIER GOAL that you are reunited.

Abi - posted on 04/05/2010

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thankyou all so much for this support my daughter is 1 on monday and ive not had her since she was 6 weeks, my final court date is on the 10th may, hping it will go well, but social are still lying, i see my daughter 2x a week atm due to work and for the past few weeks i have gone to contact and they havent turned up, no warning no phone call my last court date few weeks ago i was told it was at 10.30 but they changed it to 9am and didnt tell me this made me look bad a hell of alot, even tho i still turned up to court, i am at the end of my teather ive got depressed and theres nothing tht can help, i love my lil girl with all my heart but social seem to think i want to go out with friends instead and go clubbing, but thts not true at all i wud glady stay at home and tuck my lil girl into bed and watch her sleep then get drunk, but anyway thankyou all you have helped me this past few months alot and hearing about ppl winning against them gives me hope that one day my little angel will be returned to me and when that day comes social will be out of our lives forever and let us be a proper family xxxxxx

Lauren - posted on 03/24/2010

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oh. my god. I would literally shoot any person that walks threw my door coming to take my son. no fucking way.

Katherine - posted on 03/12/2010

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There are sooo many misconceptions about Child Services. I helped start a Federal Grand Jury investigation on CPS in the County where I was living. PLEASE, ALL MOTHERS HEAD THIS WARNING: CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES IN THE UNITED STATES IS NOT HERE TO HELP YOU OR ANYONE'S CHILD. Abi, they will do or say any lie that will make you think that the problem is YOU: IT IS NOT YOU, it is the system. If you don't have a lawyer, then get one, if you can't afford one then you should be able to get one for free. If you have a lawyer then fire him and get a new one. (I got a judge removed from the Bench and a lawyer disbared for being 'in bed' with C.P.S.) I would like to know what State you are in. If I can help, I will be more than happy to. You can contact me at kafelsch@hotmail.com.

Amy - posted on 03/10/2010

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Just reading what you have all gone through brings tears to my eyes. I cant understand what you are all going through as it hasnt happened to me, but it breaks my heart just thinking of people taking your baby away from you with no good reasoning. I hope and pray that you will all get your babies back soon.

Heather - posted on 03/01/2010

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a good web sight i would recomend is www.forced-adoption.com it tells you everything you need to know

Heather - posted on 02/26/2010

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i know exactly how you feel the s.s kidnapped 5 of my children 2 from school 2 from nurseryand 1 from the hospital 10 days old ,i have 7 children but now only have 2 living with me they took them back in 2006 ive been fighting ever since there reason for taking my children was our house was overcrowded 8 people living in a 3 bed house,to much clutter,and they accused us of missing hospital appointments and now i have 2 kids in long term foster care and my 3 babys age 3,16months,10 days old were put up for adoption and am not allowed to see them the youngest baby was adopted in july 2008 she is now 4 we havent seen them since march 2006,the 2 children in foster care we only see once a month for 2 hours even though they new we were a very close family they always said the children were loved ,well dressed etc they still took them ,after fighting for 3 years to get justice we finaly went back to court in feb wwith all the evidence against s,s the lies they make up are unbelievable and as i said to the s,s if my childrn were in significant harm why did you leave 2 of them in my care,so i know exactly how you feel and i know all the under arm tactics they come up with just keep fighting dont give up you will win eventually might take months or even years but just keep telling your baby you love her and will fight for her to return home if you need any more information about s,s just ask

Dusty - posted on 02/19/2010

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I gree with everyone. It's not right for them to just come in and take your baby from you like that. It just makes me want to kick the social workers butt for doing that to you and your baby. I'm very proud of you for being involved with your baby everday even though it is for a little bit! If I were you, you and your mom need to go to court and look at them and say.... I love my baby and I want her back in my home with me! Then let them know that the social workers have taken your baby, but they have only proved you to be a fit mother! Let everyone know where you stand and how you feel! Go fight for your baby back! That is my advice to you! And keep going everday and spend as much time as you can with that precious girl of yours! From looking at her pic, she is a beautiful little girl and you are blessed to call her yours! God Bless you and I wish you all the luck in the world!

