Moms of grown sons that don't call often

Carole - posted on 07/08/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I have 3 grown sons. 2 married 1 single
(Middle child). No daughters I am alone
With a very brittle type 1 diabetes. Could at any time go into insulin shock or diabetic coma. My middle son calls about once a week. But only hear from the other two when they need something usually. Rarely do they call to see how I am. I get very lonely and also need help with the house. But it doesn't seem to affect them?? I just accept it. I probably won't be around by the time it does Its very hard when u remember all the things u have done for them and how much u sacrifice But that's Motherhood I am very grateful that they turned out to be fine
Successful men but would be happy with just 1 phone call a week from them

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Sandy - posted 6 days ago

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I know the frustration can be overwhelming, I have hobbies I make cards and knit a bit and crochet, I get anxiety from being a diabetic so I get nervous when I am alone but I try so hard to keep my days busy but that can be exhausting with all the things you have to do being diabetic, diet, eat at certain times it kind of takes over my life. Have you talked to your doctor you might be going through some depression. The loneliness can be hard, do you have an understanding friend that can come over and be with you or take you out, my crafts take my mind off things and it's hard when no one understands where your coming from, I get very emotional to. I don't think your daughter wants you to go away she just doesn't understand, the other thing you can do for yourself is go to counselling, I go and it helps to get things off my chest. Me and my husband go. I have only had Diabetes for 21/2 years. So I am a newbie to this and the life I had before this was great I had more freedom, it sucks and I am angry about it. It takes a toll on my life. Your daughter still needs you she just doesn't see it right now, my daughter is starting a new part time job next week and I will be lost without her but I am going to maybe join something not sure what but I will find something. Take a deep breath this will pass. Find something you love that you weren't able to do before when you were raising kids. I feel lonely to its normal, do you have pets? Go for walks, start a journal, maybe find a roommate, chins up I know how you feel.

Sandy - posted 6 days ago

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Aww Karen I don't think she wants you to go away, ask if you can meet with her once or twice a week, ask her to help you out one of those days, she has to realize what your going through sit her down and have a talk with her. Can you hire someone once a week to help with the house?

Karen - posted 6 days ago

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I just feel like my daughter wants me to go away. She wants her own life now that she is working and doesn't need me. I just do not know how to deal with it.

Karen - posted 6 days ago

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Not sure how you deal with it. I am so lonely being single. My life was all about my children. Now I know I did a good job with both of my children but I just feel so lonely. My son does call me every other day, I guess I am lucky, but I just feel alone. I am so mad I am sick because I cannot drive. I think my daughter just wants me to go away!

Sandy - posted on 03/23/2015

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I kind of know what your going through I have 3 children two are out now one has autism he lives with a young couple he is 27 and my other son is 29 and having some problems right now so I don't here from him and of course my other son is disabled to call he has speech and mental delay ment and autism,and I have my 19 year old daughter Whois in college she is at home but probably in a few years begone, and I am type 2 diabetic but not on any meds for it, and I am nervous when my daughter moves out one day I hope she phones to check in on me, Iam married but he's at work most of the time, so I know what you are thinking it's scary. Have a neighbour check in on you everyday if you can.

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