Baby smacking me and pulling my hair

Hayleigh - posted on 06/14/2010 ( 27 moms have responded )

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Hi my daughter is just over 8 months and likes to pull my hair very hard.. alot and also to whack me in the face. I try telling her no and she thinks its a game, I've also found its her way of getting my attenttion and its not just me she does it to. Is their any other babies who are like this? and if so what are ways you have stopped this?

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Fern - posted on 02/17/2013

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My name is Doctor Fern Moonbacks and I think I can help you in your situation. I am a doctor from Austria. I left in exile during the war and lost my wife in the process. I have since studied medicine and travelled the war for many of years... many of years.

What you have is a baby. A baby is a result of "pregnancy". While the science behind "pregnancy" is not complete, I have a simple understanding of the process. If this "baby" you have is slapping you then I would suggest that the situation is indeed dire, or dire, indeed. There are not other babies who do this and you are in an extremely dangerous and unique situation. I would caution you to put the baby down and remove yourself from the area.

Are you familiar with excorcism? I would strongly suggest that you hire an old priest and a young priest. I have found that Craigslist.com works very well for these... predicaments.

Should the baby demon prove itself to be inexorable, then may Christ be with you.

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Unfortunately at this age they don't realise they're hurting you. Don't smack or 'tap', you're just reinforcing that hitting is an ok thing to do, which its not. Try to also limit saying 'No' all the time. Try and be a bit more specific. I like to say "Stop. I don't like that" or "Stop, you're hurting me"(play up the hurt look on your face). Not only will they learn exactly what you don't like, and what you'd like them to do but it is also a good model of what they can say when they're older and someone is doing something they don't like. Some children think any attention is good attention. If they're hurting you, put them down and move away. Come back when they're calm. Try to praise good behaviour rather than punish or react to bad behaviour. Be consistent and start as you mean to go on.

Allison - posted on 07/03/2010

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All kids are different but all babies love to play with hair so mine is always tied back, sometimes she grabes for it and i take her and move her away from me and let her play by herself. she doesnt do it often because she loves to play with mommy and when she tugs hair she doesnt get to. Also for those of you who say no, if it works great, but those of you that it doesnt work for, try saying somethign else like ouchie that hurts and make a pouty face so they understand that they are hurting a loved one

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My daughrter does this too, Im just waiting it through till she's old enouhg too understand. But still being persistant telling her its the wrong thing to do.

Amanda - posted on 06/24/2010

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My almost 9 month old [now] has a bad habit of doing this. Like PP said, I think that it has to do with stimulating a reaction from you and testing boundaries. With my daughter though, she gets really really rough right before bedtime, which is strange, considering the hubby nor I have been roughhousing with her...anyways, I try to redirect her as much as possible. When she grabs at my face and pinches, I pull her away, set her on my lap, and start showing her different parts of the body, like nose and mouth and ears, etc.

As for the hair pulling...god save us all because we're gonna be bald by the time we try for another baby. Or at least, I'm going to be. My hair is ALWAYS worn up [unless I'm sleeping alone or with the hubby] because if I don't, my daughter will do her best to her her hands on it and pull. That's part of the roughhousing ritual too...she always goes for my bangs...

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Stephanie - posted on 02/22/2014

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I hope this doctor fern moonback comment is not going where I think is going. :) I've only read the first paragraph and it's not looking too good :-)

Engie - posted on 07/28/2010

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My son does the smacking thing when he gets upset but I make sure to let him know that it's wrong to do so. He also does the hair pulling but he does it when I'm looking away from him and he wants my attention or when he wants to give me a nice passionate kiss. I tell him 'No, that's not nice' and he looks at me like he kinda understands...lol

Aisha - posted on 07/04/2010

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Don't feel alone. My baby digs, scraches, and does anything that will make you say no, or ouch. Sorry, I haven't found out how to stop this.

Heather - posted on 06/30/2010

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Mine has been doing this for awhile also... she is just now 8 months. I hold her arms and untangle my hair and tell her no-no, in a pleasant voice, and give her something to play with. she also squeezes my face.. which is rough, especially when your hands are full! lol! she can do some damage!

Lise - posted on 06/29/2010

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I just block her and don't say anything. She was doing it to seek attention, so I stopped giving her attention. I stopped her, and then would get up. Stopped it in a few days.