Caroline - posted on 02/08/2010

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stay strong i to was a teen mom i had my son when i was 17 i like to think i did a good job i would keep asking when can you have your daughter back and tell them it hurts you can not do stuff all moms get to do like what you put your post when i read your post it made me cry also i miss my two sons like crazy when they are at school and i cannot wait for them to come home stay strong and you will get her back x

Shona - posted on 01/16/2010

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I agree with this...social services say they have a case against me coz im "2 overprotective/anxious about my 6month old baby girl" but i cant bare the thought of her being ill. its ridiculace. I am only 16 and i believe this is why they targated me.

Rebecca - posted on 01/13/2010

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Best of luck with everything. I know what it feels like. I have been there. And it sent me into deep depression but i fought back and proved to everyone that i am very capable of looking after my kids. And i too had a daughter in care from birth once as i was having a family problem at home. I too saw her everyday and it still hurts. I got her back after 2 months and still to this day she is very clingy to me. She is almost 5 yrs now. Stay strong

Leigh - posted on 01/12/2010

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Keep you chin up my Darling.You will get your daughter back you are a good mum!I wish you all the luck,love and peace in the world x

Abi - posted on 01/11/2010

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left my daughters dad now he was the main cause of this they told me i started a job today well its a job/ school and i have a new bf who has been looked at by ss and they agree he is ok. my life is gettin to wht they want it to be. ive dne everythin now just have to wait till my next court date hopefully it will all go well thankyou every1 for your support :) xxxxx

Sharon - posted on 01/07/2010

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omg,tats terrible.u need professinal advice here.u shuld go 2 legal aid board get a solicoter,sue them.u poor ting i no wat ur going tru as im in middle of custody battle myself&my youngest is wit her dad i only ave her at weekend as she attends school where he lives,my hearts broke.god u must be going tru hell.get legal advice dat seems so wrong it makes u feel so inadequate.il say a prayer 4 u.keep strong

Glory - posted on 01/06/2010

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It soean't make sence how social services would just take a child away form their mother with no findings of neglect and abuse...I'm not a social worker but I have experienced it first hand, with my children everytime was exhusband was upset with me or my niece and nephew that where both adopted within the family...my niece and nepehew their mother (my bother's girlfriend at the time) gave the first one up after a month, than wanted to fight for him beacuse she regret it giving him away...my oldest brother and wife adopeted him after 2 years. Before the years where up she had another child(girl) and gave her up after two months. My mother adopted her. Now they are 11 and 10. My brother did drugs and disappeared 5 years ago. She had mental problems and god know what esle. I have to say, Social services did everthing they couold to get those babies back to the mother, but she and my brother did absolutely nothing to get themselves right and take care of their children. There is not enough Foster care parents to go around, never the less does social services want to take your child when they really have nowhere to place her. I don't knwo what state you are from, but it does not make sence.I had social services called on me numerous amount of times, they check the children for any bruses, they want to know where they sleep, where are their toys, do you have food in the cabinets and fridge, and they ask the kids questions. Does mommy hit you? Where? Whith what? Your house could be dirty, filthy, and that is not good enough reason to take your children away. Is yur daughter in foster care? I hope you know that there is something called kinship, which is...that your mother or one of your relatives can temporarily adopt her while you are getting yourselve together..You can also have custody of her if you live with your mom or just anyone you know as long as the baby has her onw room, not sharing it with a boy...If you are proven to be fit, that means that you have to have a way to provide for her (like a job) and yu have a save enviroment to live in and the baby gets her own room..If the social worker removed your child from your home without cause and the social worker lied, yu can have him or her fired...I did it !!! You have rights as a mother , the courts, protect the biological mothers, I've been in court I know!! Just provide everyting the courts ask you too, go to parenting classes if you have too, go to every visit you have with your daughter, DO NOT miss one, and remember your child gets her own lawyer, the lawyer will fight for your child...your problem isnot social services ...your problem was the social worker that claims he or she had enough findings for child neglect or child abuse (physicaly) only you know the alligations...If you have any questions, feel free to ask me, If there is anything I can advice you I will...If your child is not with a family member, is very inportant that you get that child to kinship (a relative foster parent ) not a stranger!!!good luck!!!

