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Only son just moved out...

Jenyfer - posted on 01/22/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )

My only son, 21 years old announced between Christmas and New Years that he would be moving into a room in a house with 2 friends. Thankfully he can afford it and it's only 45 minutes away. I'm proud of him because he just graduated from his Culinary Program in December and he's working as a Prep Cook. But I cried every time he carried stuff out to his car (not in front of him). I want him to be mature and self-supporting; that shows me that I've done a good job parenting. But at the same time, it hurts inside to see him leave, because I always see him as my little boy and I don't want to see him ever get hurt; I know what the world is like out there...it's harsh and cold and that's my "baby"!!

So it's been tough. He comes in usually on Friday night to say hi for a little bit or do his laundry. In between him moving out, I've had my final reconstructive surgery for my breasts due to breast cancer in 2009 and am recovering from that; and ongoing menopause (caused by the chemotherapy in 2009). HEY, I'll be 50 in March too!!! I feel like a train-wreck that I can't look away from!!

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Julie - posted on 06/13/2011

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well first of all well done for beating the dreaded C hope all goes well from now on. did you know 50 aparently is the new 40 and they said life begins at that age. menopause - HRT nothing that cant be sorted you can ride those waves but your baby leaving home has made you feel older because he's grown up. emotionaly your coping with a lot right now and as you start to feel better in yourself with your recovery you will be fine about everything else. he will be back for lots of visits and you just need to pick up the phone if you want to talk to him or ask him to come over. he won't be ambaressed if you tell him you miss him and make sure you get a hug when he leaves. you did a great job bringing him up and turning him into a responsible adult and he won't forget his mum so relax you will be fine and so will he. i know you miss him and am worried its what us mums are made for to worry but we have to learn to relax and you especialy need to relax a little to help your recovery.