Lynette - posted on 06/28/2010

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My daughter has finally stopped doing that! i found what worked for us was giving her a different result than she wanted. When she would smack me, i would just take her hand away & firmly say 'no'. & since my daughter loves to point at everything & touch everything w/her first finger, whenever she puts her finger on my face i just make a game of it. I smile, make a noise, or gasp, i laugh & give her a positive reaction to her delicately touching me. She hasnt smacked me in a over a wk. hope this helps.

Codi - posted on 06/24/2010

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My 8 month old son does this to everyone. He even head-butted me and gave me a fat lip. I'm hoping he'll grow out of it. I think babies are too little right now to understand that they're hurting you.

Krystal - posted on 06/23/2010

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my daughter will pull my hair and squeeze my face and if I say ouch or no she will laugh! she gets put in her play pen for 1 or 2 minutes with no toys.. and I tell her she has to be nice and shes hurting mommy and after the 2 minutes she doesnt do it again until the next time maybe a day or 2 later. hope this helps!!

Nandita - posted on 06/23/2010

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to stop her.. i pull my hair back and tie it high.. to prevent her from doing so..

Nandita - posted on 06/23/2010

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My daughter is 8 months too.. she loves pulling hair too.. she pulls my hair.. and everyone else's hair she can catch hold off :)

Nicola - posted on 06/23/2010

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be careful when tapping or smacking their hand, cos your telling them off for doing just that. which doesnt set a good example,
they are clever little things, and pick up on things, i learnt that the hard way with my 6 yr old, i would tell him off and smack his bum but realised it had to stop cos he was smacking too thinking it was ok to do.

Lisa - posted on 06/22/2010

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hi my 8th month does the same and a pat on the hand doesnt work for me she just laughs when she even sleeps she needs her hand in ur mouth i just hope in time she sees that every time i tap her hand and says no thats bold she will start to understand

Lynette - posted on 06/22/2010

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I let my daughter get away w/it for a while, but after reading this a wk ago i've decided to stop her. whenever she does it. I firmly take her hand away, look her right in the eye & say 'no' sternly. Sometimes she fusses but more than anything she just finds something else to distact herself w/. She's been doing it less & less. We didnt realy start telling her 'no' so sternly until about a few wks ago, simply 'cause there wasnt a real reason to. She tests us & knows when she does something she's not supposed to, but i think that's just normal. I think if you keep following the same pattern then she'll learn. if all else fails, i walk away from her if she wont stop hitting me or grabbing my hair. she seems to get that i mean business when i do that.

Nicola - posted on 06/22/2010

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hi, my son scrated my face today. he likes to feel my face hair anything he can grap. its all new to them the only thing you can do is carry on saying no and stop them from doing it, then maybe distract them with a toy or something. as they will learn when they get abit older.

Jennifer - posted on 06/17/2010

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Redirect her every time -- grab her hands and put them somewhere acceptable like on a toy or blanket. My dd was the same way (and still is with ds because he lets her), but now in general she doesn't unless I'm ignoring her.
Also, find a way that she can get a reaction out of you that is not painful -- like everytime she touches her own nose or hair you make a silly sound or face, etc. -- so she feels powerful. That's what she's after.

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My 7 and a half month old does the same thing. She also pinches our neck too. I too have patted her hand and said no. Every time she does it. I may not hit her hand every time but she is staring to know the word no. She doesn't like it of coarse.

Siobhan - posted on 06/17/2010

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Yes I know that feeling! My 8 month old son is doing the exact same! My parner and I also tell him no and he also thinks its a game I have also notice that he uses it as away of getting attention! However strangly he only seems to do this to mummy daddy and one grandad! We usually say "Stop Daniel that is bold!" He has realised now that once we say that he has to stop....He still tends to do it but we stop him by saying that! Best of luck! X

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Yes... My 8 month old son is the same... just give her a smack on the hand and tell her its naughty.. My son hasnt done it since i gave him a tap on the hand and told him that was naughty and not to hurt mummy... she may cry for a little bit, but let her cry she needs to realise she cant do it

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yeah my daughter thinks it is a game too. I am extremely curly hair and she gets her hands caught in the curls and yanks REALLY hard. My only solution is to straighten my hair and tie it back all the time.

Reagan - posted on 06/14/2010

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My baby does and I have not found a solution. As you said, she thinks it is a game. I guess this is not much help, but at least you know there is someone else with your issue.

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