Denise - posted on 01/06/2010

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Hello my name is Denise i am from Miami Social Service took my babies because i feel to protect them there was no proof but they did that i know what you are going thru i experience it first hand i got my kids 2years later i was stonger and wiser and put my trust in god because sometimes your emeies can be sitting right next to you so pray and trust in god he will make a way out of no way be strong in the lord and he will direct your path whatever the situation may be. And be very nice to Social Services they hold the key to getting your kids back they play a big role if you attuide get rid of it and show them that you have change for the best and ask god to remove the angry and hate that you hold for the courts and SS. just focuse on getting your kids back and doing the wrong thing good luck

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I've already seen what I'm about to say posted on this thread, but it's still important to say again.

Of course, if you are being hassled by the government about your child simply because of your age - that is WRONG. I'm pretty sure most people would agree, the problem lies with the fact that that wasn't the only reason they took her away.

It sucks for moms who have their kids taken when there was no reason for it, but they are just trying to be safe. When this kind of thing happens, I feel sorry for the mother, but also sorry for Social Services. They may make mistakes but they also save countless children, we took in our neighbors little girl when Social Services took her away because she was an alcoholic. Some women just can't care for their babies and need time to straighten their lives out.

If you're a good mom, are able to care for your daughter (food, shelter, etc.) then all the power to you, I wish you the best of luck. Just remember, when that worker comes by and gives you the runaround...they're just doing their job.

Again, good luck with your little girl, I know I would just DIE if any of my babies were taken away. Luckily you get to see her regularly and still be in her life.

Nicola - posted on 12/12/2009

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will give u a tip ma son was in care when he was jus comin up fae 1 i hatd it bt u gota play dere game constantly n seek legal advice i got my son bac due to family and the foster family my son was placed with as they pushd from there side to help me get him bac and i actually was close to suing the social work for writing a load of rubbish in my report which all my family backd me on ur lucky u c ur kid every day my son was a 3 hour drive away from me with no public transport able to get me there for the day and i dnt drive . no wonda tings happen to kids lyk dat baby p cos all social services wanna do is pick on young mums. JUS HANG IN THERE N SHOW THEM U LIVE FOR UR CHILD

Abi - posted on 12/12/2009

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i no tht they think anyone is agressive that fights back to them to get there child back thts whts happening with mine its stupid

Kris - posted on 12/12/2009

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The government took my granddaughter from my daughter 6 months ago.The baby was born with her bowels not attached.The baby spent her first 4 months in the hospital.A week before she was to come home to us. they took her and said the father,my daughters ex boyfriend, has aggression issues and was a threat to the baby..Now the father no longer lives with us and my daughter broke up with him..but they dont believe they arent together and have applied for crown ward so they adopt her out..I always thought children where taken from BAD homes but I'm learning different in this past year..

Abi - posted on 12/08/2009

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i had to go back to my mum social services made me, and wen i left coz she hit me they told me if i took sophie with me they would call the police and i would get done for kidnap :S which i dont think is true but at the time there was nothing i could do, she has never been convicted as they always let it go but from my record there are numerous occasions when she has hit me n i have called the police but nothing came of it, she hasnt got p.r i have and so does sophie's dad. social believed the phone call my mum made my solicitor said its mostly to do with them covering there own ass, making sure nothing happens before there a chance even if there no proof. social lie to the courts as i have been there like i was put into care wen sophie got taken n i left the placement on my 16th and when i did social sed i have only been gone a week when i had been gone months n it had been agreed, reported me missing to the police and got me in trouble all of this the same day as court. so as u can understand it didnt look good for me. ive tried everythin they still do it say somethin to me or someone i know and say completly differant in court, my solicitor is doing everythin he can whilst im not there as i live in differant part of manchester to him to far for me to travel so we see each other occasionally and sort things out

