Behaviour??

Heather - posted on 02/28/2012

my grand daughter has started throwing herself against the wall...or throwing herself down...no clue why...she can be just fine..then will randomly scream and throw herself down...any opinions??

Lynn - posted on 02/20/2012

My son talks alot. He is a good communicator thank goodness. But when he is having a fit he wont speak. Just flop around looking like hes gonna give himself whiplash.



K takes deep breaths but after 10 hes right back into hitting and flopping around.



Ive even taken him tot he doctors a few times to be sure this is normal. Doctor said he will grow out of it in a few years. I honestly dont think my wrist can handle another few years of this. I just had surgery to be able to use my wrist again and hes constanly hitting me..

Lise - posted on 01/07/2012

It is a phase, but there are things you can do to help it. Is he doing it to communicate? Does he speak much? My dd did it when we told her no, so we taught her phrases like, "I'm mad" and "Oh, mommy!" (the last one actually looks really cute when she says it)

My dd did it almost exclusively for communication. We targeted it 2 ways - one was teaching appropriate communication, and then ignoring the bad behavior. She learned ways to seek attention appropriately (she now says things like, "Mommy, look at me" and "Mommy, watch!" but we taught her signs first, since she didn't speak a lot right at 2). She has ways to bargain (like if I ask her to stop something, she'll say, "5 more minutes?" or ask for something else, "okay, watch TV?").

We also taught her to calm herself down when upset. I'd tell her to calm down, take her to her room, lay her down on her big stuffed dog, then lay next to her and rub her back while modeling deep breaths and squeezing her dog. Then I faded myself out. She'll usually just take deep breaths when she's upset, but sometimes she runs into her room to hug her stuffed animals.

It is a phase, and it will end. Just try your best not to reinforce it while it's going on (attention, responding in kind like hitting back, etc.). *hug*

Sharon - posted on 01/02/2012

Not so much violent, but he has starting throwing. Almost everything gets thrown, and it's not because he's grumpy. He will smack/tap my leg if he's angry and isn't getting his own way. No idea where he's picking these things up from, but I figure it's partial frustration from not being able to get what he wants, and partial because he's learnt he can do it.
Sorry, no help at all!!!!