Abi - posted on 11/30/2009

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the reason they took her was because my mother was chatting crap saying i was a bad mum even tho i have been proved by social tht i am more than capable but they still havent given her back, ive jumped thru there hoops and now i still aint gt her bk. i got a solicitor n he has even said they had no reason as i was played by social my mother hit me n then i was told by social to leave for a few days in tht few days they decided tht i was abandoning her even tho they told me to for my own saftey! with my mum chattin crap to them they believed her, even tho i have been under social services myself from being abused by my mother as a child and they have given my daughter to her how stupid, why wud they give a baby to someone who has a history on there books of being abusive. they have told me she might not be back till after feb. even tho i have done everythin in there agreement and had the 4 weeks stability tht they asked for and they said to me i could have her back...... THEY STILL AINT DONE IT, THEY LIED AND MADE ME JUMP THRU HOOPS JUST BECAUSE THEY CAN. I HAVE DONE EVERYTHING THEY HAVE GIVEN ME DEPRESSION AND NOw i cant take it anymore what more can i do but wht they ask ?

Zara - posted on 11/29/2009

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thats a load ov rubbish i work 4 social sevices and they would not take ur child off u for no reason

Sarah-Jane - posted on 11/25/2009

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sservices cannot take children without having a child protection meeting first with all the relevvant bodies there. i would advise you getting a solicitor as soon as possible and dont sign anything. it sounds like if you are having daily contact your baby will be back with you within 4 months

Merrill - posted on 11/21/2009

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Aaawww....that's really sad. Tell them you're getting your GED ...or graduate from high school if you have not already done that. Get involved in career studies through your local unemployment developement center, look into subsidized day care programs. They (social care workers) look at all that. If they see that you're a responsible mom (working on goals!) you are more than apt to get her back! I wish you much luck, peace and happiness for you and your daughter! Merrill

Jojo - posted on 11/20/2009

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Im so sorry to hear that, I myself know how you feel my cousin has has both her children took of her so I can kind of understand how your feeling but don't let the Social Services beat you stick to your guns and keep your chin up.
If you keep fighting them you'll soon show them that you are a good mom and a good person and you'll soon have your little girl back i hope this has helped :)

Maurie - posted on 11/15/2009

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You aren't the only young mother to have that happen. My neice had it happen to her. She was found by the courts to be capable and competant to care for her son. She fought for a very long time and finally, after about 14 months Social Services gave her child back to her under court order. The only thing that you can do at this moment is just be strong and don't back down. Don't let them see your frustrations otherwise they will use that against you by stating that you may have anger management issues. But you also don't want to let them push you around either because then they will say that you are indifferent. There really is no right answer just do what you have to do within reason and simply enjoy the time you get with your daughter until they come to their senses and bring her home where she belongs, with her mommy.

Raeanna - posted on 11/15/2009

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what is the reason they took the baby away..and how long did you have her b4 they took her away?? how old are you?? im really sorry that you are going threw this at a young age and i hope that you have someone by your side!!!

Susan - posted on 11/15/2009

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go see a lawyer asap get legal with them tell your soliciter you want to go to court and if they cant proove in court that you are unfit your baby has to given back that day my friend had the same problem with them they get all baby crazy she took them to court and got her son back that day. good luck

Leyda - posted on 11/14/2009

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why would they choose you to go and pick on? i mean what caused them to get concerned because sweetie i had my 1st born at 15 at 16 i moved out of my mothers on my own to my own apartment i had a job everything went well intill i broke up with is father and everytime we argued about anything he would called children services after i proved that it was a bad relationship & that i even had a pfa on him & they saw my home my childrens bedrooms they just said why are we here? it happened a few more times after that and everytime it was right after him and i would have a disagreement so they would do there routine check but once i would laugh and say go ahead check the frig and the bedrooms and if they have bruises i know there father called it's not new to me we argued and tha case worker said sorry it procedure but this is the 3rd time so if he keeps calling we already know what is going on. each and everytime they would say they would neeed to talk to a supervisor but my children would always stay with me within days i would always get a letter stating that they had nothing to go on no case... my point is honey there has to be a reason why they came to you and take your daughter, either way whatever happened continue to fight for your beautiful baby girl don't give up do whatever it takes but don't let them make you feel less of a mother continue to go to every visit and even if you don't have a lawyer and they ask why you tell them you rather spend that freaking money on her they can be a%^holes . God bless you and your little girl i will have you's in my prayers tonight.

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Social services... is more like selfish services. If an agent of social services has an axe to grind, they will grind away and you have no recourse. Here they are more of a terror organization than a help. I know of 12 people that have had specific dealings with our local organization, each one has had a miserable outcome. These were average middle-age middle, class people 8 of which were trying to help a "struggling family." I am lucky that my home and work fall under a second and third SS department... These two organizations ARE helpful and understand struggling families, they are there with help and support. Your story is sad, while I am sure there is more to the story. I can really feel for you.

Michelle - posted on 11/14/2009

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I'm so sorry to her this, look don't give up. With me they tried this too,But as soon as they did i went to family court the judge gave me back my daugther the next day even though i was by my self and didn't have a lawyer then i just came up to him and said look i have been trying to get a lawyer but the process of getting one just takes too long for me not to have my baby home with me, I just want my baby back!And he rang them up and ask y they did wta they did and ask them that if they can prove that she's not safe with me and they said no so he ask them to give her back to me.The next day i had her back.So don't give up girl do what ever you can do.god always watch us!

Kirsty - posted on 11/13/2009

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i was 16 when i had my first and there was no questions or concerns raised by social services . i am now 19 and have 2 children and still social have never tried to intervene or get involved , there must have been another motive other than your age to remove your child from your care. the only other thing i can say is stay strong and positive and do everything they ask you to in order to get your child back. best of luck.

Sharleen - posted on 11/13/2009

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my daughter in law is going through the same thing and its splitting them apart all i can say is do your best for your daughter and youll get her back

Alyssa - posted on 11/11/2009

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umm i dont understand bc social services dont take a child away unless proven unsafe and in need of services sorry to hear about this just sounds wierd maybe they should take a child away from mother that are beating them or letting their bf beat them the system is s sore spot for me bc its all about take the child and then give the mother what ever they need to be right again im not saying that u i cant get into this bc it make me so mad

Kim - posted on 11/11/2009

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Just continue to pray to get your baby back. She will be home with you shortly. Don't give up.

Sarah-Racheal - posted on 11/11/2009

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you actually made me cry with this.
im a young mother of two.
im 19.
annnd
i actually cried
because im upset when i dont haave my kids for 2 hours
i cant imagine not having them for 5 months.
just stay strong sweetie...
i really hope everything will get better and that you get your beautiful daughter back.
why dont you ask them why you havent gotten her back, if your open and calm with them, that shows responsiblity.. soo you should try that.

Heather - posted on 11/10/2009

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Good luck dss is often very one-sided. Parenting is a choice that every mother has made and if you made the choice to give birth and raise your child. They should be working with you to give your child a bright tommorrow instead of taking your child. In my experiences i have found that the government is often sticking their noses in lives where they dont belong.

Angela - posted on 11/10/2009

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I haqte this for you, Dept of Social Services can be cruel. This is the time for you to bond with your baby. Taking her away only hurts her future more. It will make it harder for her to trust and love you. I am glad you get to see her daily, dont give up hang in there. Things will get better just believe and pray and it will happen.

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